Shellie Palmer's Blog, page 2
February 25, 2020
Music Is Healing Therapy
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When was the last time you turned on the radio and began singing at the top of your lungs? How did it make you feel? Were there any outside thoughts that may have intervened? What type of music do you listen to? There are several genres to choose from. I myself am a country small town girl. It lives in my veins. Country music tells a story. I love the sound of the banjo, fiddle, steel and electric guitar, most especially acoustic guitar when the song is completely stripped down to the...
February 19, 2020
The Difference Between Traditional Publishing and Self Publishing
Don’t knock it, simply listen to what I have to say about the differences between traditional publishing and self publishing. Coming from the stand point of self publishing I’ve learned quite a bit since I began my self publishing journey in 2013. I was green about the process yet willing to do the work as self publishing requires to market and promote your own body of work. Traditional publishing the person or persons have a marketing, promotional team, an agent, editor, the works. Self...
February 11, 2020
Navigating Life All While Living With Mental Illness
One of the most difficulties living with a form of mental health is finding a routine, navigate daily activities from work, school, family, etc. There are days I sleep longer than I should especially so when stress levels go up. I want to avoid and isolate some daily tasks. It makes the anxiety worse on my part as well. Lately I’ve found myself writing, working on business aspects and projects to keep my stress levels down. It is quite calming. I pray, read scriptures, going to parks in my a...
Finding Your Niche To Navigate Life Living With Mental Health
One of the most difficulties living with a form of mental health is finding a routine, navigate daily activities from work, school, family, etc. There are days I sleep longer than I should especially so when stress levels go up. I want to avoid and isolate some daily tasks. It makes the anxiety worse on my part as well. Lately I’ve found myself writing, working on business aspects and projects to keep my stress levels down. It is quite calming. I pray, read scriptures, going to parks in my area ...
Finding Your Niche To Navigate Living With Mental Health
One of the most difficulties living with a form of mental health is finding a routine, navigate daily activities from work, school, family, etc. There are days I sleep longer than I should especially so when stress levels go up. I want to avoid and isolate some daily tasks. It makes the anxiety worse on my part as well. Lately I’ve found myself writing, working on business aspects and projects to keep my stress levels down. It is quite calming. I pray, read scriptures, going to parks in my...
A Note To My Fans, Friends & Co-Workers
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Due to a rather long hiatus I’m ready to return to my first love(s) re-working the previous books from the journey collection series to writing the newest books from the series. Publishing with Realistic Poetry International and Tablo Publishing this year of 2020. I’m most excited looking forward to partnering with a small business out of Kentucky, to a couple of non-profits near and dear to my heart.
Much of 2018 and 2019 were extremely difficult to bare, live with. Trauma counseling was...
October 14, 2019
How Do We Know When It’s Time To Give Life Another Try? Spiritual Healing
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The top 10 Spiritual Healing Guide List
Tai Chi Yoga Meditation Hiking, biking & outdoor retreats prayer time (reading devotionals) Massage Therapy Reiki Healing Journal Writing Sit in silence for 10 to 15 minutes Deep breathing exercises
We’re always asked from others around us how are you feeling? The usual answers are, “I’m fine”, “Doing okay”, “Good”. Those are the standards and I catch that in myself at times. What if we turn it around and simply give the straight truth how you re...
October 11, 2019
The Real… Self Empowerment Movement
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The stress, the worry and tension. Every waking moment has come to this finding a way to better take care of myself going back to the list from a previous post listing created, taking the time for self, improving self, loving self, to be kind on self and others around me. A recent reminder to slow down in my time of difficult challenges was quite an incredible moment worth talking about. A man with his kids playing his accordion in the parking lot at Kohl’s. His music touched me in such a...
October 9, 2019
Who Ever Said Life Would Come Easy? Navigating Through It
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2019 began….
What came and has gone has changed my way of life and living all together. I went into trauma counseling for PTSD, as to the anxiety/panic and depression. Sessions did wonders for my mental health and as for my physical health wasn’t doing much at first yet improved over time. I’ve gained much more responsibility as to priorities have changed, privately though remained grieving over loss. Family became even that much more important to me from May up till now. Grief, loss and mo...
August 9, 2019
When Life Aligns Love & Peace Make Room For A Person To Breathe
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The very moment when you seen that life has thrown all these curve balls at you, you get to thinking of wanting to give up, then it turns to sadness, grief, anger and frustration. For one minute of that time not once are you thinking of peace or love it’s doom and gloom. The why me’s? What if I can change how I feel? Why is this happening to me? I’m not seeing any progress, what can I do to better myself? All of these questions will and do pop up in a woman’s life through great transitions. Life changes, there are hardships and struggle to endure, self acceptance, self love, self worth are tested. From the time we are young girls we look to our mother’s and grandmothers as role models. They teach us values, we see them as strong independent women who’ve made us feel beautiful. They don’t judge, they love, give love, show love, compassion, tenderness and comfort. Their the foundation in our growth.
As a young bright eyed girl I never thought of myself as beautiful, both my mother and grandmother’s knew I was special, beautiful in my own way. I was the girl who loved creating my own entertainment, singing and dancing and just being a girl who played dress up and modeled for my grandma’s. I wasn’t allowed to wear make-up simply because I didn’t need it. Yes, I had barbie dolls, a little kitchen play set, doll babies, a cabbage patch doll with real hair. My imagination had gotten me into trouble at times leaving my barbie dolls outside with their naked limbs in the yard, I used my kitchen play set as an easel, wanting to play hair designer cutting my cabbage patch dolls hair into a complete catastrophe. I was more tomboy than a girl or at least I thought I was until I discovered make up because a cousin of mine began wearing make-up. Bad influence. Mom was furious and with good reason. The moment she saw me with lip stick she knew what would come next. My walls were covered in lip stick, my pillow case and blankets even. At the age of 12 I saw my very first female idol Cyndi Lauper. I wanted to be her. I wore the scrunchies, high hair which all the girls in the 80’s did. I began to wear mismatched clothes. My mother didn’t like it one bit yet had no control either since I was a preteen learning growing into a teenager. I had severe acne, quite overweight for my shape and size and developing. I developed earlier than most girls which caused self esteem issues. I didn’t love myself, I lacked in self confidence. I didn’t identify myself as beautiful until much later in life. I learned on my own to accept myself as different. I bloomed and once I did there were a few guys who took interest in me regardless how I looked on the outside making me feel beautiful.
It wasn’t until an online encounter changed every bit of me, internally which people don’t see. Narcissist abuse is emotional, mental abuse. The scars and bruises are for unseen. I lost every bit of who I am and what I am. What did happen though after all no contact ended, rounds of private therapy, group therapy and counseling my way of living changed, I changed learning to find myself. I was Alice looking through the glass. Where is me? Who am I? Why did this happen to me? I remained to blame myself when it wasn’t me to blame. It was him, he knew what he was doing and how to do it. It was in fact a mind game, gas lighting as I came to research narcissist abuse. In time and plenty of it, it has taken over a year now to get where I’m at.
Self excepting myself began after treating my own self. Nature became my therapy. It opened me helping me find peace within. Writing again became true joy and happiness yet there was still something missing and that was love. How was I going to love myself again. I knew of those who love me and it was few. They are my compass. The map. Shimmer Sparkle Shine Project out of Utah found a way into my life. The first experience writing a guest blog opened me completely, and I didn’t need a man to be happy. It later on found me.
You are beautiful ladies, there’s a spark within you. It only takes time for you for the self love, self acceptance and self worth you possess to shine.
Learn and get to know more on Shimmer Sparkle Shine Project here
