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March 15, 2015
There’s Only Uncertainty
There’s really no such thing as certainty. It’s all uncertain. Truth be told, uncertainty is absolutely beautiful.
When you live in a world full of uncertainty, you give yourself the opportunity to live in full possibility. Those two come hand in hand. When you begin to try to separate yourself from uncertainty by restricting what your future is going to look like, that’s when you can start to get into a little bit of trouble. As exciting as that is to do, you become out of touch with reality and distance yourself from people who are right here right now.
That’s my story.
Living in the future and neglecting the present. Not that it was a bad thing, but it was out of balance with the deep underlying feeling of wanting connection with others. I knew that I needed that connection, so I had to start making some changes.
I think the balance of where goals and dreams lie with a person who has great ambitions is that they must truly appreciate what they have now, be the person who they envision in the future…right now…and learn that the future is a place where they would also be happy…because they are happy right now. My problem was that I looked at the future as a place where it would all turn out and everything would be ok.
Wrong.
That has to be today. And with that has to come a significant amount of healing and love for myself. So that’s where I am at now. Learning to tap into this moment and appreciate it for what it is.
That’s all we can do right?
Uncertainty is the name of the game.
– Evan Sanders
There’s Only Uncertainty is a post from: Inspirational Stories About Life
March 14, 2015
An Incredible Review Of “Two Wolves”
If you were wondering what people are saying about my new book…this sums it up completely. So happy to have received this.
Download the book for free here – http://btrman.me/1C99ZHw
“Opening the floodgates to the depths of your heart and unchaining your deepest secrets can stir up some conflict in your life.”
“No matter what happens, you can teach yourself to bloom during the darkest of times, just like the midnight flower.”
“Hindsight is always 20/20, and to an extent I agree with this, but if you aren’t looking back once in a while and being honest with yourself, your vision doesn’t actually exist. Your vision can’t exist because you have absolutely no idea where you came from.”
“Life is incredibly balanced. It gives you a taste of feeling horrible about yourself so you can truly experience the warmth in your heart when you are living in the present and enjoying the path you are on.”
“Life is not a male vs. female issue. It is in fact a person to person collaboration.”
The Better Man Project is a story I’ve been following on the social networks for more than a year now and it’s actually one of my favorite pages on Facebook of all time. I don’t know Evan -the author of the book- on a personal level, we never had a chat before but I can absolutely relate to his blogs, image quotes and stories he always shares because we both have missions as well as goals to come true, we both aspire to be better and that’s how it all started.
Evan has been sharing his book online and the moment I got an email encouraging me to read the book, I said to myself “that’s enough! I’m gonna download and read the book”. It is truly life-changing, paradigm shifting and life transforming book. Even if you hadn’t been following the project from the very beginning, you can still figure out what the writer is talking about.
The first thing I admire is the title; Two Wolves. As Evan explains in his book, a wolf is fierce and can transform your life, either the good or the bad wolf, both can make quantum change to your life and lead you to a totally different place other than your wanted destiny.
The writer then starts expressing his love and admiration for writing and how helpful it is for us, people, to write on and vent to papers. Nobody is a good writer, or nobody thinks he/she is a good writer but in fact, we all can write and put our thoughts into words, you never know who’s going to like your writing style. I am not a good writer, I neither speak nor read English perfectly but I am trying and some friends do really like what they read, so it’s worth the try, trust me on that.
I loved the chapter “You Open The Door & It’s You” OMG! How can somebody come up with such a story? It’s like seeing a 10 years older version of you standing right there at your doorstep; well, would you recognize that person? would you welcome him? Would you like him? What would you want him to be like?
One of the subjects I really liked was about feminism because here in my country, there’s always a battle between males and females, who’s right and who’s wrong. Both sides become emotional and start talking aimlessly thinking the one who shuts up first is a loser and inferior. I guess if we were to focus on the mutual bonds between us and the fact that we were created to complete each other, things would be different. If we were to empathetic about each other, we would be in a totally different place today.
The ending of the book is such a great story, a personal story of the writer and how he could overcome inner fears and personal struggles after 100 days of continues effort then commitment to 12 weeks of hard work. i was moved, I was inspired and felt this flow of energy and determination flowing in my blood.
Moreover, there was a statement in the last few pages that goes “begin with the end in mind”… I am now reading a book called The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey and this statement has been repeated over and over again in the book. I did mull it over times and times again and felt like I totally understood it after it was mentioned here right in Two Wolves. So yes, begin with the end of mind…”
A.F.
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An Incredible Review Of “Two Wolves” is a post from: Inspirational Stories About Life
March 13, 2015
March 12, 2015
Root Yourself Deep
Stay with me. Stay with me now. Stay in this moment. Okay you just left…come back. Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. Feet on the floor. Let your roots stretch deep into the ground and your branches into the sky. Breathe. Breathe. Breathe. Come back. Here. Now. This moment.
My self talk lately has been changing. In fact, I would say that my self talk…is completely centered around a place where I in fact…don’t talk. It’s about coming back to this moment. When I start to wander off into the past or race my mind into the future, I have to bring it all back. I have to bring things back to this moment.
One of my greatest challenges with my personality is in fact staying here in this moment. I love getting distracted and trying to entertain myself in many ways. I am literally working with unhooking myself from technology as much as I can when I am doing the things I need to be doing. Sitting here writing has been a challenge sometimes because I am often tempted to click or look away from the page.
But I keep bringing myself back.
I keep rooting myself deeper into the ground in this moment.
I remember times of deep frustration in doing something fun but having my mind be so focused on the things that I thought I needed to be doing that I forgot to experience what I was going through. I would be with people but I actually wouldn’t be with them. This would cause deep frustration and would even further prevent myself from being there.
I have noticed this trend and am working on bringing myself back to “this moment” as often as I can.
When you are living in the now, you are actually living in a complete state of mystery and uncertainty. Ah yes, uncertainty…how did I used to hate you. An old mind of mine used to say…”If you don’t know what is going to happen, you leave yourself wide open to having things happen to you.” This leads me to something I was told this past week.
Life is just happening…it’s not happening to you.
If you get into your car and drive down to the freeway…and there’s traffic…everyone didn’t plan that out to ruin your day. It just is what it is. Life is just happening and you are a participant in it. The traffic didn’t happen to you.
But now, in that state of mystery and uncertainty, I am allowing myself to be open to all possibilities. Yes, some of them will be painful and hard to deal with…but as I think back to all of the times that I have experienced in my life, I wonder how pinched I was in terms of shutting off life’s incredibly amazing flows of energy into myself. I tried to block as much I could from happening and therefore blocked out all of the positive things as well.
Yikes.
So I am here now, back again in pure awe of the sound of the keys tapping away on the computer. It’s amazing how satisfying that sound is. Wonder how long it has been since I’ve really heard that sound?
– Evan Sanders
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March 11, 2015
The Emergence Of Deep Vulnerability
As I sit down to write this, I already have goosebumps shooting up my arms and down my back. That overwhelming rush coming up the back of my neck gets to me and my head twitches and then stretches to the right. I don’t like going to this place. In fact, I’ve avoided this place for as long as I can remember. But I’ve been challenged to answer a question for the remainder of this year – what if heartbreak was your greatest healer?
When I heard that, I felt this energy rush over me and tears started to well up in my eyes. I grabbed my marker, took a deep breath, and wrote the question down on my flashcard. I knew that card would remain with me for the rest of the year and I would have to dive into this place of deep vulnerable. It’s like swimming naked in the dark – you are always a bit on edge. Exposed like a nerve…not covering it up, but in fact playing with it.
I don’t like going to this place because it has been frightening in the past. But I’m here now. I’m right here and I’m diving through the glass that used to create a barrier between me and what I knew I was covering up. To many it may come as a surprise that I am in fact going through a stage of grieving because I have so much joy in my life, but I actually think that’s proof that I’m actually working with what’s supposed to be. I’m not running from anything. I’m not trying to cover things up or fix them. No, I’m just sitting with those moments and appreciating how deep they are – despite that depth being pain and suffering.
Those who have known me well have seen this in me before I could even see in it myself. Even one lovely woman who I worked with in class was able to look into my eyes for 5 minutes straight as I looked into hers and came out telling me that she experienced deep pain and playfulness at the same time. Forever I always believed that only one of these things could exist. However, as I begin to understand more and more about how life works, it’s a part of me that is in deep pain and grieving…not the whole thing. A part of me is experiencing great joy. A part of me playfulness. A part of me unyielding optimism. We are all made up of significant parts that function together all at the same time. The mistake would be to believe that all of you is one way. That leaves no room for anything else…and that’s just not true.
“Go to the deepest darkest place you allow yourself to be…and can you see a little light up in the top right corner?” Yes, I saw that light. I thought that light was something called resilience for years and years. what I didn’t know is that the light was indeed joy. How could joy exist in this moment? This horrible horrible moment? How could that light be joy? I remember how it felt during that moment – pitch black. The darkest black you could even imagine. If you’ve ever seen a black table that’s been lacquered thousands of times…the depths seem endless. That was this type of black. But no, there was light. Problem was…I wasn’t looking up.
It’s not going to be easy for me to come back to this place every day. There are lots of things that I have buried deep so no one could ever find them. Thing is, I knew they were there. They’ve been there the entire time. I’ve been so scared to let them bubble up that I’ve actually run from my past straight into the future and have completely forgot about the present. That’s no way to live life. That’s not how my life will be lived from now on.
This place, while dark, can be illuminated. Like all dark places, bring a bright enough lantern into it and you can begin to see things as they actually are – not how your scared mind has interpreted them to be. So I’m bringing that light in. And to that question of what if heartbreak was my greatest healer?…well, I’m going to find out. I’m going to search around and begin to understand how this beautiful life I’ve experienced so far has benefitted from my experiencing of the worst of times. No attacking outward. No attacking inward.
Into the depths we go.
– Evan Sanders
The Emergence Of Deep Vulnerability is a post from: Inspirational Stories About Life
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“7’s realize on the most profound level that life is a gift. There is nothing wrong with life, nothing wrong with the material world. If we stop taking things for granted we will be flooded with joy and gratitude all the time. When we have no claims on life, everything becomes a Divine gift capable of sweeping us into ecstasy.”
“When 8’s give up their willfulness, they discover the Divine Will. Instead of trying to have power through the assertion of their egos, they align themselves with the Divine Power. Instead of me and the world, they see that they have a role to play in the world, which, if followed wholeheartedly, could earn them a place of immortality among the great heroes and saints of history. The liberated 8 has the power to inspire others to be heroic as well, influencing people possibly for centuries.”
Uncertainty.
Uncertainty is what I have to lift. Living in a world of complete possibilities. No answers. With that has to come extraordinary amounts of faith. Faith in what will come. Faith that what is now is precisely what I should be doing. It reminds me of a dream I had last summer where all my questions were answered one after the next after the next. In fact, all of those questions I ever had started to become answered faster than I could even pose the question. Now, it makes sense to me. It makes perfect sense. That dream was one of the greatest signs for me to let go of the future and exist purely in the now. That dream…was something else.
Uncertainty is uncomfortable. As uncomfortable as it can be, that’s where my magic is. My magic will be made in today…never tomorrow or yesterday. The challenges we face are never completely new to us. In fact, I have had many moments where I felt completely in the flow with everything and totally connected. What comes to mind at this moment is the time I went hiking as quickly as I could up Donner Peak in Lake Tahoe or all of the times I go fishing in the mountains. Nature seems to revitalize my soul. I see you nature…note taken.
The uncertainty part is new for me because once upon a time I believed that I had to plan out my future or it would never happen. I had to get it down to the nit-picky details or else failure was close in the other room. But as I have started to learn more and more about myself, I realize that the failure was never in the past or the future…the failure lived in my ability to appreciate what I had right here and now.
That’s why I never felt fulfilled. Not because I wasn’t accomplishing things, but because I wasn’t at all appreciative of what I was creating in my life. I wasn’t appreciative of the people, the content, the situation…and everything else in between. I was completely and utterly dissatisfied…and therefore…empty.
I’m moving forward with new practices and new ways of being.
I find myself getting distracted quite often and jumping off to entertain myself. I must sit and quiet my mind. I have all these ideas and my mind races at a million miles a second. I must calm down and follow through. I love living in the future and avoiding the past. I must let all things bubble up and live in the present moment. I must experience the world as it is…and stop traveling to a far away place where it all turns out. The truth is, it already has turned out. It always was and always will be. The moment I was brought into this world I had been given the greatest gift of all – this life.
Time to start respecting that.
– Evan Sanders
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March 10, 2015
The War Painter
“I want you to be like a war painter?”
‘A war painter?’
“Yes, a war painter.”
This past week has been pretty transformational. In fact, I would venture to say, that walking through the doors of my new school has the same feelings surrounding it as when I think back to starting writing in The Better Man Project. It has been that impactful…meaningful…and I can feel gears shifting and myself opening.
It’s not easy taking on vulnerability. In fact, I want to share with you what I posted today…because I think it’s important that everyone here is part of that conversation as well.
I have a confession to make. I hope you’ll stay with me. I’ve been doing this for a long time on my own. It has been me vs. the world. It has been me and then the crowd. I’ve been disconnected. Heavily disconnected. In fact, I built myself a moat filled with crocodiles and sharks with lasers on their backs to protect myself.
From what? From being deeply hurt…because underneath the exterior there is a lot of pain and anxiety that I haven’t spent time with. I haven’t grieved. I’ve kept myself busy with goals, and dreams, and visions and pushed the rest back down. I thought this was a way to create myself, but in fact, it was a way to live a life of “doing things” instead of “being here.”
This past week at my new school (professional integral coaching school) brought that all to light and showed me that the only way I’m ever going to connect deeply with this life is by severing the puppet I’ve been and expose myself to deep deep vulnerability. The type of vulnerability that leaves you completely exposed…because that’s where my joy is. My absolute love of life living in full awe of everything and wonder. Only when I give up my pursuit of happiness and satisfaction will it actually ever reveal that it’s already here. So here I am world. Here’s my testimony. I’ve been separated from all of you here because of my worry of being hurt. I haven’t put myself out there as much as I can because I fear that pain of being abandoned and left. No longer. I’m here with you. Us. In fact, I love you more than you know…I’ve just been to scared to show you. All of you. Together. And to the pain that’s going to inevitably bubble up…and to the pain that’s going to arrive at my front door…come on in, I made cookies.
My greatest challenge is to open up completely…no chasm…no separation between me, you, and them. Just us. 100% us. I have to let go of the future…to not occupy my mind with so many hatched plans and dreams and goals that I forget to live in the present. Because there’s no island where things are going to turn out and everything will be ok. In fact, the more and more I realize how true this narrative was in my mind the more I see that’s what I thought Los Angles would be for me. The fact that it didn’t work out and crumbled doesn’t surprise me at all. It actually reaffirms the fact that my life is in today and neither in the past nor the future.
When I first started this blog 4 years ago I took a big step into making this vulnerability appear. But I didn’t go all the way. I didn’t go into the space of really getting to know people on a deep level. Do I have those relationships – absolutely. But my best stuff is going to happen when I live in the present and allow myself to deeply connect with those around me. That’s when magic is going to happen.
The war painter is a painter that goes into the worst of situations and captures paintings of scenes. He is receiving massively heavy inputs and what he creates from that is often beautiful despite utter chaos. He is vulnerable as everyone else…and yet…he’s able to let all of this madness pass through him undercut something that ends up being joyous in a way. It’s interesting how that vulnerability and joy are there hand in hand.
So when I was told to be a war painter, I really felt somewhere deep inside a vibration of understanding. Of letting the emotions and feelings of what has happened in life and what will happen sink into me fully and then allow myself to transfer that energy into something amazing. That may be my relationships with others, that may be beautiful paintings or poetry…but this is the new world I would like to live in…a world full of chaos and beauty at the same time.
I’m up for this. I can already feel these energies in me vibrating. Not all of them are what you would consider positive, but they have been deeply covered up and it’s time to let them show up. It’s time to be with them…and that’s perfectly okay. It’s time to bring absolute joy into my life and it’s time to grieve.
It’s time to be.
- Evan Sanders
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March 4, 2015
The Battles We Choose To Fight
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We have to choose our battles. We have to pick the ones that are really worth fighting for and let everything else go. You don’t have enough time on this planet to be right about everything – because usually when you try to be right, you give away your happiness. Funny how that works huh?
Aristotle once said, “It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.” I think we should take that lesson and apply it to every single aspect of our lives. We try so hard to be right about things thinking that will give us some sort of long term happiness. What I’ve found time and time again is that life is about compromises and sacrifices, not about being right. You have to give a little to get a little…and when you give a lot, that will come back around to you in time. It might not be right away, but it will. Karma works in wonderful ways.
Just because you wouldn’t do something doesn’t mean that the other person was wrong. In fact, there are countless other perspectives out there for people to be a part of. Endless amounts really. Your way isn’t the way. And this might be a frustration concept to some…but there is no way. We go through this life doing what we think is best for us, and for those who have some type of insight into their life…they adapt and adjust along the way to do what feels right. For all of the complex arguments there are out there, doing right makes you feel good and doing wrong makes you feel bad. Pretty simple way of living your life.
I am learning every single day. In fact, these days I am far more awake than I have ever been. I am digging into my life more than ever before and I love that. I’ve been called deep because my mind always starts traveling down this windy road…and sometimes that’s a little much for people to handle…but I can’t help it. It’s who I am. It’s what I am. I didn’t used to be this way. In fact, I used to be complete action and reaction. Something would happen…boom there was my explosive response – whether it was good or bad. Living that way was killing me. It was taking everything out of me and I couldn’t do it anymore. So I had to make a change.
February 9th 2010 was that day.
That day will forever define the rest of my life because I decided that I was far better off doing personal cave diving every single day than ignoring what was inside. I go deep into myself because I know it matters. I know it matters because the things that I have learned about my life…the list of lessons…is pretty close to endless. Sure I write here and we are coming up on 1,000 posts, but I do this every single day – writing or not.
Those battles you decide to pick, make them for something not against something. Fight for something. Fight for a dream, a vision, a person…but don’t fight against those things. Don’t be your own worst enemy. Find a way to compromise with people and life. You can’t bludgeon these things into submission. People you may be able to do that with but you will end up feeling horrible about yourself and things will never recover. Life though, life will always kick your butt in that fight. No matter how much you thought you won, it’s going to come back and kick you with a size 14 boot. And it hurts. Trust me.
Tomorrow is one of the biggest days of my life. Tomorrow morning at 9 a.m. I take a step that I have been thinking about for years – I start my professional life coaching school. I’ve been reading one of my books “Coaching – Evoking Excellence In Others” by James Flaherty and everything is resonating with me at such a high frequency. For such a long time I felt like I didn’t have the foundation I needed to be a successful coach. Through reading this book, I am realizing more and more than I had some of the knowledge, just not the confirmation and background to ensure that this was indeed the correct foundation to build upon. I can’t wait to build upon these past four years and enter into a profession I know that I can be absolutely passionate about and create the rest of my life with.
These are good days, very good days. They are about to get even better.
– Evan Sanders
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March 1, 2015
The Hero Of Your Own Story
It’s the truth…you can become the hero of your own story…starting today. You can turn it all around. You can decide that you finally have had it with what you are going through and make some changes. That’s how my story began 4 months ago. I reached a point where I finally said enough is enough and made the firm decision to make big changes in my life.
Heroes, I am starting to become convinced (at least in the real world), are made…not created. They are the men and women who have a grand vision and the integrity + work ethic to carry out a tasks daily that will take them to the heights of personal greatness. The heroes are those who often see something that hasn’t been created yet or no other person can see. They carry out their task with vigilance, care, and are always the person they know they can be even when there isn’t an audience of any kind.
You can become the protagonist, the hero, of your own story today.
You can be the person who decided that fear was no longer going to control them and that they would stop at nothing to bring their gifts to the world. You can do that. There’s no reason in the world why you cannot. The only thing stopping you from doing this are the excuses you create in this moment. Massive impacts can be made by those who believe they are insignificant. How? They must believe in the whispers that tell them that things are possible. Because they are. Yes, many have to overcome significant odds to be able to see that day…but it’s not impossible. Improbable to the onlookers – yes. Impossible. No.
Make the decision today to turn it all around.
You can be your own hero.
Now start acting like one.
– Evan Sanders
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February 28, 2015
Do Or Die
Do or die.
There’s really no other option than that. The dreams die when you don’t and life is incredibly exciting when you do. Don’t sit in the middle on this one. Don’t wait for things to happen for you because they rarely ever will. You have to go out and grab what you want and hold your dreams close to your chest.
I’ve been talking about dreams lately because it’s what I know right now. I never really write about what I don’t know because I can’t put any feeling into it. What I can tell you is that these past few months have changed my life and have allowed me to either speed up the course I was on or slightly adjust (not sure I will ever know) to make it to my short term destination. Who knows what it will be like when I get there…and no one knows what will happen after that, but I am confident that I will be able to find that out when the time comes.
I trust myself now with…myself.
Before, that wasn’t really the case. But now, there’s something different in the air. There’s a sense of faith. No longer is it about hoping that one day it will happen. Those days are long gone. Now, it’s about making the necessary efforts to make it happen.
What lesson have I pulled from today so far?
Take a minute…and then adjust. I had an old baseball coach that told me that his players were always allowed to vent for 30 seconds, yell, scream, (away from the field of course)…but after 30 seconds they had to come back to cheer their team on and do their job. I really liked that. It’s important to get those things out because if you don’t they tend to take your mind away from what you are doing and what you are aiming to accomplish. You have to have thick skin in this life. Without it, you are going to get eaten up alive.
So when someone says something or suddenly something unexpected happens, adjust. Take your time to get it out of your system and then keep moving forward. You don’t get to always call the shots in life. There will be times when things are completely out of your control. But the one thing that is constantly in your control is you. You have complete control over yourself and you should never allow someone to take that away from you.
For me, it’s about not letting the past creep in and take any room in my present or future. If it’s in the past, it belongs in the past for a reason. I’m not going to rehash old topics of conversation because someone else can’t let it go. Move forward. Move on.
Do or die.
– Evan Sanders
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