Kaneisha Grayson's Blog, page 34

How to Feel Sexy Every Day

  OTHER WOMEN MAY BE SEXY, but that’s just not me. Are you thinking this? I definitely did for a long time. I once thought that some women were simply born sexy and the rest of us were doomed to stand on the sidelines, admiring their sexy swag in bewildered awe. is is simply not... Read more »

How to Stop Dwelling on Negative Situations

  I think that ingratitude could be the root of all unhappiness. Taking the time to appreciate all the good things in your life shis your attention away from problems and focuses it on the many blessings you have. Your attention on those blessings draws more of them to you. On the other hand, constantly... Read more »

How to Enjoy Being a Grown-Up

Yesterday, I visited my elementary school to have lunch with some of my favorite teachers as well as to pop into classrooms and say hi to the students. It was an exhausting, very fun, and enlightening day. There’s nothing like staring down 30 and talking to a roomful of seven-year-olds to make you realize how... Read more »

What to Say When You Don’t Want to Do What Your Friends Are Doing

  One of the most popular dating books in the world is The Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. In it, one of the chapters is titled “Show Up Even If You Don’t Feel Like It.” It’s about the importance of getting out and having fun (or at least making a hearty attempt at... Read more »

It’s totally okay to change your mind

I change my mind often, and I usually feel bad about it. I hate to look flakey, unreliable, unstable, all over the place, flighty. And many times, I do look like all of those things. However, I’ve recently begun to be more compassionate with myself and much more okay with the idea that I change... Read more »

How to Stop Overanalyzing Every Word He Says

  Harvard Business School is exactly where I belonged in my mid-twenties because I was obsessed with analyzing and solving problems. The caveat is that Harvard encourages us to apply analytical rigor to leadership challenges and business decisions, and I was intrigued with analyzing life, love, and relationship issues. While I’m happy to have an... Read more »

5 Affirmations for Dealing with Uncertainty

I’m facing a lot of uncertainty in my personal and professional life right now. Some of the uncertainty is exciting (Will I be accepted to present at the Texas Book Festival?) Lots more of it is very frustrating and unsettling. (That huge speaking contract that I’ve been relying on hasn’t come through yet?!) Regardless of... Read more »

How to Be More Positive and Feel Happier

  The saying “You are what you eat,” should apply to everything we consume—not just food. In my teens and early twenties, I indulged in a lot of cultural darkness: depressing movies, sad music, disturbing art. I spent hours hanging out in dimly lit coffee shops—like I imagined a writer would, though I wasn’t doing... Read more »

How to make huge changes in your life

In early 2013, I made one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made because I knew I’d hit bottom and desperately needed a change. It was a change I’d wanted to make for years, but could never quite follow through on, and now I realize what I was doing wrong as well as what I... Read more »

How to Ask Your Boyfriend to Get Tested

  Bring up the subject during a quiet evening while you are chilling out and feeling comfortable with one another—and fully clothed. (I’ll explain why soon.) Here’s a script you can use to ask your partner to get tested:   I think you’re really sexy and that I’ll be ready to have sex with you... Read more »