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October 5, 2017
How to Outline Your Novel Using Index Cards
As you may or may not know, there are two types of writers: plotters and pantsers, which means, some of us outline and others of us do not.
I’ve published three books and I have outlined not one of them. However, I’m currently writing a young adult fantasy novel which involves a lot of world and character building and it got me thinking, hmm, I better try this outlining thing. And God am I glad that I did.
What I discovered is that outlining is a life-saver and a lot of fun to do—at least for me it was—especially because I used index cards which was totally new for me.
So this is what I did.
I researched the interweb for different forms of outlining
Then, I settled on index cards!
I wanted to focus on story structure within in each act (Act I, II & III) so onto the web I went again.
This is when I came across the blog ran by K.M. Weiland “Helping Writers Become Authors” https://www.helpingwritersbecomeauthors.com/
Using K.M. Weiland guideline (which is a common outline) https://www.helpingwritersbecomeauthors.com/secrets-of-story-structure-pt-3-first/ regarding Act I, II, III, I began mapping out my story.
I separated each act and focused only on the story elements that fit within that act (all while keeping in my mind what I believed my ending was going to be).
I used color index cards to signify important markers, like the hook, inciting event, key event and first plot point, but also when I added a flashback and the white cards for the scenes in between.
Act I:
First card: The Hook
Second card: The Inciting Event
Third card: The Key Event
Fourth card: The First Plot Point (end of Act I)
After I had my cards in place, I started filing in the scenes that went between each major event in the novel; for example, I wrote my hook, then the scenes that came after that, until I finally landed on the “inciting event.” I did this over and over again until I got to the end of the first act (which should be the first 25% of your novel—for proper pacing).
By doing this I was able to see my scenes clearly and add, rearrange or delete scenes as I continued to build my story.
I did the same thing for Act II:
First Card: The First Pinch Point
Second Card: The Midpoint
Third Card: Second Half Of the Second Act
Fourth Card: Second Pinch Point
Fifth Card: Third Plot Point
And Act III:
First Card: The Climax
Second Card: The Climatic Moment
Third Card: The Resolution
This method was so easy and so much fun that I can't believe that as a writer I hadn’t tried it before. This is an example of how rigid we can be in our own lives. I recommend that if you’re struggling with something in your life, something that seems daunting to you, that you open yourself up to the possibility that this might be exactly what you need. Sometimes change is hard, but often necessary.
For more on how I outlined my novel and how I did it check out my YouTube video here.
So that’s it you guys, I hope you enjoyed this blog and if you would like to see more content like this leave me a comment.
Until Next Time, Stay Safe!
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Till Next Time, Stay Safe!
October 3, 2017
How to Feel ALIVE and BALANCED in Minutes
When something in my life is not exactly the way I pictured it would be, it throws me completely off. And when I’m derailed, everything suffers, including my health. I’m not sure about you, but when I get like this, I need to remedy it quickly. I get so uncomfortable, that it feels like I can’t be inside my body. It’s like I don’t fit. I get constant headaches, and every single bone in my body hurts. So needless to say I search for ways to get out of it quickly.
The thing I have found that works like a charm is meditation! But wait, before you stop reading, you should really give it a shot. I know you’ve heard it before, and perhaps you’ve tried it and thought "this is not for me," but I disagree. Meditation is for everyone. There’s no way it can’t be.
As I’ve mentioned before, I’m fairly new at meditating, therefore, I still need a little guidance, and for this I turn to "guided meditation." Recently I haven't just meditated, but I've listened to Chakra Clearing Mmeditation. And let me tell you! I FEEL ALIVE!!!
For those of you who don’t know anything about “chakras” here’s a brief explanation as defined by a Mind Body Green article “The 7 Chakras for Beginners,” “The seven chakras are the centers in our bodies in which energy flows though”. When any one of these points is blocked, it could cause major problems in our bodies and mind.
So knowing this, I immediately turned to handy-dandy YouTube and searched for a “chakra clearing” meditation and I found many, but I’ve been listening to this one Before Sleep | Spoken Guided Meditation | Chakra Alignment | Chakra Balance . And Wow does this work! After several days of using this method I began to feel better, not just mentally but physically. During the clearing I was able to do things that I couldn’t do while I was “awake.” I was able to send my troubles away by sending forgiveness.
For me, this seems to be one of the things I struggle with the most: forgiving others who I feel has wronged me or someone that I love. But, in my meditated state I could see the amazing benefits of forgiveness and I wanted to reap the benefits. I wanted release from the pain and anguish. I wanted happiness again, and the weight to be lifted from my shoulders. I wanted peace. And in my experience, forgiveness is the only way to achieve this. Forgiveness doesn’t have to be this difficult impossible thing to give, after all, forgiveness doesn’t mean that you accept what a person has done to you. Forgiveness, as I see it, means you no longer choose to carry the other person’s burden. Forgiving someone means you set it down, and move on with your happy life.
I hope my experience with meditation has sparked some curiosity in you and you try it for yourself. If you do and it helps, feel free to share your experience with me. I'd love to hear from you!
In case you didn't know, my new non-fiction book #Believe Dammit was released last Tuesday 09/26/2017, in it, I dedicate chapters to meditation and forgiveness--as both are crucial steps in your overall success. Check it out here!
If you haven’t done so already, follow me on Twitter and Instagram and like my Facebook page. Through my social sites I share daily inspiration and motivation of all kinds—like fitness, wellness, health and positive thinking.
Till Next Time!
September 26, 2017
September 19, 2017
How My 2012 Transformation Was Part of the Collective Consciousness
You guys, don’t just dismiss the above quote. Listen to the message it’s relaying. There is so much wisdom in these words I know that it will inevitably serve you well.
For me, these words are particularly helpful as I continue my spiritual growth, in addition to offering much clarity as I look back on my life thus far.
2012 was the year that I transformed, mind, body and soul. This year is engraved in my mind like a permanent tattoo. At the time, not only did I have this huge awakening that stemmed from my souls' cry for a more meaningful life, but I had a tremendous health transformation as well.
Shortly after I had the awakening, I became sick with stomach problems—to the point that I couldn’t eat. Furthermore, in three short weeks I lost 15 lbs. I had several tests done and it turned out to be a very minor case of gastritis, nothing that really explained the reason for my not eating. Nevertheless, my eating habits would forever be changed.
So now, a little history on the year 2012. You may remember the panic, rumors and/or excitement that surrounded the end of 2012, when some reported that the world would be coming to an end. Well, according to the new age forecasters, the world as we knew it did come to an end—just not in those terms. 2012 was known as the year of awakening; a time in life when a lot of us went from darkness to light, from negativity to positivity. During said transformation, every person that would adhere to the calling would experience side effects—a cleansing of sorts—including, but not limited to, illness.
Looking back, just as the quote at the start of this post suggested, I can see the purpose for my illness. Had I continued not paying attention to my diet, and I continued to feed my body foods that contained no health value whatsoever, I might not have had the life-longevity needed to do my souls' work. Illness, followed by radical transformation of my eating habits was necessary to do my souls' work.
Knowing this now, I have one suggestion: if you’re going through a challenging time right now, try to think about how this might be serving your higher good. Is there a way for you to turn on the lights in this dark situation? I promise that if you seek, the brightest light you have ever known will shine down on you.
Did you go through your own transformation in 2012? Did you know what lied beneath the surface? I had no idea that I was part of the collective unconscious—a much bigger part of life than just me. I’d love to hear from you if you experienced a similar change in 2012, leave a comment below.
Also, if you’re a writer and love books check out my “For Writers” tab as I’ve added some resources and fun shopping items.
My new book #Believe Dammit:10 Principles For Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave comes out September 26, 2017 and the Kindle version is available for pre-order now!
If you haven’t done so already, I would love for you to subscribe to my YouTube Channel and follow me on Twitter and Instagram and like my Facebook page. Through my social sites I share daily inspiration and motivation of all kinds—like fitness, wellness, health and positive thinking.
Till Next Time!
September 12, 2017
September: 3 Things to Try This Month
As many of you know I’m very much into audiobooks, in fact, audible.com is my favorite thing in the world. But lately, I’ve discovered something just as wonderful: podcasts.
So, as we start the new month I thought I would share with you my top 3 podcasts, as a way to inspire you to try something new, or if you already listen to podcasts, to check my favs out.
First up is “The Influencer Podcast:”
The podcast is hosted by Julie Solomon, New York Times Best-Selling Publicist, Influencer Marketing Strategist, Entrepreneur and Influencer. Julie brings you interviews with the most interesting and experienced personas in the influencer world. Her guests provide valuable information pertaining to business and marketing to help listeners grow their audience and business. I highly recommend the podcast as it’s helped me in understanding marketing and my role as an influencer.
Next must-listen-to-podcast is “The Marie Forleo Podcast:"
Marie Forleo is a business and motivational teacher named by Oprah Winfrey as “thought leader for the next generation.” Her podcast is short and to the point, as it’s material that she's already covered on her YouTube channel. However, I like listening to podcasts when I’m driving, so this is a great way to get my business information in as I make my way through rush hour traffic.
And last, but certainly not least is Oprah Winfrey’s “SuperSoul Conversations!”
Ahhhh, you guys, I cannot say enough about this podcast. It is my favorite by far. If you know the show “SuperSoul Sunday” it’s just an extension of that show. But, if you’re not familiar with it, in a nutshell, the podcast consists of interviews with thought-leaders, best-selling authors, spiritual luminaries, as well as health and wellness experts. The interviews are thought provoking which stir the deepest of questions within your soul. I. Love. This. Podcast. Needless to say, it’s my number one recommendation thus far this year.
There you have it guys, three things I invite you to try this month. In case you didn’t know, I started a YouTube channel and it’s all about writing and inspiration. I provide tips on how to reach your writing goals and motivating life-tips that you can apply to any area of your life—whether you’re a writer or not.
Also, if you’re a writer and love books check out my “For Writers” tab as I’ve added some resources and fun shopping items.
My new book #Believe Dammit:10 Principles For Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave comes out September 26, 2017 and the Kindle version is available for pre-order now!
If you haven’t done so already, follow me on Twitter and Instagram and like my Facebook page. Through my social sites I share daily inspiration and motivation of all kinds—like fitness, wellness, health and positive thinking.
July: 3 Things to Try This Month
June: 3 Things to Try This Month
How This One Revelation Improved My Marriage
Till Next Time!
September 5, 2017
Guest Post: Sandra Leon; 5 Affirmations to Overcome Perfectionism
Happy Tuesday Friends! Today I have another special post for you; I would like to introduce you to the incredibly talented Sandra Leon AKA "Mom Boss".
Sandra is a writer and entrepreneur who just released her book, Online Business Success: 6 Fundamentals of Making Money Online Doing What You Love which I've read and loved.
This is not your typical business book, this is an informative, inspiring and resourceful book that I highly recommend. With that said, Sandra has a little advice on how to beat those perfectionistic tendencies that creep up and prevent us from reaching our goals. So without further ado, onto to Sandra's post.
“Perfectionism is just fear in fancy shoes and a mink coat, pretending to be elegant when, actually, it's just terrified.”
Elizabeth Gilbert
I always took pride in being a perfectionist. In school, I was always the one putting the most effort into my homework. At all my jobs, I always aimed to do my job perfectly, which helped me earn top positions.
Being a perfectionist is actually a good quality to have. It’s not bad in and of itself. It makes you work hard to produce high quality work that makes you shine and stand out. However, you have to be careful not to let your perfection tendency turn into a perfectionism disorder.
I realized my need to be perfect had become a problem when I became an online content creator. It was blatantly obvious my perfectionist quality had turned into perfectionism.
I was using the need to be perfect as a safeguard from judgment, failure, and criticism. An obsessive habit of finding fault in my work took over me. My YouTube videos needed to be perfect, or I wouldn’t publish anything at all. My books and blog posts needed to be flawless before I launched them.
Now, instead of working endlessly to make my work perfect, I focus on making it good enough and I execute. That has allowed me to accomplish a lot this year. I was even able to turn my passion into a full-time income.
Of course, you want to put your best work into the world. It’s not about completely getting rid of your nature to be perfect and your desire to make your work outstanding. It’s about preventing it from developing into perfectionism, which stops you from publishing your book, recording your video, launching your website, or starting your online business.
5 Affirmations to Avoid Getting Trapped by Perfectionism
If perfectionism is stopping you from creating the life and business of your dreams, say these affirmations to yourself every morning. They will help you put perfectionism in its place: out of your life.
“I was created to create art.”
Keep this in mind as you read the rest of this post. No matter what your field of work is, it’s an art. Make-up, writing, dancing, teaching, cooking. These are all forms of art.
Some of the most artistic creations were created in imperfect moments. Michael Angelo was a sculptor, not a painter. When they offered him the job of painting the Sistine Chapel, he rejected it. Eventually, he agreed to do it, and now it’s considered one of the greatest works of art in history.
Stop waiting for the perfect circumstance to launch your creation. The more you put yourself out there, fail, and take risks, the greater the chance that you will create the fine work of art that will take your life and business to unforeseen levels.
“Even my greatest hero started at zero.”
Those experts you look up to were once beginners. They didn’t wake up to the level they are now. They worked their way there. They went through their “lousy” phase, which is a stage everyone has to go through.
It’s okay to look at your role models for direction. The mistake comes when you mimic their actions and become discouraged when your efforts don’t produce the same results.
Do this when those crummy symptoms of perfectionism start to creep in. Look at the early works of your favorite YouTuber, blogger, Instagramer, or whoever you admire. Chances are their first pictures, videos, or articles weren’t as good as they are now.
Looking at successful people’s humble beginnings can be encouraging. It reminds us that we don’t have to be perfect when we start. Everyone starts out being lousy.
“I don’t have to be great to start, but I have to start to be great.”
Steven King and JK Rowling didn’t become instant legends. We have the privilege of reading their stories because, even with rejection after rejection, they kept going. They weren’t considered great in their beginning stages. They became masters because they chose to execute no matter how imperfect their work seemed to others.
If you want to be great in your field, you have to be willing to hit the publish button before you’re ready. Get your work out into the world, even if it’s not perfect. You can use the feedback you receive to make it better.
Do the best you can, and let it go. Chances are, due to your perfectionist nature, your work will be better than other’s expectations anyway.
“I focus on progress over perfection.”
When we are making progress, we feel happy and accomplished. But when we are paralyzed by our need to be perfect, we feel like failures.
#progressequalshappiness.
It’s not about doing mediocre work. Putting out work that is subpar will do more harm than good. You should always share the best quality work you can. The paradox is that with quantity, the quality of your art will also improve. You need both: quality and quantity. Focus on getting work done, rather than perfect.
“There is no point in trying to please everyone because I cannot please everyone.”
When perfectionism consumes you, you end up striving for the impossible. No matter how perfect you think your art is, there will always be someone who doesn't like what they see.
Art is subjective. Even your favorite author has bad reviews, and there are people who don’t like Oprah. How is that even possible? People will always have a difference of opinion, and that’s okay.
Know when good enough is good enough. Anytime you notice perfectionism is discouraging you from sharing your art, review these five affirmations. And remember, someone is waiting to hear your message, no matter how imperfect it is.
Don’t let perfectionism paralyze you. Don’t let it stop your hustle.
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August 29, 2017
Guest Post: A Conversation with Shannon Kaiser
Hi guys, I am so excited about today's post. Today, I want to introduce you to one of my favorite self-development authors, Shannon Kaiser.
Shannon is a bestselling author, entrepreneur, writer, teacher, life coach, business and author mentor, and an international speaker. Her new book The Self-Love Experiment is out today (8/29/2017) for the world to enjoy, and she is here for a little Q&A regarding this passion project. Enjoy!
How does this new book, The Self-Love Experiment, differ from your other books?
The Self-Love Experiment is the most open and vulnerable I’ve ever been. It’s a memoir infused self-help book where I peel back the layers of my life and share openly about the greatest struggles I’ve had with food, accepting my body, and learning how to love myself. As I share my own story I invite readers to create their own self-love experiment which will help them transform self-doubt and turn it into self-love. We all have flaws or something we would like to fix, and this book serves as a compassionate guide for us to stop hating ourselves and instead become our own friends.
“Self-care” has become almost as big a buzzword as our focus on the pursuit of “happiness”. You write, “Here’s a secret about being happy that no one talks about. You can be happy but not be in joy. It seems to me it is more important to strive for joy than to reach for happiness.” Why?
So many of us seem to want to be happy, so we are chasing the happiness illusion there. We say things like “when I lose weight, then I will be happy”, “when I meet my soul mate, then I will be more satisfied.” But these experiences are outside of us, which will always keep us in the chase. The thing about the chase is, we never get there. The chase in itself is the reward. In my own self-love experiment, instead of focusing on needing to be happy, I reframed to focus on joy. Because happy is an emotion and fleeting, but joy is an experience.
You talk about how you struggled and battled with your inner critic, constantly feeling unlovable and unworthy, for more than three decades by not just strongly disliking yourself, but actively self-sabotaging. What are common ways we self-sabotage our happiness and our health?
I would overdo everything: overeat, overwork, over exercise, over analyze. Obsessing and worrying were my go-to form of living. My life changed when I asked myself, “What could I do with all my time and energy if I weren’t worrying or obsessing about the things I disliked about myself?” I realized my life was happening and I was missing it. So I made a conscious choice to stop listening to my inner critic and instead focus on the things I liked about myself. Eventually, this self-kindness removed the self-sabotage from my life because I was making choices from a place of love instead of fear.
What are some of your favorite tools that help with the healing, self-love process?
One of the most powerful tools I used was writing letters to my future self, the version of me who had it figured out, who was healthy, secure, and in love with herself and life. Writing a letter to ourselves can help put things in perspective and help us trust ourselves more. Another great tool are the mantras. Using powerful, positive sayings or motivational mantras can help recondition our fearful thoughts to more loving ones. For instance, “The only thing I need to change is the thought that I need to change” or “When I love myself it’s easier to see imbalances in my life.”
How do you advise people to start this process without getting too overwhelmed or feeling defeated from the start?
I felt overwhelmed and like self-love was a pipe dream, too. It wasn’t until I did my own self-love experiment that I learned that one step at a time, one kind thought at a time, one loving action at a time can make the changes we want. In my book, I share the process in to make finding self-love less overwhelming and more attainable. The first step is self-care. We can look at our habits and start to make more intentional habits by aligning with joy. Self-care isn’t about feeling guilty for skipping a workout or trying to get your green juice every day. If we do those things under pressure, then we aren't really caring for ourselves in a compassionate way. Instead, be kind to yourself and care for yourself from a place of love.
What’s the biggest gift self-love has given you?
Freedom! Freedom to be who I am instead of worrying about who I should be or trying to fit into a box of what others and society says is best. Freedom from worry and self-criticism and blame, so I can focus on my dreams and goals and live a life I feel connected to. Self-love = freedom.
There you have it guys. I hope this inspired you to run out and get a copy of this life-changing book.
Link for order:
http://playwiththeworld.com/newbookgifts.html
August 22, 2017
Inspiration for When You're Blocked by Fear
I know that we’ve all seen quotes like this:
But the truth is, no matter how many times we read things like this, it’s still super scary to go “for it.” However, I am here to tell you that once you go “for it” and break through that wall of fear that you built, freedom is on the other side.
Last week, I said enough was enough and I took a sledge hammer and destroyed that brick wall of fear. When I first started this personal transformation five years ago, there was one thing I wanted to conquer above all: my fear of public speaking. Baby step by baby step I've been moving toward this goal and I finally saw an opening, a light at the end of the tunnel.
My fear of public speaking went beyond just speaking on stage, it included, writing or posting anything on social media, taking photos, or video, speaking up in meetings, or even asking for a fork at a fast-food joint. My insecurities and fears about being “noticed” had blocked my growth on many levels. When I was in school, and up for an achievement award, I would miss school because I couldn’t walk on stage. When my husband asked me to marry him, I knew a wedding was out of the question because there was no way I could stroll down an isle with all eyes on me!
But last week, I moved one step closer to overcoming this debilitating fear; on Thursday, I posted my very first YouTube video and it felt so good. And now, now that I’ve destroyed that wall, I plan on moving right on through to the other side.
If you have a fear that’s preventing you from living the life of your dreams, I want you to know that I understand. And, even though this post may not propel you into action today, I hope that it will plant a seed that will grow into the courage you need to move into the life of your dreams.
Until then, I’ll be here, struggling and conquering my own obstacles in hopes to inspire you along your way.
My new book #Believe Dammit:10 Principles For Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave comes out September 26, 2017 and the Kindle version is available for pre-order now!
If you haven’t done so already, follow me on Twitter and Instagram and like my Facebook page. Through my social sites I share daily inspiration and motivation of all kinds—like fitness, wellness, health and positive thinking.
How To Feel Fear and Still "Do It" Anyway
The One Mantra I Repeated to Reach Every Single Goal--From Travel to Earning Money
How to Keep Going When Your Goal Seems to Big
Till Next Time
August 15, 2017
Inspiration For When You're Unfocused
I’m not sure what’s happening to me this month, but I’ve been all over the place. I have so many things going on that I can’t make heads or tails of any of it. I start one project, then, while in the middle of it, I get an idea and then I start to work on that one. Then, while I’m working on that "one" another idea pops up and I start to work on that one, and on and on it goes.
This behavior has caused me to feel overwhelmed and nonproductive. As I usually do in times like these, I said, enough is enough Mari, now get a grip. So, I decided to take a step back and figure out how best to get out of this dilemma. These are the steps I took.
Journal
I began by writing down all the distracting ideas that kept popping in my head. Once on paper I was able to prioritize accordingly. I could see that some of the ideas that I was working on didn’t need to be done today, or even in the next month. Some of the things were long-time-goals kind of projects that I didn’t need to be concerned with at this time. This took a big weight off my shoulders.
Review and Assess
I then reviewed my bimonthly goals and checked off what I had accomplished thus far, and this alone made me feel so much better. By doing this, I realized that I had managed to check off something that had been on my list for months. This was huge!
Self-Care
I’m not sure why, maybe it's because of summer, but I’ve been slacking a bit on my self-care habits. Meaning, I hadn’t been meditating, journaling or feeling all that positive. So, I got back to the basics. First thing in the morning, I started to meditate and write in my gratitude journal. This allowed my brain to calm down and face the day with a peaceful state of mind, filled with gratitude for myself and all that I do.
So yeah, this has helped clarify some things and now I'm back on track tacking one goal at a time. Do you have ideas on how to get back on track? I would love to hear them. Leave a comment below on what you do to get refocused.
My new book #Believe Dammit:10 Principles For Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave comes out September 26, 2017 and the Kindle version is available for pre-order now!
If you haven’t done so already, follow me on Twitter and Instagram and like my Facebook page. Through my social sites I share daily inspiration and motivation of all kinds—like fitness, wellness, health and positive thinking.
What to read next:
How to Move Away From A Problem
The One Thing You Must Have When Setting Goals
Until Next Time!
August 10, 2017
Zero F*cks Given
PEACE!
I recently posted the blog, 3 Motivational Books To Read In August 2017 wherein I included "Mark Manson’s" book The Subtle Art of Not Giving A F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life Manson’s point of view is that we should live life based on what feels good regardless of what other's think: zero f*cks given: thus the title of this blog.
If you‘ve been following my blog for a while, you know that my mission is about transforming lives and helping others reach their goals. I try to inspire others by offering tips on how to live their very best life. However, this often includes two difficult steps: forgiveness and letting go. Though letting go comes relatively easy for me, the forgiveness part does not.
As a person who thrives to be better and to promote positivity in other’s lives, you can see how problematic this is for me. But luckily, through my yoga practice I got a very clear message. Letting go is forgiving. As I see it, forgiving doesn’t mean that you accept the person’s behavior, or that you accept what they do, or have done, you’re simply letting go, aka, “zero f*cks given.”
For me, this means that I no longer think about the person(s) that hurt me or my family. I no longer take into account their feelings or what they might think, need or want. Zero f*cks given is returning your attention to self. Feeding your soul the medicine it needs, and that means turning away from difficult people and “drama” and turning your attention to the things that truly make you happy and inspire you to live your very best life.
A few years ago (2004) I wrote a song titled It’s My Life, you can take a listen here, but the chorus goes like this:
I’ll do what I haven’t done,
Go where I haven’t been,
Stop just letting the years pass by.
I’ll Say what I want to say,
Be where I want to be,
Gonna love, who I want love,
It’s my LIFE!
As you can see, I’ve been trying to live by the “zero f*cks given” rule for some time now, but it’s taken me this long to really get it. To really put into action what I feel in my soul. To have the courage to say, I care about me more than I care about you. To say, you no longer exist in my world. To say, you hurt me and my family and I no longer need or want to put up with that behavior. Saying this, and really feeling it, is truly liberating. And now, I’m ready to live, after all It’s My Life, no?
I encourage you to responsibly implement the “zero f*cks given” rule. Take care of your heart and soul, and let go of things that weigh you down--especially if they are truly out of your control. When you let go without resentment, without malice, and let go because your soul is urging you to feel better or else, then your life can and will transform for the better.
My new book #Believe Dammit:10 Principles For Attracting and Creating the Life You Crave comes out September 26, 2017 and it's available for pre-order now!
If you haven’t done so already, follow me on Twitter and Instagram and like my Facebook page. Through my social sites I share daily inspiration and motivation of all kinds—like fitness, wellness, health and positive thinking.
Until Next Time!
