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Productive minds are essentials…

I’m the Child

I am aware that I’m small and I whine and cry in substitution for actual words.

However, your lack of patience and inexperience is causing my fussing to expand beyond the parameters of a child’s cry, which is absurd.

You are handling me rough, tossing and dropping things, yelling and using words that are causing my aggravation to escalate.

There are only three things to consider, so consider those please: Then, take a break.

Postpartum Depression, you say:

Pardon me, but this come with the territory of having a child.

I cannot walk, talk, or assist you; therefore, change me, feed me, or put me to sleep and then “Grow up” because I am the child.

ABOUT THIS POEM

“I’m the Child” explores the topic of adjusting, which is to change so as to fit. It gives insight into the pressure and demands of parenting. It briefly touches on the overwhelming feeling of being consumed with the non-stop demands of child-rearing. It goes on to offer the three common considerations while caring for an infant child. Parenthood is defined as any organism in relation to its offspring. Adjusting is defined as to change so as to fit or to adapt oneself.

  Love yourself, take care of yourself… Like no one else will #Self- Preservation…#Stay awake/stay focus…

 

 

Productive minds are essentials…

I’M HERE

I would like to thank you for the care you provided for 40 weeks.

Surely, you understand that what I stand for will now receive the opportunity to speak.

I’m assuming you have come to terms with your circumstances.

I ask this because the parenting journey has very little to do with them or chances.

From this point on, every decision you make should be made with me as the first consideration.

For I am nothing short of your creation.

Postpartum Depression, you say.

No worries… that’s the clinical terminology used by many self-absorbed individuals finding it difficult to depart from their selfish ways.

The realization of the dependence I will have for you is near.

I have a suggestion: Pray for strength because I am here.

About this poem

“I’m Here” forewarns about the recognized pressures associated with parenthood. It mentions some helpful reminders, while simultaneously advising prayer to acquire the strength that will be necessary to carry out the responsibilities and obligations of a parent. Parenting is defined as the work or skill of a parent in raising a child or children.

  Love yourself, take care of yourself… Like no one else will #Self- Preservation…#Stay awake/stay focus…

 

 

Productive minds are essentials…

I’M ON THE WAY

It does not make any difference if I was conceived through wedlock or if I was conceived through your irresponsible definition of fun.

The only truth is that through my conception I will grow; then I will be born.

You will be responsible for me, no matter what the circumstances are currently or will be when I arrive there.

Wedlock, convenience: I hope you can stomach him and I hope you can tolerate her.

My entire life and development will depend on you two.

Long story; short version: It’s no longer about you.

It’s about me, my welfare, and my psychological development; therefore I have one word for you guys.

“PRAY”

Do it for whatever the circumstances may be currently because I am on the way.

About this poem

“I’m on the Way” discusses ownership and responsibility. Ownership is defined as belonging  or relating to oneself or itself; to admit or acknowledge. Responsibility is defined as being responsible; obligation; a thing or person that one is responsible for. Expected or obliged to account; answerable.

  Love yourself, take care of yourself… Like no one else will #Self- Preservation…#Stay awake/stay focus…

 

 

Productive minds are essentials…

PRO CHOICE

You made your bed now lie in it!

On second thought, maybe we should remove things that recline from the equation.

“Pro choice” is what you’re calling pre-meditated murder in the name of responsibilities’ evasion.

What a shame: Your shallowness is hindering you from realizing I was one of many outcomes.

Your selfishness and inability to be responsible is keeping me from being born.

And here is what’s worse: You’re going to play the victim and act as if this is all you can come up with because of course I do not have a voice.

You have rationalized this and have found comfort in the concept being referred to as ” Pro Choice”

  Love yourself, take care of yourself… Like no one else will #Self- Preservation…#Stay awake/stay focus…

 

 

Productive minds are essentials…

SUFFERING IN SILENCE: CLOSED MOUTH; IMPRISONED THOUGHTS…

is a book of rhyme-schemed poetry that deal with thoughts and feelings that often go unspoken because we worry what others would think of us if we uttered them aloud. This book is divided into three stages: coming to terms with our upbringing and development, coming to terms with involvement with others, and coming to terms with the acknowledgment of self. Every poem deals with imprisoned thoughts (in other words, thoughts restrained from expression). Unexpressed thoughts and feelings set the stage for mental imprisonment. Hidden or numbed emotions are bounty hunters for outlets that are usually connected to the calculated risks of bad influence, bad choices, bad friendships and (needless to say) bad relationships. Overall, this project was created in an effort to convey a lucid understanding of mental imprisonment and to help assist in determining whether you have the keys to your prison cell or are indeed serving a life sentence.

  Love yourself, take care of yourself… Like no one else will #Self- Preservation…#Stay awake/stay focus…

 

 

Productive minds are essentials…

TOPIC:   LOVE IS THE ONLY THING WE NEED. LOVE IS OUR PEACE. LOVE IS OUR JOY, HEALTH, AND WEALTH. LOVE IS OUR IDENTITY. WE GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP LOOKING FOR LOVE, NOT REALIZING THAT WE MUST BRING LOVE WITH US.– Iyanla Vanzant

JaQuel’s Understanding of this topic:

True story: There are many individuals who claim to have never felt loved; therefore, they tend to lack the awareness and understanding of love. In some cases, there are those who completely reject the belief in love. This occurrence is a tragedy because the above statement is an understatement of truth. Love plays a major role in how our lives feel to us everyday.

Without love, there’s no joy, there’s no peace, there’s no enjoyment of life.

Here’s the equation: You minus love equals an empty, miserable life filled with complaining, comparing, competing, coveting, jealousy, envy, discontentment, etc…

Numerically, it looks like (You – love = 0)

That’s not  living, that’s dying a slow death.

  Love yourself, take care of yourself… Like no one else will #Self- Preservation…#Stay awake/stay focus…

 

 

Productive minds are essentials…

TOPIC:  WE HAVE BEEN TAUGHT THAT IT IS OUR JOB IN LIFE TO GO OUT AND FIND THE PERFECT PARTNER, WHEN IN FACT OUR JOB IS TO FIND THE PERFECTION IN OURSELVES– Iyanla Vanzant

JaQuel’s Understanding of this topic:

True story: Although this topic speaks volumes for itself, I am not hesitant to re-iterate its meaning: “Love Yourself”. In order to be loving, you must first know how to love and when you’re ready to begin the process you do not have to look any farther than where you are. It all starts with you. You will never be able to offer someone  a part of yourself that you may have neglected to nurture.

  Love yourself, take care of yourself… Like no one else will #Self- Preservation…#Stay awake/stay focus…

 

 

Productive minds are essentials…

TOPIC:  THERE ARE TWO CHOICES- FEAR AND LOVE. STAYING AT A JOB THAT MAKES YOU SICK OR WITH A SPOUSE WHO ABUSES YOU IS DONE OUT OF FEAR NOT LOVE– Iyanla Vanzant

JaQuel’s Understanding of this topic:

True story:  Contrary to the popular opinion of those who lack the understanding of what true love means; love does not hurt. Falling in love with the wrong person does. Settling for and/or accepting any type of treatment from that wrong person in order to feel loved may hurt as well. However, love cannot not be blamed for that. Those are actions often times offset from dependency, poor self-esteem, and inadequate self- love. Love is free and it is a gift. It does not require for you to do anything, but accept it. Fear, on the other hand, does hurt. It has a debilitating domino effect on the mind, body, and spirit, so choose prudently.

Choose the realm of love opposed to the realm of fear; unless of course, you’re content with an uncomfortable comfort zone.

  Love yourself, take care of yourself… Like no one else will #Self- Preservation…#Stay awake/stay focus…

 

 

Productive minds are essentials…

TOPIC:  MISTAKES ARE LESSONS THAT YOU NEED TO LEARN – Iyanla Vanzant

JaQuel’s Understanding of this topic:

True story:  We will make mistakes in life because we are human and because no one is fully informed about everything.  A mistake is said to be an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient knowledge, etc… In that respect,  if the action, calculation, opinion, or judgment is made with awareness of possible negative outcomes then it is not a mistake, rather conscious carelessness and/ or recklessness. At any rate, when a mistake is genuinely a mistake it is not difficult to recognize that the action taken was not the appropriate action to take for a happy ending. In other words, a wise individual would not only know not to repeat the action, but he or she would aim to  explore the poor reasoning or insufficient knowledge owned that led to the misstep as well as welcome the enlightenment that usually follow consequences.

Life is the living, living is learning, and learning is growing. Needless to say, growth is very necessary.

  Love yourself, take care of yourself… Like no one else will #Self- Preservation…#Stay awake/stay focus…

 

 

Productive minds are essentials…

TOPIC:  WHATEVER IS GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE COMES FROM INSIDE YOU – Iyanla Vanzant

JaQuel’s Understanding of this topic:

True story:  The things you desire within your heart are the very things  you will seek after for your life, rather they are romance- based, pleasure-based, wealth-based, material-based, need for excitement- based, drama- based, covetous-based, addiction-based,  et.cetera… They are the very things you will allow to rule over your very existence, but you have that right because it is indeed your free will. In that respect, you should be able to endure all things you have freely given authorization to manifest within your world.

If you ever become confused about the true desires of your heart, take an honest look at your life and it will reveal your  true desires…

  Love yourself, take care of yourself… Like no one else will #Self- Preservation…#Stay awake/stay focus…