Kathleen Smith's Blog, page 32
January 11, 2013
Self-Published
I wrote something about my book on Tumblr then decided,why not share it here to.So here ya go:
Being a self-published author isn’t easy. Every day I need to come up with something new to say about my book. Every day I need to find a different sentence from my book to tweet about that I haven’t tweeted yet. It can be very nerve wracking. Trying to come up with something witty to say about miscarriages takes a lot of work. There isn’t anything witty about miscarriages,but at the same time you want to get peoples attention when they’re reading your tweet or anything you post about your book and miscarriages on the Internet.
There are so many times I wish someone else could mention my book on Twitter or facebook or even G+. Sometimes that does happen and when it does I’m pleasantly surprised. Does it help me get a book sale? Sometimes. Sometimes it just allows others to know that my book is there for people to read. Sometimes it prompts people to ask me why I wrote my book, what it’s about and then they wish me luck with it all.
I wonder if I’m the only self-published author that gets thrilled with every book sale I receive. And I do get thrilled and practically jump up and down with every sale my book makes. That might sound weird,but hey I get excited.
I still can’t get over the fact that I’ve been an author for 2 years now!
Being a self-published author isn’t easy. Every day I need to come up with something new to say about my book. Every day I need to find a different sentence from my book to tweet about that I haven’t tweeted yet. It can be very nerve wracking. Trying to come up with something witty to say about miscarriages takes a lot of work. There isn’t anything witty about miscarriages,but at the same time you want to get peoples attention when they’re reading your tweet or anything you post about your book and miscarriages on the Internet.
There are so many times I wish someone else could mention my book on Twitter or facebook or even G+. Sometimes that does happen and when it does I’m pleasantly surprised. Does it help me get a book sale? Sometimes. Sometimes it just allows others to know that my book is there for people to read. Sometimes it prompts people to ask me why I wrote my book, what it’s about and then they wish me luck with it all.
I wonder if I’m the only self-published author that gets thrilled with every book sale I receive. And I do get thrilled and practically jump up and down with every sale my book makes. That might sound weird,but hey I get excited.
I still can’t get over the fact that I’ve been an author for 2 years now!
December 12, 2012
One Christmas
"I can remember getting together with my husband and many people from the school he graduated from getting together for a Christmas party one year. I was very close to what would have been the due date for my second baby,had I not had the miscarriage. I remember I was sitting on a bench and one of my husband's friend's father asked me how I was and wanted to know when I was going to give my husband a son. I can remember looking at this man shaking my head back and forth and telling him "I don't know." The tears were stinging my eyes at this point, but I refused to let this man see me cry. He eventually walked away and I turned to a friend and asked her to walk me to the bathroom so I could cry. I could barely keep myself together until we got to the bathroom. Once there, the tears just wouldn't stop."
I still remember that day very well. The difference now is there are no more tears and no more hurting.
http://kathleensmith.org
I still remember that day very well. The difference now is there are no more tears and no more hurting.
http://kathleensmith.org
November 29, 2012
A Wedding
A tiny piece from my book."There was a wedding that I had been looking forward to attending for weeks.Unfortunately,I had my second miscarriage on the same weekend of that wedding and was feeling awful.I didn't know what to do.I was wondering, should I go to the wedding or should I stay home?"
If you would like to find out if I went to that wedding or not and how I dealt with it all, you can read about it in my book.
http://kathleensmith.org
If you would like to find out if I went to that wedding or not and how I dealt with it all, you can read about it in my book.
http://kathleensmith.org
November 16, 2012
Something To Think About
About a year or two ago I joined a group on cafemom.com called Christian Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss Support. I joined in hopes of being able to help other women get through their miscarriages. As I read each of their posts I find it so sad how many women these days are having miscarriages. They feel lonely,upset,frustrated and heart broken. All with same question "Why me?" They don't understand why it's happening to them. They want answers and they want them fast.
Sadly there is no really good answer. I remember when I kept asking that same question "Why Me?" and not getting any answers at the time of each miscarriage. I still don't know or have all the answers. What I do know is in times of sadness like a miscarriage the only thing that really helps or works is trusting in God. It can be very difficult to do so during a miscarriage,but I think that's when a woman needs to trust in God even more. He's knows what going on. It's a very slow process, but in time God will reveal to each women the reason or reasons for the miscarriage. I know for me personally I learned a lot about myself after my miscarriages that I wasn't aware of during them. Other women might find the same to be true about themselves as well.
Sadly there is no really good answer. I remember when I kept asking that same question "Why Me?" and not getting any answers at the time of each miscarriage. I still don't know or have all the answers. What I do know is in times of sadness like a miscarriage the only thing that really helps or works is trusting in God. It can be very difficult to do so during a miscarriage,but I think that's when a woman needs to trust in God even more. He's knows what going on. It's a very slow process, but in time God will reveal to each women the reason or reasons for the miscarriage. I know for me personally I learned a lot about myself after my miscarriages that I wasn't aware of during them. Other women might find the same to be true about themselves as well.
September 7, 2012
Ten Years Ago
Ten years ago today September 7, would have been my due date. Instead 6 months before that I had my 3rd and last miscarriage. Today am I sad,no. Am I crying,no. Am I hurting,no. Is the emotional pain still there,no. Am I remembering,Yes. For the longest time after that miscarriage my emotional pain at times was heart wrenching. Today I can remember without the hurt.
You know when I wrote my book about my miscarriages I did it with the intentions of hoping to help other women with their miscarriages. I wanted them to know they weren't alone. What I didn't expect to happen was in that process I was able to relieve my own emotional pain.
Do those emotional feelings every come back? Yeah, every once in a while, but I can handle them better now.
You know when I wrote my book about my miscarriages I did it with the intentions of hoping to help other women with their miscarriages. I wanted them to know they weren't alone. What I didn't expect to happen was in that process I was able to relieve my own emotional pain.
Do those emotional feelings every come back? Yeah, every once in a while, but I can handle them better now.
August 14, 2012
STILL
Sadness,hurt,crying,frustration all this accompanies having a miscarriage.
It's funny in not such a funny way: This morning I heard two women from my Church talking about having babies and how some people say "after your 4th they just take care of themselves or it gets easier or something to that effect" They were also talking about how many babies they want or when they decided to stop. Don't know why but it hit a nerve or something in me and I almost shared my opinion. It's amazing how certain things can still sting the emotions after all these year from my last miscarriage. I guess it will just be one of those things that NEVER goes away. It just doesn't sting like it use to.
It's funny in not such a funny way: This morning I heard two women from my Church talking about having babies and how some people say "after your 4th they just take care of themselves or it gets easier or something to that effect" They were also talking about how many babies they want or when they decided to stop. Don't know why but it hit a nerve or something in me and I almost shared my opinion. It's amazing how certain things can still sting the emotions after all these year from my last miscarriage. I guess it will just be one of those things that NEVER goes away. It just doesn't sting like it use to.
April 30, 2012
Not All Women Are The Same
When it comes to having a miscarriage not all women are the same. Some women can have a miscarriage or many and think no big deal I'll just keep trying. Then there are women who have a miscarriage or many and think why me. It becomes a very emotional time for them. Something that's not easy to overcome. They want to understand why it's happening to them, why their baby was taken away. It's in those times when these women need to really rely on God and lean on Him. It's in these times when they need to really connect with their husbands. God allowed them to have these miscarriages and He will get them through the emtional hurt.
March 19, 2012
Amazed
So an interesting thing happened to me Saturday night. My husband took me out to eat at a restaurant for St. Patricks Day and they were serving authentic Irish food. We were expecting to have a nice quiet time just the two of us at a table and spend some time together. What we didn't know was we were going to be seated at a table with people we didn't know. Well out of the no where one of the ladies asked me what I do for a living. I told her I am a SAHM and an author. She asked me about my book and I explained that it's a memoir about how I got through my miscarriages. She asked a bunch of question and answered. Then we found out she is a profoessor at a College and she teaches people how to write profressional memoirs.I then found out she knows another lady who also wrote a book on Miscarriages. I was then able to give her and a couple of other people at our table my promotional cards for my book. That night my husband and I could get over what happened!
March 13, 2012
Didn't Give Up
"I didn't give up on God because He never gave up on me or us as a couple. He was always on my side; I just needed to trust in Him. I know that is a big word: "TRUST," but in the end it was all worth it and I did become happy again and content. With all things, it takes time. Believe it or not, the emotional pain I was feeling went away with God's help."
The rest is in Chapter 8 "Turning To God" in my book Marriages & Miscarriages:One Woman's personal Experience Available on the Kindle, Nook and Paperback http://bit.ly/mamkindle
The rest is in Chapter 8 "Turning To God" in my book Marriages & Miscarriages:One Woman's personal Experience Available on the Kindle, Nook and Paperback http://bit.ly/mamkindle
March 8, 2012
Writing again
I didn't realize I had more to say about miscarriages until I was asked a question and all these thoughts started to flooded my mind so much that I had to get them written down.
So I started writing again. I started it yesterday and ended up with 2 pages so far and I know there is more I want to write. I know I'm not going to have enough for another book so my husband and I are thinking about what to do with it. He suggested making it another chapter in my current book and making a second edition.
So I started writing again. I started it yesterday and ended up with 2 pages so far and I know there is more I want to write. I know I'm not going to have enough for another book so my husband and I are thinking about what to do with it. He suggested making it another chapter in my current book and making a second edition.
