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Three Elements of Surviving Loss

When most people think of loss, they probably think of it in terms of losing a loved one – a parent, a child, a partner, a friend – but loss comes in many shapes and sizes.  My friend, Beth, experienced a variety of huge losses over a thirteen year period. She was involved in an accident that caused her severe brain injury, her brother committed suicide, her husband was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease, and her 14 year old son died of osteosarcoma.  

The thing is, though, not all losses are...

Are You a People Pleaser? Learning to Say NO

You’re a people pleaser, and you know it.  But isn’t being there for your friends a wonderful thing? Shouldn’t wanting to please the people you love most be considered an admirable and honorable thing?  And helping others in need is a service of the heart, right?

When, then, do these incredible acts of generosity crossover from healthy, life-affirming deeds to unhealthy and life-squelching endeavors?  The answer is simple – when they become stressors.  
You may recognize yourself in the follo...

BIG NEWS!! My latest book, Messy Intentionality, is getting RE-released!

There have been some changes and, all-in-all, the reason it ever had to be Re-released has become a blessing of sorts. But I’m jumping ahead…  
 

Let me start with January 1, 2017, the day my book, Messy Intentionality (recently re-titled simply Messy) was scheduled to hit the stands, but didn’t.  The reason it didn’t is my publisher, Tate Publishing, closed its doors and didn’t tell any of the authors or musician who had copyrighted material with them they were doing so. In fact, many of the...

More Intentionality in 2017!

As 2017 approaches, most people will either make or think about making a New Year’s resolution.  New Year’s resolutions are beneficial in that they are growth minded, but often we stay clear of them because most likely we think we will fail – and then we are left with self-loathing and indifference.  But for those who have the resiliency to press through the cycle of hope, defeat, and find hope again – will see real, sustainable change can occur.

So, when I think about New Year’s Resolution I...

Messy Intentionality Book Release with Excerpt

I wrote Messy Intentionality as the second edition of Finding Me Again, but it took on a whole new form and became a book in itself. There were aspects of Finding Me Again that I felt fell short. Thus, Messy Intentionality was born.

You don’t have to live very long on this earth to realize life can get pretty messy. We all encounter trauma, heartbreak, loss, and grief. We are messy as much as we are human. Self-Awareness is the antidote to the unhealthy messiness in each of our lives. To tap...

Is It Time For A Reset?

When life gives us lemons, just make lemonade. Easier said than done, right?

Life is full of ups and downs.  When the messy, unsatisfying, and unaware life is too much, we often wish we could reset and start over, or at least get a second chance to get things right.

Journeying out of the comfortable familiar is not for the weak-hearted.  It starts with self-awareness. To wake up and become aware that life, your life, is not what you thought it would be – at all. This awakening is what I cal...

7 Daily Questions to Ask Yourself for Emotional Clarity

Everyday life is far from utopia. Losses, unmet longings, and disappointments alter the original intent of life. Messy happens randomly and vicariously to the innocent and not so innocent, alike, as we all journey through this life. I believe we were created to be fully alive and fully connected to our soul, one another, and spiritually.

 

The deep wounds in our subconscious come to life, we behave and live based on faulty thinking. The heart responds with either anger and anxiety or apathy...

Your Values: A Gateway to Change

We all, at one time or another, want or need a change.  Life can begin to feel dry, plastic, and routine. Or go to the other extreme of chaotic, drama-filled, and lack peace. Either can make us want to do something different – anything different. So we make a change. Yet, what we find after the excitement of the new job, location, or relationship wears off, we find ourselves in the very same type of scenario just with new characters.

Why?

Because we carry ourselves with us wherever we go and...