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May 26, 2014
On Memorial Day….
Couldn’t have said this better myself. Thank you to the soldiers in my family: Dad, Grandad, Cousin & Uncle Walter
Originally posted on Serious thoughts taken not so seriously:
We remember our heroes. We remember they are the reason we are free. We pray for the fallen. And we never forget their sacrifice.
Thank you.
May 23, 2014
I am Turning into my Parents
I’m not sure when I realized that I had turned into my mother… It might have been when I said “You will not talk to me like that young lady!”.
Originally posted on HarsH ReaLiTy:
Hey! What button did you guys push on my stereo! I told you not to touch it!!!
Hey! Stop hitting! We don’t hit!… …well don’t hit her back!
That wasn’t smart was it? And what did we just learn?
We can’t go yet Anna we have to wait our turn. Oh… those people are just rude trolls that don’t know about the concept of waiting your turn. Don’t be like them when you grow up.
Marriage? I don’t think that will exist when you get older. Yea… I know sucks. Life sucks sometimes.
Boyfriends? Men are horrible creatures… I told you guys I was saved by a giant panda.
Do I look like the maid? Just because I do it all the time doesn’t mean I like to!
Girls come clean this stuff up I almost died falling down the stairs.
Nemo will be ok… all water leads to the…
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May 10, 2014
Assault rifles stolen from Chicago rail yard
Raising hormonal teens amid gunfire and gang wars is no easy task. With this kind of weaponry on the streets (assault weapons) “concealed and carry” sounds necessary. What do you think?
Originally posted on WGN-TV:
Armed and extremely dangerous. Some heavy weapons have fallen into the wrong hands in Chicago– and police desperately want to get them back.
Perhaps ironically, these semi-automatic rifles are very similar to what police themselves use. Thirteen of them were stolen from a train parked in Englewood– complete with their high-capacity 30-round magazines.
Special Agent Tom Ahern, ATF: “They’re high-capacity rifles. They’re very dangerous when they’re in the wrong hands.”
The Smith and Wesson M and P 15 Sport Rifle– virtually identical to the M-4 assault rifle U.S. troops use at war, police use to keep the peace; or citizens use to create chaos, in the AR-15 Bushmaster Incarnation. That’s the now-infamous weapon used in the massacre at sandy hook elementary school.
Sometime between Sunday and Tuesday, 13 of them were grabbed from a shipment of 50, from a Norfolk Southern freight container parked at this Englewood rail yard.
Community…
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May 9, 2014
Stop Telling Me NO!
A couple of weekends ago I took a break from my duties as a teacher chaperone (weekend regional stud
ent competition), and went shopping. I don’t shop often for a number of reasons, primarily it takes more time than I want and I impulse buy – not good.
This shopping excursion was a little different because Mother’s Day was around the corner and there were lots of families shopping together. I did tell you how much I LOVE people watching? Well while people watching, I noticed several mothers and how they managed their children.
One little toddler kept walking toward the counters trying to pull the clothes toward him. His mama didn’t say “Hey Jonathan stop that!” She did something interesting. Instead she redirected him away from the counter of clothing. Being a child with a mission, he made his way back to that counter at least three more times. Each time she redirected him. #Patience
As exhausting as raising a toddler can be, I was surprised and amazed at how calmly this mom worked with her young son. It reminded me of a story a nanny told me recently. The nanny (Janie) interviewed for a job and was told that under no circumstances could she tell the couple’s children ‘No‘. She could tell them the consequences of their actions – don’t tell them NO! If she used the word No with them, she would be fired immediately! During that same shopping excursion, I watched and listened as other mothers yelled across the aisles to their kids – No! Shut up! Come here NOW! Don’t do that! The Caucasian mom redirected her son; the African American mothers yelled. Was it cultural? My mother didn’t have to yell at us. She just looked at us and we knew to behave. Don’t remember how she treated us as toddlers.
Interesting huh? Is that a more informed way of parenting? Are the ‘No’ children calmer, more obedient or are we setting up our kids to fail?
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Author & Parent Coach
www.clynnwilliams.com
Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen (St. Paul Press, 2010)
The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son (St. Paul Press, 2012)
Raising Your Daughter Through the Joys, Tears & HORMONES! (220 Communications, 2013)
April 20, 2014
Relationship Blogs – Women GET to be Picky!
The truth of the matter is that Opinionated Man is dead right! Women control the relationships and choose how quickly a man moves from first base to second.
It’s just taking us (women) a minute to realize this important fact. C. Lynn Williams
Originally posted on HarsH ReaLiTy:
I love reading relationship posts, dating, and articles on love when a woman states how hard it is to “get a guy.” I think often the wording being used is wrong because in most cases the woman is talking about a specific guy or a certain type. In general I feel it is VERY easy for women to get guys… just perhaps not the “Brad Pitt” they are looking for.
I am of the strong opinion that most women can afford to be picky in relationships. It really doesn’t matter how cute she is or even how attractive she finds herself, the bottom line is that in most cases women hold the control of whether or not a relationship will take place. Often times you will read women posting their relationship woes and the truth is that they are going for men that are out of their league. The reality…
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April 17, 2014
The greatest advantage of speaking the truth…
Originally posted on Become Empowered:
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April 11, 2014
When Suicide is the Only Answer
Today’s blog is dedicated to Karyn Washington, creator of FOR BROWN GIRLS, a beautiful 22 year old African American woman, who committed suicide because of her struggles with depression and mental illness. Ms. Washington dedicated herself to uplifting dark skinned black girls and women to give them a sense of well-being. Who was there to uplift Karyn?
Below is a reprint of her story as told by BlackMediaScope:
“Karyn Washington, founder of “For Brown Girls” and the “Dark Skin, Red Lips” project has died at the tender age of 22. And this was not a natural death. This was a suicide. Karyn, who dedicated herself to the uplifting of dark-skinned black girls and women, and worked so that they would have a sense of well-being, was struggling with depression and mental illness, and was unable to extend the love she gave to others to herself.
This is often par for the course with black women, who often shoulder so much burden (one of the only things the community will give us kudos for, the quintessential ‘struggle’) and to admit any weakness of the mind and body is to be considered defective. Vulnerability is not allowed. Tears are discouraged. Victims are incessantly blamed. We are hard on our women, and suffer as a result. When your community tells you that you’re better off praying than seeking the advice of medical professionals and medication, you feel shame when you feel your mind is breaking. There is no safe place. To admit to any mental frailty is to invite scorn and mockery, accusations of “acting white.”
Because only white people suffer from depression. Only white people commit suicide. Black women are strong. Black women are not human. And this is a LIE. Let Karyn’s story be an example that if you need help, seek help. Just make a phone call…we are too important. RIP Karyn.”
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C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Author & Parent Coach
Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen (St. Paul Press, 2010)
The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son (St. Paul Press, 2012)
Raising Your Daughter Through the Joys, Tears & HORMONES! (220 Communications, 2013)
March 30, 2014
Linda Listen to me…3 Year Old talking to Mom
He’s only three years old and clearly a handful. How would you handle this “pampered Prince”
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#MsParentguru
March 22, 2014
WordPress Meet and Greet – All Bloggers Welcome
Looking for passionate, positive bloggers to guest blog. #MsParentguru
Originally posted on HarsH ReaLiTy:
This website is about connections. Not necessarily with me, but with people you may never have met otherwise. How many connections can be made on a blog? Let’s find out.
I will make this post a sticky for a month.
Reblog, share, connect, and enjoy seeing and viewing other cultures, opinions, and people. I will remove the sticky from the other self promotion thread so this will be the new one. I’ll also connect it to my secondary blog shatteredsmoke.com. This is an opportunity to promote yourself in any way or to simply share a cause. Links and tasteful photos are allowed if you know how. Or maybe if you know how you can share since I have no clue, but people have before on HarsH ReaLiTy. This is an open forum thread, but I have young readers so keep that in mind.
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February 27, 2014
Common Sense Ain’t So Common
I was at my favorite salon today, and a teenaged girl came in to get her hair done. Not a big deal since it was a hair salon. But the BIG deal was that she announced that she had strep throat. It was already cold as I don’t know what outside, so who in their right mind would be out with the very contagious Strep Throat bacteria? That’s the same strep throat that comes with a fever, chills and sometimes a sick stomach. Yep! Anyway, while she was having her hair shampooed, she wore a face mask.
I guess I missed the announcement that she had strep, so the first time I noticed Miss Teenager was when she sat under the hair dryer with her face mask on. Once I realized why she was wearing the face mask, I tried figuring out how to exit the salon as quickly as possible – (even though my services weren’t done)! What was so hard to watch, was that she was sitting there crying (probably because her throat hurt so badly) while getting her hair done. Who does that?
As an educator, I know how quickly an epidemic of strep throat can clear out a classroom. You ready for this? The reason Miss Teenager came to the salon with strep throat was because she was graduating and wanted to look nice for her school pictures. Mom didn’t object. Seriously!
I guess what my dad says is true…common sense ain’t so common. Hey, stop sneezing on me! 
C. Lynn Williams, #MsParentguru
Author & Parent Coach
Trying to Stay Sane While Raising Your Teen (St. Paul Press, 2010)
The Pampered Prince: Moms Create a GREAT Relationship with Your Son (St. Paul Press, 2012)
Raising Your Daughter Through the Joys, Tears & HORMONES! (220 Communications, 2013)
