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Phallic Friday - fetishes on TV

Just a break from my list because I'm a little excited! I watched Criminal Minds last night and it feature fetishes...and a fetish I've done but didn't actually discuss! How remiss of me.

A couple of weeks back we looked at 'leg things' and discussed toe sucking, shoes, stockings, etc.

Last night's episode of Criminal Minds took this even further. A guy had a leg fetish...and he collected legs from dead people, had them stored in silica and ammonium hydroxide in his garage, and took them out to caress them, often. His wife said before they were married she'd caught him humping a mannequin but he told her he was struggling to fix it, so she ignored him.

He wasn't the killer, because fetishists are usually pacifists (I think that's what they said) and don't go outside their fetish (for this guy, the leg was the object of value, the capture, torture, killing and death were not things he'd be interested in).

So after the episode, it looks like fetishes might be a bit of a theme in this season of the show. Or maybe it's online groups, and fetishes were only touched on in this episode. Anyway, it was interesting to see something feature on TV that I'd been interested in anyway.

Are you a Criminal Minds fan?

Fairway to Heaven

Just breaking normal scheduling because yesterday was the release day of Lily Malone's Fairway to Heaven.

This book features a dodgy vagina, and since we're all about interesting stuff, sciencey and sexy, dodgy vaginas are a fascinating topic!

Okay, so there's a LOT more to the story than just that. And it's set in beautiful WA, and features Busselton jetty and squid jigging, so there's lots to love about it.

If you haven't read it (or written it!), may I suggest you grab yourself a copy.

Here's the blurb to tempt you more:

It’s going to take more than summer loving to heal old wounds, but a remote beach, old friendships and a bit of sunshine might just spark a second chance at love.

When Jennifer Gates drives to Sea Breeze Golf Club to kick off date-night with her boyfriend, the last thing she expects is to find Golf Pro Jack giving one of his lady students a private—and very personal—lesson in bunker-play.

Lucky for Jenn, her best friend gives her the keys to the Culhane family’s beach shack on the white-pepper shores of Western Australia’s Geographe Bay. Jenn hopes a weekend on the coast with her young son will give her the space she needs to rebuild her confidence after Jack’s betrayal.

But she’s not the only person seeking sanctuary by the sea. Brayden Culhane is there too, and Jenn can’t look at Brayden without remembering the tequila-flavoured kiss they shared on the shack steps years ago.
As long-buried feelings are rekindled, and a friendship is renewed, Jenn knows it is more than lazy summer days bringing her mojo back. Romantic sunsets, ice-cold beers and the odd round of golf can only go so far, because this time trusting Brayden with her heart won’t be enough. Jenn has to learn to trust her body, too.

Wildlife Wednesday - more bugs

I was visiting my sister and her family on the weekend and I went out to play touch footy with my nephew...and had to put the game on hold to get my camera for Wildlife Wednesday - there was a bug!

Bug with a side order of copulating soldier beetlesActually, their whole backyard was swarming with soldier beetles - in the lawn, on the plants, on the soccer goals we used as the try line. And on those soccer goals were hundreds of copulating soldier beetles...but they weren't what stopped the footy game. It was this bug that only its mother could love!

View of the bug from aboveIt's like a cross between a crusader bug, a stink bug, and a weevil. I'd never seen one before but my sister said they often had them - not that the kids had seen one either. And those kids were fascinated while I was...then Miss 3 threw a hissy fit when the photos were over and a soldier beetle happened to land on her! Lucky Mr 7 was more into touch footy than beetle/bug-panic!

So one of my insect books has a bug that's predatory and sucks the body fluids from a moth larva (Oechalia schellenbergii - Pentatomidae - Hermiptera) which looks somewhat similar. Oh...but it's not that. Drat!

and from the sideIt could be an Assassin Bug (check it out here). The Australian Museum site doesn't have a picture,but they have a termite assassin bug, which is a predator that eats termites. I wonder if this guy has adapted to the tasty joy of soldier beetles?

Okay, so I can't find an exact match that I'm happy with - so situation normal here! I'll temporarily call him an assassin bug and see if I stumble across something better!

If you know what it is, then please let me know!

PS I lost the touchy footy by a long way!

Sunday Story - in print

at QBD Bookshop HAPPY EASTER!!! [image error]

Last weekend we went up to the footy but we made a detour to some bookshops so I could find the Housewives and have a photo with them :)

I know, it's kind of silly, but I was in a book on a real shelf for the first time.
at Target
I was one of eleven in the book.

I can't wait until it's my very own book - I guess that'll be a while yet! LOL

The Housewives are at Target, Big W, K-mart, and selected bookshops. The bookshop had it for $15.99 and Target for $10. But I had to hunt around for it. My local shops didn't stock it (we're a prudish town!)

Phallic Friday - latex, rubber, leather

This week's fetish is material - latex, rubber and leather. I have to admit that I don't understand this fetish much at all...but I can appreciate people who do love their 'fabrics'.

There are online stores set up to provide for your every need, like this one, The Latex Store. There are women's and men's clothing as well as the stuff you associate with fetishes or kinks, like hoods, masks, sex toys, bondage gear, extreme kinky sex (which has some total coverage gear) and heavy weight latex.

Some of the gear looks like regular clothes - like leggings, skirts, tops - so you can experience your fetish without drawing attention to it. Others are the stereotypical latex wear of masks, bondage gear, sexy outfits for Dommes or Doms, and for male and female subs.

Sax Fetish is an Aussie store supplying all your leather fetish needs. Again, regular clothing as well as kinky wear. It even has Marsupial Bondage Toys, which are much tamer than I imagined! They're stuffed toys dressed in bondage gear - you know, suitable for your overseas guests :)

I think it's the clothing aspect I don't understand about this fetish. I'm too much into flesh to bother about clothes, so to dress in this sort of gear, in my mind, is a wasted effort! But if you're prolonging sex, and aiming for a steamy night of role play or D/s play or just spicing things up, then yes, I totally get that these can be a huge turn on.

So, are you into a fabric fetish? And which is your choice?

Wildlife Wednesday - poor little bugs

Soldier BeetlesI found these poor little bugs washed up on a beach this past weekend - not my beach, but a nearby one. I took a photo of them because they wash up in their hundreds and it's quite amazing how many there are. These were marking the high water line.

I remembered doing a post on them and I thought it was last year, but it was 2 years ago (how quickly the years pass). You can find it here.

My sister was visiting at the time and we found they were Soldier Beetles, often called Plague Soldier Beetles, and they appear in vast numbers when conditions are right.

I haven't seen too many down my way yet, so maybe our conditions haven't been quite right yet.

Sunday Story - Cafe Nix

(It's Monday, but please imagine I posted this yesterday)

I've been involved in a little project to help with promo. Promo is my total nightmare. I loathe it. I get annoyed when others flood me with their stuff, and so I hate doing it myself...which is probably to my detriment, but I'm happier not doing it, than being a pain!

Anyway... this promo comes in a different for. Ainslie Paton not only writes great stories but is full of ideas. She bands a bunch of people together and sells us an idea, then she looks after it from go to woah. It's fabulous for people like me who like writing and not the rest!

So, Cafe Nix is a free read on Wattpad. Ainslie has written a story about a cafe owner (Nix) and her cafe (Cafe Nix). In between the story of Nix, 14 scenes have been written that tie in with Escape author's books/characters and the Cafe.

So I wrote an epilogue for Deep Diving. It's 15 months after the end of the story...and you can see how Sam and Cooper got along. My epilogue is called, Deeper Diving (and I can't even claim to have come up with that! Ainslie again).

So... to find out what happened to the gorgeous Cooper Sterling and the athletic Samantha Caine, you can go to...

http://www.wattpad.com/113730991-it-happened-at-cafe-nix-deeper-diving

Phallic Friday - leg things

Oh, no, it got to Friday already and my post isn't done--Lily's going to tweet me!

So, this week's topic is 'leg things' because the itemised list is too long for the title! It's shoes, stockings, feet and toes.

The most famous of these fetishes, in my mind, is when Fergie had her toes sucked. Now, I can't remember any details except that some man sucked her toes and there were photos exposing the affair. I remember when it made headlines that I was completely confused as to (a) why it made a headline, (b) what was the big deal about toe sucking, and (c) why anyone equated it with sex. Just did a Google, and if you want more info on the Royal scandal, try here. It happened in 1992, so no wonder my memory is a bit hazy!And no wonder I didn't understand what it all meant (although, sadly, I was old enough to understand).

Prior to this I had my first introduction to the fetish, with Frank 'N' Furter in The Rocky Horror Picture Show. I developed a bit of a crush on men with hot legs in stockings! Daniel Abenieri was the man mostly, but this young actor called Russel Crowe really took my breath away when he was Riff Raff and Frank. But nothing at all prepared me for a friend dressing like this *fans self* *changes subject*

Heels, towering stilettos, follow-me-fuck-me shoes are usually the ones associated with this fetish. But they do nothing but make me wince! :) But watch some men when there's a good set of heels and nice pins go walking past...most men can't help but follow, at least with their eyes! High, high heels are a pretty common fetish.

Then there's the foot fetish people. The ones who love feet. I always think of men loving women's feet, but I'm sure it applies both ways. Some men get off on touching, rubbing and kissing a good looking foot. Some like a foot to massage their cock for extra stimulation. Some like to suck on feet - or toes - like Fergie's lover.

Leg things are quite a prominent fetish...and I wonder if that's because it's a non-genital body part that can easily be exposed, and exalted, in public without undue horror of the masses?

Wildlife Wednesday - filling in photo gaps

I've got a few photos to fill in the gaps I had in recent weeks. First up is the photo of my magpie 'family'. The three youngsters are on the left, the two adults on the right. I was peering out the backdoor to take the shot as they wouldn't agree to a family portrait for me! :)


Then I found the butterfly again (well, probably not the exact same one) and (s)he sat with their wings open for me so I could get a photo to go with the resting wings shot. They don't look like the same butterfly species, do they - but I promise they are.

And can you see that club antenna in the shadow of the "wings open" photo, on the right against the pale leaf background?
Wings open
Resting wingsI like when I can fill in my photo gaps :)

Phallic Friday - role play

So sorry, last Friday skipped by without me doing a post.

Role play is the next fetish. I was a bit surprised this came up as a fetish...but I guess some people enjoy sex with role play all the time. I always think of it as a bit of fun, a one off thing, but there are people who get off on particular role play.

The most popular role plays from what I could see on the internet searches are:
Doctor/nurse/patient
Executive/secretary
Teacher/Student 
Escort/Client
Handyman/Housewife
Master/Slave

There can be more specific role play where age or gender may come into focus. Or even your human-ness.

Role play can be a mental thing only, or can involve dressing up and 'becoming' the character. It can occur in home, or in public. It can be for a short or a long period of time. It can cross over into your day-to-day life, or remain a short term prospect only while enjoying sex.

It can take almost any role at all :)

I think role play gets covered by many of the topics to be discussed, so I won't dwell on it here. Role play can be a very important aspect of a sexual relationship.