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Joy is More Than an Impression

Your Bridge to a Life of Joy

Aim at heaven and you will get earth thrown in. Aim at earth and you get neither. - - C. S. Lewis

Joy is not a feeling of happiness. It is not a feeling at all. Joy is a state of being. It makes no difference to the joyful man if he is sitting in the offices of the CEO or cleaning the floors of the same office. It makes no difference whether she is the famous Chef at the hotel or the dishwasher who cleans after.

In the heart and mind lurks that delight...

Beshamel Sauce for Chicken Negressco

This is the first of two parts of Chicken Negressco from Salma Keir from Caring For Eleanor.

Beshamel

4 tablespoons butter or olive oil

2 oz flour

2¼ cups milk

salt

1 egg

- In a sauce pan, heat oil.

- Add flour and whisk vigorously to lightly brown the flour.

- Add salt as you whisk.

- Add milk a little at a time whisking to avoid lumps.

- Remove from heat when thickens.

- Add raw egg and whisk into mixture.

Now it is ready to be added to whatever dish you want to add it to.
This sauce is a...

Do Not Allow Anyone To Rob Your Joy

Real strength is in God and in godly attributes like quietness, trust and joy (Nehemiah 8:10).

Do not allow anyone to rob you of your joy. The quietness of your spirit is not from without, it is from within. When the time comes and you experience restless disquiet, where your very soul is torn, move on.

Every woman in an abusive situation will attest that she tried and tried but failed in the end to stop him. You cannot stop him but you can leave him. When you try (which is normal) for a while ...

Forgiveness Is An Act Of Will

Forgiveness is the key to moving on with your life after the trauma of marital abuse. It goes without saying that the person you are leaving behind is someone who hurt you. Yes, of course or you would not be leaving.

Unfortunately if you do not clear your conscience and forgive that person no matter what they have done to you, your life will be burdened with the guilt and the bitterness of hate. Forgiveness is an act of will not of feeling.

You may still feel hurt. You may still feel angry...

"Constant Comment" and a Time for Clarity

On bare quiet feet she slipped out of bed, went downstairs, turned on the light and put water on the stove to boil for tea, then sat down at the kitchen table. When the water boiled the pensive woman made herself a cup of Constant Comment then sat down to think. Tense with the anguish of spiritual struggle, thoughts whirled around in her head. Time crawled as she sat sipping and thinking. The sneaky morning light started to steal into the kitchen, as she sat there still wide awake. As she...

Support Goes Both Ways

"You do not have money, Mikel."
"That's because you spend it before I make it."
Mikel had no money besides his substantial earnings. He told her if she was truthful, she should take her name off the credit cards and the house, calling his wife a gold digger keeping him broke and spending all his earnings.
The fight escalated. Scorched with the hurt of indignation, Salma sobbed while Mikel accused her of ruining him financially. They had this argument several times before. The angry blood burned ...

Forgiveness Does Not Mean Abuse Needs To Continue

What does it take for a woman to leave a husband she loves? Why should she leave if she loves him? It always was that way, I loved him. His love for me was expressed in anger, control and irritation at my own stupidity.

Does that sound like love? No it does not. It took time and eye opening discussion and experience to realize the need to leave. Love is kind. Love is patient. How patient should I be? When is enough, truly enough?

I met Eleanor, an older woman who during my time caring for her h...

Black White But Mostly Grey

Grey areas were foreign to me. When I was going through hard times with my husband, I could not see beyond what is right and wrong in my own mind.

My job got me caring for an older lady who opened my eyes to some truths that could go both ways. What does it take for us as women to see a bad relationship we are nursing? What does it take for us to leave a bad situation?

Eleanor kept at it! The old woman kept talking and whispering in my ear. She did not push or suggest, she just shared her...

French Toast a la Salma for Eleanor

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One of the foods I made for Eleanor was a spiced French Toast. Used to having her scrambled egg and toast every morning, I made her something new. She loved my cooking and gave me leeway to serve her new and delicious foods.

In the next few weeks, I will share some of the foods I made for her. Yes, she loved my cooking.

Ingredients:
1 egg
1/4 cup milk
Pinch Cardamon
Dash Allspice
2 pinches Cinnamon
1/4 tsp Vanilla
2 Slices of toast or Hawaiian Bread or potato Bread

B...

Caring For Eleanor

If abuse were defined only as physical abuse, then this book does not qualify. But, in the broad sense of the word and its reality, verbal and emotional abuse is an insidious disease that eats at the hearts of the victim.

Not one to want a label, Salma refuses to accept that her husband is one such man, a cruel, unkind partner who tears her down at every opportunity to make himself feel better. Life teaches her. Her children bless her. In her new job she learns of love and caring without the n...