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Long distance marriage sucks

This post is very personal. I wrote it over a month ago but am finally ready to share it.

For the past year and a half I have been away from my husband physically separated from him because he is not able to come here because he does not have a Visa. I have spent a lot of time experiencing a bunch of different emotions about our situation but just this morning (June 13th 2020)I woke up very early and as I lay in bed wondering why I was awake at 4 in the morning on a Saturday I began to realize something. I have always felt that there was a bigger meaning to my relationship with my husband. You see my husband is Dominican and I am American and when I met him, I did not speak Spanish and he did not and does not speak English. With all the things that are going on in the world right now it has become clear to me that there is a bigger purpose for my relationship with my husband. That bigger meaning is just for me, but I have learned so much about love through my relationship with him. It is not the romantic stuff and I think in my past relationships I have been a hopeless romantic interested in the gooey stuff like the flowers and all of those romantic gestures. My relationship with my husband has not been really any of that for a number of reasons, the communication challenges, cultural differences things like that.

I think I finally realized that this exercise that I've gone through with this relationship has been about learning how to love someone that can't understand you easily. Someone that you can't understand easily.  Learning how to love someone whose culture is completely different than yours who doesn't understand your culture. Learning how to love someone who is literally thousands of miles away from you most of the time. I think sometimes we've gotten accustomed to instant gratification in all aspects of our lives and it's easy to love someone when you can get that instant gratification meaning they can say a word or they can do something for you to make you feel better but it's a lot harder to love someone when those things that are typically easy are difficult. I really think that this relationship has taught me or is teaching me patience with love and understanding with people that think and feel differently than I do. It goes back to a post that I wrote in May called intellectual humility.

 I really think that I've always felt that this relationship was just so much bigger than me Terri and my husband Raulin. I've always felt like there was just a much bigger lesson and purpose and I think it finally hit me as far as what that is. Lately my husband and I have been having a lot of challenges with communication not seeing eye-to-eye on things, having a difference of opinion and at the core of it I realized yesterday that I was asking him to be the husband but I wasn't allowing him to be the husband because every suggestion that he gave me for how to solve some problems I would say no we can't do that or no I don't like that. It occurred to me that on the one hand I was asking my husband to be the man to be the problem solver to participate in helping to solve some of our problems but every time he came to me with the suggestion I had a reason why that wouldn't work so I apologized to my husband and I told him that he had to do what he felt was best because he is currently living in an environment that I am not. He is more familiar with his environment than I am, and I need him to do what he feels comfortable with. It is easy for me to sit here in the United States in my comfort zone and tell someone else what to do and how to live for them to be comfortable but they're not in the United States they're in their comfort zone so I've learned a lot in the last 24 hours I realized a lot about myself about my relationship and some things that I need to change and do differently but at the end of the day even though we're not physically together even though it's not easy to communicate with him a lot I love him and I know he loves me and we are figuring it out as we go. 

This October we will celebrate our 3rd wedding anniversary and a few weeks later in November we will celebrate four years that we've been together. There are a lot of people who can't understand why I've stuck it out this long why I haven't given up and to those people I will say that my grandmother who I miss dearly always told me anything worth having will take work and yes I have been married before twice and those marriages ended in divorce but this one is different this one is teaching me that you must have patience. Good things will come to those who wait and even if my husband doesn't get to come to the United States even if our marriage doesn't survive in the long run for whatever reason I can tell you that every day that I have been in a relationship with him or married to him has been an adventure the days that I spent with him have actually been some of the best times of my life and not because I was always smiling and happy because I was learning and I was growing through the process that's what life's about y'all it's about learning and growing it's about experiencing all the things that life has to offer some things will make you smile some things will make you cry but it's about growing through it all so this post is dedicated to my husband whom I love dearly and I want to thank him for all the love that he's given me, all the lessons that I've learned from him and I hope that this is just the beginning for us, not the end.

The bottom line is this. I am Learning and growing through the discomfort of being separated from my hubby.

Shame on me

I am ashamed to admit that today is the first time in my life 52 years of living that I have paid attention to the 19th of June or Juneteenth.  I am a black woman, who raised a black son and two black daughters, and I have been disconnected from my roots, my history.  It is for this that I am ashamed.  I trusted the system to educate me and provide me with the tools I needed to learn and grow. 

Shame on me. 

This system is not designed to grow me. It is not designed to provide me with anything.

Shame on me for thinking I was accepted or that it was okay for me to be comfortable here. 

Shame on me for believing that things were better. 

Now I know better so I must do better. 

Shame on me for thinking that people saw me only as Terri or Author Terri D. 

Now I know better.  I know that I am and will always be that black girl Terri.

Never have I felt so black but also so very aware of my lack of knowledge of the hatred that I have been swimming in.  Oblivious among those screaming stay woke but I was sleep walking.

Shame on me for not seeing beyond the surface smiles. 

Shame on me for not digging deeper into my roots and my history to understand where I came from to fully appreciate where I am today but that there is still so far to go.

Shame on me for not realizing that the fight for equality would include me. It was not something of the past, it is present today and unfortunately will probably last for many more tomorrows. 

Shame on me for not paying attention to what lurked just beyond the surface.

The past month we have all seen things that maybe we never saw or paid attention to before.

I was taught to do better once you know better

Now we see it, so now we know.

So now what?

I can't breathe

I can't unsee the image of an unarmed man (black) literally being kneed to death (suffocated) by a police officer (white). As a mother of a young black man the grandmother of three young black male children my heart is so heavy. For me it is not just about a black versus white thing it is a human versus human thing however I am a black woman and I love and care for several black men and I can't breathe. 

I know personally how it feels to worry about your child coming home at night because they are constantly being targeted by law enforcement simply for driving while black. When my son who is now in his 30's was a teenager he was employed and he drove to and from work alone and at least once a week as he was driving back home from work in the evening he would be stopped by local law enforcement. My son was often asked where are you going? Where are you coming from? Why are you in this neighborhood? The neighborhood that he lived in.  My son was a young black man, a teenager driving a car in a Suburban Pennsylvania neighborhood and he was stopped repeatedly. He was not speeding, he was not driving erratically, his taillights were not out, he was not disobeying any laws other than the laws of the policeman who felt he was out of place.

I can't breathe when I think about all of the young men (black) who face the same type racist driven treatment, emotional and physical brutality from law enforcement across this country.

I can't breathe when I think about all of the mothers who have buried their children who have died at the hands of law enforcement in this country.

I can't breathe when I think about all of the other mothers who are raising young black men who now worry every single moment that their children are not in their sight because of incidences like we have seen time and time again. An unarmed man (black) has been brutalized at the hands of law enforcement (white) in this country that so many people call the land of the free. I guess it is only free to those who do not look like me.

I can't breathe when the response from so many who don't look like me is but what did he do? Does it really matter what he did? The man lay helpless, handcuffed, detained unable to breathe crying out for his mother.

I can't breathe he said repeatedly. Does it matter what happened before? If he had not been a black man would anyone even question what he did before the video started rolling? If he had not been a black man would he have even been lying on the ground knee on his neck being detained?

I can't breathe.

I can't sleep.

I can't believe this is where we are in 2020 in a country where we are raised to believe that we are the land of the free. We are the land of opportunity. If you look like me this does not apply.

I simply cannot breathe.

Intellectual Humility

It has been a few weeks since I posted anything and I wasn't really sure what I wanted to cover in this post until a few days ago.  I had the opportunity to participate in two separate interviews last week.  One was with Ella Curry and her Ban Radio show.  I was one of her guest on her Mind Your Business Crown holders master class.  I talked about my Connecting the Dots Life Coaching business.  During the interview I touched on several concepts that were covered during my training last year but there was one in particular that stood out as something that more people need to be aware of in our current climate.  I'm not a political person so this isn't really about politics at all.  It is about how hard it is getting for me to remain positive about things with so much negativity everywhere. At times I barely recognize this world that I am living in.  So much greed and hate.  Where is the love and compassion?  I choose this quote and photo because it is one of my favorites and it is also very true.  How many times have you struggled to remember exactly what someone said to you but you could remember how it made you feel?
I decided to talk about Intellectual Humility.  The idea or concept of Intellectual Humility has been around for quite some time, however in my life coaching training manual it quotes Dr. Elizabeth Mancuso, Professor of Psychology at Pepperdine University, who talks about being humble about your ideas, beliefs and thoughts.  She referred to it as Intellectual Humility.
She goes on to explain that "Intellectual Humility has four particular behaviors and attitudes:
1) Not being overconfident about your knowledge and beliefs,2) Being open to adjusting and revising your knowledge and beliefs when necessary,3) Being respectful of the view points of others, and4) Not being defensive when others have a different perspective than yours."
I understand that not everyone thinks the same way that I do and I believe that I allow others to express their views freely without arguing or making them feel that their opinions do not matter.  Everyone is a bit on edge right now and I get it.  We have all been isolated in our homes for the last two months.  Frustrations and emotions are running high.  People want OUT of their houses, they want things to be the way they were.  Some consider many things that we are being asked to do unfair.  Throw into the mix the tense political climate due to the upcoming election and you have the perfect storm for conflict. 
I have lived long enough to know that there will always be conflict and people will disagree.  I guess what I am trying to say is that things appear to be getting worse.  People are no longer able to just agree to disagree and leave it at that.  Why does someone have to be wrong and the other person is right?  What happened to the golden rule?  Treat others as you would like to be treated?
Imagine how things could be if we practiced a little more intellectual humility?  Will this solve all the problems of the world?  Absolutely not BUT it certainly couldn't hurt.  The respect that you want from others starts with you giving it to others, or better yet respecting yourself first. 
Google Intellectual Humility and  you will find a lot of information and quotes from different people about what it means.  In a nutshell it is about the four items mentioned above and maybe interacting with one another with a little more compassion and love.   
The second interview I had last week was with The Voice 17104 Harrisburg PA, The Nathaniel Gadsden.  The show was centered around international travel and cross-cultural relationships.  I was able to share information about my travel and living experiences in the Dominican Republic.  I thoroughly enjoyed participating in the show and sharing information about my experiences which are also covered in my memoir titled Passport Wife.  You can check out all of my books here on my website www.AuthorTerriD.com
My husband is also on lock down in the Dominican Republic and things have been closed so as of now there is not an update on his visa but we are both remaining prayerful that once things open up again the process will continue and he will be able to join me here in the United States. Until then this is how we will be together.

May 2020 Changes are coming

Like the expression goes April showers bring May flowers,
many people will be blooming like flowers this month as restrictions are gradually lifted.  Just like everyone processed the stay at home orders differently everyone will handle the restrictions being lifted in their own way.  Some will be running from their homes with joy while others may be a bit more tentative about leaving the comfort and safety of their homes. I'm more than likely going to be in the later category.  Due to several underlying health issues I need to remain very cautious, therefore my reentry into society, even with social distancing guidelines will be a bit slower.

In these unprecedented times we all have to process and make decisions that are best for us and what we feel comfortable with.  Most of all we must practice compassion and patience with ourselves and each other.  Remember that everyone doesn't think or process things the same way you do.  Other people are allowed to have their own opinions and it doesn't have to cause a fight.  It really is okay to agree to disagree.

This pandemic has taught us so many things.  We've learned how to handle many things virtually, we've been working, home schooling, virtual doctor appointments, socializing and learning how to be creative and have fun in new ways.  Over the past 7 weeks I have seen so many creative ideas, virtual game nights, dance parties, new fun challenges one of my personal favorites was the Don't Rush challenge.  Many people making masks and finding other ways to help others during this time where many people's lives and livelihoods have been disrupted.  Many have taken this time to relax, recharge and reset.  Whatever path  you choose it was probably exactly what you needed.  For those who are essential workers and especially healthcare workers who've had to continue working even under extremely stressful conditions I applaud you and thank you for all you've done and will continue to do.

As for me, I was somewhere in the middle.  There have been days over the past seven weeks where I've been very productive and there have been days where I felt like I could barely get out of bed.  A few things that I've realized about myself during this time are:

1) I have way too many pajamas and I don't know why so many of them are grey, my favorite color is blue.
2) I'm beginning to understand how hermits survive.  I'm discovering new ways to not leave the house everyday.
3) Why am I so much more productive here at home?  There are so many distractions but yet I'm getting things done.
4) There are pros and cons to living alone during a pandemic.  I think that I personally experienced all of the emotions associated with them at some point over the past seven weeks.

One of my greatest accomplishments during this time has been the release of my latest book titled Journaling for Self-Care for Young Adults.  Available on Amazon (Link  below)
Journaling for Self-Care
I have kept journals since I was a teenager.  It's one of the ways I process my thoughts and feelings.  Although this book was released at a time when many people need help dealing with their emotions it wasn't planned this way.  This content was created for a workshop on how to journal I was scheduled to do at my high school Alma mater on May 1st, but of course it got cancelled.  The book is a great tool for those who need a little help working through their thoughts, feelings and even to set goals for the future.
The affects of this pandemic are far from over and for many their lives have been forever changed.  Remember to practice patience and compassion with yourself and others.Blessings to allTerri

Deep thoughts

No matter where you are in the world right now, chances are your life has in some way been impacted by the Corona virus.  Here in Pennsylvania where I live today our governor issued a stay at home order and schools have been closed indefinitely.  We have entered into unfamiliar territory in all aspects of our lives.  Kids out of school, parents working from home or out of work, businesses closed, churches closed and streaming services.  There are more questions than answers.  Everyone  has been impacted in some way by this pandemic.  My heart aches for the children who are struggling to understand what's  happening, not understanding why they can't see their friends.  The students who were looking forward to proms, and graduation ceremonies.  Parents please take a minute to talk to your children about how they are feeling.  Business owners, investors and salespeople who had big plans for 2020.  Couples with wedding plans or expecting children.  Things have been completely turned upside down.  We all need to be patient and realize that it's not going to fix itself over night. 

Maybe it's just me but things on social media have been a little different lately.  I've noticed a little less bickering about political differences and more collaboration.  We have DJ's hosting virtual dance parties, musicians hosting impromptu concerts, some amazing face time collaborations.  People are banding together to share positive messages, prayers, pictures of hearts, beaches and landscapes to flood our timelines with positive images and messages to get our minds off of the news occasionally. We're checking in on each other, hosting virtual happy hours, date nights and my family has started family check in's via zoom.  Teachers are driving through the neighborhoods of their students to let them know that they're missed. 

These are all wonderful things, all proof that there is still some humanity in the world.  However none of those things take away from the seriousness of this pandemic.  We all need to listen to the authorities and follow their advice and guidance in order to slow the spread as quickly as possible.  Many people are expressing the sentiment that they are "stuck" at home.  No my friends we are safe at home right now.  Let's attend to all of those things we didn't have time for before because we were too busy doing things outside of our homes.   

On the other side of this pandemic what will the world look like?  How will this impact how we live our lives moving forward?  Those are questions that we cannot answer but maybe you've thought about them?  During times like this with so much uncertainty it's best to stay focused on the things happening around you that you can control.  Worry is truly a waste of energy when it's truly out of your hands.

I haven't spoken to anyone yet who isn't feeling some type of anxiety over what's happening right now.  Although no one really knows what's going to happen I think it's safe to say that things will probably never be as they were.  We are all being forced to examine ourselves on every level possible right now.  We're being tested in unimaginable ways.  It's because of this fact I implore you to seek help if you're feeling overwhelmed, extremely frustrated, angry and/or sad.  I've seen articles talking about the increase in both child abuse and domestic violence over the past few weeks.  Some predict a surge in births in nine months where others expect the already high divorce rate to skyrocket. No one really knows but during this difficult, stressful time take a moment to acknowledge your feelings and seek help. 

If you're interested in learning more about how to journal leave a comment or visit my website to contact me via email.   I recently finished my how to journal book titled Journaling for Self-Care for young adults.  It will be released to the public in the coming months.  Stay tuned. 

I'm sharing a link below of a therapist that is talking to as many people as she possible can via phone during this confusing time.  Reach out today or refer a friend.

 www.empowermentinsights.com

Social distancing - Week 1

Well I'm sure that many of you are still trying to find your way through all if this madness.  Kids home from school.  You are (if you're lucky) working from home.  Sounds great right?  HA HA well I'm sure most of you have already lost that loving feeling for your loved ones at least once.  Listen it's hard to adjust especially when something like this is thrust upon you with little to no notice and you had no choice.  I'm having my own struggles with all of this but I'm not going to get into that.  I want to try my best to remain positive and share some things that might help.

We're all having all types of emotions about what's going on.  Sometimes it's  hard to express those even to your closest friends because you don't want to expose yourself or feel vulnerable or maybe you're supposed to be the strong one.  Whatever your situation is everyone has feelings and it's never a good idea to try to hide them or push them aside.  My advice, not that you asked but during tough times like this you have to remember to take care of yourself.  I know it's probably hard to think about how to do that when you've got so much on your plate but all those people who you're caring for and who are depending on you?  Where will they be if you can't anymore?  During stressful times it's best to take a minute for yourself.

Think about this.  We've all been sent home in order to stop this virus from spreading.  What if there's an even bigger reason?  Most of us are so busy doing things outside of the house that we typically don't spend a lot of time together at home with our families.  Now that we're being forced to we're finding it a little uncomfortable.  I'm not saying you don't love your families, I know you do.  Well I hope you do lol.  Seriously though maybe this new routine has you in a space that you've never been before.  Maybe you're feeling new things or maybe you're learning new things about yourself, your significant other and your kids.  Maybe you're also learning your true value or worth in the eyes of your employer or colleagues, friends and other family members.  I think we all need to take this time to  take care of our own house. 

I listened to a few sermons on Sunday and one Pastor said we all need to take inventory.  I agree with that 100%, own it all. The good stuff, the difficult stuff, the angry stuff.  All of your stuff.  Along with stuff coming at you from your significant others or kids.  Take inventory of your feelings.  I'm a writer so my suggestion is to write down how you feel.  Yes, like on paper with a pen or a pencil.  I'm sure you're been spending way too much time on social media so put the phone, tablet, laptop down, step away from the computer.  Find yourself a quiet space (if possible) and relax for a few minutes.  Take time to sit with your feelings.  Write down how you're feeling, let it all out, pour it onto the paper.  Sometimes that's all you need to do is to recognize the feelings, yes your feelings want to be heard and acknowledged too.  Sitting with  your feelings and just allowing yourself to feel whatever it is is very therapeutic.  Now once you do that depending on the feelings you might need to take things a step or two further, but you'll know if just getting the feelings out was enough to relief some pressure or if you might need a little more. 

During this extremely stressful time we are all living through right now there are many resources available online to get help.  If you're employed you might be able to contact your employers EAP line to talk to someone.  I'm not a therapist or counselor I'm just someone who has been through some things over the years and I'm sharing how I've managed to cope.  Writing is my outlet.  Maybe for you it's reading, or painting.  You know what works well for you and again if prior methods aren't working for you.  Please ask for help.  You're not alone and there's no shame in asking for a little help.
Sharing link with you to a Facebook page where we've posted some helpful links from others to help during this stressful time.

https://www.facebook.com/LiveLifeEsteem/

Until next time please my friends practice social distancing until the authorities tell us it's okay to socialize again.

Terri D

Don't Blink

January 2020 seemed to have lasted forever but February 2020 flew past.  I feel like I blinked and it was gone.  It’s been a very emotional time for a number of reasons.  The untimely death of Kobe Bryant affected many people all over the world for so many reasons.  He was one of the greatest basketball players of all time BUT he was also so many other things to so many people.  I can’t say that I was a Kobe fan per se.  I knew of him of course, I watched him play but wasn’t really aware of many aspects of his life that are now being talked about.  Two very special people in my life were affected by his passing, my youngest daughter, Jennifer is one of the biggest basketball fans I’ve ever known.  She loves the game and although the Spurs are her favorite team, she felt the sting of losing Kobe very deeply.  My husband who also loves the game of basketball grew up watching Kobe and actually refers to him as his childhood hero.  I knew that once he heard about this tragedy he would also mourn his loss very personally. To see so many people mourning him has been difficult to watch and maybe for some even harder to handle all the why’s.  My heart aches for his wife Vanessa because I cannot imagine her pain and suffering right now. 
My hometown of Harrisburg, PA is now mourning the loss of an Icon, Vera Cornish recently passed away and when the news broke of her death my social media was on fire.  So many people had been touched by her place in our community.  Although I wasn’t a close personal friend of hers I know Vera and we interacted many times over the years I’ve lived here.  Most recently was last year at an event where we were both vendors selling our books.  Although Vera wasn’t a celebrity like Kobe the similarities of the response of the news of her death and his hit home for me.  They were both loved by so many people from so many different backgrounds, races, cultures, etc.  The one thing I noticed immediately after Kobe’s death was how his death and the mourning and grief spanned all ethnic backgrounds, political beliefs etc.  Everyone loved Kobe.  I see now that everyone in this small town of Harrisburg, PA loved Vera as well.  This is proof to me that we can all come together and agree on something.  We don’t have to constantly be divided by our skin color, political views, social or financial status.  In the face of tragedy or grief we can all just be human beings.  That’s what I love, those little glimpses of how things could be if we all just took a minute and thought about it.  It’s okay to look different and have different ideas and beliefs.  We can disagree on things and still agree that we’re all human and all deserve the basic rights and respect from one another.
I titled this post don’t blink because it all goes by so fast, life that is.  We’re all shocked by the sudden death of someone who we thought should still be here.  We take a brief moment and think about our own mortality but honestly most don’t think about it long enough to actually do anything about it.  There’s really nothing you can do to prevent death and we never know when it’s coming but what you can do is make sure that you make your life count for something.  Everyone won’t be famous like Kobe or even as well known in  your own little towns as Vera was in Harrisburg, PA but that doesn’t mean that you or your legacy can’t mean something.  What’s really sad is that oftentimes people die and they never really knew how we felt about them.  Why is it so easy to tell people how much they meant to you when they’re dead but you didn’t tell them when they were alive?  
I feel like my life has been changed so much in 2020, in so many ways and it’s all good.  I’m continuing to enjoy my participation in the Crown Holders Sisterhood group which was created by Ella Curry.  I’m interacting with many woman I’ve never met but we all share something in common, we’re driven to pursue our dreams.  I’m getting things done that I didn’t even know I needed to do.  I’ve gotten back to planning my time and sticking to those plans as much as possible.  I’m examining my connections and making tough decisions as to how I move forward with or without some of them.  I’m choosing to be more strategic in my relationships.  To spend more time with those who pour into my cup, not just take out of it.  I’m a giver by nature but I’m learning that my cup will always be empty if I don’t make sure it’s getting replenished on a regular basis.  If it’s not bringing me peace, it must go.

This coming month, March is bringing with it many new opportunities.  I'll be staring a new job, My non profit will officially have office space, I'm picking up the keys tomorrow.  I have several projects in the works which I expect to complete within the next month.  I’m going to be busy but productive and I'm expecting tremendous growth through it all.   

Infidelity

I wonder if infidelity hurts more if the person who betrayed you is still alive or if its worse if they are dead before you find out about the cheating? I recently went to the movies to see the movie The Descendants with George Clooney. I was a very emotional movie. The long and short of the movie is that George Clooney's wife is in a boating accident and ends up in a coma. While in the coma just as the doctor tells him she's not coming out of it he finds out that she was cheating on him. Fortunately she had a living will so he did not have to make the decision to keep her alive or not. George's character was shocked and hurt but as portrayed in the movie it seemed worse because he couldn't confront his cheating spouse and get answers to the one question that was burning within him... WHY???
It brought me back to Jada one of the main characters in my books Yesterday's Lies and Today's Truth. Jada's husband David Jr. cheated on her but she has no idea and he is now deceased. Her friends are doing everything they can to keep the truth from her. If the truth is revealed to her now it will be a year since he died. Will the pain be more or less because he is dead? Check out Today's Truth coming May 2012 to see how Jada reacts when Yesterday's Lies become Today's Truth.

Sometimes you just need to vent

It's Monday the beginning of the work week and I understand that some people don't like their jobs or their lives for that matter. Me I really do like my job and I had to travel today for business. What I noticed as I drove the approx 4 hours to my destination is that people are rude as hell in general. Let me explain. It was a cold rainy yucky day on the roads today. Everyone should be watching their speed due to the weather conditions but of course everyone is in a hurry. I am in the right lane because I am choosing to obey the speed limit and I value my life on slick roads. People are flying past me giving me the evil eye because I am in the slow lane doing five miles or so over the posted speed limit. SMH.
I decided to stop for a little break and when I entered the rest stop I encountered approx a dozen people and ten of them worked there. No one and I mean no one smiled or spoke at all. Am I the only person on this planet who is thankful that I woke up today?
Back in my car continuing on my journey so then when I get into the city during rush hour there is obviously going to be traffic. I know this and would assume that the people in this town know this also but maybe not since everyone appeared to be surprised or annoyed that there was traffic. Also don't even think about trying to allow anyone to merge in front of you because seriously if you give up that 1 inch of space you would be so much further behind in traffic right? I decide not to add to the rampant road rage and I eventually make it to my hotel. I check in and settle into my room. Log on to check emails, facebook, twitter, linked in etc. Why do I find people arguing on linked in about authors posting their facebook pages so that other author can like them? People talking about the moral implications of this practice etc. Seriously people? It's facebook and just because someone asks you to like their page doesn't mean you really have to. Anyway it was one of those days where I just needed to vent a little bit about some of the things I saw happening in the world today. I think I am going to throw myself into my fantasy world with my made up characters and I am going to write about how people should interact with one another. Peace, love and blessings to all.