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April 1, 2012

Aristotle's April Fool's Day = A: Blogging from A to Z

Did you know that April Fool's Day originated with Aristotle?

Aristotle was a Greek philosopher. According to Wikipedia: Aristotle's writings were the first to create a comprehensive system of Western philosophy, encompassing morality and aesthetics, logic and science, politics and metaphysics.

SourceEvery April 1st, Aristotle would present his theories and logic to the masses in hopes of spreading knowledge and stirring the people to overtake Alexander the Great, a former pupil of his. What he found instead were "masses of fools" incapable of understanding his intellect.

Frustrated, he decided to amuse himself every April 1 by presenting the most outrageous theories to see which fools would fall for it. The crowd would then beat to death the most gullible. Ever since then, the day was known as April Fool's Day or All Fools' Day.

What was once a feared day of ridicule became a day of practical jokes and pranks.

April Fool's! I totally made that up.

Although there is much debate on the true origin of April Fool's Day, the most common theory (found summarized at multiple sites): in 1582, Pope Gregory XIII changed the calendar so that New Year's Day to January 1st from April 1st. Those who still celebrated the old New Year's were called fools.

I couldn't find anywhere online to tie this theory to how it became the prankster holiday it is today.

Do you celebrate April Fool's Day? If so, how?

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Welcome to my first post of the Blogging from A to Z Challenge. Please enjoy A and join me for B to Z. Check out some other great A to Z bloggers here.

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Published on April 01, 2012 04:00

March 30, 2012

Sorry for the Silence, I See Only Letters

Sorry I missed posting yesterday (and almost today). I'm still here, but I'm dreaming in letters. My mind is constantly swirling with post ideas for the Blogging from A to Z Challenge. It starts Sunday, April 1. As of now, I've only prewritten five posts of the 26 I need to write.

Did I mention I'm leaving for Spring Break tomorrow for five days?!

But, I thought I'd share my from A to Z theme. Ready? Wait for it...

Simply Succeeding
Are all the posts about succeeding? No.

Do the posts explore what is successful or not about a particular topic? No.

Simply succeeding just means I'd like to finish this challenge, pure and simple. Finally Finishing word have worked, or maybe even Ambitiously Achieving.

Please stop by starting Sunday, April 1 to see what my obsessed brain comes up with. A barely coherent damsel expects finishing goal happily in jubilant knowledge like many new, observant participants.

And, no, I will not admit how long it took me to come up with that sentence, and it's only A-P. I was going to go for a sentence with letters beginning all the way through Z but I do need to eventually sleep.

Happy Friday!
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Published on March 30, 2012 21:09

March 28, 2012

The Cost of an Inch Versus A Mile

Why is it some people are never satisfied? You give them an inch, they request a foot, you give another few inches, they request a mile.

I'm always taken aback by people like this. Except in rare causes, usually involving my children, I don't push back on people when they've already given me something. Especially people I know don't have great affection for me or don't know me at all.

But maybe I have it wrong. More than my husband or children give me credit for, I'm usually willing to explore the possibility that my thinking is all screwed up. Will you only get things in this world if you scrape, claw, and beg?

Maybe, but I'm not sure I'd be satisfied with things I manipulated my way into. Still, that could be the fault in my character I like to call guilt.

Take my book, Depression Cookies . I want people to read it. I truly think women of all ages and circumstances could find value in it. Beyond that, the themes in the book are excellent for opening up a dialogue between women. But I don't want to beg.

I want to convince you, sure. Moments of shamless self-promotion--not the easiest for me, but I'm learning. Begging? No.

My theory: If I beg you, you might eventually give in. But do I want an unwilling, pressured reader? Buying my book out of guilt, pressure, or pure annoyance is not going to win me any rave reviews. I want people to WANT to read it.

At the end of the day, I'd rather have an honest, well-earned inch than begging for a mile.

But that's just my opinion, what's yours?
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Published on March 28, 2012 18:41

March 27, 2012

The Tween is Reading Our Book: Part One

My daughter has been asking to read our novel, Depression Cookies , since the day it come out. I wanted her to be old enough to handle some of the themes. I also worried she might have a hard time distinguishing between reality and fiction, since the book has some common elements with my life.

Recently, I decided she was ready. I told her to discuss anything she wanted with me.

Yesterday this conversation happened:

Tween: Mom, you are a liar.
Me: What are you talking about?
Tween: In the book you said you'd never make your kids do all these things, and you do.
Me: First of all, the book is fictional. Second, I wrote a teenager's point of view.

She was still looking perplexed and had yet to uncross her arms and soften her stance.

Me: Trust me, dear, most teenagers swear they'll never do what their mom does. They truly believe that, so to a teenager it is not a lie. But I need to let you in on something (I leaned in close and whispered for dramatic effect)... all of you will.
Tween: No, I won't.

She huffed off. Later that day, she admitted she could relate to Krista (the teenage character I write in the book). I decided not to push my luck and remind her I was once a teenager. I'm hoping Krista can do that for me.

I'll be interested to see how the book affects her. It means a lot to me what she thinks. The side benefit is it will also open up a dialogue to talk about some sensitive issues. Wish me luck.

When's the last time you were nervous about a loved one's opinion/reaction?
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Published on March 27, 2012 18:01

March 26, 2012

Short and Sweet: #writemotivation Update

I'm still getting around to know my fellow #writemotivation participants, and somehow March is almost over. How did that happen?!

I am looking forward to April, but a bit terrified about the Blogging from A to Z Challenge. For those who don't know, this is a blog challenge where you have to write posts based on the letters of the alphabet in order. It's my first year. I haven't written one single post yet, but I plan to change that this week. My goal is to write the first 10 posts by Saturday.


I did figure out my theme for A to Z, though: Simply Succeeding. Why? Well, I simply want to succeed and finish the challenge. ;-)

I plan to rejoin #writemotivation in April (and A Round of Words in 80 Days - ROW80), but I also want to take off the first week of April to enjoy my kids and husband as we travel for Spring Break.

I hope I haven't bitten off more than I can chew. Time will tell...

My #writemotivation Update

1. Work on my WIP for an hour every day, except Sunday.
I worked on my WIP, planning and editing, but did take off both Saturday and Sunday.

2. Do client editing work an hour a day, except Sunday.
No breaks this week. I need to finish a major project that's ready to be sent to the publisher. I'm so excited for this author, her first published piece. She's so excited, and I really enjoyed having a hand in it.

3. Read and review a book every 10 days, minimum.
I read three books over the last week. I'm in such a reading groove. I published three reviews this week on my review blog, Mom in Love with Fiction. It was a fun mix of different genres, but all good reads.
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Published on March 26, 2012 18:44

March 25, 2012

Celebrating The Ties That Bind

Today my husband and I are celebrating our 17th wedding anniversary. I am so blessed to have him in my life---he's my biggest fan and gave me three beautiful daughters (and so much more).

I wanted to share a poem my lovely cousin on my dad's side, Marty Silverthorne, wrote for our wedding day. Previously, I shared one of Marty's poems here.

Wedding Song
by Marty Silverthorne
3/25/95

Tia and Ed,
you have begun the wedding walk
down the aisles of history
into candlelight and wedding promises.
The sun celebrates in circles;
the river writes a symphony on the shore.

We have come to witness
whispered wedding vows
under the Carolina sun.
God will bind you in marriage
as you exchange gold inlaid promises.

As you adorn each other with wedding rings,
white doves begin to sing;
the Pamlico echoes amens.
White rays of a wedding sun
praise the way this union has begun.

Sun and moon of ten thousand faces
guide these newlyweds
through the flames of summer,
warm them through their first winter.
Stoke their hearts with love, honor, and peace.
Let happiness fuel their longest season;
lace them together in a testimony of love.

God bend these syllables into blessings,
turn these words into armor
as Tia and Ed accept their charge.
May these words fill life's darkest spaces
like the river's reverent whispers.

Tia and Ed,
as you walk towards your wedding sunset,
let the golden rays guide you,
the river's music soothe you.
As you leave this chapel united,
trust the sacred sun and rippling moon;
waltz through this world in white soled shoes,
dance beyond the boundaries of time.

I hope everyone had a lovely Sunday. Please tune in tomorrow for my #writemotivation update.
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Published on March 25, 2012 18:25

March 23, 2012

The Power of Choice

Long day here. Not bad, just long. I'm spent, and my creative side needed a good jumpstart.

So, I turned to BlogHer's NaBloPoMo prompts.

Friday, March 23, 2012
When is it good to have no alternatives?

It doesn't matter, because this is never true. Even if someone offers you only one choice, you always have the choice to walk away. It might seem like you don't have a choice, but you do.

Don't get me wrong. I've fought this idea before, but my husband has finally convinced me that you always have a choice. It's a good thing to teach our daughters, so he's won me over. When my daughters face peer pressure or any difficult situation, I don't ever want to hear, "I didn't have a choice."

Do you think there's every a situation without an alternative?

Thursday, March 22, 2012
Would you rather make decisions alone or try to work them out with another person?

I'm an opinion-gatherer. I ultimately want to make my own decision, but I like to gather a lot of information first.

Once I make a decision, because I know I've put a tremendous amount of thought and consideration into it, I own it. Right or wrong. I don't, okay try not to, second-guess my decision because I know I made it with the best possible information at the time. That doesn't mean I don't make bad decisions, but I know I made them with the best of intentions.

When it comes to parenting, I poll every single parent I trust on important matters--starting with my husband, of course. Then straight to Mom. Or vice versa, depending on who answers my frantic call first. Sometimes I call more for a sounding board than anything else, but any good input will be considered.

Who's your go-to person for hard decisions?

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"There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them." Denis Waitley
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Published on March 23, 2012 18:17

March 22, 2012

Things I Don't Understand

I wanted to discuss the light-hearted things that perplex me.

I'm sure the following make perfect sense to some, so feel free to enlighten me in the comments:

Coffee Addiction

Dating in Middle School - What good can come of it?

Too-short jean shorts - Or what I like to refer to as jean underwear.

Mantyhose (male pantyhose) - No lie. If you haven't seen them, check out this hilarious post from Natalie at Life Out Loud.

Piercings in the "private parts" - Actually I don't get tongue ones either.

Fun Dip - It's sugar, but colored. Why not just eat straight sugar and avoid coloring your tongue and teeth?

Clothes on dogs - We don't put cats in clothes or leave out small clothes for squirrels who might need them.

Down Comforters - They are lumpy and too hot.

The Bachelor - Quite frankly I'm offended. Way too many women vie for an over-inflated man. I have a better idea, and a more honest one. Let a bunch of up and coming actors and actresses vie for the part of a couple in a television series. See who has chemistry and wins over viewers. Take love out of it, make it what it is. People seeking fame and winning based on their acting abilities.

But that's only my opinion.

I know I'll think of several more after I hit publish, so there might be a Part Two in my future.

What don't you understand?

Thanks to Christine at Inspired Life for inspiring this post with her version here .
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Published on March 22, 2012 11:43

March 21, 2012

Report Card Time: ROW80 Round 1 Assessment

Congratulations to all my fellow A Round of Words in 80 Days (ROW80) participants. We made it through Round 1! Whether you met all your goals or not, I'm sure you learned something about yourself and your writing. I hope to see all of you in Round 2!

It's time to assess how I did with my Round 1 goals. My girls get their report cards next week, so I guess we'll call this mine.

These were my goals at the start of Round 1:

Writing – I will write 500 words minimum daily. This is my "test mile" as Kait Nolan so eloquently explained here. If I get 500 words and nothing's falling into place, I still have 500 words and I tried. I'm hoping for more, but I want to write daily and stick to it, so I'm starting small.

Goal Assessment:  B
I wrote, and most weeks I managed averaging 500 words a day, but not consistently. I need to recommit to a "test mile" number in Round 2, but be more realistic and aim for 5 days a week.

Blogging – Daily here (thanks to BlogHer'sNaBloPoMo and the Ultimate Blog Challenge) and three times a week at Mom in Love with Fiction. This writing will not count toward my 500 goal, but I do think it's beneficial. I also owe Kait Nolan a ROW80 sponsor post this week!

Goal Assessment: A- 
For the most part, I met this goal.

Reading – I'm committed to more reading, because I know it makes me a better writer. To that end, I have joined the 2012 To BeRead (TBR) Pile Challenge, and I plan to join a couple more before the end of January. I'm still weighing my options, but I'll be posting updates by Sunday's check in. Plus, in addition to reviewing for Rebecca's Reads, I'll also be a part of the World Literary Café Review Team.

Goal Assessment: A
I've rededicated to reading, and I've been fortunate to read some great books this round. I still need to do some for the challenge above.

Editing – I will edit a minimum of one chapter a day on various projects. I am doing freelance editing, and I need to stay on top of it. I love to edit, but it sometimes hampers my own writing (editing too much instead of letting the words flow). Maybe by focusing daily on editing other people's work, I'll shake the need to edit my own… for now.

Goal Assessment: B
Overall, I rocked my editing commitments, but I need to work on time and energy management.

Exercise – Daily, some form. It's New Year's resolution time after all. And sugar, you've wormed your way back into my diet… good-bye!

Goal Assessment: B
Considering everything going on (and all the sickness in my house this quarter), I am happy with a B.

How did everyone else do this Round? Did you learn anything about goal-setting you care to share?
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Published on March 21, 2012 19:41

March 20, 2012

Thankful and Sharing: Blog Awards

Our blog received a couple of awards over the last week.

First, thanks to Sabrina at Much Needed Advice for Women for giving us the Versatile Blogger Award. I've recently discovered this blog and am quite enjoying it.

The Rules:

* Share 7 completely random pieces of information about myself. P
* Nominate 15 7 fellow bloggers for The Versatile Blogger Award. (see note below)
* Inform each nominated blogger of their nomination by posting a comment on each of their blogs. (see note)

Thanks again, Sabrina.

My 7 Random Facts

1. I love Once Upon a Time. My whole family watches it.
2. My tween daughter and I are SO excited to see the Hunger Games movie.
3. I love peanut butter on top of chopped up bananas and chocolate chips.
4. I can quote every line from the movie, Girls Just Want to Have Fun (starring Sarah Jessica Parker).
5. I have two left feet. I dance anyway, much to my daughters' chagrin. I've been banned from dancing in public.
6. My youngest daughter loves Justin Bieber, so I have a legitimate excuse to listen to him. Hearing his music always puts a smile on my face.
7. I can't stand the sight of blood. I look away when my kids get shots. So sad, my kids look and tell me it's fine. I hold their hands and look away.

Second, thanks K.S. Collier for the Sunshine Award. I have her young adult novel, The Veil , on my Kindle and can't wait to read it.

The Rules:
* Thank the person who gave you the award and provide a link. P
* Write a post about it. P
* Answer the questions below. P
* Pass it on to 10 7 bloggers who you think really deserve it and let them know. (see note)

Answer 10 Questions

Favourite colour:  My favorite color changes with my mood, much like my favorite genre. Today it's red.

Favourite animal: I grew up with dogs, and now my children are growing up with dogs. Hands down, my favorite. My daughter is highly allergic to cats (as was my Dad), so no cats in my life.

Favourite number:  A fortune cookie told me 1 & 5 were my lucky numbers when I was a teen. My first daughter was born 5/15 after infertility issues. 1 & 5 will always be my favorite numbers.

Favorite non-alcoholic drink: Diet Coke. I have a serious addiction.

Facebook or Twitter: I have an FB account as an author and for personal use. I only use Twitter as an author.

My passion:  My family first, then writing and reading.

Getting or giving presents: I truly love to pick out the perfect gift, to put a smile on someone's face. But I won't lie, sometimes there's nothing like receiving.

Favourite pattern: Not sure what this is asking.

Favourite day of the week: Friday, because I love the weekends.

Favourite flower: Stargazer Lily. They make me sneeze, but they are so beautiful.

I know awards are time-consuming, but I want to pass them along. A note to the following bloggers, feel free to accept either award officially or just enjoy the shout-out to your awesomeness:

Natalie at Life Out Loud
Elise at Elise Fallson
Eloise at Memoirs and Other Artifacts...
Julie Glover, Author
Kate at Teaching What is Good
Christine at Inspired Life
Alana at Ramblin' with AM

Take a moment and check out these blogs. You'll be glad you did!
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Published on March 20, 2012 18:39