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September 6, 2011
It's About To Get Real In Here
by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com
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Oh yeah, it's about to get real in here.
As most of you know, my job is working with people who want to end their struggles with food and body image so that they can have fuller, richer, happier lives.
It's Tough To Be Fat Wonderwoman Every Day (image courtesy of Alex Heberling (www.alexheberling.com))
This is a journey that I've been on myself. I dieted for 24 years. I obsessed about food and weight. And I came out on the other end a completely changed person because of Health At Every Size (R) principles.
But I think we need to let go of the idea that once you've learned to accept your body and eat intuitively that you never have little setbacks or moments where things aren't so easy. Those moments of doubt or setbacks happen less and less over time, but they're still part of the journey, even for people who have been practicing body acceptance and intuitive eating for years.
So, I'm about to share some truths with you that are not necessarily easy for me to share. My hope is that you'll read these and will know that you're not somehow failing at accepting your body or changing the way you eat just because you have moments (even long moments) where you struggle with these things.
Five Totally True Facts About Yours Truly:
1) I get self conscious. Most days, I feel good about my body, but I have my moments. Going on TV or talking in front of a big crowd or seeing a picture of myself that I really don't like can trigger it.
The Good News: Nowadays, these moments last only a few minutes, instead of a few hours, days, weeks or years, like they did before.
2) I'm not always perfect with intuitive eating. Even though I've been practicing intuitive eating for years, I have my moments where I don't feel like checking in. For example, I always want to have dessert when I watch Top Chef: Just Desserts. Even if I'm full, I start feeling really deprived if I don't at least have a piece of fruit while watching this show. By doing this, I break two intuitive eating guidelines — stop eating when you're full, and don't eat while distracted.
The Good News: I eat intuitively nearly all the time, and when I don't, I don't beat up on myself. My practice of self acceptance allows me to accept the fact that watching a show I like is more important to me than being 100% perfect with intuitive eating.
3) I have health issues. I have PCOS, as I've written about before, and a touch of fibromyalgia that comes and goes. My weight, however, has never affected these things. They never got better when I've been thinner.
The Good News: Because of body acceptance, I'm better able to accept myself and these health challenges. And because I've found HAES (R), I know I'm not weird for not finding a cure in weight loss.
4) I have perfectionistic tendencies. Like a lot of people who grew up "struggling with their weight," I spent a lot of time believing that I had to be perfect in other ways to deflect attention from my "imperfect" body. I've had to unlearn the idea that it's bad to be a beginner, to not be able to do something, or to not do it perfectly.
The Good News: I'm still sooooo much kinder to myself now, and it allows me to actually try new things even if I might not be good at them.
5) In my private life, I sometimes fall short of being a good advocate for HAES (R) and body acceptance. I sometimes struggle to explain HAES (R) and body acceptance to people in my life. I work a lot at setting loving boundaries and working to have them see why I do what I do, but it's not always easy, and I sometimes feel like I haven't done as good a job as I would like.
The Good News: It gets easier all the time, and I've come to realize that it's just another skill that takes time to master.
This list could be much longer, but I'm sharing these with you to show you that it's not easy being a non-dieting, self-loving fatty in this world, and even someone like me, who's been working at it for years AND supporting others through it has her moments. It's not about being perfect, and it's rarely a straight and direct route from BodyHatredVille to BodyAcceptanceLand. Your train may get derailed. Your GPS might fail you. And even once you get there, you may take a trip or two back, particularly if some well-meaning friend or relative or doctor tells you that BodyHatredVille changed its name to PositiveLifestyleVille and has a water park now. You haven't blown it all just because you're struggling. That's just some diet mentality bullshit getting in your way.
In my group program, the Empress Club, I encourage the Empresses to allows themselves to be real with their fellow Empresses. We make a lot of space to share our good and our struggles, big and small, and to let that vulnerability with one another be a healing force. So let's share some of our real struggles with body acceptance and intuitive eating in the comments section below or on my facebook page.
Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/free to get your free download — Golda's Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining!
It's About To Get Real In Here originally appeared on on September 6, 2011.
September 5, 2011
Time-Saving Tip For Loving Your Skin & De-Stressing!
by Golda Poretsky, HHC
http://www.bodylovewellness.com
We still have a few more weeks of summer, but it doesn't really feel like it. School is starting up again, work is getting busier and busier.
Eucerin Smoothing Essentials Body Lotion & Hand Creme (Just Part Of The September Eucerin Giveaway)
And with all that is going on, it's very easy to feel really stressed out!
When you're under stress, you're not really losing your mind, but in some ways, you're losing your body. When you have a lot to think about and do, you may miss cues from your body. Stress can make you skip meals or overeat, not get enough sleep, drive somewhere that you might normally walk to. In essence, your body becomes the vehicle by which you get stuff done, rather than something you honor and take care of.
Stress isn't all bad. It sometimes give you that necessary burst of energy that you need to get stuff done. But when you're under stress more than you want to be, it's important to take a step back and de-stress. One of the best ways to do that is to reconnect with your body. Here's one way to do it:
Take a lovely body lotion (like Eucerin Plus Smoothing Essentials Body Lotion) and massage it over every part of your body. Go really slowly, focusing on the feeling of your hands on your body. Focus on the sensations that you're feeling, and if your mind starts to wander, come back to how your body feels. This is like a mini-vacation for your mind and a mini-massage for your body. Plus, your skin will feel amazing!
Let me know if you try this tip!
Plus, we have another opportunity for awesome Eucerin swag this month! Here's all you have to do to be registered to win:
Follow the Eucerin Twitter handle (@eucerinus) and tell us your tips on how to make September a stress-free back-to-school month.
Leave a comment below (with a valid email address) and a winner will be picked at random from the commenters on September 30th. The winner will receive Eucerin Plus Smoothing Essentials Body Lotion and Hand Crème, a soothing TheraPearlTM eyemask, a eucalyptus and peppermint aromatherapy candle, a cotton terry bath pillow and a mini massager. (This stuff is really nice.)
Be 18 or older and a U.S. resident.
Happy swagging!
Full Disclosure: I'm receiving Eucerin products (for my readers and me). The thoughts and opinions, however, that I share in this post are strictly my own and are not influenced by receipt of these products.
Time-Saving Tip For Loving Your Skin & De-Stressing! originally appeared on on September 5, 2011.
August 29, 2011
Profile In Flabulousness: Leslie Medlik From TLC's Big Sexy
by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com
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Here's the part where I tell you how cool I am because I've known Leslie Medlik, star of TLC's Big Sexy (which airs tomorrow, Tuesday, August 30th at 10PM ET/PT), for years.
Leslie Medlik of Big Sexy (image courtesy of TLC)
She is one of the excellent and flabulous shop girls of my favorite plus sized store, Re/Dress NYC. I've always dug her style — vintage duds, Bettie Page bangs– and her down-to-earth advice on everything from fashion to relationships. Leslie describes her personal style as a cross between a vintage vixen and a fat hipster. "Sometimes those worlds collide and there's Leslie," she told me.
So when I heard she was starring in a fat-positive reality show (what the???) on TLC about five plus sized gals trying to make it big in fashion in NYC, I made sure to get the scoop before she got mobbed by everyone from Curvy to More.
Buzz has been building for Big Sexy over the last few weeks. It seems that when anyone posts about the new show on Facebook, lots of women write, "this is me! I need to be on this show!" So I was curious what the casting process was like for Leslie. "For me, it was just one of those things that the world dropped in my lap." A scout had come into Re/Dress to consider it for a location for the show. She ended up talking to Leslie and asking her to audition. "It was just really easy and fast."
Leslie & Nikki At The Beach (image courtesy of TLC)
Unlike most reality TV shows about plus sized women, Big Sexy is supposed to show plus sized people having full, fun, sexy lives. Since this is pretty groundbreaking, I wondered if Leslie had any trepidations in doing the show. "I'm someone who's very cautious about these things and there is always that concern that, while I had talked to the producers about it . . . you never know how things are going to be edited or what's really going to happen. But at this point, I'm fairly confident that what they're putting together is going to be a great show."
Given that this is one of the first really size positive reality shows out there, it could have a big impact on how people generally view fat people and how fat people view themselves. For Leslie, she's hoping the show helps more women love their bodies: "the women who are waking up every day hating themselves — maybe this will give them the edge to stop doing that or at least start the process to stop hating themselves." She also hopes that people will begin to get the message that size and health are separate things and that attacking people for accepting their bodies is not okay. "That's the immediate go to, 'Okay, well you might be confident but you're unhealthy and you're gonna die because you're fat' and it's not true. If we could help debunk that ridiculous myth — that would seal the deal for me."
The cast of Big Sexy (image courtesy of TLC)
In the first episode (airing tomorrow!), Leslie puts together a fabulous fashion show, which included some gorgeous Monif C. bathing suits. Three of the other stars of Big Sexy (Nikki Gomez, Tiffany Bank, and Audrey Lea Curry), all plus sized models, are part of the runway show, yet a few of them really struggled with feeling comfortable wearing the bathing suits on the runway. I asked for Leslie's take on that. "I think it's twofold: I was a little surprised but then, well, not so much because this is how women are constantly dealing with their bodies. And, initially, knowing those two, I was surprised, but then, at the same time, I get it. I get why they were questioning it, because now not only were people going to be looking at their bodies, judging them coming down the runway, but there are cameras there and there are going to be millions of people [judging them] and all of these things that start to creep in and put doubts in your mind." In essence, this struggle over swimsuits really showed how brave a thing it is to be a plus sized woman showing your body with confidence in a world that isn't accepting of it.
So what's next for Leslie? She wants to help more women have fun with fashion by offering her services for personal styling, personal shopping and also some wardrobe consulting. "There's nothing better than helping a woman feel good about herself, regardless of size. It isn't just fat women it's skinny women who have tons of issues with the same thing — not being skinny enough, right? So I want to help women of all sizes."
Stop by Leslie's facebook page to stay in touch with her and check out her web site for info on her styling work!
To listen to the full interview, check out Golda's podcast.
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Golda Poretsky, H.H.C. is a certified holistic health counselor who specializes in transforming your relationship with food and your body. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/stay-in-touch/ to sign up for her newsletter and get your free download — Golda's Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining!
Profile In Flabulousness: Leslie Medlik From TLC's Big Sexy originally appeared on on August 29, 2011.
August 22, 2011
Figure Flaws?!
by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com
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(I've been a busy bee this week, so I'm bringing back a (slightly modified) oldy but goody. I'll be back with new stuff next week!)
The idea that there are such things as "figure flaws" drives me batty.
In many ways, I have the body shape that "obesity experts" wring their hands over. I have a thick waist and narrow hips, such that my waist to hip ratio is nearly at 1. I tend to gain weight around my midsection. I know, the horror! Apparently, per the "obesity experts" I should not only lose weight, I should make the fat move to my hips and thighs because it's "healthier!"
That is, (a) I should somehow magically move my body fat from one part of my body to another, even though there's no viable way to do this, and (b) I should worry over the fact that I have this type of body, even though the truth is this unhealthy belly fat thing is all bullshit.
Pseudo Empowerment Through Bodily Sausage Casings? (Image courtesy of Flickr)
Also, worrying about belly fat could increase my cortisol levels, which could make me store more belly fat. So, if someone (a doctor, for example) were really worried about my belly fat, he or she shouldn't admonish me for it, because that admonishment could stress me out and just cause more belly fat and more alleged belly fat-related problems. The horrors continue!
Yeesh.
I used to worry about this crap a lot. I used to think if I could just have a more hourglass shape, even a fat hourglass shape, things would be better. It's sort of like a variant of the fantasy of being thin paradigm. I thought if I were a sexy hourglass instead of an upside-down triangle/apple, then clothes would fit better/guys would like me more/I'd win the lottery/etc. etc.
It wasn't until I started doing an exercise program called T-Tapp back in 2006 that I learned about different body structures. I realized then that people built like me, with torsos that are so short that their rib cages nearly touch their hip bones, always have big waists compared to the rest of their bodies. And by the way, I'm not saying that you need an excuse to be whatever size you are. I'm just saying that realizing that my body shape and structure weren't weird or bad or whatever helped me get out of the idea that I should be trying to change it. It made me realize that there is no one right body shape, no body shape that is "better" or "worse." There are no such things as "figure flaws." Rather than striving for a different body, I finally realized that my body was what I've got, so I might as well enjoy it.
So my tip for this week is (if you feel like trying a tip), is to practice enjoying the body you have. Let go of comparing your body to others, or worrying about its shape. Be gentle with yourself as you embrace this concept, and be conscious of the negative voice that will likely come up. (By the way, I'm not saying this easy, just practice it and be open to it for now.)
Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/free to get your free download — Golda's Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining!
Figure Flaws?! originally appeared on on August 22, 2011.
August 15, 2011
The Real Deal On Body Acceptance
by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com
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As you may have heard by now, former body acceptance advocate Jess Weiner was interviewed by Glamour about how loving her body almost killed her. In the article she shares how, for her, body acceptance had meant not checking in on her health.
I and many other bloggers have already picked apart the inconsistencies and problematic aspects of this piece. But truthfully, the part of the story that I find most horrendous is that Weiner completely mischaracterizes body acceptance in order to tear it down.
So I think it's time to get some clarity on what body acceptance really is, what it means, and why it can be so healing for all of us. Of course, I can't speak for everyone's experience of body acceptance, but this is the way I understand it if we break it down into the simplest terms.
What It is
Body acceptance means, as much as possible, approving of and loving your body, despite its "imperfections", real or perceived. That means accepting that your body is fatter than some others, or thinner than some others, that your eyes are a little crooked, that you have a disability that makes walking difficult, that you have health concerns that you have to deal with — but that all of that doesn't mean that you need to be ashamed of your body or try to change it. Body acceptance allows for the fact that there is a diversity of bodies in the world, and that there's no wrong way to have one.
What It's Not
Body acceptance is not about intentionally disregarding your health. Accepting and loving your body includes paying attention to its signals and symptoms.
Who It's For
Body acceptance is for anyone who has a body. Weight and body oppression is oppressive to everyone. I've worked with women who were a size 6 who hated their bodies more than other clients who were a size 24. When you live in a society that says that one kind of body is bad and and other is good, those with "good" bodies constantly fear that their bodies will go "bad", and those with "bad" bodies are expected feel shame and do everything they can to have "good" bodies. In the process, we torture our bodies, and do everything from engage in disordered eating to invasive surgery to make ourselves okay. We blame our friends and family for not having the right kind of body. Nobody wins in this kind of struggle.
Why Body Acceptance Is Healthy
Body acceptance as part of the Health At Every Size (R) protocol, has been show to have better long term health effects than dieting. Furthermore, body hatred creates an incredible amount of stress in your mind and body. When you're fixated on what you don't like about your body and desperately trying to change it, you'll often engage in dangerous behaviors that don't lead to better health (restricting food, over-exercising, surgeries). When you start loving your body and respecting its cues and signals, you can eat in a way that nourishes you, move in ways that are good for your body, and seek out health care from professionals who actually respect you and care for you as a whole person.
Here are some of the wonderful things that can happen when you live your life from a place of body acceptance, love and respect:
When you see your body with love and approval, amazing changes happen. You might:
Decide to stop dieting and eat in a way that is healing and nourishing.
Begin to heal from an eating disorder.
Stop over-exercising when you realize that you might be damaging your precious body.
Start exercising when you find that moving your body in loving ways feels good.
Get better medical care because you know that you are entitled to more than "it'll go away if you lose weight."
Get out of a relationship that doesn't serve you.
Get in to a relationship where you are truly loved and cared for.
Find the confidence to set boundaries with people in your life.
Stop comparing yourself to everyone and see the beauty in yourself.
Find that intuitive eating is easier than you thought.
Feel free from the pain of self hatred and feel great being the person you are.
Why It's Important
People with bodies that are viewed as non-normative (and this includes fat people, despite the fact that there are so many of us) face a lot of stigma, discrimination, and exclusion on a day-to-day basis. Via body acceptance, fat people can say, "I realize you have a problem with my body, but I refuse to internalize that." By refusing to accept the shame that we're supposed to feel about our bodies, we create change in our lives and in the lives of those around us. We transform struggle and shame to peace and pride. Body acceptance becomes an invitation to others, fat, thin, or in between, to love their bodies as well.
Tell Your Story!
If body acceptance has been a positive influence on your life, I want to hear your story! Click here to see how you can submit it.
Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/free to get your free download — Golda's Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining!
The Real Deal On Body Acceptance originally appeared on on August 15, 2011.
August 11, 2011
Body Love SAVED Me: Share Your Story
by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com
Thanks to former body acceptance advocate Jess Weiner's misinformation campaign, body acceptance has been getting a bad rap as something dangerous and unhealthy.
NOTHING could be further from the truth. I know many of you of have experienced body acceptance as a healing, loving, and transformational force in your life.
Please feel free to use this as your Body Love Saved Me Badge!
Maybe it made you decide to stop dieting and eat in a way that was healing and nourishing.
Maybe it helped you heal from an eating disorder.
Maybe it made you stop over-exercising when you realized that you were damaging your precious body.
Maybe it got you to start exercising when you found that moving your body in loving ways felt good.
Maybe it helped you get better medical care because you knew that you were entitled to more than "it'll go away if you lose weight."
Maybe it got you out of a bad relationship, or into a good one.
Maybe it gave you the confidence to stand up for yourself.
Maybe it allowed you to stop comparing yourself to everyone and see the beauty in yourself.
Maybe it freed you from the pain of self hatred and allowed you to feel good about the person you are.
If body acceptance has been a positive influence in your life, I want to hear your story.
I want to make this really easy. So please email me at mystory @ bodylovewellness.com with the following:
1) Your first name or initials
2) Your location (city, state, country)
3) Optional: A picture of you
4) Your story of how body love has helped you.
I hope to publish at least 5 of your stories here at the blog. Please note that if your story doesn't get published, it doesn't mean that it isn't great, I'm just looking to make sure that there's some variety in the posts.
Please share this with all of your body loving friends and encourage them to write!
Golda Poretsky, H.H.C. is a certified holistic health counselor who specializes in empowering plus sized women to own their bodies and their beauty. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/free to get your free download — Golda's Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining!
Body Love SAVED Me: Share Your Story originally appeared on on August 11, 2011.
August 9, 2011
On Jess Weiner And Why Loving Your Body WON'T Kill You
by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com
Guys, Body Acceptance Kills And Stuff!
As you may have heard by now, former body acceptance advocate Jess Weiner was interviewed by Glamour about how loving her body almost killed her.
Luckily, she learned to hate her body just in time!
In this horrendous article, Weiner takes us down a triggery, slippery slope to show us that self love is really just a path to destruction. In fact, I hope I don't die before I … finish … this … post ehhhhhh.
Oh, false alarm. I almost loved my body to death!
Here are just a few problems with this article. Feel free to share it with friends!
1) Conflates Body Acceptance With Not Taking Care Of Yourself
Here are Weiner's own words: "It didn't matter in that moment, sitting half dressed in a paper gown, how many books I had written or speeches I had given about loving your body and accepting yourself as you are. The cold, hard truth was that accepting myself as I was was putting my life in danger."
For some reason, I don't think body acceptance means the same thing to her as it does to me and the other body acceptance advocates that I know. To me, body acceptance is about loving your body, approving of yourself, not beating up on yourself for size, and accepting that people's bodies come in different sizes. Body acceptance doesn't mean totally ignoring your health. It doesn't mean that you can't change what you eat or start exercising more or consider a doctor's recommendation.
What did body acceptance mean to her all along?
Weiner could have totally made lifestyle changes in a way that embraced Health At Every Size. She could have worked on nutrition to discover what worked best for her. She could have exercised more and in ways that felt right for her body. She could have explored her emotional eating issues so that she could eat in ways that were more aligned with her body's needs. I do this every day with clients in my practice. And a key part of that is loving your body and knowing that it's deserving of excellent treatment.
By saying that body acceptance is dangerous, Weiner not only displays a flawed understanding of what body acceptance is, she adds fuel to the fire for every fat hater and anti-obesity campaign out there.
2) Conflates Weight Loss With Health
This point may be even more mind boggling than my first point. In her story, Weiner sees a doctor and finds out that a bunch of her numbers aren't so good. The doctor, it seems, never mentions weight loss as a goal. Weight loss is Weiner's goal. She doesn't get pressured into it. She makes this thing that's about "getting healthy" into something that she's doing for weight loss. Later in the article, she bemoans the fact that she didn't lose as much weight as she would have liked. She says," 'I've only lost 25 pounds?' I asked. I thought declining desserts and exercising when exhausted would have brought me a more dramatic verdict."
What the???
This is coming from somebody who had espoused body acceptance, and had stayed away from scales for 16 years as part of her recovery from ED. And now she's diving full speed ahead into food restriction and "exercising when exhausted" but everything's hunky dory because she lost 25 pounds? She never addresses the real consequences of her new (old) fixation on weight loss and how that could trigger her ED.
She truly believes that she wouldn't have gotten "healthier numbers without confronting [her] weight" even though she allegedly wasn't on a weight loss plan, and even her doctor said that in focusing on her weight, she was focusing on the wrong number. So if this whole thing was about weight loss and not about health, why doesn't she just come out and say that?
3) Promotes Bullying And Fat Shaming As A Good Thing
In the article, Weiner is heckled at a book reading and as a result, asks herself the question, "How healthy was I? . . . Was I really obese?" This may have been a true story, but it presents the idea that heckling a fat person "for her own good" is okay. It seems rather unlikely that Weiner had never thought about her health before that day.
And, furthermore, did she ever question whether she was obese or not? Obesity is based on BMI standards, which are complete crap. Plenty of people are totally healthy and obese.
Wasn't Weiner a body acceptance advocate? Why doesn't she know this stuff?
4) Garners Sympathy By Saying That Sharing This Story May Be "Career Suicide"
As body acceptance advocate myself, this may be the part that angers me the most. Towing the line of "Body acceptance is good, but there should be a weight limit" got her into Glamour and she's now making the rounds of local news programs. She knows that this message is going to get her more attention than truly embracing body acceptance could ever do. If she really thought it could be career suicide, she would have never written the article. Whatever "backlash" it's creating will only add to her cache. (As I write this, I'm aware of that, and it bothers me.)
So, just to be clear, I'm not upset with Jess Weiner for losing weight. That's totally her choice. My issue is with her decision to mis-characterize body acceptance in order to discredit it.
5) Presents Herself As A Liberator For Fat Women
This part is the absolute craziest. She really says this: "Women were more supportive than I'd ever expected, and many of them even admitted that they too wanted to lose weight to improve their health but had, like me, felt trapped by the stigma that confident, heavy women weren't supposed to think about weight at all. Like me, they felt liberated by the idea that it wouldn't betray their ideals to value their physical health."
What. Is. She. Talking. About??????
As a lifelong fat woman, I never felt this stigma. In fact, I felt the opposite, that I should be constantly dieting and fixated on food and weight. Who are these fat women who are desperately trying to get out from under the stigma of having to love their fat bodies?
I'm ending it here, because it's making me crazy. I invite you to comment by sharing this post or chatting with me on Facebook.
Golda Poretsky, H.H.C. is a certified holistic health counselor who specializes in empowering plus sized women to own their bodies and their beauty. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/free to get your free download — Golda's Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining!
On Jess Weiner And Why Loving Your Body WON'T Kill You originally appeared on on August 9, 2011.
August 8, 2011
On Total Blog Fails And Going With The Flow (Mercury In Retrograde Edition)
by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com
Listen to the podcast of this post here:
Blog Fail! (image by Golda Poretsky)
I tried to write this post about 10 times this week, and every time, I just couldn't do it.
I had ideas but I didn't like them enough. I sat down to write and then found every distraction I could find (hello, Facebook!).
I used every trick in the book.
Affirmations! — "I'm an excellent writer who writes my blog easily!"
Time Management Skills! — I will set a timer for exactly 50 minutes, and it will be done in that time. Everyone knows that work always fits the time allotted to it. It's Parkinson's Law in action!
Free Writing! — I know that if I write about whatever eventually it will be something interesting and then it will all come together in a genius blog post yes that will happen I know it when is it going to happen?
Relocation! — Maybe if I just get out of my office and go to a coffee shop I'll be inspired by the energy of those around me!
None of it worked. Not one bit. And as a coach who helps people move through resistance all the time, it was kind of a bummer that I couldn't do it for myself this time.
Maybe you've experienced something similar. Have you ever had a project with a deadline, where you knew you could do it but just couldn't make it happen? I can't be the only one.
So I decided to write about that struggle today. That struggle of making something happen versus getting into agreement with the idea that it may not.
It was only when I got into agreement with the idea that maybe, just maybe, I wasn't going to get my blog in by the deadline, that I was able to write this post. I told myself that it was okay, that I could re-use an old post that a lot of new readers haven't seen yet rather than come up with something new. Going with the flow and acknowledging that I was stuck actually got me unstuck!
And then I just decided to write about not being able to write a post. I'm now about 10 minutes into it, and I think I'm going to stop while the gettin's good.
In a weird way, my struggle with writing my blog today is a lot like the struggle that many of us face when we try to change our bodies through dieting, over-exercising and other behaviors. We often get to a point where our bodies rebel — we eat more than we "should", we get injured and have to slow down, or we just get tired of fighting with ourselves. By accepting our bodies and our imperfection, we can actually relax and trust our bodies are really okay. By giving up the struggle, we can just be and let things unfold.
Have you ever gotten into agreement with something that wasn't working for you and finally found the solution you were looking for? Please share it with me here or on Facebook.
Golda Poretsky, H.H.C. is a certified holistic health counselor who specializes in empowering plus sized women to own their bodies and their beauty. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/free to get your free download — Golda's Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining!
Join Golda for her 21-day Body Love Makeover Attraction Program. It starts tomorrow!
On Total Blog Fails And Going With The Flow (Mercury In Retrograde Edition) originally appeared on on August 8, 2011.
August 6, 2011
The Body Love Makeover Attraction Program Starts This TUESDAY!
I'm so excited for this Tuesday!
This Tuesday is when it all begins. This Tuesday we're going to get down to the nitty gritty of how to be the hot, sexy, turned-on women we were born to be.
Image by Wyanne Thomspon (wyanne.com) courtesy of Voluptuart (voluptuart.com)
We've all learned and tried the other route — dieting, over-exercising, control-top/spanx contraptions. And while those things may give you a temporary feeling of attractiveness, it's a different sort of attractiveness than the one you really desire.
What we all really desire is to feel attractive from the inside out. To know, beyond a doubt, that we are delicious, delightful, sensual women who can draw others in when we want to and set boundaries when we want to.
It may seem innate, but it's a skill — a skill that no amount of spanx will ever teach you.
But it is something that I've learned for myself (in everything from pleasure intensives, to goddess and courtesan research, to ole fashion experience), and it's something that I am so happy and willing to teach.
If you want to learn how to love all of yourself, feel attractive no matter what you're wearing, turn up the heat in your relationship, or head out into the dating world with a sense of joy, fun, and confidence, then you need to join me this Tuesday.
Just go to http://www.bodylovemakeover.com/blw-bonus/ and sign up.
Even if you can't make the live class, you'll get all the recordings, handouts and additional special offers.
So I want to tell you about some of the things that you'll learn and experience in the Body Love Makeover Attraction Program:
✓ You're going learn how to transform the disempowering thoughts you're currently having that keep you from loving your body. (This may be one of the biggest obstacles standing in your way, and I'll show you 3 amazing techniques to change your thought patterns quickly and easily.)
✓ You're going to understand on a deeper level what you really desire and need in a relationship (This is big, because if you don't really know what you want, you attract guys who also don't know what they want.)
✓ You're going to learn to own your beauty like you never have before
✓ Learn how to connect and flirt for maximum effect (we just touched the tip of the iceberg on our call yesterday)
✓ Gain confidence that you never thought you had
✓ Attract more love into your life
✓ And a lot more. A LOT more.
In just 3 classes you're going to feel different, look different, and attract differently.
This course is normally $297, but because you're a newsletter member, I want to offer you something special. So for the next couple of days:
You can get access to the course, including the live classes, live Q&A's, mp3 recordings and handouts for just $197 or 3 payments of $75 PLUS . . .
As an additional bonus, you're going to get a FREE 30 minute Maximize Your Attraction Strategy Session with me. This one-to-one session is normally $97, but it'll be free for you if you sign up by Monday.
To get yours, go to: http://www.bodylovemakeover.com/blw-bonus/
I don't know when or if I will offer this course again, and that's the truth. So if you want in, this is the time to join me.
And if you have any questions at all about the course, please sign up for a 15-minute Attraction Amp Up Session. Just click here to sign up. Appointments are on Monday!
If you know you want in, I want you in too. Acting on your desire is a key first step, so the course begins as soon as you say "Yes!"
http://www.bodylovemakeover.com/news-bonus/.
(After you register, be sure to check your email and spam folder for your course information.)
The Body Love Makeover Attraction Program Starts This TUESDAY! originally appeared on on August 6, 2011.
THIS WEEKEND ONLY: Free E-Book Download In Honor Of Be Body Positive Day!
by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com
HAPPY BE BODY POSITIVE DAY!
One of the most body positive things you can do is to heal your relationship with food and nourish your body in the way it so deserves.
So, in honor of Be Body Positive Day, I'm offering you a FREE PDF copy of my book, Stop Dieting Now: 25 Reasons To Stop, 25 Ways To Heal.
It's FREE this weekend only!
This book will support you in:
Healing from the dieting/bingeing cycle.
Understanding why diets never seem to work in the long term.
Simple techniques for freeing yourself from negative body image.
Easy ways to lower your stress levels when it comes to food.
How to know when you're hungry and full and act on that information.
And so much more!
Just enter your info in the boxes below to get your free download in PDF format. (Kindle and Nook versions are always available for just $6.97.)
Yes, Golda, please sign me up to receive a FREE instant download of Stop Dieting Now: 25 Reasons To Stop, 25 Ways To Heal.
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You will also receive a complimentary subscription to the Body Love Wellness Newsletter. We won't share, rent or sell your information to any other organization and you can unsubscribe at any time.
Happy diet-free eating for your beautiful body!
(c) Golda Poretsky 2011
THIS WEEKEND ONLY: Free E-Book Download In Honor Of Be Body Positive Day! originally appeared on on August 6, 2011.
