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July 19, 2015

I'm Old and Healthy

 I'm Young and Healthy, 42nd Street, 1933, Dick Powell sings: 
I've always loved this song and the dance constructed by Busby Berkley. But I laughed at the line, "maybe in a year or two or three we'll be too old." I assumed it was his pick up line rather than a pervasive prejudice directed against older (over the hill) people.

As society progresses one prejudice after another is weakened. Today, we have young men singing about Michelle Pfeiffer. We have the press and the audience admiring a brave Caitlyn Jenner. On and on.

The baby boomers 50s & 60s are a huge part of our society, so why not write or produce what people of all ages want?

Dear network exec,

I've got an idea for a show. It's working title is Second Chance. It stars 50 & 60 year olds in search or love but instead of handing out roses, let's make it carnations.

Sincerely yours,
RW Richard

For those who abhor reality shows, and I know you are out there, step back, wait a minute. This basic idea could be a best selling book as well. Go ahead, write it up. I have too much on my plate right now.

Apparently I hadn't gone far enough when I portrayed a hero and heroine in their forties in A More Perfect Union. But it was named a finalist of the San Diego Book Awards and over the last two days sold 155 via KENP read* on Kindle/Amazon. *whatever that is?!

I'll leave you with this thought: with the divorce rate so high and so many lonely people wanting to get it right the second or more times around, aren't your readers waiting for you to tackle this? It doesn't have to be about 1 gal and 25 guys to tell a good story.




 
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Published on July 19, 2015 11:47

July 12, 2015

Trying on wedding dresses

I'll assume every dad thinks his daughter is the most beautiful bride since God created the Earth. In this case it's true. This is not the dress she finally chose, but we all loved it.

A bride's gown is symbolic of the way she sees herself and her union. My baby wanted something elegant and sophisticated. Laura is elegant and sophisticated. She earned her undergrad in film from UCSD and her MFA (in film directing and related arts) at NYU. She's a successful director now. Don't let that angelic face fool you, there's much power and skill in this driven woman. In case you're wondering about her exotic looks, my wife is Filipina and I'm half Italian.

The wedding will be in August. Stay tuned for some pictures,

The reason brides look so incredible is because the combination of dress, bride and meaning, which makes what we see so much more than a pretty picture. We invest our wishes, we see our own dreams, we see her expectation, maybe share a little in her joy. We see life being lived and a very special part of the journey about to begin.

If you have the time, choose one or more of the below.
Top 10 classic wedding songs (8:23 minutes):



Top 10 modern wedding songs (9 minutes):

I've received many requests for the incomparable Fred Astaire and Ginger Rogers.
Cheek to Cheek, from Top Hat, 1935, written by Irving Berlin and with all my love for you:


 
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Published on July 12, 2015 12:22

July 5, 2015

Validation

Easily missed while writing the hero and heroine is a technique I call validation, the one key ingredient to true love (and not obsession or carrying a torch which is an incomplete love). It isn’t that scene where one or both say “I love you” or the current upgrade, “I’m in love with you.” It’s not that scene where he gets down on one knee. It’s not even, “I do.”

There comes a moment when you realize somebody compatible is crazy about you and it is almost always in internal thoughts. Then you realize what you have been feeling isn’t wasted because he/she feels the same way you do. Then the couple just knows, whether they said any words of love, before, during or after their knowing. There’s not a greater feeling on this planet than the realization that you are loved and you have someone to love back. Forever, is now part of the fabric of complete surrender.
Miss this subtlety and, IMO, you have not written a complete romance.
Dick Powell sings, Busby Berkley directs the musical number from Dames, 1934, I Only Have Eyes For You.

 
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Published on July 05, 2015 14:02

June 28, 2015

Isn't it a lovely day?

My younger of two daughters will soon marry. I'm a bit more mature than when I married, I notice the subtle fabric of these ceremonies and preparations. When I married, I focused on the minutia, I worried about costs, I helped plan the honeymoon, thought about my daughters someday to be and I said I do.

Now, I think of the complicated culture of marriage, the meaning of life commitment, of gaining new family and a new son. I don’t dwell on the doling out of money to fuel dreams of what people expect a marriage to be. I'm celebrating one of life's great moments. I revel in the process and find human life to be richer for it.
Many guys don’t see the need for all this or don’t quite recognize how special it is to the bride. But if his love is mature enough, he’ll be taking his first steps to understanding and appreciating that soul reaching out to him.
 The Hallmark movie last night featured a young groom who would have preferred to show up in jeans and eat a cake shaped like a football. Although it was a bit of a caricature, the point was well taken. Guys focus on the result, gals on the process. You can’t have one without the other and the renaissance man revels in it. My about to be son-in-law is such a man.
A marriage is like two people who start a dance through the hard and easy of life and never take their eyes off each other.
Isn't It a Lovely Day, written by Irving Berlin, sung by Fred Astaire and danced with his partner Ginger Rogers, from the movie Top Hat 1935.
If you have a favorite wedding song, let me know and I'll blog it.

Dolorah offered Unchained Melody, Endless Love and I will Always Love You:
I'll pick Unchained Melody, originally written in 1936 offered to Bing Crosby who refused it. It sat for twenty years. Many consider it's best version was rendered by the Righteous Brothers in 1965:

 
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Published on June 28, 2015 11:21

June 21, 2015

Men free from their bindings

Happy Father’s Day to my dad fans and to my lady readers, treat your man today to something he loves (like you).

Many writers go way overboard when it comes to writing a male character. They’ll take too seriously the architypes and then produce a comic book character. They’ll stick too closely to the Journey [a good source: Writer’s Journey by Vogler] as the hero meets mentors, antagonists, tricksters and reacts in a way the plot seems to demand. If he acts oddly, this might give your story a twist that would delight the reader.
Making your hero real, is not simply giving him flaws but making him an individual. Every individual is unique and so should your very memorable character be.
If you write a guy and fill in his personality partially based on back-story, you’ll be doing yourself a favor. If he’s a Navy Seal and likes to crochet, so be it. Or if he prefers Poodles to German Shepherds, well you have a lot to write about when you explain why. These are not flaws; they're more like charms, which will make your character almost magical and may put a smile on a reader’s face.

Now let's retool that father mentioned at the beginning who I suggested wanted your love as a gift today:
How to Murder Your Wife with Jack Lemmon, 1965 (the button scene)
I want you to know, I, in no way endorse or resemble Jack Lemmon's character. Those thoughts and actions have never entered my mind. His fictional character is just that fictional. Nonetheless, I feel the need to mollify my RWA girlfriends with Overboard 1987 starring Kurt Russell and Goldie Hahn, by showing the buh, buh, buh, buh scene.
 
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Published on June 21, 2015 12:38

June 14, 2015

What do you do with a pot of dirt?

What do you do with a pot of dirt?

“Today’s music is junk.”“They don’t make ’em like they used to.”

As a debater or attorney, you learn to spot flaws in argument. The reason you don’t like today’s songs, TV, plays, movies etc. is that the writers aren’t writing for you or the words no longer speak to your heart! They’re writing to today’s audience. In the case of song, they write to the young. Those who desperately want to understand love and how to go about it. Those whose heart aches. Does this sound like something a romance writer might find useful?
Your remedy: find a way to fall in love (with something) and passionately and have that flow into your work in progress.
IMO, it’s author intrusion to force feed your own perception of what is art and what is junk. Not that you can’t have a voice. Who are you writing for? The wider the audience, the more you understand love through the eyes of your readers, the more you’ll sell, if that’s what you want.
Grandpa gave his granddaughter a pot of dirt. “How do you play with dirt?”“Water it every day.”

And soon the child came to know life.

Message In A Bottle, The Police, 1979
EXTRA CREDIT:
or if you prefer a more direct means of communication: PEensylvania 6-5000, Glen Miller's Band, 1940:
Or for my generation: Beachwood 45789: The Marvelettes 1962
 
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Published on June 14, 2015 11:54

June 7, 2015

A man's man talks about writing

Last week I mentioned I showcase TV or movie clips or songs to make a point about the male point of view in writing. That's great but stale, so I think a speech about writing is in order by a writer you may know:

Earnest Hemingway's Nobel Prize acceptance speech (2 minutes):
He doesn't address the way he handles the male point of view but did say in this speech that writers should attempt what others haven't tried or have failed at!

Good writing to you all.
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Published on June 07, 2015 11:53

May 31, 2015

Degrees of odd coupleness

As a guy, one of the first things I think of when writing a character is how are they different (from others). How do they relate to the other character(s) in an aggravating (or endearing to the reader) way. Some writing books call these quirks, fatal flaws, others call them charms. There’s something to work on, fix, change or live with. Of course, fatal, it is not, at least in any literature with a happy ending.

One of my editors complained, “When are is your hero going to eat anything else but spaghetti and meatballs?” This particular hero also had a problem being seen in the buff by the heroine. Every experienced writer inserts these cute peccadillos. I especially enjoy exploring the differences between genetically identical twins and how they love each other.
Why employ odd coupleness? Throw your hero and heroine into a mess and people will want to see how they’ll clean it up or make it worse. It’s human nature to identify with the characters and want to fix things that are broken. Making it worse makes us laugh. Humans, by their nature, work and create.
HelenKay Dimon gave her former Navy Seal, claustrophobia, but the heroine nurtured him without laughing aloud. Besides, that would have likely got them killed.
Odd coupleness is found in every type of well-written literature. Susan Elizabeth Phillips is so good at this. She mismatches hero and heroine all the time and I think she has the most fun finding out how and why they could love each other.
Mention any good movie. Showgirl and the Professor, You’ve Got Mail. Remember the ending of Some Like It Hot, “nobody’s perfect.”
Today, I want to pay tribute to The Odd Couple, originally a play by Neil Simon:On Broadway 1965 with Art Carney & Walter Matthau.
As a movie 1968 with Jack Lemon & Walter Matthau.
On TV 1970 with Tony Randall & Jack Klugman.
Made into a female version in 1985 on Broadway with Sally Struthers and Rita Moreno.
On and on, including this year when it premiered on CBS starring Matthew Perry and Thomas Lennon (8:30 PM Thursdays). If you like seeing Felix throw away hundreds of hamburger buns until he finds the right one to photograph and then having some sesames picked off, then you’ll be hooked. Please don't misunderstand the purpose of this blog. I'm not promoting shows, songs or movies. I'm casting light on writing techniques, generally from the male point of view.

Plot basics for those who have never seen the show in any of its venues—Wiki: Plot overview:

Felix Ungar, a neurotic, neat freak newswriter (a photographer in the television series), is thrown out by his wife, and moves in with his friend Oscar Madison, a slovenly sportswriter. Despite Oscar's problems – careless spending, excessive gambling, a poorly kept house filled with spoiled food – he seems to enjoy life. Felix, however, seems utterly incapable of enjoying anything and only finds purpose in pointing out his own and other people's mistakes and foibles. Even when he tries to do so in a gentle and constructive way, his corrections and suggestions prove extremely annoying to those around him. Oscar, his closest friend, feels compelled to throw him out after only a brief time together, though he quickly realizes that Felix has had a positive effect on him.
Characters:Oscar Madison: A slovenly, recently divorced sportswriter.
Felix Ungar: A fastidious, hypochondriac newswriter whose marriage is ending.Murray: An NYPD policeman, one of Oscar and Felix's poker buddies.Speed: One of the poker buddies. Gruff and sarcastic, often picking on Vinnie and Murray.Vinnie: One of the poker buddies. Vinnie is mild-mannered and henpecked, making him an easy target for Speed's verbal barbs.Roy: One of the poker buddies. Oscar's accountant. Roy has a dry wit but is less acerbic than Speed.Cecily and Gwendolyn Pigeon: Oscar and Felix's giggly upstairs neighbors, a pair of English sisters. The former is a divorcée, the latter a widow.According to Neil Simon, the Pigeon sisters made the third act work better (credit a New England critic) and the play more successful. Naturally, along the writer’s journey one needs enduring and endearing secondary characters to interact with.

Here’s a peek at the 2015 TV version on CBS with references to earlier versions:
 
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Published on May 31, 2015 09:12

May 24, 2015

Double romances

Plenty of full-length novels feature two romances, typically a major and minor one. Two major romances can be written if the characters are developed sufficiently, which IMO means more pages til the happily-ever-afters.

Occasionally, a mid-length novel (65,000 words) can do the job but probably if it’s a romantic comedy, in which the pace is queen. For those who would like to see how I handled this challenge, try out my romantic comedy Double Happiness. I’ve been accused of writing a very mannish book (for this one), but since I am one and this blog is about the male POV, I'll stand pat.
Sometimes, a TV try at this can go too far. I’m still watching Married At First Sight but I'm not enjoying it that much because it has, for me, become borderline clinical.
The best reality TV show for romance is The Bachelor or The Bachelorette. Try to remember that relative degrees of staging is what we writers do and then take a good look at this show and analyze the educational and/or entertainment value of the product and what insights it may offer a professional writer.
This season of The Bachelorette, ABC lost a golden opportunity to showcase two budding romances. Probably they couldn’t afford to have two women (and approx. twice the primetime air) work together at eliminations and who to pick for dates. Did anybody say catfights, drama, men getting emotional, on and on? Actually, Britt and Kaitlyn had gotten along really well.
Britt, who is part Cherokee, Swedish and Hungarian (I’m hungry) is a 15 on a scale of 10 and as one contestant put it, she’s a billion.
Kaitlyn is beautiful in her own right and has a great sense of humor. Couple that with a little bad-girl she keeps trying to tame (unsuccessfully) and you have drama over her arc or progression to monogamy during the story.
Anyway, at the end of the first episode, the men barely chose Kaitlyn over Britt and Britt left the show, but not entirely. Perhaps some of them thought Britt too beautiful to be trusted?
A Nashville singer/song writer politely asked Kaitlyn to be let go because his heart was set on pursuing Britt. BTW, Britt doesn’t just have stunning looks, she’s empathetic and nurturing.
Have no fear, Britt fans, you will see her at least one more time on this week’s show as the Nashville suitor knocks on her hotel door.
Here’s a Brian Seacrest interview of the Bachelorettes:
  
BTW, one of my dear friends who in her fifties said of beauty, men need choose more than just beauty because we all lose our charms over time. My dear friend, look in a mirror, you are still beautiful and your personality is a “billion.”

Extar credit. Below is for diehard fans of the show:
An ABC promo for the remainder of the season (pick the first video if more than one shows up):
https://video.search.yahoo.com/video/play;_ylt=A2KIo9RdLWJVsjcAymksnIlQ;_ylu=X3oDMTByZWc0dGJtBHNlYwNzcgRzbGsDdmlkBHZ0aWQDBGdwb3MDMQ--?p=the+bachelorette+2015+official+trailer+hulu&vid=a57d2331124ef98db691c0d413fa546c&l=4%3A29&turl=http%3A%2F%2Fts3.mm.bing.net%2Fth%3Fid%3DVR.6880626434178%26pid%3D15.1&rurl=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.hulu.com%2Fwatch%2F794054&tit=The+Bachelorette+2015+Official+Trailer&c=0&sigr=110ceb169&sigt=1168rs0kt&sigi=11msa7foe&age=1432091256&fr2=p%3As%2Cv%3Av&fr=yhs-mozilla-003&hsimp=yhs-003&hspart=mozilla&tt=b
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Published on May 24, 2015 12:08

May 17, 2015

Shut up and dance with me

Are you writing jazz or pop? Are you living jazz or pop?

The gatekeepers (agents or publishers) will tell you it must be pop if you want to travel the traditional route to publishing. On the average pop overwhelmingly outsells jazz.
 What is pop in writing? It’s an approved structure. You must have an inciting incident in scene one (something changes in a protagonist’s life that sets him/her on a new journey). Life must get progressively more difficult for your protagonist (black moments). The antagonist must be worthy of the fight. In romance, there must be a happily ever after.
 What is jazz in writing?
 A lyrical trip of beauty or ugliness in which the art holds sway over structure. The structure glimmers and is more likely felt than pinned down.
 If you are self-publishing you have a choice. If you have an artist’s soul, sing your black and white song and watch as readers blossom under the colors of their imagination. But there’s nothing wrong with pop as long as you keep your integrity and pay attention to the beauty of your story.If you are trying to pay bills choose pop. Either way, good luck.

In life, jazz is free spirit. Be true to yourself and walk your path with  head high.

Shut Up And Dance by Walk the Moon, 2014

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Published on May 17, 2015 10:40