Stephanie Dolgoff's Blog, page 17

Finally just right

DENISE WROTE: I was always the go along girl…lots of friends, always up for a dare, party from Weds to Sun and still make it to work on time. Never lacked a date or sat home alone. I moved away for a few yrs & when I came back single I was shocked at how old everyone had gotten. Gray, kids, overweight…what happened to them??? I went out with co-workers one night &…oh my god! I was the oldest person in the room! How did that happen? Well, 2 yrs later I'm a mom & now I can't remember why I...

Formerly cool

FORMERLY HIGH CQ WROTE: I used to have a High Cool Quotient.  I went to parties, museums, restaurants, bars, sporting events, the theatre, the ballet, . . out with friends, out making friends.  Now I am 'Uncool'.  A 'fun ruiner, party pooper' say my children.  I reminisce with other 'Formerlies' whenever I can.  It's the only way to get through it!!!

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Formerly not "a mother figure"

MAY POPPS WRITES: I got a pretty fair share amount of attention when I was in my 20's with little effort. After 3 kids, yo-yo weight issues that accompany that, at 39, I've had to put much more effort into looking good. I had been feeling better bout myself for a few weeks, lost some weight, got a tan, etc. But when a cute 22 yr old guy @ work asked me a questioned about payroll tax withholding "since I was a mother-figure around here" I was crushed! I was depressed for 2 weeks! But driven...

Formerly quarter-aged

ROBUNDLE WROTE: I have always been a pretty petite little dark-haired girl with large brown eyes.  I'm not as petite as I used to be, now that I am 48.  I never expected that I wouldn't be able to fit into my size 6 clothing.  I'm about an 8/10 now, and I prefer to view myself as "curvy".  I think "curvy" is a euphemism for a few extra pounds.  Anyway, I was at the hair salon a few weeks ago.  It is a wonderful salon with an Asian influence.  The man that owns the salon is from Laos.  He was ...

Formerly an Overachiever

NICOLE WROTE: What has happened to me?  I have just come to the sad realization that it has been more than 20 years since I graduated at the top of my university class at the age of 20.  Where am I now?  Unemployed (okay…I "consult"), but I am very, very good at what I do.  I just hate it.  Really, really hate it.  So much that I haven't been able to have a career that most people expected from me.  My scary next step…I am seeking a lower paying executive level position with a large...

Formerly had "pageant mentality"

[image error]NATALIE WROTE: I think the hardest part about losing my "hotness" has been the perimenopausal weight gain.  A lot of this has to do with my "pageant mentality".  I will never again be 110 pounds parading around on a stage in high heels dyed to match my one piece swimsuit. I was able to keep my weight at 122ish until I hit age 38.  Today (at almost 48) I weigh 140.  I am fit.  I run and take advanced group exercise classes at the YMCA.  Weight just stays on me and it will not budge.  In my...

Formerly Passed the Blame

LILLI WROTE: Here's a neat little story for you girls from another "Formerly"

A Middle-Aged Princess Grows Up

On the cusp of my 45th birthday, I made the mistake of looking in the mirror. It wasn't the bathroom mirror, it was a photo I had from graduate school. I looked at myself 20 years ago and had a startling and clear epiphany. It wasn't a happy moment. It was a terribly sad moment. It was so sad that I involuntarily burst into tears, something I haven't done since the dark days of my...

Hungover and out

Hangovers, when I occasionally had them in my 20s, used to result from the perfect storm of too much drinking, too little eating, and too much fun, followed by too little sleep (sometimes because I opted for sex instead).

These days, I don't even get the drunken privilege of debauching myself, and yet still manage to feel hungover, which doesn't seem right or fair. Between exhausting child care, anxiety that wakes me up at 4, getting dehydrated in the summer heat, and these bizarre allergies I...

What makes YOU happy?

A new friend asked me that question a few months ago, and I started tearing up, because I realized that in the lunancy of life–working, tending to family, being a Gigantic Book Whore and the surprisingly difficult and time consuming task of making sure I had the right color lanyards for two very crafty 7-year-old girls–I hadn't asked myself what makes me happy in way, way too long.

That question led to another question (AM I happy?) which led to a life inventory, which led to some renewed...

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