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Are You Being Bullied?

Insults and bullying are only effective when the bully offers you a judgment of you, and you start judging yourself in the same way.

Aggressive, abusive, threatening and insulting. Donald Trump’s recent conduct may be exceptional in a couple of ways; it is widely publicized and it is played out in the usually-restrained theatre of American politics. But research shows that a vast majority of people (72%) regularly deal with, or are victims of, this type of bullying behavior in their workplace.

Sadly, the majority of workplace bully situations are only resolved when the perpetrator moves on voluntarily. But I believe there are more effective, and more empowering ways, to deal with difficult personalities. The first vital step, he says, is to look at the situation clearly and honestly.

There are several things you can do to deal with aggressive and intimidating people in the workplace. The number one thing is to acknowledge them for what they are.

Most people, when they get an angry or an upset person in their life, tend to want to resist. But if you put up a barrier, they’ll keep hammering at you trying to get that barrier down. If, however, you let them express themselves without reacting back – if you pull their energy away from them – they will run out of steam and, pretty soon, everything’s done. You gain control.

Here are some practical tools to help you keep the bullies at bay:

Have allowance – Allowance is where everything is just an interesting point of view. If you can understand that this person is not “right or wrong,” they just have an interesting point of view, then you don’t have to take anything they say personally. You can see the situation as it is.
Practice gratitude – Insults and bullying are only effective when the bully offers you a judgement of you, and you start judging yourself in the same way. Gratitude and judgment cannot co-exist. Start today by having gratitude for what you have – even if seems small and insignificant. Choose to live life as a celebration now, not when everything gets sorted out.For 2 more tools and to read the full article in Inside Small Business, click HERE.

Is there a Trump in your workplace?

The Joy of Taxes

If you’re wondering what joy and taxes are doing in the same sentence, read on! The word “taxes” rarely evokes a sense of joy. It’s typically more like a sense of dread. But what if it didn’t have to be that way? What if there was a way to have ease and joy with taxes and even gratitude for all that you’re creating in your life which leads to paying taxes?

From my point of view, the purpose of taxes is to pay the least amount you can while paying something so the government believes you support them.

When you avoid paying taxes because you think they are bad, what are you creating? More money or less money? More ease or less ease? More joy or less joy?

Your point of view creates your reality. If you would like a different possibility with money and taxes, you have to change your point of view. One way you can do that is to say, “Interesting point of view. I have that point of view.” every time you notice a point of view about taxes (or anything else for that matter). What happens is that you unlock everything that you’ve decided is real and true about your point of view so that you can have choice.

What questions could you be asking instead of concluding that you don’t want to pay taxes?

When you don’t want to pay taxes, you create a future where you don’t generate enough money to pay taxes. Probably not your best choice. So instead of holding on to your conclusion, ask questions. Ask, “What else is possible?” or “How does it get any better than this?”

Here are some other questions you can ask:

How many more revenue streams could you add to your life so that you’re paying taxes has no relevance to how you live your life?

Where have you decided that money comes from? Does it have to come from a job, from your family, from winning the lottery? What if you had so many revenue streams generating money for you that paying taxes had no significance at all?

Start asking, “What can I add to my life that would create more money right away?”

How many revenue streams would you like to add to your life?  How much money would you really like to be creating? Ask the Universe, demand of you and see what shows up.

What would it take to be willing to pay exorbitant amounts in tax? (which means you’re generating tons of money)

Would you be willing to pay exorbitant amounts of taxes? If you’re not willing, how can exorbitant amounts of money come to you?

What if you committed to your life and living 100%? What if you were having so much fun creating and making so much money that when you paid your taxes you were joyful and grateful for all of it?

Keep asking questions. Choose gratitude. Ask for more. What energy, space and consciousness can you and your body be to have more money than god with total ease?

Find out more about Gary’s Telecall with Dr. Dain Heer about The Joy of Taxes, starting 28th November 2016 here.

Come Off of Wait into Create

When you are on wait instead of create, you start dying. When you come off of wait and start to create, you won’t asphyxiate.

How much energy are you using NOT to have an awareness of everything you are capable of creating?  A lot, a little, or megatons? Are you stopping the creation of your life by trying to order everything into existence rather than choosing the chaos that would allow you to create beyond your current reality?

Ask yourself, “What would I like to create now as my life?  What would be fun for me today?”

What if everything you created was just for the fun and joy of it? And, also recognize that if you are truly going to create a different possibility in your life you have got to be willing to function from the action of you the being.

Are you ready to come off of wait and to start creating the life and living you truly desire? Every day ask, “What action can I take today that will allow me to create my life and living the way I would like it to be right away?”

When we are functioning only from order, we slow ourselves down, we procrastinate, we don’t take action because we are trying to make sure that we choose the right action rather than simply being willing to choose.

Creation requires chaos. You create through and with chaos.  What would happen if you actually acknowledged that you create through and with chaos? What order, what definition and what limitation would you have to let go of?

If you are postponing the creation of your life and would like to come off of wait and into create, here are three things you can do:

Make a choice every 10 seconds

 You have 10 seconds to live the rest of your life, what do you choose? That 10 seconds is over. You have 10 seconds to live the rest of your life, what do you choose. That 10 seconds is over. Choose. Choose. Choose again. Choose again.

If you wish to create your life you have to start choosing. And, you have to get that choice is only good for 10 seconds. How present would you have to be in your life to choose every 10 seconds? How much would you actually create if you were choosing every 10 seconds?

The chaos of question rather than the order of conclusion

 How much are you trying to order your life by making sure that you have your ducks in a row? How much of the chaos of creation are you avoiding by trying to get everything right and follow a plan? How much does all of that send you to the place where you stop creating your life?

Would you like to change all of that? Ask questions! Start asking, “What else is possible?” all the time. Asking “what else is possible” opens the door to the creation of your life.

Just do it!

One of the things you’ve got to get is that there is generation, creation  and institution. These are the three elements for creating money, your life, your living, success, anything you really want. The generative energy is that which gives you the ideas, it’s the brilliance that comes in at these weird moments. It’s an energy. You take that energy and you bring it into creation and then you bring it into physical reality by starting to institute some things that will make it real. The institution is the place in which you do the actions you have to do on a daily basis.

The creation of your life requires action. What choice could you make today to come off of wait and into the chaos, fun, playfulness and abundance of create right away?

Find out more about Gary’s upcoming Telecall ‘Come off Wait into Create’ starting 3rd October 2016 here.

Four Elements of Generating Wealth

Growing up, my mom used to say, “You have champagne taste and a beer budget. So then I went, ok, I’m going to have a champagne budget and I’ll drink good beer.

As kids, a lot of us had the sense that everything should be available to us. When our parents gave us something, we still wanted more. Many of our parents said things like, ‘Why can’t you just be grateful for what I gave you?!” Our reply, “Because there’s more! Why aren’t you giving me everything?”

How many lies have you bought, under the guise that you can’t have everything? What if you could? What would happen if you allowed yourself to have it all? What if, rather than going into the judgment of it and wondering what you were doing wrong, you’d stop and say, “Oh! There’s a possibility here that I’m aware of. What’s it going to take to create it?”

Wealth and abundance are possible. More is possible. Are you willing to have it? What would it take for you to choose it?

4 Elements of Generating Wealth

1. Be Willing to HAVE Money

Are you willing to have money? Or just to spend money? If you are only willing to spend money, you have to spend everything you get. Rich people HAVE money and when you have money, you can CHOOSE where and when you’d like to spend it.

Here’s something you can try. Go to most expensive store in town. Ask, if money wasn’t an issue and I could have anything in this store, what would I choose here? 90% of what we think we want are the things we can’t afford. We’ve been taught that the things that are valuable are the things that cost the most and the things that we want are the things we can’t afford.

Can you afford to breathe air? No. You just choose to breathe it. What if you started looking at money like you look at air? If money was like breathing in and breathing out, would you allow yourself to have it?

2. Have Gratitude and Ask for More

You can have gratitude for everything that you have today and still ask for more. I have gratitude for all that I have AND I never stop asking, “What is possible beyond this?”

I have the unusual view that if I ask for more, more can show up. If I limit my asking, I will always be chasing a limited life. So I always ask for more.

I don’t consider myself a failure and I don’t get bent out of shape when my perfect life doesn’t show up. I am grateful for everything I’ve received and I keep asking for more. Gratitude invites more into my life in unexpected ways.

3. Recognize that the Purpose of Money is to Create More

Today’s choice creates tomorrow’s future. What you choose today determines the future you will have tomorrow.

Stop looking at how much money you’re going to get from working a job or teaching a class because that’s taking care of today’s “problem.” Look at everything you do from, “What future will this create?” “What future will I create with this choice?”

You have capacities that other people do not have. As you using them to create money? Or are you judging yourself about what you don’t create?

4. Add to your Life

We’ve been told that living life is all about having the house, the car, the wife or husband, the kids. Those are not about living your life. Those are the things that occur because you ARE living your life. Those are the things you can add to your life.

You want to ask every day, “What can I add to my life that will create more money right away?” Don’t take the point of view, I’m working 40 hours a week, I can’t do any more.

Have you ever heard the phrase, “If you want something done, give it to a busy man?” Give it to somebody busy, it always gets done. Why? Because busy people can get so much more done because they don’t see anything as a limitation. They see everything as a possibility. What is actually possible here if I choose different?

You can create wealth. You can live in abundance. Your choice creates. Will you choose it? Will you have it? Will you BE it?!

 

Facilitating Change

When you are facilitating someone through Access Consciousness processing, the client is the source of change or no change.

The question is the catalyst. You are the possibility, which is why the client came to you.  Your clients are looking for something that they have found impossible. You have shown them that there is possibility. You exude the element called possibility.

This is ultimately catalyst and contribution. If you see yourself as the source, then you always have to be wrong when you don’t succeed in giving them the change you have decided they should have. I never decide what someone should have. I just ask, ‘What can I do for you today?” Sometimes you can’t change things you think are important to change. Sometimes you have to wait until there is a moment that is appropriate for the person to choose to change.

“What is this?” is the source.

“What can I do with it?” is the possibility.

“Can I change it?” is the question.

“If so, how do I change it?” is the catalyst. The catalyst is always a contribution that the quantum entanglements support.

The more you choose consciousness, the more you will permeate people’s reality and the less they will be willing to hold onto their limitations.  Consciousness supports those who choose consciousness, and when you are willing to be the permeable laws of consciousness, it actualizes a different reality. You become a catalyst for change by being you, you change everybody around you.

 

You can join Gary Douglas for his upcoming 3-part Telecall, Facilitating a Facilitator to Write a Facilitating Facilitation, by clicking here. 

What’s Love Got To Do With …

What’s Love Got to Do With Relationships?

What has love got to do with anything? In a word? Nothing!

Many of you will crucify me for saying that, when, in reality, you choosing the distraction of love is what is crucifying you. Love has at least four trillion meanings, none of which create the gratitude that choosing your partner anew in every ten seconds can create.

Most of you use love as a form of commitment which backs you into the corner of no choice. The moment you make a commitment, you have to judge non-stop whether you and your partner are meeting that commitment. There is no space for gratitude, no space for anything except limiting what you can each contribute.

The reality is, you can’t generate your life from the past, which is often represented by the obligations and the promises you have made to keep others happy and comfortable. What if your promises were only good for ten seconds? What else could be possible beyond the limits of committing to a relationship that excludes you committing to your life?

So what else is possible?

You could uncreate and destroy everything your relationship has been every single day and then ask ‘okay, what’s possible today?’

You could choose to be present in the relationship every single day by asking ‘Truth, am I choosing this relationship today?’ Every choice is good for ten seconds. This gives you the freedom to be mad at your partner for ten seconds, and then to choose again.

You could choose to generate the relationship to be more in each moment, rather than relying on the past and what you have in common. Two great questions to ask are “If I was truly being me in this relationship, what would I choose? If I was truly being me in this relationship, what would I create?”

Taking this kind of approach will gift you an awareness of the gratitude you have for the person you are choosing relationship with. When you truly have gratitude for someone, there can be no judgement. Have you noticed how much judgement is projected at you in the name of ‘love’? What if there is another possibility? What if your phenomenal future together starts with gratitude, not love…?

Gary Douglas has written several books on the topic of Relationships, ‘Sex Isn’t a Four Letter Word, But Relationship Often Times Is‘ can be found in the Access Consciousness Shop along with ‘The Gentlemen’s Club‘, and ‘Salon des Femmes.’

Want to learn more?

We invite you to join Gary and Dain at the THE SEX & RELATIONSHIP CLASS – Creating a totally different reality!  On February 25, two options available: Live in Houston or streamed online.

Creating Business Differently

The Benevolent Leader’s Guide To Creating Business Differently

A benevolent leader will always desire to create a successful business for the good of all, not just the shareholders. If you know there must be a different way to create business, and you are seeking new possibilities, these strategies are the start of what is possible when you are willing to move beyond the boundaries and limitations of ‘normal’ business practice.

Are you willing to be as different as you are in business? What if this is the ‘competitive advantage’ you are seeking?

1. Stop maintaining the past and start creating the future.

Create your business from questions and possibilities, rather than the confines of a vision and mission. Many businesses diminish their success over time because they limit their choices to only that which fits with their goals, vision and mission. What else would be possible if you would expand your menu of choices to include everything which will create a sustainable future for the business and its stakeholders?

2. Be willing to change anything!

How many sacred cows is your business feeding? If you stopped feeding them and started asking questions about what else is possible, would you create a greater future? Unquestioned rules are the foundation of atrophy. Does your culture lean toward continual change or is it taking the slow train toward a dead end created by an unwillingness to change? What if nothing was set in stone… what could you choose that you have never chosen before?

3. Use choice to create greater possibilities.

Normal business practice is to gather information so you can make a choice. This approach is mostly based on not losing and minimising risk. What if it is your choice to expand your possibilities that creates the future you desire?

Ask: “What would I choose if I couldn’t lose? What choices can I make that go beyond getting it right and minimising risk? What choices do I have beyond the obvious?”

4. Stop the busy and do what you love.

When you are too busy to do what you love, everything contracts. Don’t ever allow your work to be too busy to do what gives you joy. Your life is not just work. Allow space to do what generates your life and expands your awareness of possibilities. When you return to work your  ideas often flow ‘from nowhere’ because you have opened the doors to receiving everything, rather than focusing on the task at hand.

5. Embrace Chaos Instead of Logic

Business is presented as a linear, logical activity that is totally controllable. The reality is totally different, but we love to pretend that it’s not. Business has become just like the emperor’s new clothes.

When you embrace the chaos and allow yourself to function from your knowing, all possibilities become available. Has there been just one moment this week where you had a conflict between logic and what you knew was really going on? If you begin to choose towards what you know, you will create greater and more sustainable possibilities for the future.

Every choice is good for ten seconds. Instead of getting it ‘right’ build the muscle of being willing to choose again as everything around you shifts and changes.

What’s Next?

When you stop doing ‘business as normal’ your business will create and generate energies that support growth, success and the joy of creating a sustainable and ever-expanding future. Are you willing to choose that over being followed, being liked or being popular? A true leader knows where they are going and goes where they are going, whether anyone follows or not. If you truly desire business to be different, the movement starts with you!

Learn more about Benevolent Capitalism here.

Does Benevolent Capitalism Work?

Every kind of ‘ism’ like socialism, capitalism was designed to make the world better. What is different about Benevolent Capitalism? It is designed to create a greater future for the good of all.

Does it work? Yes… if you will give up control and allow people to choose the contribution they can and will be. So what does that look like if you are leading a business?

1. Empower your team.

Allow the people on the frontline to choose and to contribute the information which can allow you to make better choices. As the boss you need to have information filtered down to you so you can create the future of your organisation in more dynamic ways.

2. Allow people to create their jobs.

How do you get someone to be the best they can be, and in doing so, support you in being the best you can be? What if people could work WITH you, rather than FOR you? If someone is working for you, they are not empowered.

When you are interviewing potential team members give them choice. Make a list of everything you need done and then ask: “These are the ten things I need done, which of these are you good at and which of them would you like to do?” Asking this kind of question invites people to be the most productive they can be.

3. Ask questions that create more for everyone.

Most leaders are trying to know the answers rather than ask the questions that can create more for everyone. A benevolent leader asks the questions that no-one is willing to ask. Ask your team questions that invite them to a greater future: “How do we create a sustainable planet that can generate a future that contributes to the good of all?” or “What question can I ask you that will expand what’s possible here?” Most leaders ask questions around solving problems. What if the only problems you have are the ones you create? What is beyond creating problems?

4. Be willing to lose anything.

When you are willing to lose anything, you are not holding on to having ‘the right answer’ and so you have more choice. You have to be willing to create non-stop, rather than holding onto what you’ve got for fear you will lose it in the future.

If you’re not willing to lose, then you’ve already decided you are going to lose; being willing to lose means you’re willing to step up to a new possibility. What else would you create if you were willing to lose everything you have and everything you know?

5. Be on the creative edge of possibilities.

When you are on the creative edge, your possibilities expand. When you are on the cutting edge of technology you are always trying to keep up with the next big thing. The creative edge opens up possibilities that cannot otherwise exist.

Using these principles, Access Consciousness has expanded into 173 countries worldwide. When you choose to be a benevolent leader your business becomes successful in ways that may not have even existed in the world before. What do you truly desire to create in the world?

Want to learn more?

Find out more here or or listen to the entire interview on Radio America, starting around 18 minutes here.

You… The Earth… & The Whispers of Consciousness

Is there something in your life you would love to change, and yet, it always seems unchangeable? The earth functions from consciousness. When you get more conscious, you will hear the whispers of consciousness that the earth is trying to deliver to you. Those are the whispers that can change the unchangeable in your world.

When you become more conscious, you stop destroying the earth with the ways you do things. Anger, rage, fury and hate create more damage to the planet than almost anything else. If you’re choosing to be distracted by these energies, you are choosing unconsciousness and anti-consciousness.

It’s kind of hard for the planet to whisper its awareness to you above the screaming intensity of your chosen distractions… have you noticed? If you would like to change this, you can begin by asking this question: “What is whispering at me that I don’t desire to hear?”

What if you would ask this every time you go outside in nature… would it create more space, more ease and more possibilities in your world than your usual head-tripping habits? The Earth Class is on in just a few weeks. It is an invitation to a totally different possibility with the earth.

Dr Dain Heer and I created The Earth Class because we are seeking big change on the planet. Are you aware your contribution to and with the earth is also required to create this change? That we cannot create it by ourselves?

What are we shooting for? There are a whole lot of changes going on with the earth, and you need to access this energy, this awareness that you have.

You need to be prepared for being the energy that can change everything and everyone around you, so that chaos and mayhem are not the standard by which people function in the future.

When you are willing to be these energies and have the awareness that the earth is whispering to you, anything you desire to change can and will change.

Will you allow the earth to nurture you through its contribution?

Will you nurture the earth with your willingness to receive the magic it offers you every single day?

Join Gary Douglas and Dr. Dain Heer at the upcoming Earth Class. Read the details here.

The Joy of Change & Creating A Phenomenal Life

Creating a phenomenal life cannot come from maintaining the status quo or making the tiniest change possible as a pretence that you are actually changing. A phenomenal life does not come from comfort. It comes from making everybody else uncomfortable. And that is incredibly comforting… have you noticed? Or are you still trying to keep everyone happy, even though they’ll never choose it?

When you attend an Access Consciousness 7 Day Class, one of the targets is creating a phenomenal life. What is that for you? A life where you have the best of this reality? Or a life where you live beyond what others think is possible?

A life full of joy, peace and kindness is one which makes other people incredibly uncomfortable. In my world, uncomfortable equals joy – which is the one thing you are absolutely unwilling to have.

Your idea of uncomfortable is not knowing how you fit in with anything or anyone. When you embrace the space of uncomfortable and you allow the need of fitting in to go away, you can begin to have the true joy of change, faster than you’ve ever imagined possible.

If you were willing to have the joy of uncomfortable, you would be totally at home with the earth, the animals and the wildlife and all of the space they create. You say you desire change. Are you willing to have everything that goes with it? The space? The uncomfortable? The joy?

Space creates. You can’t have a phenomenal life without it. You can’t be you without it. The next 7 Day Class is in South Africa in February, at an amazing game reserve surrounded by the wild. You have the choice to feed your awareness or feed the lions. If you are aware you will know where the lions are in your life and you will create the changes you require and desire. If you are not aware you are going to get eaten and not in a good way.

This may be the strangest invitation to creating a phenomenal life you have ever received. If it made you at all uncomfortable, it is exactly where you need to begin.

What energy, space and consciousness can you and your body be to have the joy of uncomfortable with total ease?

For more information about the Feed Your Awareness or Feed the Lions class, click here.