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October 23, 2015
Do You Feel Like A Prisoner With No Escape?
In GALATIANS 5:1 “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by the yoke of slavery.” I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve been freed from the bondage of my past and the yolk of oppression. Only to pick it back up time and again and lay the full weight of past pains, sins, abuses and rejection across my shoulders in a futile effort to carry it alone. Believing in with self-deception that I can somehow make right what is wrong, or even better fix that which I have not broken! Especially as apparent we want to hang on to that which we need to let go of, “our children!” We cannot always if ever bring the fallout of their lives or our relationships with them full circle. I have struggled and fought against the tide of letting go, releasing, in short loosening my grip on that which I do not own, possess or have control over. Therefore keeping me in chains and in prison, a prison of my own making and slavery by choice. Having an analytical triple AAA personality has definitely been a big hindrance for me. I have grasped and held on so tight, especially with my children that I have made it feel almost like life or death! Why do we want to stay in the imaginary chains of our own making? Is it because suffering although quite painful, sometimes even to the point of physical illness, deceives us into believing that the devil we know is better than the one(s) we don’t? Or, is it that we stay captive to the past and others through false sense of guilt and responsibility? My answer to you is, “Smell The Roses and Blow Out The Candles!” My freedom just like yours is as close as a choice away. Whom the father has set free is free indeed.
October 20, 2015
October 16, 2015
So God Made a Farmer and He Also Made YOU!
As my humble and calm spirited husband dries off a new born calf struggling to get it’s wobbly legs underneath him, the mother looks on with concern and care for her newborn calf. But as the frosty cold air of an early Spring morning in New England shocks the wet little calf, it snuggles down against the warm blanket that Mike is rubbing him with. Then baby and mother are set apart in a pen with warm fresh shavings & hay from the rest of the herd, for a time of connection and rest unencumbered by their aggressive and jealous peers.
A good farmer is committed to the health and well being of his animals, with often large quantities of time, energy, sleep deprivation and resources both financially and relationally. And farming is usually a “family affair” sacrifices have to be made by all.
What kind of sacrifices are we willing to make for each other and God? When I see my husband come back from the barn showing not even the slightest resentment or frustration for the time and energy it has taken for this new calf’s arrival. I have to ask myself and it also begs these same questions to be asked of all of us; Why is it that when we are receiving and things are going our way that we feel our best? All is right with the world. But, when we have to be taken out of our comfort zone or give of ourselves sacrificially, we often get angry and frustrated. I don’t mean used or taken advantage of without boundaries. I mean as long suffering and patient as a farmer is with his livestock and land, and God is been and has been with us.
Why is it that the commitments others make to us are heartbreaking when they are broken, Yet when we want to bail and renege on something or a relationship that seems to inconvenience us, we find excuses or some way out? What makes us different than the diligent farmer? Choice, a sense of obligation(s), good character and a sense of accountability to God and others. It’s nice for all creatures great and small to have the comfort of loving care and the warmth of loving arms to help us when we feel lost, alone or cold. So the next time you think about who you could be like, remember we’re all farmers and stewards of God’s land, His creatures and each other. We all need times of rest and to feel unencumbered by life and others, but we also need to be steadfast in what we are called to do.
May God Bless and Keep you always my friends,
Maggie Miller
October 12, 2015
Mothers and Their Children Get a Grip!
To start off with this post is specific to someone who is a good friend of mine on here. We talked today and to you I dedicate this post. Before going on my song and dance about forgiveness and accountability; Let me just say in reference to the mother question, “NO under no circumstance regardless of what has happened should a parent stop being a parent even if it’s no more than to extent that they have the humility and love of a true mothers spirit, to acknowledge that child. Especially if they’re are leaving the state and there’s a good possibility you may never see each other again!
To that end I say; “Let’s all take a tube of tooth paste and squeeze every drop out onto a paper plate. Now put it all back in the tube.” You can’t!!
So below are many pictures of many mothers and children. Regardless of how “motley” this crew is their connected through conception and birth. Life has been extended. So, step up if you’ve had issues and or a head problem, drinking problem, man problem, whatever? With a genuine spirit and a humble heart ask forgiveness of your child(children). And DON”T talk about the excuses YOU had for what happened. face the music. Play the fiddler if you had your dance.
On the flip side of that coin, because theirs always your side of the nickel recipient child, if you have a parent who has enough self-respect and respect for you and offers accountability. Either take it with compassion and grace because it’s your parent and you would finally like peace and harmony for both of you. If can’t let it go child and you can’t get the humility to admit you were a screwed up parent at times. Shame on both of you!!
Life is short. Get a handle on it so no one else has the chance to handle it for you! There for GOD’S Grace We All Go.
October 11, 2015
Iddle hands are the devils workshop!
Maggie Miller
When the dark clouds of emotions and loss overwhelm me I tapped into a God given gift that has saved me at many desperate times in my life. I COOK! Doing something with ours hands gives us a way to not only distract us from overwhelming pain and anxiety, but it empowers us to see that we are creative and gifted individuals with something to offer. The process of sometimes making one recipe after another distracts me not only from my pain, but from past addictions and destructive behaviors. Then I share and gift the fruits of my labor, the gift from the hands that God connected to my mind, body and soul. The completion is tangible and real, where anxiety is from satan himself trying to trick us into hopelessness. Don’t buy into. Buy into a gift or skill you have God has given us all something. Please don’t let empty hours of this worlds broken promises and pain consume the peace of God’s gifts and timing. If you don’t feel “crafty” then clean a closet or a junk drawer, read a good book, make out Christmas cards early. If it’s winter and your stuck in side, clean that hutch full of dishes, go through the attic. There is always something we can do.
Thoughts about those I love!
Colleen Bruce @1965clb 27m27 minutes ago
Be sure before you walk out the door of a home filled with love and security that your headed to a better place!
October 6, 2015
Good-Bye To my Jessie!
There is something in knowing when to let go of our children and loved ones. We have to live and face the death that we will all come to in the reality of accepting,( I didn’t say; “liking”) that God loves us and our children more than we ever could image. Logan’s video expresses this in the simplest and most humble form, the love of a farm animal, God’s love for us, but above all else that loss is always the common denominator.
We can’t lash others to us, nor can we anchor ourselves to another human being or a post to prevent us from danger or death. As my daughter, Jessie leave tomorrow morning on 10/7/2015 alone on a trip to an unknown place, unknown culture and putting all her faith and trust into a brief experience with another human being as the move of happiness and hope of happiness. I HAVE TO LET GO! I have to force my self to remember that as her mother, I can save her from everything in this life, but herself. That God loves her more than me and no longer does she belong to me, that was only for a short time while I did the best job I knew how to at the time through growing year. Over to Him (God) is where she belongs know, no longer to me does she have to answer, but to her Father and Mother in Heaven to whom she like all of us have to give an account of her life too.
So, I am left now only to pray and cry out to Him, to open whatever blinders on her eyes that need to be removed and for His Holy Spirit to convict and direct her paths. God Bless you my dear little one, Jessie, whom God knows and loves better than I.
October 2, 2015
Maggie Miller Guest Speaker Women’s Club Milton, NH
Thursday October 8th 2015
Author Maggie Miller / Colleen Bruce @ 7:00 pm will be the guest speaker @ The Milton Women’s Club in Milton, NH A book signing will follow.
Dear Lord, help all of us to take our own inventory before be go out and speak our truths before the world. In Jesus name we pray.
If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us ours sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word has no place in our lives. 1John 1:8-10
September 29, 2015
Are Emotions Breaking Your Back?
In Karol Truman’s Book; “Feelings Buried Alive Never Die” Karol explains how emotional pain, trauma, loss and abuse can be directly related to physical ailments. Here are some examples of probably causes of physical “fallout!” When the conscious mind tries to deny and block the reality of our real emotional pain or a situation or problem we just cannot face, our sub-conscious mind has to deal with and release this un-addressed pain somewhere. IE your back is just one example of how emotional pain, trauma and stress are going to show up and come out somewhere in the physical body.
BACK – UPPER:
Feels unsupported or burdened emotionally
Withholding your love from others
Feeling agitated or anxious
Feelings of frustration
BACK – MIDDLE:
Feeling guilty
Lacking self-support
Lacking in self-confidence
BACK-LOWER:
Feels unsupported financially
Fear where money is concerned
Wanting to back out of something
In a relationship that hurts
Running away from a situation
