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'I Still Don't Feel Like I'm In Love'

All three Married at First Sight couples are still married six months after they said 'I do' as strangers, but one pair shocked the show's experts when they admitted that they still haven't consummated their marriage. 
On Thursday night's reunion episode of the Lifetime reality series, Cody Knapek, 26, and his wife Danielle DeGroot, 30, admitted that they have not had sex yet, but they are still together and working on their marriage. 
Danielle blamed their lack of intimacy on the fact that she is still not in love with her husband, even though they have been living together for half of a year.  
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4762252/Married-Sight-couple-hasn-t-consummated-marriage.html#ixzz4pBOmHWhh

Are You Dating a Psychopath?

Relationships with psychopaths start out almost perfect - they are terrific lovers who are charming, while hiding a lack of empathy, an expert has revealed.
So given their ability to manipulate others, how easy can you spot one?
Have you ever found yourself walking on eggshells around the person you're sharing a bed with? Or whether they have used your insecurities to make you feel special?
The signs may be in front of you, but how do you know what to look out for?
Australian author David Gillespie has shared some signs to identify whether your significant other has any psychopathic traits.
Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4764972/PSYCHOPATH-relationship-Expert-reveals-traits.html#ixzz4pBJyejVw

How To Tell If It's a Karmic, Companion or Twin Soul Relationship

One of the most frequent questions I am asked is how to tell the difference between a karmic soul mate, companion soul mate or twin soul. One thing you need to remember is that all soul mates - whether it is an ongoing relationship or a tragic one - are just as important as the other.

If you want to believe outside the box (which I do), I wholeheartedly believe that we have not one soul mate but many. If this is true, how would we even start to differentiate between them?

Let's begin with the karmic soul mate. A karmic soul mate is more or less a very close friend or family member for whom you have a special connection. You realize there is a special connection but it goes much deeper. There may or may not be sexual relations (only applies to friends; God help you if it is family). But the sex part would only occur if it was mainly a physical thing and more than likely there would be no marital relations with this person unless the two of you evolve into the companion soul mate category which we'll talk about next. Companion soul mates can start off as friends first after all. So, not to confuse you, a karmic soul mate is a friend or family member who comes into your life to be by your side indefinitely. Even if life takes you thousands of miles away, you still are connected to him or her and they of you. So how to tell if that special person who is in your life is your karmic soul mate? It's someone who comes into your life to have your back, is there for you when the chips are down and loves you unconditionally.

The companion soul mate differs from the karmic. This special person may end up as your husband or wife and with the purpose of extending the "family" way of life. It may or may not end up with having kids but all the qualities of the companion soul mate points to it. For example, if the couple can't have kids, this still puts them in the companion soul mate category. It's usually the one you marry or you may just live together depending on the circumstances. While the companion soul mate category does have karmic soul mate qualities, it's a whole category of itself. If you were in a karmic soul mate category and you end up marrying this person and having sexual relations, more than likely this is your companion soul mate. Does the companion soul mate relationship last? What's eerie about this category is that this is the one category that could be the most volatile. What I mean by that is that divorce is always looming because other soul mates come into one or the other's life which causes problems.  However, if the couple can get through whatever problem enters their relationship with flying colors through communication and unconditional love, this relationship will be successful.

The third soul mate category is the coveted twin soul. The twin soul relationship is often misunderstood as "the one." Everyone believes there is a "the one" for them. Why this is misunderstood is because all the soul mates who come into your life do so for specific reasons. Your twin soul is just as important as your karmic or companion soul mate. Think of your life as a road map. Begin at Point A (birth) and end at Point B (physical death). Most people over the age of 60 for example can retrace their life and come up with someone who they believed to be their twin soul. For those under 30 for example, they've only lived half their life so hope is still there if they don't believe they've found their twin soul yet. The funny thing about it is that your twin soul may have already entered your life only you didn't realize it. That spiritual connection is your key to figuring out who this might be. And what's lovely about this is that it can be man, woman, whatever. See why this is often a hard category to figure out given the fact we think the twin soul mate is "the one"? All soul mates are important. There are some people who are more in tune to their spiritual side and this helps tremendously because the twin soul mate matches the spiritual side of you. What is terrible about this relationship is that it often ends tragically. Think Romeo and Juliet. Not to say yours will end tragically of course. If you believe in many lives, your twin soul comes into each life so if it does end tragically, you will see him or her in another life. It just wasn't meant to be in this lifetime and that's why the coveted twin soul is the hardest soul mate to attain.

What we can learn from this is that all soul mates who enter your life do so for reasons that correlate to your life's path in this life. There are many more to come in future lives.

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Maybe It Wasn't Meant To Be Before Now...

Ahh...serendipity. Serendipity means the occurrence and development of events by chance in a happy or beneficial way. By "chance" is your key word here. When something happens by "chance" in a happy way, it's like the most beautiful thing. When you are looking for your soul mate and tend to force it (impatient people know what I'm talking about) and it doesn't happen, you get frustrated. But when it happens by chance, you can only shake your head at the luck.

I read the most heartwarming story today at Huffington Post. Check it out and watch the video when you get a chance. It's heartbreaking when people give up finding their soul mate. Sometimes even they think they have found them only it backfires. I've given reasons before about this and one of the main things is that the timing was all wrong. What gives us hope is that if it was meant to be, they will come back into your life when the timing is right. Just keep thinking about that path you are destined to walk and the lessons you need to learn along the way before that happens. You can't go to Point A and expect to reach Point B in a day. Or a week. Or perhaps years. And people get impatient and rightly so. But...until the one that you perceive as the one you want to give you unconditional love forever comes into your life, meet your other soul mates who are put on that path to bring you important lessons or you bring them. Life is funny who it works that way.

Something fun you can do before that happens, make a list of all the people you connected with on a spiritual basis - good or bad. Past boyfriends/girlfriends - family members and pets too - anyone living and breathing who you connected with on a special level, and think of how they enriched your life. After you are finished, look the list over again and see if anyone stands out over the other? That could be your cue. Like they say....maybe it wasn't meant to be before now.

May all your soul mate dreams come true!

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My Boyfriend Is Too Friendly With His Ex and It's Driving Me Nuts

My boyfriend of two years is what I believe to be my soul mate. He has an unusual relationship with his ex though. They have three children together and he's constantly over to his ex's house telling me it's just to see the kids but she's constantly texting and calling him for one thing or another. If she needs something, he's right there and gets mad when I bring up the fact that I don't like it. I love him but because of a health issue, he isn't passionate towards me like he used to be but this is the main thing that irritates me. Am I making too big of a deal about this? Sometimes I wonder if I'm seeing something that isn't there. But still, it's driving me nuts. Please help?

I always tell people to go with their gut. If you are feeling something is off, not all might be right in Denmark. The first thing people should do is not to dismiss any kind of intuition regarding their relationships or anything else about their life. If you are into your body's reaction to any kind of stimuli, you can do it and should listen to it. On the other hand, some people go off the deep end because they are not reading their mate's actions correctly and that is probably why you are questioning the situation.

The soul mate relationship aside, let's talk about what is going on here, then we'll delve into the soul mate aspect of it and this might help. I think the one reason you are reading more into it is that when you mention that he's not passionate toward you regardless of the fact that it might be because of a health issue, that sends a message to your brain that he isn't in love with you like he once was. The fact that he is spending time with his ex contributes to your insecurity over this and justly so. I figure that you've already talked to him about this when you mention that he blows up whenever you bring it up.

Let's try to figure out why both of you get angry when this happens first.

We tend to take things at face value. You see it that he's cheating. He sees it that he's visiting his children. Reality might suggest he's honestly seeing his children but since he's not showing you much interest, you see it as cheating in a nondescript way.  People in the worse health conditions possible can still find ways to show their mate attention and love if they actually and genuinely love their mate. Does he cuddle? Does he give you things that doesn't have to cost a lot of money or any money such as a freshly picked flower out of a field? Does he respond to your calls for help without offering excuses? If not, then we do have a problem.

So let's look at it from the soul mate point of view.

Everyone has certain people who come into their lives for specific reasons and they can be called your soul mates. Some soul mate relationships can be fulfilling while others can be learning lessons in order for you to grow. Aside from love, what other reason can you say your soul mate came into your life? There will always be a reason.

Some soul mates come into your life to teach you something or you teach them and they are often your karmic soul mates. Some come into your life for childbearing and they are called companion soul mates. Some come into your life on the cusp which brings in both karmic and companion soul mate qualities.

Your boyfriend and his ex were/are companion soul mates. No matter what. They came into each other's lives for the reason to have children unbeknownst to either one of them perhaps. Even though they drifted apart, that connection still exists. They both CHOSE to go separate paths and it's not fair to you for him not to acknowledge this if he doesn't show it.

What he needs to do is create boundaries which may or may not be in his makeup. In order for your relationship to work, he needs to separate both relationships. It's like the soul mate gods are playing tag with him - go this way, go that way...

Nothing will ever get fixed until he acknowledges that what he has with you needs to be paid more attention to. Little does he know, that when this happens, he will finally be on the right path. I can't believe that you were only brought into his life to be put through misery. No one deserves that and everyone deserves happiness.

My advice would be for him to realize that what he has with you will be jeopardized until he learns to separate both relationships and look upon the relationship with you as something that should be nurtured and celebrated. If he can't do that, it's time to rethink the relationship.

Six Ways To Lose Your Soul Mate

Soul mates. The very phrase conjures up images of happily-ever-after and someone to lean on when things get tough. And then...reality check. You find yourself sitting home watching Blind Date with a boxful of tissues because your supposed soul mate ditched you for that co-worker you just knew was putting the moves on your one and only.

No one likes to be in this situation, but it’s happened to the best of us. As they say, some things are meant to be, but were there some things that could have been preventable?

Read the rest of article at Huffington Post.

My Visit to A.R.E. - Synchronicity or Not?

When authors do research for their books, they use different methods to get the information they need.  They scour the Internet, go to libraries (some still do!) and sometimes synchronicity comes into play.

I just returned from a trip to Virginia Beach with my boyfriend.  We walked the Boardwalk (Neptune was huge!), visited the Aquarium (if you haven't, you need to), but the one place we visited became the most important part of our trip.

Here I am at the Aquarium:



I want to call it a journey.  Unbeknownst to me, it was the most gratifying not because of the spiritual feel of the place, but because it helped me in my journey to get the word out about soul mates.

It is called A.R.E. (Association for Research and Enlightenment).  I'm not even sure why it was so important to go, only that I really wanted to go there.  We were running out of time after the Aquarium, but I managed to talk my boyfriend into stopping there.



For those who do not know, A.R.E. is an institute honoring Edgar Cayce.  Edgar Cayce was a prophet back in the day. I had done a lot of research on Cayce when I was putting together Romancing the Soul, starting with purchasing my first book about Cayce, Edgar Cayce on Soul Mates by Kevin J. Todeschi.  Was I surprised to find out Cayce and I agreed on the same philosophy about soul mates.  A lot of people think they only have one soul mate and Cayce (along with myself) wanted to get the word out that we have more than one soul mate and each one comes into your life for a special reason and to teach you something in your journey to find higher self.

Walking in, I could feel the butterflies.  I was walking into Cayce's life and teachings.

We browsed the gift shop.  I purchased two Buddhas for myself, a BELIEVE stone for my daughter and some incense for my son.

It was getting late but as we walked past the front desk, a woman stopped us and asked us if it was our first time there.  Before you knew it, she was filling us with so much information about Cayce, it was blowing my mind.

Then...my boyfriend told her I write books and before I knew it she and I were discussing soul mates.  And that's when she said why don't I put my books in the gift shop.

I had never even considered doing that.  Romancing the Soul is in paperback which I had a boxful of but my upcoming book, Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Soul Mates And Were NOT Afraid to Ask unfortunately is going to start out as an ebook.  Or that was my intention.  However, if I can get Romancing the Soul in there first, I could really consider turning Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Soul Mates and Were NOT Afraid to Ask into paperback.

Now, if I had not walked in that institute that day, I would never have even known there was a really good possibility I could get my books stocked there by consignment.  What the perfect place and what's really cool about it is that my books mention Edgar Cayce!

Gut instincts....never underestimate your gut instincts.  I knew there was a reason I needed to go.

Oh, here's a picture of me walking the labyrinth.  I want to do it again!

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