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January 1, 2019

The New Year is here!  A chance to START OVER and begin anew!  
The Apostle Paul states in Philippians verse 13-14, “but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” 

In order to move forward - we must remain unencumbered. No baggage allowed!    
There’s a familiar saying we’ll hear over and over again in the next week: “I’m making a New Year’s resolution to …” Well, I’ve decided to say, “I’m making a New Life resolution.”

The world view of resolutions run the gamut from diets and exercise, to spending and vices, manners and tempers, to everything in-between. As a Christian, I’m going to focus on “life style” resolutions that revolve around Christ and His example. Sure, we all have plenty of other things to work on, including those mentioned above. However, Jesus wants us to exhibit His qualities and attributes as we walk in this world. Our light needs to shine a bit brighter, and our salt needs to retain more saltiness as the days grow dimmer and more sinful (Matthew 5:13-16).

King David expressed his sentiments regarding the Lord’s leading. (Psalm 141:3-4) “Set a guard, O Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips. Do not incline my heart to any evil thing…” (Psalm 143:8) “Cause me to hear Your lovingkindness in the morning, for in You do I trust; cause me to know the way in which I should walk, for I lift up my soul to You.”

I want to resolve to walk in the path God has for me, and to guard my mouth and heart. I need God’s eye upon me, and His gentle hand of correction as I journey through this life. I rely more upon Him now than I did as a new believer. Year by year, I recognize His new mercies and faithfulness towards me. I am amazed at His forbearance with me as I fall short of His standard. Praise God there is no condemnation, but only love and encouragement through His Word.

The Apostle Paul instructs us to know Christ in an intimate way. That intimacy caused him to “press on and lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me.” (Philippians 3:10-12) We have a revelation from Christ that brings a fresh, spiritual comprehension, which in turn gives us apprehension to live out our Christianity with boldness. Our confidence cannot be in our flesh, but in the power of God. Look to Him with the expectation of what He can do in us and through us.


Isaiah called Israel to not dwell on the past - but to move forward towards God's promises of deliverance and a future of hope: "Do not remember the former things, Nor consider the things of old. Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert."

What a great lesson for the New Year and our “New Life” resolution. Look forward, not backwards. Keep your eye on Jesus and the heavenly goal. Pattern your new ideas and habits on what the Word teaches. Model yourself after your Maker and Master. Fix your gaze upon Jesus…He’s all you need to walk in the newness of life.






Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It was written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.    Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com


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Published on January 01, 2019 18:43

December 14, 2018

“For unto us a Child is born, unto us a Son is given; and the government will be upon  His shoulder.
And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.”  (Isaiah 9:6)

This Christmas will be a little different than most. My mother just passed away days ago from liver cancer. It took all of us by surprise. There were few warning signs and the PET scan revealed devastating results. In less than a month she had two hospital stays and she was in Hospice for less than a week.

My sister, husband, and I decorated her accommodations for Christmas. We had just surprised her at home with the same decorations two weeks earlier. Now we were trying to provide her with some comfort and memories in her Hospice room. We played Christmas music and held her hand. We told her how much we loved her. She had brief visits from her great-grand children.

Now I'm making funeral arrangements and planning a memorial service to celebrate her life. She was a Christian, and that has made all the difference for me these past few days...

I don’t know about you, but I desperately need an extra measure of peace, not only in our present day and time, but especially during the holiday season. The biblical key to  peace  is Christ’s Authority!

Webster defines “ peace ” in this way: a state of tranquility or quiet; a state of security or order within a community; a state or period of mutual concord; without strife or disorder… When the Lord Jesus becomes your Lord and Savior, you gain access to His peace.

The Book of Isaiah uses the word  peace  26 times. God promised the nation of Israel peace when they returned wholeheartedly to the Lord. Isaiah 26:3 says, “You will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on You, because he trusts in You.” In 32:17 Isaiah tells us, “The work of righteousness will be peace, and the effect of righteousness, quietness and assurance forever.” Again in Isaiah 48:17-18, 22, “Thus says the Lord, you Redeemer, the Holy One of Israel: ‘I am the Lord your God, Who teaches you to profit, Who leads you by the way you should go. Oh, that you had heeded My commandments! Then your peace would have been like a river, and your righteousness like the waves of the sea’…’There is no peace,’ says the Lord, ‘for the wicked.’”


The apostle Paul concluded the book of II Thessalonians with this benediction, “Now may the Lord of peace Himself give you peace always in every way. The Lord be with you all.” Ephesians 2:14 states, “For He Himself is our peace, who has made both one, and has broken down the middle wall of division between us.” Paul also says in Philippians 4:7, “and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”

More importantly, Jesus Himself says in John 14:27, “Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.”

When you have Jesus as the center of your life, He is the “still water” and tranquility you need to sustain you in a world of turmoil and chaos. He is our example of peace and our inspiration for peace. When we make peace with Jesus, we are no longer at enmity with God. Our salvation guarantees us peace forever with our Creator.

Jesus becomes our peace as we bend our knee to His Authority. Because He is the Vine and we are the branches (John 15), we are to receive that peace from His reservoir. Peace comes to those who gladly receive downstream that which Jesus begins upstream. We find our security in Who He is. Colossians 3:15 says, “And let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also you were called in one body; and be thankful.” He is the source of a peace that surpasses all understanding…









Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It was written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.  Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com
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Published on December 14, 2018 19:18

November 18, 2018

Thanksgiving Day  is a holiday celebrated in the United States and Canada. Its origin is a matter of debate, but most likely it is based on the traditional “first  Thanksgiving ” harvest meal shared in 1621 at the Plymouth Colony Plantation by the Pilgrims and a group of native Americans.  Thanksgiving  is generally observed on the fourth Thursday of November in the United States. It is often a day for watching football games, parades, and TV specials. It usually begins the Christmas shopping season (known as Black Friday) and ushers in the start of Christmas cards, tree trimming, gift wrapping, and family gatherings. This holiday provides a valuable opportunity for the strengthening of family bonds, expressions of gratitude, and a reminder of God’s rich blessings.

Wikipedia states, “The first  Thanksgiving  feast lasted three days providing enough food for 53 pilgrims and 90 Native Americans. The feast consisted of fowl, venison, fish, lobster, clams, berries, fruit, pumpkin, and squash. William Bradford noted that, "besides waterfowl, there was great store of wild turkeys, of which they took many”, probably gave rise to the American tradition of eating turkey at  Thanksgiving .”

It is also a tradition for US Presidents to issue a pardon to the White House  Thanksgiving  Turkeys. Since about 1947 the National Turkey Federation has presented the President of the United States with one (and in recent years - two) live turkey(s) in a ceremony known as the National  Thanksgiving  Turkey Presentation. The live turkeys are pardoned and live out the rest of their days on a farm or, since 2005, sent to either Disneyland in California or Walt Disney World in Florida, where they serve as the honorary grand marshals of Disney's  Thanksgiving  Day Parade.


As Christians, we acknowledge God’s goodness and provision in our expression of  Thanksgiving . God’s Word implores us to give thanks to Him. Both Old and New Testament books of the Bible encourage us to have an attitude of gratitude. Psalm 50:14 tells us to, “Offer to God thanksgiving.” Psalm 95:2 says, “Let us come before His presence with thanksgiving…” The Apostle Paul, in Philippians 4:6 declares, “…in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.” We are to develop and display a grateful heart. 

One of my favorite psalms is 136.  It begins with verses 1-3 - thanking God for His Goodness.  "Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever. Oh, give thanks to the God of gods! For His mercy endures forever.  Oh, give thanks to the Lord of lords! For His mercy endures forever."  So much we have to be thankful for!  Our families, our health, our jobs, our homes, and our ability to worship unhindered.

Thank Jesus for your salvation.  If we had nothing else to be thankful for, that would be sufficient.  Oh, how we thank Him for rescuing us from certain destruction and eternal doom.  In II Corinthians 9:15 Paul says this, “Thanks be to God for His indescribable gift!” 


This  Thanksgiving , make it a priority to focus on faith, family, and giving.  The blessing we receive from meeting the needs of someone else is huge.  Give to your local shelter, or volunteer your time.  Do something different as a family, and make a memory by serving others in your community.  Help distribute gift baskets at church to the needy, or invite a co-worker who doesn't have immediate family nearby for a home-cooked meal and fellowship.

It’s fun to start your own family traditions for the  Thanksgiving  holiday. Kids can make homemade decorations, and you can bake special pies and loaf cakes from the abundance of the fall fruits and vegetables. Watch the annual Macy’s Day Parade together. Head outside and take a nature walk, collecting leaves, pine cones, and other trinkets to display as a centerpiece on your table. Involve kids in the dinner menu selection and preparations. Say a family blessing and let each member shares what they are thankful for. There are so many wonderful ways to celebrate this special day.

What are some of your  Thanksgiving Day  traditions at your house?









Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It was written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.   Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com
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Published on November 18, 2018 20:42
Thanksgiving Day  is a holiday celebrated in the United States and Canada. Its origin is a matter of debate, but most likely it is based on the traditional “first  Thanksgiving ” harvest meal shared in 1621 at the Plymouth Colony Plantation by the Pilgrims and a group of native Americans.  Thanksgiving  is generally observed on the fourth Thursday of November in the United States. It is often a day for watching football games, parades, and TV specials. It usually begins the Christmas shopping season (known as Black Friday) and ushers in the start of Christmas cards, tree trimming, gift wrapping, and family gatherings. This holiday provides a valuable opportunity for the strengthening of family bonds, expressions of gratitude, and a reminder of God’s rich blessings.

Wikipedia states, “The first  Thanksgiving  feast lasted three days providing enough food for 53 pilgrims and 90 Native Americans. The feast consisted of fowl, venison, fish, lobster, clams, berries, fruit, pumpkin, and squash. William Bradford noted that, "besides waterfowl, there was great store of wild turkeys, of which they took many”, probably gave rise to the American tradition of eating turkey at  Thanksgiving .”

It is also a tradition for US Presidents to issue a pardon to the White House  Thanksgiving  Turkeys. Since about 1947 the National Turkey Federation has presented the President of the United States with one (and in recent years - two) live turkey(s) in a ceremony known as the National  Thanksgiving  Turkey Presentation. The live turkeys are pardoned and live out the rest of their days on a farm or, since 2005, sent to either Disneyland in California or Walt Disney World in Florida, where they serve as the honorary grand marshals of Disney's  Thanksgiving  Day Parade.


As Christians, we acknowledge God’s goodness and provision in our expression of  Thanksgiving . God’s Word implores us to give thanks to Him. Both Old and New Testament books of the Bible encourage us to have an attitude of gratitude. Psalm 50:14 tells us to, “Offer to God thanksgiving.” Psalm 95:2 says, “Let us come before His presence with thanksgiving…” The Apostle Paul, in Philippians 4:6 declares, “…in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.” We are to develop and display a grateful heart. 

One of my favorite psalms is 136.  It begins with verses 1-3 - thanking God for His Goodness.  "Oh, give thanks to the Lord, for He is good! For His mercy endures forever. Oh, give thanks to the God of gods! For His mercy endures forever.  Oh, give thanks to the Lord of lords! For His mercy endures forever."  So much we have to be thankful for!  Our families, our health, our jobs, our homes, and our ability to worship unhindered.

Thank Jesus for your salvation.  If we had nothing else to be thankful for, that would be sufficient.  Oh, how we thank Him for rescuing us from certain destruction and eternal doom.  In II Corinthians 9:15 Paul says this, “Thanks be to God for His indescribable gift!” 


This  Thanksgiving , make it a priority to focus on faith, family, and giving.  The blessing we receive from meeting the needs of someone else is huge.  Give to your local shelter, or volunteer your time.  Do something different as a family, and make a memory by serving others in your community.  Help distribute gift baskets at church to the needy, or invite a co-worker who doesn't have immediate family nearby for a home-cooked meal and fellowship.

It’s fun to start your own family traditions for the  Thanksgiving  holiday. Kids can make homemade decorations, and you can bake special pies and loaf cakes from the abundance of the fall fruits and vegetables. Watch the annual Macy’s Day Parade together. Head outside and take a nature walk, collecting leaves, pine cones, and other trinkets to display as a centerpiece on your table. Involve kids in the dinner menu selection and preparations. Say a family blessing and let each member shares what they are thankful for. There are so many wonderful ways to celebrate this special day.

What are some of your  Thanksgiving Day  traditions at your house?









Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It was written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.   Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com
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Published on November 18, 2018 20:42

September 17, 2018

The holidays are quickly approaching. Are you dreading another family gathering? Do you get exhausted just thinking about all the planning, preparation, and energy it will take to keep it all from unraveling?
God has a way of "pulling us away" to a place of rest and restoration.   

Sometimes it is by invitation, or by His divine appointment.  Other times it is through His grace and coercion. When the weight of the world is pressing down and a sense of heaviness invades your soul, steal away time to refresh yourself. 

Oftentimes the outdoors will rejuvenate you. Go for a walk, take in nature's wonders, and reflect on your heavenly Father's love and care for you. Steal a few moments to separate yourself from others. Take a short nap, or put on your favorite praise & worship music. Read His Word, delving into the Psalms or the gospel of John which is His love letter to us. Discover God's powerful presence and attributes as you meditate on His Goodness.
Here are three things that can indicate a real need for rest:
1.  Lack of focus      ~ You are increasingly unable to think clearly due to fatigue, distraction, or over commitment. You have a difficult time staying on task and often drift away mentally. You can barely put one foot in front of the other to finish a task.

2.  Lack of purpose     ~ Go back in time and reflect on the early days of your spiritual conversion. Recall that God-given mandate you received from the Lord. Re-evaluate your spiritual gifts and remember the contentment and fulfillment you once enjoyed.

3.  Lack of passion     ~ Identify what drives you to do what you do. God gives you a divine zeal. He loves to reveal His purpose for your life. Let His Word and Spirit direct your heart and pathway ahead. Remember, His way is easier and less burdensome. 

Scripture is full of examples for the need to rest and be refreshed...
King David often petitioned God in the Psalms to give him courage, strength and rest.  In Psalm 37:7 he tells us "Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him...". 
The prophet Jeremiah quoted the LORD Himself: "Stand in the ways and see, and ask for the old paths, where the good way is, and walk in it; then you will find rest for your souls." (Jeremiah 6:16)
Jesus spoke to the crowds that were pressing in all around Him and comforted them with these words, "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." (Matthew 11:28)
The apostle Paul tells his Hebrew audience, "For we who have believed do enter that rest... There remains therefore a rest for the people of God." (Hebrews 4:3, 9)
In the book of Revelation, John writes down what the voice from heaven spoke to him: "Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on...that they may rest from their labors, and their works follow them." (Revelation 14:13)


Below is a poem I wrote in the spring of 2003. 


  Enter My Rest...
Family and workloads, deadlines and tests,weary and tired, surely hard pressed;other's demands and schedules leftweighing on shoulders meant for much less.Daughter of Mine...enter My Rest.
Steep is the path of life's daily trek -hard is the road that leads to His best.Often no thanks or kindness is shown,only a sharp reply they confess.Daughter of Mine...enter My Rest.
Lay aside weights and all heaviness,leaving behind the hurt and the pain.Let me restore what value is left.Come...pull away - be free and be blessed.Daughter of Mine...enter My Rest.
DL McCarragher - April 2003

"Oh, that I had wings like a dove!  For then I would fly away and be at rest."  (Psalm 55:6)
Life comes at us hard and fast... be sure to slow down and refresh your soul.  

A moment of rest can make all the difference to you and those around you. Rest in the Lord today!








Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It was written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.  Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com

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Published on September 17, 2018 19:34

August 22, 2018

Have you taken a fitness test lately? Can you touch your toes, do a push-up and deep squat? Are you within standard guidelines when it comes to weight and body fat? Are you eating heart healthy, fat conscious, and generally clean and lean? Keeping in shape is a priority for many - but what about a spiritual checkup?

Consistent results take discipline - both in the physical and spiritual realm.

I was listening to a pastor’s message on the Christian radio station in my area and heard a familiar verse that some have used in a mocking - humorous way. But as I listened to his sermon, I began to hear and understand it in a whole new light.

I Timothy 4:8 says, “For bodily exercise profits a little, but godliness is profitable for all things, having the promise of the life that now is and of that which is to come.”

Another translation puts it this way:  "physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things..."


A brisk walk lowers blood pressure, your cholesterol, and reduces stress on the body. Engaging in some form of regular physical exercise will generally add years to your lifespan. Exercise helps to reduce harmful chemicals in our bodies, and provides a form of abreaction (letting off steam), builds up stamina, counteracts the biochemical effects of stress, and reduces the risk of psychological illness.

As Christians, we house the Holy Spirit, and our temple needs to be strong and fit. Our foundation must be built on God's Word and Godly precepts. 

Health and fitness are worthy goals when they are balanced with common sense and right priority. In biblical times physical exercise was not touted as necessary because people generally walked everywhere and performed manual labor on a regular basis. Daily exercise was a lifestyle incorporated into their very existence.

Verse 7 prefaces the previous quoted passage with the following, "... and exercise yourself rather to godliness." Spiritually speaking, when we exercise godliness through prayer, Bible study, and self-control, we keep our spiritual man [woman] healthy. But what good is it if we take care of the physical body, but neglect our spiritual man and coddle our sinful nature?

The  eternal value  mentioned is found in verse 8.  Paul makes it clear that whatever we are doing for the here and now is indeed profitable – even commendable, but that which is to come, is of more value and lasting.

Taking care of the spirit man, which is incorruptible and lives forever, is far more important than maintaining a corruptible body that will slowly decay in this world.

Exercise is not my god, nor do I place my fate in its hands. Jesus is my God! Sure, I still go to the gym and workout regularly.  I faithfully walk our dog every morning.  I make it a point to stay active, eat right, and get a good night’s sleep. But for me, keeping my spirit woman healthy and fit is a higher, God-ordained priority.

How do you maintain a consistency in your biblical training? What can you do to facilitate a good diet and exercise program in the spiritual realm? When do your godly workouts produce more noticeable results?









Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It was written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.   Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com

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June 28, 2018

“There you go again”, I thought to myself, “making a mountain out of a mole hill”. 

We were out at sea on an early anniversary cruise. This was our last day aboard and so far it had been fairly uneventful and relaxing. Well, that was all going to change rather quickly.

My husband had just “unloaded on me", and I was stunned.  All I wanted was to spend the next ten minutes sitting on our balcony, looking out into the calming rolling waves aboard our cruise ship instead of packing. I wasn't being disrespectful - at least I didn't think I was...

My husband is not a procrastinator, and he simply wanted me to finish putting my dress clothes into the hanging bag so he could complete his project. Remember, men are task oriented, and they generally prefer to do one thing at a time. His “task” was packing early enough on the last night of our cruise so we could enjoy dinner, watch the parade, and have fun with our friends before going to bed. Was his request unreasonable? No.  So what almost turned this “mole hill” incident into a mountain?

You might say I jumped the gun by retorting that I only wanted to go outside for about ten minutes and enjoy sitting on that balcony we paid for. It was probably the “tone of my voice” that he didn’t like, because he immediately ranted that I had already spent too much time on the internet (quickly scanning my business emails), walking around with my friend on the promenade deck window shopping, and doing what I wanted to do earlier in the day. Mind you - I always ask him if he'd mind if I do something before I do it. I don't need his approval, but I feel it is just more respectful to ask.

WOW – I could hardly believe what I was hearing!

My blood started to boil as I sent up an SOS prayer to the Lord and slowly began to compose myself. If I ever needed the fruit of the Spirit to show through – it was now! I remember saying very calmly that I had only spent about fifteen minutes on the laptop checking emails, and I started grabbing my clothes and putting them into the hanging bag as he “huffed and puffed” around the room. I didn’t say another thing… I just packed.

I conversed with the Lord in my mind: “Lord, this isn’t fair”, I muttered… “all I wanted to do was to sit out on that balcony one more time”. I kept packing. I kept thinking about his unreasonable request at just the wrong time. I kept going back to his selfishness. Then the Lord spoke to my heart, “You can make a mountain out of this mole hill, or you can leave it alone”. I chose to leave it alone.

The fruit of the Sprit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control.   So far – I only managed to display a few of them. Satan surely knows when to ruin a good thing, doesn’t he? This was the last night of our vacation that was an early celebration of 35 years of marriage. I had to do what I could to redeem the remainder of time we had left and obtain a quick “attitude adjustment”.


God quickened my Spirit to be sweet and defer to my husband on this matter. I decided as a deliberate act of my will to obey, and my body language improved as a result. I submitted to the Lord, and in doing so, submitted to my husband with a Godly attitude. When I finished packing as much as I could before we got ready for dinner, I realized that he was right to give me a nudge to finish up, and thus prevent a melt-down later on that evening. We knew that we would be getting up very early the next morning. His goal was to reduce our stress then by completing that one task that was on his schedule.


Below is an excerpt of Chapter 4 - Painful Reality from my book  MISSION POSSIBLE

John 15:5 says, “I am the vine, you are the branches. He [she] who abides in Me, and I in [her]  bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.” 

God’s Spirit draws your mate to Himself. Your spiritual fruit is what is visible when you are abiding in and drawing life from God. 
Your husband will unknowingly be drawn “to the things of God in you” completely unaware of God’s sovereignty in all circumstances. Your fruit of the Spirit: love,  joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and  self-control (Galatians 5:22-23) all serve to point your husband (unaware) to God. 

He will notice the difference, but not be able to pin-point when it happened or why. He might never verbalize the change he sees, but he will notice. Let’s not fool ourselves, we know we don’t live 24 hrs. a day with spiritual fruit hanging all over us – come on

Nonetheless, let us strive to display fruit here and there to pique the lost to curiosity ! Proverbs 31:25-27 says, “Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness. She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Let us strive to be godly women of worth.
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I ask the Lord frequently to help me to be the kind of wife I need to be in order to bring harmony and peace into our relationship. I have held my tongue, captured my thoughts, and given myself a swift kick in the pants on more than one occasion. I suspect I’ll face more trials and snags in our marriage, as any married couple does.. I also know that I have a Savior Who loves me and guides me with His eye upon me. He will continue to give me the grace I need to display the love and gentleness that is expected of me.

And yes, my husband did apologize for his remarks, and I apologized for my behavior. I never did get to sit out on our balcony, but that’s okay. Our last cruise night turned out for the better because I listened to that still small voice of the Lord instead of the enemy’s lies. Can you relate to this scenario? Don’t make a mountain out of a mole hill. Give it to God instead…








Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It was written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.   Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com

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May 30, 2018

There are times in your life when a crisis comes and you're left feeling helpless.

It could be an untimely accident, the sudden death of a spouse, a wayward child, or a severe illness.You wonder out loud, "Lord, don't you care?" 

Of course, you know He does...but you feel abandoned and disillusioned.  The key is to remember that they are feelings , not reality.  Perception can be the very thing that keeps you from seeing the Lord at work. When we cry out to God in anguish - we often already know the answer…

Let's look at this familiar passage in Mark 4:35-41  (also Matthew 8:23-27 , Luke 8:22-25)

On the same day, when evening had come, He said to them, “Let us cross over to the other side.” Now when they had left the multitude, they took Him along in the boat as He was.  And other little boats were also with Him. And a great windstorm arose, and the waves beat into the boat, so that it was already filling. But He was in the stern, asleep on a pillow. And they awoke Him and said to Him, “Teacher, do You not care that we are perishing?” Then He arose and rebuked the wind, and said to the sea, “Peace, be still!” And the wind ceased and there was a great calm. But He said to them, “Why are you so fearful? How is it that you have no faith?” And they feared exceedingly, and said to one another, “Who can this be, that even the wind and the sea obey Him!”

The Sea of Galilee, also know as the Sea of Tiberias is prone to abrupt and vicious storms. This body of water is roughly 200 feet deep and sits 680 feet below sea level. Northeast of the Sea of Galilee is Mount Hermon that reach upward 9000 feet above sea level. When the cool, dry air from the summit clashes with the warm, semitropical air near the sea shore it results in chaos. The varied differences in air pressure and wind direction combine to produce a weather phenomena that in turn spawns fierce and sudden storms.

Jesus' disciples left the multitude and took Him along in the boat. He often withdrew by Himself to rest. Jesus plainly said they would cross over to the other side. In effect He said, "You will get there." He was in one fishing boat with His disciples and there were other little boats along side.

There are times when we will face problems at home with our unbelieving spouse. We are in one boat and there might be other little boats nearby. But other times we are completely alone. Your best friend isn’t there to give advice. Your Mom isn’t there to console you. Your church family isn’t there to pray with you. You are all by yourself. What do you do?

Here are three lessons we can learn in the storm:
1. Trust the One who is sovereign in your times of despair and uncertainty

Satan loves to play on our feelings of fear and hopelessness because he then uses them to isolate and control us. He is a liar and will coax you to doubt yourself and your belief in God. Your spouse will draw upon their own set of crisis management skills, but as an unbeliever, they will fall woefully short. However, as a believer you have taken Him with you (Joshua 1:5). God is always there as you make your way through your circumstances.

When a great storm arises, you can bet the boat you are in will feel like it’s sinking . The waves of anger, uncertainty, and anxiousness will beat against its hull. The water of despair will begin seeping in. Your hope will feel like it has holes in it. Whatever you do, don’t sabotage your own rescue by trying to “fix it by yourself”. 

2. Remember - Jesus is in that rocky little boat with you and He cares for you

The fishing boats they were in had shallow sides and were prone to taking on water rather easily. The scripture says their boats were already swamped. Jesus was in the stern of the boat fast asleep on a cushion (generally reserved for the helmsman). He was tired and needed rest. He had preached all day and was exhausted. However, as God, we know He never tires as Psalm 121:4 declares, “Behold, He who keeps Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep.”

Our Lord laid down His head in total peace knowing what lay ahead for them. There was no anxiety on His part and clearly He trusted His Father to preserve them. The disciples were seasoned sailors who were familiar with rapid changing weather conditions. Yet, they awoke Him, pleading with Him to do something. They were fearful and perceived they might die. Yet, you would think they would trust Him after the many miracles and signs He had done. Where was the faith they should have had in who He was?

Aren’t we just like them, demanding that God hear us while we yell, “Do You not care that we are perishing? Perhaps they remembered the writing of the sons of Korah in Psalm 44:23, “Awake! Why do You sleep, O Lord? Arise! Do not cast us off forever.”

3. Be encouraged... He rebukes our winds of “what if’” and He calms our "sea         of panic"

Jesus stood and rebuked the wind, and calmed the sea. Just as demons shrank upon His vocal commands to be silent, so do the elements recoil and cease. The Creator of all nature commanded them to hush and be still...


If we are to display Christ’s attributes and ride the undercurrents of peace, we must stay anchored to our hope, and let Him take control of the situation. Your spouse is observing your reaction to the crisis, and you must let Jesus shine through.

When Jesus spoke to them, it was with a gentle rebuke. How often does He do that with us? Your spirit is quickened and you perceive His loving assurance and grace. These are teachable moments which we must embrace eagerly.

The disciples were in awe of what they had just witnessed. The question they asked one another was, “Who can this be…?” Indeed, that is the question we must ask ourselves, for in its answer, we find the One who has the words of eternal life (John 6:68).


This hymn by J. Wilbur Chapman (1859-1918) talks about Jesus being our friend and protector. Stanzas 3 and 4 below speaks volume:
                                                   Jesus! What a help in sorrow!
                                                   While the billows o’er me roll,
                                                  Even when my heart is breaking,
                                                  He, my Comfort, helps my soul.
                                                
                                                 Jesus! what a Guide and Keeper!
                                                     While the tempest still is high,
                                              Storms about me, night o’ertakes me,
                                                     He, my Pilot, hears my cry.









Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It was written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.  Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com
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May 5, 2018

In addition to Memorial Day, the month of May is National Military Appreciation Month.  2018 is the 20th Annual celebration of this recognized tradition of showing tangible appreciation for our military.

National Military Appreciation Month  includes  Loyalty Day  (1st),  Military Spouse Appreciation Day  (11th),  VE Day  (8th),  Armed Forces Day  (19th), and  Memorial Day  (28th).  This very important month honors, remembers, recognizes and appreciates all military personnel; those men and women who have served throughout our history and all who now serve in uniform and their families as well as those Americans who have given their lives in defense of our freedoms we all enjoy today.It recognizes those on active duty in all branches of the services, the National Guard and Reserves plus retirees, veterans, and all of their families - well over 90 million Americans and more than 240 years of our nation’s history.  Let us celebrate them just as we celebrate the other important entities that make up this wonderful country of ours.
                 
This is my Dad, son & husband at our son's U.S. Marine Corps. commissioning services. My Dad was a U.S. Naval aviator and my husband is a retired U.S. Navy Chief.

National Military Appreciation Month started as a simple idea; to gather America around its military family to honor, remember, recognize and appreciate those who have served and those now serving and to know the history behind it all. This idea was then legislated twice to achieve greater national attention and recognition.
The first legislation was in the United States Senate in 1999 designating May as National Military Appreciation Month. With the support and sponsorship of Senator John McCain, (R-AZ) and Representative Duncan Hunter, (R-CA) of San Diego and over 50 veteran service organizations, this important and timely legislation tells our service members that their country has set aside an entire month to honor, remember and appreciate them. In April of 2004, more comprehensive legislation was passed by unanimous consent of both Houses of Congress, H. Con. Res. 328, that May is National Military Appreciation Month and urges the President to issue an annual proclamation calling on the American people to recognize this special month of May through appropriate ceremonies and events. 
Another wonderful website and resource for military families is the National Military Family Association
The National Military Family Association is an organization with strong grassroots support balanced with professionalism that makes us a leader in the field. Not only do we support military families – we are military families. Spouses, parents, and family members make up our staff and board positions. We speak up on behalf of military families and empower husbands, wives, and children to understand and access their  benefits. Based on what we hear from our members, we meet the needs of service members and their families with insightful recommendations, innovative programs, and grassroots efforts to better the quality of life for military families.
In 1969, the National Military Family Association was founded by a handful of military wives who wanted to make sure their widowed friends were properly taken care of. Two short years later, the Survivor Benefit Plan became law, and the Association has been hard at work ever since. A small but determined group of military wives around a kitchen table has expanded into a strong force of men and women of all ranks and Services and their wives, husbands, children, and parents.

A few other websites to check out are:
 

http://www.soldiersangels.org                      
http://weservetoo.com



Memorial Day , originally called Decoration Day, is a day of remembrance for those who have died in our nation's service.
Memorial Day  was officially proclaimed on 5 May 1868 by General John Logan, national commander of the Grand Army of the Republic, in his General Order No. 11, and was first observed on 30 May 1868, when flowers were placed on the graves of Union and Confederate soldiers at Arlington National Cemetery. The first state to officially recognize the holiday was New York in 1873. By 1890 it was recognized by all of the northern states. The South refused to acknowledge the day, honoring their dead on separate days until after World War I (when the holiday changed from honoring just those who died fighting in the Civil War to honoring Americans who died fighting in any war). It is now celebrated in almost every State on the last Monday in May (passed by Congress with the National Holiday Act of 1971 (P.L. 90 - 363) to ensure a three day weekend for Federal holidays), though several southern states have an additional separate day for honoring the Confederate war dead.

 My husband and I have visited the Arlington National Cemetery, World War II and Vietnam Memorials in Washington, DC, and the Arizona Memorial at Pearl Harbor in Hawaii.  Words cannot convey the solemn mood and deep heartfelt respect the public displayed at these national treasures. It was such a moving experience to walk near the graves of so many fallen heroes and read the names of the brave men and women who made the ultimate sacrifice for our country's freedoms.

To date, over 3100 U.S. troops have died in Afghanistan and over 4000 U.S. troops died during the Iraq War.  Take time to pray for the families of those who have fallen.  Theirs is a sacrifice and pain that never diminishes with time.  Pull out the old photo albums and recall with pride your family members and their service to our country.  

Share with me some of the stories of your loved ones who have served our great Nation with pride.













Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It was written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.  Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com
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April 11, 2018

Mother’s Day  is the perfect time to take a look at how God’s Word views motherhood. 

Maybe it’s because I am a grandmother that I view these biblical portraits more personally. Watching my daughter-in-law with my new grandson brings back so many memories of my son as an infant.

The Holy Scripture attributes motherly qualities to God in many passages. The ancient prophets often used metaphors of mothers to portray God’s fidelity and love. Isaiah describes God as a loving mother who had carried Israel from their infancy. Isaiah 66:13 states, “As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you; and you shall be comforted in Jerusalem.”  As Jesus lamented over Jerusalem, claiming that the prophets were killed for exposing evil, He exclaimed, “How often I wanted to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing!” Our Lord displayed moments of great emotion and tenderness, which were often compared to a devoted mother’s love.

So what does Biblical motherhood look like? Here are 3 things we can learn from Scripture:

1God is the one who defined motherhood

Genesis chapters 3 and 4 introduce us to Eve, the first mother. Adam called her name Eve, because she was the mother of all the living. She conceived and bore Cain, and said, “I have gotten a man from the Lord.” Cain worked in the fields and tilled the earth which yielded crops of which he presented his sacrifice to the Lord God. She then bore Abel, the son who was loving and responsible, tending the flocks in the meadows. After Cain killed Abel in a jealous rage over what appeared to him to be God’s favoritism, Cain was banished by God for shedding his brother’s blood, never to return to his family.

Adam and Eve then conceived Seth, whose lineage began to “call on the name of the Lord” (Gen. 5).  We can only imagine how Eve must have heard the Lord God’s words ringing in her ears, “I will greatly multiply your sorrow and your conception; In pain you shall bring forth children.” That sorrow and pain were evidenced in the heartbreak Eve experienced as the first mother on earth, mourning one son who was dead, and the other who was never to be seen again. But, in God’s great mercy, their third son, Seth, would provide the path to mankind’s salvation over generations which culminated in the Lord Jesus Himself (Luke 3).


2.  God is the one who defended motherhood

In Exodus 2 we are introduced to Jochebed, the daughter of Levi, born to him in Egypt. She was the wife of Amram and was the mother of Aaron, Miriam and Moses. Her courage and ingenuity saved her son Moses from the wicked mandate of the Pharaoh to kill every male Israelite child. She cleverly hid him for three months, before placing him among the reeds in a water-tight basket along the Nile River. As she watched Miriam approach Pharaoh’s daughter, she must have been relieved to hear that she would be nursing and weaning the child herself before handing him over permanently. Those few early years were no doubt full of Godly instruction and loving example to that little Hebrew child. Can you imagine the pain and sacrifice she endured as she watched her young son disappear into Pharaoh’s palace?

3God is the one who revered motherhood

In the gospels of Matthew and Luke we see details of young Mary’s introduction to the angel Gabriel and his startling revelation about her heaven ordained pregnancy. The angel had come vested with a divine commission – “You will conceive in your womb and bring forth a Son, and shall call His name JESUS.” As Mary questioned the angel about the particulars of conception, the angel answered that the body of Jesus would be created by an act of Divine power, and that the Holy One who would be born would be called the Son of God. She displayed complete resignation and surrender of her heart to God.

After Jesus was born, we can imagine many nights nursing the baby and pondering all that lay ahead for the special Child. When she and Joseph journeyed to Jerusalem, obeying Jewish law for her purification, they offered two turtle doves and later presented Jesus to the priest for his blessing. Mary and Joseph marveled as Simeon proclaimed the baby “the salvation of Israel”, and Anna, the prophetess confirmed his prophetic words. But Mary also heard Simeon proclaim, “Behold, this Child is destined for the fall and rising of many in Israel, and for a sign which will be spoken against, (yes, a sword will pierce through your own soul also), that the thoughts of many hearts may be revealed.” 

In the years to come, Mary would indeed suffer the pangs of sorrow as her heart was pierced, even at the Lord’s excruciating death.  But what comfort she heard coming from her Son, even at death’s door, giving instruction to John regarding her care! What love and devotion to her in that moment! (John 19:25-27)

There are times we wonder if what we are doing is really having any impact on our children. 


Sometimes we imagine that we fall woefully short of the mandate we have to nurture and train up our sons and daughters in the ways of the Lord. Do not despair - you have a greater sphere of influence than you might think. Here is a past post on this very subject:

Mom - you DO have influence
We will certainly experience joy, sorrow, pride, grief, and all other range of emotions during our God ordained roles as mothers and caregivers of our children. Thank God for motherhood. We are the better for it!








Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It was written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will 
encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and futuretogether.  Visit  http://www.spirituallyunevenmarriage.com

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