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June 29, 2015
Is Your Life Full of Drama? Here’s How to Stop the Cycle.
Last month, I read The Power of TED by David Emerald and loved it. The book contains so many useful ideas and lightbulb moments, I made a short video series covering some of the key points. Watch below for a brief introduction to the victim orientation, the creator orientation, and how to shift from the drama triangle to the empowerment dynamic.
What is the “dreaded drama triangle”?
How to Be a Creator, Not a Victim
How to Shift from Victim to Creator
What are your biggest takeaways from these videos? Leave a comment and share your thoughts.
If you’d like to explore these ideas in more depth, I highly recommend reading The Power of TED by David Emerald. It’s a short read but packed with actionable ideas and suggestions.
P.S. Do you enjoy the video format? Let me know!
Image: Caroline Sleeper
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CommentsThanks Christian! Glad you found the videos helpful and thanks ... by Hannah BraimeThanks for the nice videos Hannah. The concepts are powerfull ... by Christian
June 22, 2015
Reflections on Alive in Berlin & a New Online Home for Makers and Doers
I first heard about the Alive in Berlin conference early last year. Talked about as Europe’s answer to WDS, it was very cool to hear about a personal development conference that catered to those of us on this side of the pond. The timing meant it wasn’t possible to attend last year (I had just returned from Mexico), so I jumped at the chance to get involved this year. Spoiler alert: it was awesome.
This week, I’m writing about my reflections and biggest takeaway here (my new site!), which seemed fitting as it is also a product of AIB :)
This is a new online home for a wider conversation about meaningful work and purpose. If Becoming Who You Are is about being, hannahbraime.com is about translating that into doing. It’s a way of keeping this space purely personal development, and moving discussions around creativity and entrepreneurship elsewhere. If these topics pique your interest, you’re invited to come on over and join me.
As with any new home, things are a little sparse right now, but I’ll be adding some more virtual furniture, tools and resources over the coming weeks and months.
In the meantime, I’d love to hear from you: what would you like to hear more about here at Becoming Who You Are? Leave a comment and let me know.
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June 20, 2015
#85: How to Create a Deeper Sense of Meaning and Purpose in Your Life
If you want to create a deeper sense of meaning and purpose in your life (but get sidetracked by all the wonky purpose-finding advice out there), this week’s episode is for you. I’m going to share a couple of ideas I’ve found helpful when it comes to cultivating more purpose in my life, including:
Why it’s important to differentiate between the mission and the vehicle when it comes to your purpose
Why the idea that there’s one “thing” out there for everyone is a myth
What you need to do to get a clearer sense of the things that add meaning to your life
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June 18, 2015
How to Boost Your Confidence (in a Non-Icky Way)
A couple of weeks ago, I hosted a workshop at the Alive in Berlin conference. It was totally fun and fulfilling and, until a few minutes into the presentation when I started to relax, I was also eyeing the door and half-wondering whether it was too late to make a run for it. Public speaking is something I love when I’m standing up and doing it, but right up until that moment it truly feels like the worst. thing. ever.
And that’s part of the reason I do it: because it’s a stretch. It’s also a great exercise in self-trust. I am not an affirmations-in-the-mirror kind of person so I use these times of terror growth opportunities to look for other (less cringeworthy) ways to boost my confidence. Here’s what I’ve learned so far:
First of all, remember that you don’t need to feel confident in order to do something.
Confidence is not a prerequisite for action, even though we often like to believe it is. Yes, it feels more comfortable to take action on something when we feel 100% confident that we’re not going to fall flat on our faces or monumentally screw up, but let’s face it: we’re all human and it’s never a given that we’re not going to do that.
It’s also important to remember that a lack of confidence isn’t necessarily evidence that we’re not capable of doing something. Correlation doesn’t equal causation.
With that being said, I’ve found that confidence is part of a three-step process:
Action -> clarity -> confidence
The first step is taking action and trying things out (avoidance is not a confidence booster—quelle surpise). It’s easy to overthink this step, to want to make sure we’re focusing on the “right” action, and to get stuck in analysis paralysis. But this stage is really about experimentation. Take the pressure off, give yourself a free pass to choose the “wrong” action, and just do something.
The reason taking action on something—anything—is important is because it brings us to the next step, which is clarity. Clarity comes when we get feedback from our actions. That feedback might be “Hey, that wasn’t so bad after all. Maybe I’m on to something here!” It might also be “Oops, guess that didn’t go so well…”
Whatever the outcome is, your action will lead you to a sense of what’s right for you and what’s not right for you, what works and what doesn’t.
And this is where confidence comes from: clarity around the present.
Confidence doesn’t come from knowing how, it comes from know what. It doesn’t come from certainty that we can do something with grace and dignity 100% of the time: it comes from knowing what we need to try next.
If I’m hungry and my cupboards are bare, I know the next step is to go to the supermarket. I can’t guarantee that I’m going to do an amazing job at going to the supermarket—I usually forget half the things I go for and it’s not my favourite thing to do in the world—but I also don’t think “Eh, I’m not sure I feel confident about going to the supermarket.” I want food, so I go. I get food and, whatever else happens, mission accomplished. I don’t stop to question my confidence levels because my desired outcome is clear.
Even if we don’t have a crystal clear vision for what our next step looks like, we can still feel confidence in knowing “This is the path for me” or “It’s time for a change.”
That is where confidence comes from: trying things out, seeing what happens, and figuring it out from there.
What action can you take this week to feel more confident about a particular area or issue in your life? Leave a comment and share your ideas.
Do you want to feel confidence in the direction you’re taking in life? Join us for Purpose-FULL, which starts June 22nd and focuses on cultivating a deeper sense of meaning and purpose in our lives. Click here to find out more and register.
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June 9, 2015
#84: Balancing Goals and Self-Care with Kyla Roma
In this week’s podcast, I’m chatting to the lovely Kyla Roma. Kyla is a web designer, business coach and digital strategist who helps goal-oriented bloggers, freelancers and creative business owners get to the “OH!” and “YES!” moments in their businesses – without working harder and longer for it.
No matter what your dream is, she believes there’s a way to get there that doesn’t involve throwing stability out the window or relying on good vibes to be your guide.
Topics we discuss include: How to deal with information overwhelm (and why it’s possible to plan too much) How to think about your goals so you can become who you want to be without missing out on opportunities How to balance goals with self-care (and some of Kyla’s favourite practices that help her with this) Suggestions for how to maintain stability in your life, even when you’re feeling stressed How Kyla has stayed creatively satisfied while building her business over the last few years. …and much more!
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When learning something new, just focus on the very next step you need to take.
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Make sure your day-to-day is aligns with what you want life to look like long-term.
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Give yourself time to explore your creative passions and interests outside of work.
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Kyla’s Website
Daring Creatives Facebook Group
The Ultimate Guide to Journaling audiobook
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Twitter: @kylaroma
Facebook: facebook.com/groups/daringcreativeworkshop
Website: kylaroma.com
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Twitter: @hannahbraime
Facebook: The Tribe
Website: becomingwhoyouare.net
Intro and outro: Stephanie Murphy
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June 7, 2015
What Makes You Who You Are?
This was the question that started this website: what makes us who we are? What turns us into who we’re not? And how do we bridge the gap between the two?
“What makes you you?” is a huge question with many possible answers, many variables and many aspects that are still shrouded in mystery beyond current understanding.
Here’s my take on this:
At our very core, we are the electrical impulses running through our brain: the trillions of neural pathways. We are those pathways, translated into thought, speech, action and habit. We are our evolutionary drives to survive, adapt and reproduce.
And we are so much more.
We are a presence in the lives of those around us. The ideas, gifts and visions we share with the world.
We are complex, contradictory, and imperfect. We are also amazing creatures capable of understanding concepts like mortality, existentialism, symbolism, puns, and other devices of deeper meaning.
We are capable of consciously overriding our evolutionary drives.
We are tiny cogs in a big, roaring machine.
We are capable of hearing and being heard, of seeing and being seen, and of moving and being moved.
We are capable of change, growth, of recognising that our time on this planet is finite, and of making the most out of it.
At the end of it all, we return to dust.
And then, we are memories, genetic code, and whatever legacy we leave behind.
Every choice we make is a drop in an ocean, and those drops create ripples that pass onwards into the future.
At the end of it all, what will have made you who you are?
This is one of the topics we’re exploring in Purpose-FULL, which starts June 22nd and focuses on cultivating a deeper sense of meaning and purpose in our lives. Click here to find out more and register.
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May 18, 2015
#83: Reconnecting with Your Original Impulse with Cynthia Morris
In this week’s podcast, I’m delighted to welcome Cynthia Morris. An author, artist and business owner, Cynthia Morris has learned how to love being at the scary creative edge. She knows firsthand what it takes to finish and ship books, art, businesses and ventures that are both profitable and innovative. Through her company Original Impulse, Cynthia has helped thousands of creative people move past inner and outer obstacles to make work that matters.
Topics we discuss include: Why it’s important to check your consumption levels and balance consumption with creativity How to manage our inner critics when taking creative risks Journaling prompts and other practical tools Cynthia recommends for reconnecting with our original impulse The power of slowing down and making a long-term commitment to your craft …and much more!
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One of the biggest challenges for creative people is ‘What do I do next?’
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When we lose space we lose touch with our creative wellspring
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There’s the writer, the CEO and the artist, and they all need a space at the table.
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Writing doesn’t happen through thinking, writing happens through writing
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Instagram: @cynthiamorris
Facebook: facebook.com/OriginalImpulse
Website: originalimpulse.com
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Facebook: The Tribe
Website: becomingwhoyouare.net
Intro and outro: Stephanie Murphy
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May 12, 2015
#82: Creating a Movement with Jana Schuberth, Founder of Alive in Berlin
In this week’s podcast, I’m talking to the lovely Jana Schuberth. Jana is the host and creator of Alive in Berlin, a global gathering of world changers in Europe’s most exciting city happening 29th and 30th May. She has built her global and location independent business as an expert in self mastery and behavioural change work over the past 5 years after a career in Marketing and Finance as a CPA and now helps people overcome their life’s challenges by deeper self acceptance work rather than superficial self improvement to create an extraordinary life.
Topics we discuss include: The steps Jana took to evolve from unhappy accountant to thriving coach and CEO What led her to found the Alive in Berlin conference and the key milestones on her journey How Jana overcame her internal challenges to turn her ideas into action …and much more!
The last few tickets for Alive in Berlin are now available. If you want to join us for a weekend of transformation, inspiration and growth, click here to register and save £150 with our special insiders link.
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Sometimes you have to become the leader you’re looking for.
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If you want to make something happen, you have to tell people about it.
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Making the decision changes everything. Once that’s made, everything is figure-out-able.
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Alive in Berlin
The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte
Body of Work by Pam Slim
World Domination Summit
Jana
Twitter: @JanaSchuberth
Facebook: facebook.com/aliveinberlin
Website: janaschuberth.com // aliveinberlin.com
Hannah
Twitter: @hannahbraime
Facebook: The Tribe
Website: becomingwhoyouare.net
Intro and outro: Stephanie Murphy
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May 8, 2015
What If You Tear It All down and Start Again?
For the last six months, I’ve been craving change. Change that reflects how my business has evolved, how I’ve evolved, and where I see this heading next. I’ve felt a yearning for greater transparency, a slightly different focus, a different way of coaching, and to let go of the old to make room for the new.
I spent months telling my accountability buddy “This week! This week I am definitely going to sort out my website!” then not doing it (and when you’re a coach, that integrity gap between saying then not doing feels 10x wider and 10x worse). I over-thought the process, experienced perpetual decision fatigue, and managed to turn the whole thing into an existential crisis. Needless to say, for all my good intentions, I didn’t do what I wanted to do.
Until I did.
What changed was this: instead of taking what existed and trying to redo, I just sat down and imagined what it would look like if I started again from scratch.
I opened up a new Scrivener file, asked myself: “If I burned this whole thing to the ground and started all over again, what would I create?” and started writing down everything that came to mind.
The ideas started flooding in. The answers became clearer, and the six-month fog lifted. Were some of these ideas rubbish? Absolutely. Do I have 100% clarity now? Is my expression perfect? Hell no, but as one of my favourite sayings go, “action beats perfection.”
Starting from scratch gave me the permission I needed to let go of the old to make room for the new; to clear out old language, old site pages, blog posts that are no longer relevant, create the Purpose Library, and generally give my online living room a good old spring clean.
That’s been my week, and I’m wondering if there’s something in your life that needs this kind of attention too:
If you could tear it all down and start again, what would you do differently?
(Side note: I asked Mr BWYA this question and he said “I wouldn’t have started my site on Blogger.” You have been warned).
The beautiful thing about this question, like all good questions, is that it works in any situation that could benefit from a good dose of clarity: unfulfilling career paths, a project that isn’t working out quite as we’d hoped, muddy lifestyle choices, relationship ruts, and more.
The answer might be comforting, it might be startling, it might be terrifying, but it’s a fast path straight to the heart of what we truly want—and to what comes next.
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May 6, 2015
April Reads
Here are my favourite reads from April:
My favourite? I can’t choose this month; each book was so different and came with its own insights and “a-ha” moments. Why not try them all? :)
What books have you enjoyed reading this month? Leave a comment and let me know.
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CommentsGlad to hear it Jim :) Thanks for stopping by. by Hannah BraimeYou read “How to Read a Book”, along with the others, on ... by Jim
