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Your Health Care, America's Health Care, Today and Tomorrow

Already, a New York Times/CBS poll reports  that the Affordable Care Act (ObamaCare) has resulted in decreased access and increased cost. How can you cope? What should America do? My PsychologyToday.com article today 
attempts to tackle those thorny questions.

Workaholic or Heroic?

We used to call people who worked long hours "hard workers." Now, we tend to pathologize them as "workaholics," like alcoholics, addicted. My PsychologyToday.com article today argues that many would be more accurately described as heroic. This is an only slightly enhanced version of an article I wrote on this topic for Time.com. So if you read that, there's no need to read this one.

What Does That Person Really Mean?

For different groups, the same sentence can mean something very different. My PsychologyToday article today may help you figure out what that person really means.

When You Feel Washed Up: An exploration of what to do when you feel you've been put out to pasture.

Do you feel washed up? Perhaps you’re in your 60s, been “laid off” and doubt you can ever find another “real” job, but you’re not ready to retire. 

My PsychologyToday.com article today explores what you might do when you feel out-to-pasture.

Your Dark Side's Upside

America rewards optimism, cheeriness, and moderation. The new book, The Upside of the Dark Side by Todd Kashdan , argues that you’re more likely to be successful and feel good about yourself if you, as appropriate, invoke less societally encouraged behaviors.
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers ideas from the book plus my reaction to each.

The Pros and Cons of Giving Advice

A tenet of counseling—whether therapist to client, doctor to patient, or even friend-to-friend, is that it’s better to not give advice, especially if not asked for. Better to listen well and ask questions to facilitate people coming up with their own solution.
Indeed, avoiding advice-giving has advantages, but sometimes advice-giving is indeed wiser. My PsychologyToday.com article today explores the pros and cons. 

Aging Well: A practical guide to the not-so golden years

I’ve written many posts on aging and thought you might find it helpful if I synthesized their most important advice in one place. That's what I've done in today's PsychologyToday.com article. 

Dismiss Pollyanna: Beware of people who cheer you on with pollyannish optimism

In America, being optimistic is key to being liked and successful.
Politicians know they get votes with such statements as, “America’s best days are yet to come.” Self-help gurus sell more books and get more clients by blithely proclaiming, “Work hard and you can achieve your dreams.” Clerics get more parishioners and donations with “With God’s help you can accomplish anything.”Friends who say, “You can do it” will be much more popular than those who make a probabilistic assessment, for example, 

Your chances of paying back your student loans let alone making a sustainably middle-class income from that music or art or fashion or broadcasting degree are lower than of a rattlesnake biting you in your bed. Of course, highly talented people who can get into a nationally-top school, cannot be so denigrated. But outside of those few elite schools, artsy degree and certificate programs can, without much exaggeration, be described as bizarrely expensive four-to-six-year summer camps that enable their lackluster students to claim to be pursuing a career.

Imagine a friend saying the previous paragraph to you—You’d probably de-friend them faster than you could say “mean-spirited.” 

Yet being popular should be less important than being helpful. My PsychologyToday.com article today attempts to be helpful even at the risk of your disliking it.

Making Peace with Your Aging

Perhaps the hardest thing to accept is your aging. Each sign of decline is a reminder that you’re moving ever closer to the end, and the closer you get, the more limited your powers and the more likely you’ll be in pain.
Yet accept it we must because, even if you take good care of yourself, decline and end are inevitable.
But it’s a lot easier to say “Accept it,”  than toaccept it. Perhaps the internal dialogue in my PsychologyToday.com article today will help.

Is Electronic Recreation So Bad? The case FOR TV, videogames, Facebook, etc.

Parents are urged to have our kids watch less TV, text less and interact in-person more, and play less video games. 

In my PsychologyToday.com article today,  I cite a wealth of research that suggests we have far more important battles to fight.