Marty Nemko's Blog, page 381

Seven Fantasies That Have Helped My Clients' Reality

We often think of fantasies as useless distractions. 

But I have helped my clients use their fantasies as a first step toward identifying goals are both exciting and realistic.

My PsychologyToday.com article today offers seven. Perhaps one or more will trigger your own fantasy that will be a precursor to an exciting yet realistic goal.

Why Many Rich People are Frugal...and Why You Should Be Too

I have a client I'll call Linda Loaded. When making coffee, she is so frugal that she puts less coffee into the coffeemaker than she should, and compensates by, when the coffee is ready, squeezing the filter with the  hot grounds in her hand to get the concentrated coffee into her cup, incurring a bit of pain. To save a few pennies.

She is worth $10 million dollars.

Not surprisingly, I asked her why she does it. That triggered a fascinating discussion. I reproduce it in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Overcoming Fear of Job Hunting

Many people procrastinate looking for a job because of fear of rejection, having to sell themselves, let others know they're looking. My PsychologyToday.com article today offers a way to reframe such common fears so that you may more easily push through the fear and land that job. 

A Letter to a Person Flailing in Search of a Full-Time Job

A client of mine called today to ask if I'd work with his daughter to help her find full-time employment. Her dream goal was for her and her boyfriend to both get jobs as park rangers, but they had tried and failed.
By the end of the conversation, I concluded that before taking her money, I'd send her a little note with some free advice to see if that would be sufficient.
But when I got off the phone, the little note became a rather detailed email. In reading it, it struck me that its advice might be relevant to many career and job seekers so I posted it on my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Worthy Proverbs and Silly Ones

We’re affected by proverbs, quotes, aphorisms, and slogans…and not always for the good.
We might even be affected more by those than by tomes. For example, might the slogan,  “Do random acts of kindness” have caused more good acts than have 1,000 sermons?
In any event, slogans or their for more formal analogue, proverbs, certainly have impact.   
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I vote for the worthiest and silliest. 

Why We All Need to Use Checklists More

We all need to use checklists more. That’s true even if you’re one of the many people who think checklists are too rigid, too confining. 
You won’t feel confined. Knowing you’ll remember everything will free-up the brain space to use your creativity…safely.
Indeed, Atul Gawande’s bestselling book, The ChecklistManifesto shows how checklists improve outcomes in the widest range of endeavors.
My PsychologyToday.com article today offers a five-step process for creating a customized checklist for your important, complicated tasks.

Selecting a Counselor or Therapist: Who should you pick? Should you continue?

How to evaluate a counselor, psychotherapist, indeed any helping professional. In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer advice for those selecting one or deciding whether to continue with one.

Public School? Private School? Home School?

Even though taxes pay for public schools, millions of parents spend a fortune to send their kids to private school or home school them. They fear the public schools will shortchange their child.
If you’re not sure what to do, my PsychologyToday.com article today may help.

The Case FOR Social Media, TV, Phoning, and Video Games

Parents are urged to have kids watch less TV, text less and interact in-person more, and play less video games. My PsychologyToday.com article today offers a dissenting view.

The Jews are Going Extinct: Why that's bad, why it's coming, and how to stop it.

The Jews are going extinct. My PsychologyToday.com article today explains why that's bad, why it's coming, and how to stop it.