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Eric FitzMedrud

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https://www.drericfitz.com/the-better-man/

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Psychology, Self Help, Nonfiction

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Eric FitzMedrud is a therapist specializing in relationship and sexual issues in the San Francisco Bay Area. His specialty is helping men improve their sex lives by learning to regulate their emotions, removing sexual entitlement, and honing their sexual consent and negotiation skills. FitzMedrud is a member of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. He has been published in an academic book and academic journal and has spoken at multiple conferences. He has also trained therapists and taught many graduate courses in psychology. FitzMedrud has a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology. He is polyamorous and bisexual, and lives with his wife of twenty-three years and hi ...more

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How do you deal with writer’s block?

Eric FitzMedrud I heard this attributed to Stephen King but I don't know if it is true. The story is that someone asked him how to cure writer's block and he replied,…moreI heard this attributed to Stephen King but I don't know if it is true. The story is that someone asked him how to cure writer's block and he replied, "Butt glue." My answer isn't far off.

I was trained in a creative writing program in high school using "Writing Down the Bones" by Natalie Goldberg. We did daily "free writes." Sit and write for a predesignated amount of time. This trained me in the habit. Sit. Write.

Sometimes, we'd write nonsense. Sometimes we'd write beautiful purple passages that got cut from final works. The point wasn't to focus on the outcome but just to keep writing. If you write the same word, or just expletives or nonsense dialogue to yourself, at least you are writing. (less)

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Eric FitzMedrud As a therapist, my impact is powerful but small. I get to help one person or one couple at a time to make powerful and significant changes in their li…moreAs a therapist, my impact is powerful but small. I get to help one person or one couple at a time to make powerful and significant changes in their lives. It is deeply rewarding to help men in particular to become more skillful at loving and being loved. But a therapy practice doesn't scale. That's the carrot to write for me, to scale up what impact I can have.

When I see men being drawn to manosphere influencers, it is painful. I know these people are speaking to men's pain but also enflaming men's anger and deepening the divisions in our society. They reinforce men blaming others for their problems instead of empowering men to deepen their relationships with practical psychological tools. That's my stick. If I don't write a feminist and diversity-inclusive alternative to that crap, then I'm complicit in the devolution of our society.(less)

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The Better Man: A Guide to Consent, Stronger Relationships, and Hotter Sex

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