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December 11, 2015
To Sacrifice Who You Are Being For Who You Really Are
Spring is a time of rebirth. It is a time of renewal and of greater consciousness and growth. We are infused with the energy of warmer weather and we rush to work on our gardens and our bodies. We plant for summer flowers and we workout to fit into our bathing suits. But what about our inner-self? What about the person we are being in the world? The one who shows up with our family, friends, co-workers and our community. Is this the same person who we really are?
Unfortunately, for most of us, the answer is obvious and usually it is no. Sadly, it is less obvious to us than it is to those who care about us. They know who we really are. That is who they love. However, we so often get in the way of the person we were born to be. Most often we do it to protect a past pain. Sometimes it is to get ahead. Or to prove something. Our reasons are about something in our past that we have not resolved. And it is running our lives as we take on another being, one so much less than the powerful, happy one who was born into this world full of wonder and joy.
All of this is a suffering that we just can’t let go of and one that, in the present, we are completely making up. In our present lives, which is right now in this moment, and then again in the next, we simply do not have to suffer. It doesn’t matter if it was because of something our parent did decades ago, or a relationship that ended badly, or something that just happened. It is our choice how to respond. So often we sell ourselves into thinking that we have to go through this, that suffering is part of the deal. A deal with the devil maybe. The reality is we can choose to embrace the adversities of our lives in the way the ancient Greeks did – by celebrating them. By embracing them, as difficult as they are, and immediately processing how they are a part of our life experiences. And move on. It is easier said than done, right? The response I have learned to that one is – it is easier done than said. We just wont say it. We refuse to believe it. And it becomes our reality. Then, whenever our self imposed exile or acting out is over, we only think we have moved on. Yet, it is just another stone we collected in our overloaded backpack. It weighs us down and it comes back up again, and after a time of carrying this burden we don’t we don’t even recognize our true self.
There is no better time than the present, and this brilliant season of rebirth, to take an honest assessment of who we are showing up as. Is it who we truly are, or are we are acting a part? Hopefully we have not made the common mistake of only surrounding ourselves with the agreement team. One of the great coaches of my life said it best – “The problem is our friends are the ones who agree with us. And you know what we call the ones that don’t? Our former friends.” We don’t need to be coddled. We actually need just the opposite. We need more people who hold us accountable and are straight forward honest with us. It took me a couple of decades to learn that one.
So this spring, let’s all take an honest inventory. Are we truly being this magnificent, joyful person who came crying into this world? Or are we still crying about the past? It is our choice.
Let’s choose fearlessly.
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Ebola! The Crisis Flavor of The Month
The spell the sensationalist media and pandering politicians have the American public under is bewildering. No matter the level of education or common sense a person possesses the issue of the day continues to be successfully manipulated. And sadly they win big every time.
Ebola? Come on. In Africa it is an issue. A serious issue. And it has become a global responsibility. But then again so is poverty. But that’s a discussion for another day. Ebola is a global responsibility because people are dying in a region ill equipped to handle this true crisis and because it threatens the welfare of the world. Yet the U.S. public’s containment strategy would be to simply isolate “those people.” Why must we be threatened personally to care? Even if we do not care about the humanity issue, let’s stretch our minds to realize that a true crisis in any region of the world has global economic consequences that effect every one of us. Then again, there is that age old poverty issue we can’t seem to wrap our minds around that costs us trillions of dollars, every single year. And far from contained, it simply grows each year.
Now, for that Ebola “crisis” in the U.S. Really?? We have 3 confirmed Ebola cases in the U.S. 3! One handled a dead body and the other two handled his dead body. And it is well documented that the direct exchange of bodily fluids is the only method of transmission. Yet, the media makes it the lead story of the day, adds the dramatic music and voice-overs, and drags out the talking heads that will validate and help build their narrative and ratings by either scaring or disgusting the viewing public, because that’s what we watch. That’s what we buy. And after that guaranteed immediate success, the media whips it into a mass hysteria making machine. P.T. Barnum would be proud.
Then enter the soulless politicians. Always forgetting they were elected to serve our best interests. Those outside the coveted White House attack and the party inside responds by over reacting, over responding, over spending and over press conferencing. Just so we can feel better. For being so damn stupid.
If they didn’t make hospital protocol mistakes in Dallas not a single person in this country would have died from Ebola at this point, including the guy the same hospital killed by it’s malpractice when he first showed up in it’s ER. And the only other two confirmed Ebola cases come from the same negligent hospital in yet another protocol fail. But let’s ground the plane he flew in on and track down all the people he came in contact with. (all of whom, as of today have been cleared – even his fiancee and immediate family who lived, ate, bathed, and slept with him.) Even though not a single person in that first or second emergency room visit that he coughed and sneezed on when he could barely stand up had any chance of getting Ebola. And didn’t. But let’s close the borders. Ban the flights from Africa. Call in the Trumps. Check the temperature of every passenger from East Africa! – when they get off the flights. Like that would protect us under this hysteria nonsense theory. Even when we know that any “exposed” passenger on the Petri dish that is one of our non fresh air circulating airplanes wouldn’t get a fever for days.
This is all so stupid it is mind boggling. But on the news last night they report the sales of Hazmet suits and “life saving kits” have skyrocketed. Are you kidding me?? They win again. How many people knew what a Hazmet suit was before two weeks ago? Now they are going to sit in their house wearing one? Because one person died?? In Dallas.
Will there be more cases? Possibly. And maybe even the transmission evidence might be a bit more obscure. And the sensationalist batch will be whipped up even further. But now that we are ready for Armageddon it all will be contained. And in three weeks this will be over. And somehow we won’t be the least bit embarrassed by any of it.
We will move on to stocking our basements with water and non perishables because the clocks changed or getting over vaccinated for the devastating, population wiping out, Bird Flu. The dreaded H1N1 “Pandemic! – we even use a scary name for it – has only infected a few hundred people. Ever. And most have been chicken workers. But the drug companies cash in their billions. And the government creates multi billion dollar initiatives, in partnership with drug companies, with our money, as we spend billions more on our own “life saving” protection measures. For nothing.
When will we grow up?
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