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Life is sometimes about small moments! (day 12)

These are pages from my journal. Will share a few more tomorrow! :)
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3 things you must never compromise on. (day 11)

Life can be hard. We might not be on the path we thought we would be on. We might have a myriad problems. As we navigate through life's curved paths, we change. But in order to be true to oneself, we need some essential principles on which we  will never compromise.
Here are three things which you MUST hold on to, no matter what.

Your word : My grandfather taught me this--that if you give your word, no matter what happens, you keep it up. It was  a maxim he lived by and valued. Since it was inculcated in me at an early age, I always keep my word. Even when it is hard to do so, I go the extra mile. It is who I am. I wasn't doing t for others. I was doing it for myself. But over the years, I have noticed how much others value it too, and see me as trustworthy. That's invaluable.

Your appearance: It is extremely important to be well-groomed. You don't have to have tonnes of money to be smartly dressed. I am a person who is not brand conscious at all. What I am concerned about it the fit and style. If you haven't yet heard Satsia Stavasuk's  ted x talk, you MUST watch it. It could change your life! (click on the highlighted words)



Your sincerity: For me, being genuine is everything. I can't stand pretentious and fake people. A lot of people pretend to be someone they are not. They also say things they do not mean. I suspect they do this as they feel inadequate to reveal their true selves, or perhaps they want to be liked. I can't relate to such people. For me, being your authentic self is integral to me core.

Are there any principles you'd like to add to these?
Tell me in my comment box.
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Merry Christmas: Day 10.

Today, just a simple photo
A heartfelt Christmas wish
May you spend time with your loved ones
May you create Happy memories
May you do things that bring you joy
Above all, may you be grateful for your togetherness!
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Bereft (a poem) Day 9

A humming bird without a song
A vehicle without a wheel
Wounds caused by wrong
From which you can't heal

Bereft of feelings
A silent burden to bear
All the daily dealings
Actions without any care

How long oh fate?
Can I endure the dread?
This hooked twisted bait
That leaves me alive yet dead.


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How do you tell if it is true love? (Day 8)

Love is not a contract you sign, where you commit to telling everything to each other. Love is when you feel understood without saying a thing. When you love someone, you accept them in their entirety. The bad bits along with the good bits. You learn to control your jealousy. You put their happiness above yours. You want the best for them. You wish them well. You tell them things that you believe are your absolute truth. You share your vulnerabilities with them. You show them your weakest side. You bank on their compassion. You never expect love to be unkind. And when you lose love, it feels like you have lost a part of yourself. Forever.

The above is a quote from my book Wake Up Life is Calling.
The protagonist writes this in a journal where she writes notes to herself.

What do YOU think true love is? How would YOU define it?
Tell me in my comment box!

New post tomorrow :)
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Lots of love <3



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Send a little joy in the mail ! Day 7

There's something magical about the Christmas season. People might say it is commercialised  and advertising has made it all about expensive gifts, but I think it depends on the individual families and how they let it affect them.

I am a part of an International Artists Community and this year, I signed up for a card exchange programme. We  are assigned groups and we make hand made cards for all in our groups. I received a BEAUTIFUL card in the post yesterday (coincidentally on my birthday)  from Norway, from a complete stranger. It was so BEAUTIFUL.

I am not allowed to share it as yet, as many haven't yet received the cards, and it might spoil the surprise for the others in the group if the person has made similar cards.
I too have made cards for people in my group and have sent out a bunch, and will be sending the rest tomorrow.

I am looking forward to the cards I will receive!

Isn't this a lovely idea?
If you like it, you can make your own groups and exchange REAL cards with strangers. You would just need someone to take the lead and coordinate, and assign groups. This can easily be done with the help of Google docs, or you can join artists  communities  like Sktchy where such things are done.

New post tomorrow! :)
Till then-- Stay warm, stay happy!
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Birthdays. Day 6

My 48th. So grateful I am living my dream. Worth every night I stayed up working :)
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The 5 secrets to staying young. Day 5

There are two kinds of senior citizens. One kind considers themselves old. They are jaded and have given up on life. The other group doesn't even think about their age. They are fun and interesting. My mother falls in the latter category.

I call my mother every day. She is fiercely independent, and loves her cottage in a small village in Kerala and loves living by herself.  She  is super fit and walks every single day, apart from doing her 'kriyas'. She is also really well-read and can hold a conversation on most topics you can think of.

A few years back, I got her an I-phone and taught her to use Whatsapp and  Instagram. She is so tech-savvy  now that she posts pics of her travel (all over the world)  on her Instagram handle.

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My mother lives alone. She is creative, intelligent, reads a lot she is up to date with all the current affairs. She also uses Instagram with ease, and always tunes in to all my live videos ! She travels the world, takes her fitness very seriously and is one of the strongest people I know! She inspires me and I want to be like her, when I am her age. Happy birthday my darling mother ❤️❤️❤️ . . . Music by bensoundA post shared by Preeti Shenoy (@preeti.shenoy) on Oct 18, 2018 at 9:57pm PDT

The above is a video I posted of her, which I compiled from photos of her all around the world. (do watch it).

From my mother I have learnt the greatest secrets to staying young.
 They are as follows:

1.  Learn something new. It invigorates your brain cells.

2. Be open minded to new experiences. It makes you grow.

3. Fitness is VERY important. Health is Wealth. Without health you have nothing. So exercise and eat right.

4. Spend time talking to people younger than you. Ask about what their dreams are. Ask their views. When they share --LISTEN. Truly listen

5. Do things that make you happy and do them every single day!

This evening, when I was on a phone call to my mom, she told me that she reads my blog every single day and that she waits for my posts! I felt happy to hear that and told her that I would mention it in today's post. She laughed when she heard that.


Do you have any more points to add to the above? If so tell me in my comment box. :)
Also let me know  in my comment box, if you watched the video. I found it very inspiring and so did many people. Hence shared :)

 That's all for now
A new post tomorrow! (and a special post)

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Take time for yourself Day 4.

One of the things most of us neglect is spending time in our own company. Whether you are a student, a busy mother to young kids, a working professional or a senior citizen, we're mostly surrounded by people who we live with or our co-workers.
If you live  alone, all by yourself chances are once you get home, you spend time with the television. Rare is the person who spends time by themselves. I for one, highly recommend it. As a writer, for me it is a occupational NEED. If I don't get my alone time I would probably be very irked.

In my home, I have a mediation room with a  bamboo water fountain (which my son and I made.). I ensure that I meditate at least four -five times a week.Even if you do not meditate, take some time out for yourself. Create a 'happy corner' in your home which is just for you. Make it a point to spend some time in that 'happy corner' doing whatever gives you joy. But do this by yourself. Let your family members know that this is YOUR time. If you are a student living in the hostel, escape to the library and create some 'ME time' for yourself.

I have found that this practice helps me a lot in gaining perspective, reflecting about things, slowing down and remembering to be grateful for all that I have.

Do you do this too? Do you have a happy corner in your house? Do you get time by yourself?
Let me know in my comment box; I would love to know.
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Another post tomorrow!
Good night folks.
Love and Warmth
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Don't say yes when you want to say no. Day 3.

The one thing I have learnt is that people will treat you the way you allow them to. The more you bend and oblige, the more you will be taken advantage of. A lot of people resent this, but they still continue the same pattern of behaviour, getting metaphorically kicked over and over. They aren't assertive enough to state what they want and so they continue tolerating the irritants.

Many of us are afraid to state our opinions, afraid to say a no. We're afraid of confrontations. We're afraid to be disliked.

I grew up in an era where there was no television (let alone the Internet). All our knowledge came from books. A book which I read when I was very young (probably at17 or 18) was Don't say Yes when you want to say No.

I remember I had practised all the exercises in the  book and it  helped me a lot. I don't remember what the book said as it was over a 30 years ago that I read it, but I remember it being useful and helpful. (click on the title of the book for the amazon link)

Now that I am a successful author, I have to say no a lot of times. People are extremely demanding. I don't mean to sound boastful but I have over a 40K followers on Instagram and  get a LOT of unreasonable requests every single day. Mind you, from the point of view of the person who is asking the requests are very reasonable. They think it is just one request which will take me a few minutes (from their point of view) and they don't ever see it from my perspective--that I get hundreds of such requests that it is just not possible to oblige all.

If you want to be kind to yourself, you have to learn to say no. You can't do it all. You don't have to do it all. Just practice saying no, but be kind.  It might be difficult at first, but you will soon see benefits. Read the books for tips!

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