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Guilty Pleasures

In this special episode of the podcast, host Keith McArthur ask some of the world’s most inspiring people about their guilty pleasures. Guests include Rick Hanson, Sally Helgesen, Morra Aarons-Mele and Greg Wells.

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Episode 31 Show Notes
[00:00] Welcome and Intro
[0:59] Guilty Pleasures

Keith counts down his past guests’ guilty pleasures.

Jenny Blake, from episode 1 [1:16]
Kurek Ashley, from episode 2 [2:05]
Robert Puff, from episode 3 [3:14]
Luminita D. Saviuc, from episode 4 [4:03]
Joelenta Greenberg, from episode 5 [4:55]
Greg Wells, from episode 6 [5:34]
Fabiana Bacchini, from episode 7 [6:58]
Celeste Headlee, from episode 8 [7:41]
Morra Aarons-Mele, from episode 9 [8:03]
Martin Gibala, from episode 10 [8:39]
Andrea Owen, from episode 13 [8:54]
Jeff Chegwin, from episode 14 [9:30]
Carmela DiClemente, from episode 14 [10:20]
Leslie Caubble, from episode, from episode 15 [10:58]
Daisy Buchanan, from episode 16 [11:38]
Kristen Ulmer, from episode 17 [12:54]
Jake Nawrocki, from episode 18 [14:06]
Stever Robbbins, from episode 19 [14:56]
Olivia D’Silva, from episode 22 [15:15 ]
Rick Hanson, from episode 24 [16:10]
Chantal Heide, from episode 25 [18:49]
Stephanie McArthur, from episode 26 [19:20]
Sally Helgesen, from episode 27 [20:44]
Todd Davis, from episode 28 [21:34]
Jason Richardson, from episode 29 [22:54]
Alison Green, from episode 30 [23:57]
Keith McArthur, from episode 11 [24:10]
Joelle Anderson, from episode 11 [24:42]
Michelle Jaelin, from episode 11 [25:35]
Kathleen Trotter, from episode 11 [26:44]

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Let’s Talk About Death (To Learn About Life)

There’s no better way to appreciate life, than by thinking about death. That’s why I ask my featured guest each week on the My Instruction Manual podcast how they want to be remembered. So let’s talk about death to learn about life.

Talking about death can be uncomfortable. I call it humanity’s best kept secret. We all know we’re going to die. But few of us really accept it.

A couple things have made me think even more about death in recent weeks.

How I Let Mindfulness Stress Me Out (Part 2)

The first involves an update on something I wrote about this in my new book 18 Steps to Own Your Life, and earlier in this blog post. I tell the story about a time I became emotional and irrational over a canceled mindfulness meditation class at the local YMCA.

I wrote:

Other people in the class saw this as a minor inconvenience. I saw it as a personal attack on my existence, and I just couldn’t get this affront out of my mind. I complained at the front desk. I tracked down the instructor and complained to her. I complained on Twitter about it.

Here’s the update: the other day I went to the YMCA with my son Connor and noticed a poster commemorating the life of the very same instructor who bore the brunt of my complaints.

It turns out she’s been sick for more than a decade and died the other day. It was a good reminder of why it’s so important to avoid complaining and to treat others well. We never really know what’s going on in someone else’s life.

It’s also a profound reminder of the fragility of life.

The Toronto Van Attack

The second incident that caused me to think about life was the deadly van attack that happened here in my city of Toronto. A man rented a van and drove it on and off the sidewalk for more than a mile, killing 10 people and injuring 16 more. While the motives aren’t clear, it appears the attack was driven by a hatred for women.

My wife Laura and I took our kids to the memorial where thousands of people have left flowers and candles and stuffed animals. It was a moving experience.

But what struck me most was that even though this happened less than five miles from my house, it didn’t shake me any more than other van attacks that have happened in New York City and France. I’m not sure why that is. Perhaps it’s because these attacks have become so common that I already expected that one could happen here.

The more optimistic explanation is we’re a global community where a death around the world harms me just as much as a death in my home town.

As John Donne famously wrote: “Any man’s death diminishes me, because I am involved in mankind, and therefore never send to know for whom the bells tolls; it tolls for thee.”

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Ask a Manager with Alison Green

Alison Green, author of Ask a Manager offers advice on some common workplace challenges. And host Keith McArthur speaks with mindfulness contributor Joelle Anderson about how meditation can help with mental health challenges like depression and anxiety.

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Episode 30 Show Notes
[00:00] Welcome and Intro
[00:59} Keith reflects on death and dying
[3:52] Featured interview with Alison Green

Alison is author of Ask a Manager: How to Navigate Clueless Colleagues, Lunch-stealing Bosses and the Rest of Your Life at Work. Described as the “Dear Abbey of the workplace,” Alison has dishing out workplace advice for more than a decade at AskAManager.org.

In this conversation, Keith and Alison discuss:

What do you do if you have an employee casting curses on colleagues? [4:34]
How Alison became a workplace advice expert [5:50]
The answer to most workplace challenges is ‘speak up and have the awkward conversations.’ [8:07]
How Alison’s advice has evolved over the past 11 years [11:46]
Alison’s advice on:

What if your boss keeps stealing your lunch [15:56]
Why employees should act more like independent consultants [17:23]
What if your boss is micro-managing you [18:53]
What if your co-worker is writing a mean blog about you [21:45]
What if a co-worker asks you to keep a secret from your boss [22:55]
What if you have an employee who spends too much time on social media? [24:23]
What if you have an employee who is always late? [25:45]



[29:24] Alison’s  Instruction Manual

1. What are the habits you maintain every day to stay happy and healthy? [29:40]

Spends at least a day every day reading

 2. What personal development book do you recommend? [30:17]

Emma by Jane Austin
“I’ve read Jane Austin’s Emma more times than I can count and it just makes me happy.”

3. Favorite personal mantra / inspirational quote [30:53] 

“I don’t know if it’s a mantra, but I feel really strongly that we should all do what we say we’re going to do when we say we’re going to do it and I find myself telling that to people a lot.”

4. What’s your one guilty pleasure? [31:32]

Naps

5. When your time comes, how do you want to be remembered? [31:45]

Finding ways to make the world a better one

[32:08] Where to find Alison

Website: Askamanager.org
Twitter: @askamanager

[32:45] Mindfulness contributor Joelle Anderson on how meditation helps people suffering from mental health challenges such as depression and anxiety

Joelle Anderson is a therapist specializing in mindfulness meditation and creator and host of the Kernel of Wisdom YouTube channel.

In this conversation, Keith and Joelle discuss:

Whether this can be done on own vs with a professional [33:55]
How mindfulness helps Joelle’s clients  [36:25]
Risks of managing mental health through mindfulness [37:01]
Where to find Joelle [37:53 ]



Kernelofwisdom.com
YouTube.com/KernelofWisdom1





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Get a Gold Medal Mindset with Dr. Jason Richardson

World champion athlete Jason Richardson talks about what it means to have a gold medal mindset. Now a psychologist, Jason teaches people how to live better lives as an author, podcaster, speaker and coach. And host Keith McArthur speaks with fitness contributor Kathleen Trotter about why you need to get in shape before you take up running.

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Episode 29 Show Notes
[00:00] Welcome and Intro
[00:59] Featured interview with Jason Richardson

Twenty years ago, Jason Richardson was one of the world’s top BMX racers. Now a psychologist, he teaches people to live better lives. Jason is the author of It’s All BS: We’re all Wrong and You’re All Right and host of the Gold Medal Mindset podcast. Jason lives in California where he works as a sports and business psychologist and coach.

In this conversation, Keith and Jason discuss:

Jason’s 15-year run as a world champion athlete  [1:20]
What being a world-class athlete taught Jason about how to succeed in life [8:40]
The Gold Medal Mindset [12:06]
Raising our kids to focus on being the best at one things vs. trying many different things [15:05]
Jason’s book It’s all BS [19:30]

[20:51] Jason Richardson’s Instruction Manual

1. What are the habits you maintain every day to stay happy and healthy? [21:00]

Gets up early to meditate five days a week
Rides his bike
Works on something he’s obsessed about

 2. What personal development book do you recommend? [23:16]

The Dip: A Little Book That Teaches You When to Quit (and When to Stick) by Seth Godin

3. Favorite personal mantra / inspirational quote [25:00] 

The more I do, the more I can do

4. What’s your one guilty pleasure? [27:08]

TV in bed
Mexican food

5. When your time comes, how do you want to be remembered? [28:10]

“He did what he thought was right, anyway.”

[31:12] Where to find Jason

Website: drjasonrichardson.com
Instagram: @realdrjrich
Twitter: @realdrjrich 
Podcast on iTunes: Gold Medal Mindset

[32:35] Fitness contributor Kathleen Trotter on Training to Run

Kathleen Trotter is author of Finding Your Fit: A Compassionate Trainer’s Guide to Making Fitness a Lifelong Habit

In this conversation, Keith and Kathleen discuss:

Why is running so hard on the body?   [33:44]
How to get in shape before running [36:00]
What about stretching? [37:54}
Where to find Kathleen [42:48]

KatheenTrotter.com
Instagram: KathleenTrotterFitness
Twitter: KTrotterFitness
Facebook: KathleenTrotter



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Get Better at Work with Todd Davis

Todd Davis, author of Get Better, discusses how to build effective relationships at work. And host Keith McArthur speaks with nutrition contributor Michelle Jaelin about the role that alcohol plays in your diet.

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Episode 28 Show Notes
[00:00] Welcome and Intro
[1:00] Featured interview with Todd Davis

Todd is author of Get Better: 15 Proven Practices to Build Effective Relationships at Work. He is executive vice president and chief people officer of Franklin Covey Co., which bills itself as the world’s leading performance improvement firm.

In this conversation, Keith and Todd discuss:

What 20th century French philosophy has to do with the 21st century North American workplace [1:35]
Why good relationships are fundamental to an organization’s success [4:52]
Practice #6: Avoid the Pinball syndrome (focus on the things that really make a difference in your life) [6:51]
These practices can also apply to relationships outside of  work [9:20]
Are there gender differences in these practices? [10:17]
Practice #15: Start with humility [12:20]

References book Lead with Humility: 12 Leadership Lessons from Pope Francis by Jeffrey A Krames


Practice #8: Take Stock of Your Emotional Bank Accounts [14:01]
Practice #11: Get the Volume Right [16:48]
Practice #2: Carry Your Own Weather [19:33]

Reference to Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor E. Frankl


Practice # 10: Talk Less, Listen More [22:08]

[24:29] Todd’s Instruction Manual

1. What are the habits you maintain every day to stay happy and healthy? [24:57]

Exercise every day
Listens to something uplifting or inspiring
Commit to be “the positive force” at work

 2. What personal development book do you recommend? [27:04]

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
The Tipping Point by Malcolm Gladwell
Linchpin by Seth Godin

3. Favorite personal mantra / inspirational quote [30:40] 

“Let the world know you as you are, not as you think you should be. Because sooner or later if you are posing you will forget the pose and then where are you?” – Fanny Bryce
“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.” – Mohatma Gandhi

4. What’s your one guilty pleasure? [32:46]

Diet Coke
The TV show  Dateline

5. When your time comes, how do you want to be remembered? [34:01]

As someone who valued and continually nurtured the most important relationships in his life.

[35:15] Where to find Todd

Website: GetBetterBook.com
Twitter: @ToddDavisFC
Facebook: /ToddDavisFC

[36:10] Nutrition contributor Michelle Jaelin on alcohol and nutrition

Michelle Jaelin is both a trained artist and a Registered Dietitian who is known as The NutritionArtist. She appears regularly as in newspapers, magazines and on television as an expert in healthy eating.

In this conversation, Keith and Michelle discuss:

From nutritional perspective, less alcohol is better; no alcohol is best [36:50]
Common misconceptions about alcohol [37:50]
Are there any health benefits to alcohol? [39:57]
Where to find Michelle:


Twitter: @nutritionartist 
Instagram: /nutritionartist
Facebook: /nutritionartistRD



[42:20] Closing words
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How Women Rise with Sally Helgesen

Sally Helgesen, author of How Women Rise, shares the 12 habits that may be holding you back from your next raise, promotion or job. And host Keith McArthur speaks with mindfulness contributor Joelle Anderson about the best mindfulness and meditation books.

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Episode 27 Show Notes
[00:00] Welcome and Intro
[00:58] Featured interview with Sally Helgesen

Sally Helgesen is author of How Women Rise: Break the 12 Habits Holding You Back From Your Next Raise, Promotion or Job. Sally is one of the world’s leading women’s leadership experts. She has developed and delivered leadership programs around the world for 30 years.

In this conversation, Keith and Sally discuss:

Why women still feel that they need to change if they’re going to succeed in the workplace [1:58]

We refer to Sally’s book The Female Advantage


How much less patriarchal are workplaces than they were 30 years ago? [3:15]
How the bad habits that hold women back in the workplace are different from those that hold men back [5:01]
Sally says these differences apply to women of all ages [7:01]
Habit 7: The perfection Trap [8:53]
Habit 8: The Disease to Please [10:55]
Even as a man, Keith identifies with many of these habits [12:12]
Habit 12: Letting Your Radar Distract You  [14:07]
Habit 5: Failing to Enlist Allies from Day One [20:17]
Habit 2: Expecting Others to Spontaneously Notice and Reward Your Contributions [22:51]
How to get started in addressing the habits holding you back [25:39]

[27:33] Sally’s Instruction Manual

1. What are the habits you maintain every day to stay happy and healthy? [27:53]

Start the day with 20 minutes of pilates, followed by reflecting on gratitude

 2. What personal development book do you recommend? [28:51]

Falling Upwards by Richard Rohr

3. Favorite personal mantra / inspirational quote [39.33] 

“Join the fray with vigor.” Tom Peters

4. What’s your one guilty pleasure? [30:26]

Long conversations with her dog when out for walks

5. When your time comes, how do you want to be remembered? [31:09]

As someone who helped women recognize, articulate and act on their greatest strengths.

[31:47] Where to find Sally

Website: SallyHelgesen.com
Linkedin: /sallyhelgesen
Twitter: @sallyhelgesen

[33:01] Mindfulness contributor Joelle Anderson on Minfulness books.

Joelle Anderson is a therapist specializing in mindfulness meditation and creator and host of the Kernel of Wisdom YouTube channel.

In this conversation, Keith and Joelle discuss and recommend the following books:

Mindfulness in Plain English by Bhante Henepola Gunaratana
10% Happier by Dan Harris
Mindfulness for Fidgety Skeptics by Dan Harris
Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach
Self Compassion by Kristin Neff
Unplug by Suze Yalof-Schwartz
Full Catastrophe Living  by Jon Kabat-Zinn
Wherever You Go, There You Are  by Jon Kabat-Zinn
Where to find Joelle



Kernelofwisdom.com
YouTube.com/KernelofWisdom1
Scroll down to watch Joelle’s video with book recommendations





[39:38] Closing words
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46 Things I’m Grateful for on my Kidneyversary

Tomorrow is my 46th birthday. But today marks an even more important milestone. It was one year ago today that my little sister Stephanie gave me a second chance at life by donating a kidney to me. Once a month, I mark this gift by reflecting on all the wonderful things I have to be grateful for. To mark 46 years of life, and one year of my second chance at life, here are 46 things I’m grateful for today.

I’m grateful I’m healthy.
I’m grateful my new kidney is going strong allowing me to live a normal life.
I’m grateful to my little sister Stephanie for giving me this kidney.
I’m grateful to my sister Fiona, who was also went through the testing, before she learned she wasn’t a match.
I’m grateful for my mom, and the memories of my dad, and that they raised us to take care of each other.
I’m grateful for other friends, relatives and distant acquaintances who also volunteered to donate a kidney if I needed them.
I’m grateful for my wife Laura, my friend and my soulmate. She took on so much when I was sick before the transplant and healing afterwards.
I’m grateful for my son Connor, my sunshine and my teacher
I’m grateful for my son Bryson, my hero and my inspiration.
I’m grateful for our puppy Quincy.
I’m grateful for the other dogs we had when I was growing up: Elfi and Kali.
I’m grateful for the sun.
I’m grateful for sharks.
I’m grateful for coffee.
I’m grateful for burritos.
I’m grateful for council, my far-flung but close-knit group of friends from university.
I’m grateful for the Toronto Blue Jays, and that they’re off to a surprisingly good start this year.
I’m grateful for fantasy baseball.
I’m grateful to you for reading this post.
I’m grateful for my failures, because they teach me how to be better.
I’m grateful for my parents-in-law Jim and Kathy.
I’m grateful for my brothers-in-law Andrew and Jason.
I’m grateful for my nieces Julia, Neva and Meara and my nephew Cameron.
I’m grateful to all the people who have read my book 18 Steps to Own Your Life.
I’m grateful that I went to see Come From Away last night. Such. A Good. Show.
I’m grateful for all the GRIN1 families I have met because our children have the same rare genetic condition.
I’m grateful for pizza.
I’m grateful for Thai Chicken Coconut soup.
I’m grateful for a good steak (even though I’m mostly eating a plant-based diet now).
I’m grateful that the most of the bad stuff in the world isn’t permanent.
I’m grateful that deep down, most people are fundamentally good.
I’m grateful that I live in Canada.
I’m grateful that I have a home that gives me shelter, keeps me cool in the summer and warm in the winter.
I’m grateful that Spring is here and warm weather is on the way (right? please??)
I’m grateful that we live in a world with so much great free content on the internet and podcasts and YouTube.
I’m grateful that I’m alive today.
I’m grateful that I have don’t usually have trouble sleeping at night.
I’m grateful that I can move my body and walk and run.
I’m grateful that I don’t have to worry about violence in my home or when I go outside in my neighborhood.
I’m grateful that my blog and podcast and book have inspired people to live better lives.
I’m grateful for people who leave comments and feedback and ratings on my content.
I’m grateful that even though my son Bryson is mostly non-verbal, once in a while he greets me with “hi dad-dad” through a toothy grin.
I’m grateful that tonight I get to see my son Connor perform tonight in the second round of the NTS drama festival.
I’m grateful for avocados.
I’m grateful that tomorrow is my birthday.
I’m grateful that today is my kidneyversary.

What about you? What are you grateful for today?

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A Kidney Transplant Story with Stephanie McArthur

Stephanie McArthur shares her experience of donating a kidney with podcast host Keith McArthur, who also happens to be her brother and recipient of the very same kidney. And nutrition contributor Michelle Jaelin talks about how to stay healthy when eating at restaurants.

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Episode 26 Show Notes
[00:00] Welcome and Intro
[00:58] Featured interview with Stephanie McArthur

Stephanie McArthur is my hero. One year ago, she gave me a second chance at life by donating a kidney to me. She joins me in this episode to talk about her kidney transplant journey.

In this conversation, Keith and Stephanie discuss:

First recollections of Keith’s kidney disease [1:38]
The death of their father and how that confirmed Stephanie’s willingness to donate a kidney to Keith if it ever came to that [3:20]
Another sibling gets tested first [5:14]
What questions did Stephanie have when she was going through testing process? [7:08]
Stephanie and Keith discuss fear ahead of the surgery [13:02]
Yes, there was pain… [15:46]
… and nerve damage [18:50]
The recovery period after the hospital [21:35]
What living donors need to be aware of [22:55]
How the transplant changed our lives [24:09]

[25:49] Stephanie’s Instruction Manual

1. What are the habits you maintain every day to stay happy and healthy? [26:00]

Get enough sleep
Eat mostly whole foods
Drink a lot of water
Move your body

 2. What personal development book do you recommend? [26:49]

Baseball Life Advice by Stacy May Fowles

Keith refers to the book he edited featuring Stacy May Fowles: Bat Flip: The Greatest Toronto Blue Jays Stories Ever Told

3. Favorite personal mantra / inspirational quote [28:22] 

“I may be lying in the gutter, but I’m looking at the stars.”

Similar to the following quote attributed to Oscar Wilde: “We are all in the gutter but some of us are looking at the stars.”

4. What’s your one guilty pleasure? [28:52]

Sleeping In

5. When your time comes, how do you want to be remembered? [30:07] 

“I just want the people who I shared this journey with to remember the good things that we’ve done together, and the times that we laughed, and the joy that we had, and I hope that having known me, even if I’m gone, was something positi ve for them, and helped them to move forward in their own journey, in a better way.”

[31:00] Where to find Stephanie

“They can’t”

[31:49] Nutrition contributor Michelle Jaelin on eating healthy at restaurants

Michelle Jaelin is both a trained artist and a Registered Dietitian who is known as The NutritionArtist. She appears regularly as in newspapers, magazines and on television as an expert in healthy eating.

In this conversation, Keith and Michelle discuss:

Why restaurant food is so bad for us [32:09]
What steps can we take to eat healthier at restaurants? [32:40]
What about fast food? [34:00]
Where to find Michelle:

Twitter: @nutritionartist 
Instagram: /nutritionartist
Facebook: /nutritionartistRD



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How to Find Love with Chantal Heide

Chantal Heide, author of seven books about relationships reveals the secret to finding love. And host Keith McArthur speaks with mindfulness contributor Joelle Anderson about Metta Meditation.

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Episode 25 Show Notes
[00:00] Welcome and Intro
[1:05] Featured interview with Chantal Heide

Chantal Heide, a dating coach who has written several books on dating and relationships including No More Assholes: Your 7 Step Guide to Saying Goodbye to Guys and Finding the Real Man You’re Looking For. Chantal’s latest book — Dating 101: Understanding the Drive,s Behaviours and Emotions Behind Love — debuted last week.

In this conversation, Keith and Chantal discuss:

Chantal’s own dating struggles [1:37]
Meditation as the secret to finding love [3:12]
Keith about how he feels stress build up when he takes a break from meditation [6:53]
When we know what we want in a relationship, we’ll find that the right person is put in our path [8:50]
The difference between “guys” and “men” [10:05]
How expectations can kill relationships [11:54]
It’s impossible to make other people happy [15:50]

Scroll down for the Will Smith video Chantal references


Why Chantal wanted to write a book for teenagers [17:38]
Chantal’s “no kissing for three months” rule [18:32]

Chantal mentions “phenylethylamine”



[21:15] Chantal’s Instruction Manual

1. What are the habits you maintain every day to stay happy and healthy? [21:39]

Meditation
A paleo diet with an emphasis on plants

 2. What personal development book do you recommend? [22:24]

The dance of Anger by Harriet Lerner 

3. Favorite personal mantra / inspirational quote [23:31] 

“I surrender.”

4. What’s your one guilty pleasure? [25:31]

Watching cat videos

5. When your time comes, how do you want to be remembered? [25:59]

As a revolutionist, someone who caused a shift in relationships

[27:10] Where to find Chantal

Website: canadasdatingcoach.com
Instagram: canadasdatingcoach
YouTube: Chantal Heide
Podcast: iTunes

[28:22] Mindfulness contributor Joelle Anderson on Metta meditation

Joelle Anderson is a therapist specializing in mindfulness meditation and creator and host of the Kernel of Wisdom YouTube channel.

In this conversation, Keith and Joelle discuss:

Metta Meditation = Love and Kindness Meditation = Compassion Meditation [28:50]
How to do Metta meditation [30:22]
Metta m editation can feel like prayer [32:54]
Where to find Joelle [34:05]



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Join the Self-Help Book Club on Facebook

Do you like learning how to be a better you? Want to be part of a positive community where we learn and grow together? If so, I hope you’ll join me in the My Instruction Manual Self-Help Book Club on Facebook.

We’re about to go live with our first book. For April, we’ll be reading / discussing How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie.

You can join the club by clicking this link. You’ll need to request to join, but don’t worry… I’ve got a spot reserved with your name on it.

Here are five reasons to join the Self-Help Book Club

Each month we’ll pick a different book to read / discuss. You’re welcome to participate every month. Or, if life is getting too busy, or the book doesn’t interest you, take the month off!
Some months, we’ll be joined by the authors of the books we’re studying in a private Q&A.
You’ll get to participate in selecting the books we read and discuss.
Not only is the club free, but I’ve made some bonus freebies available for group members. You can find the link to download them in the pinned post in the Facebook group.
Our first book —  How to Win Friends and Influence People  — is a self-help classic. It’s not too long, and the ebook is available for less than $1 on Amazon. So time and money shouldn’t be a barrier.

I can’t wait to see you in the club!

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