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May 23, 2024
Unlocking the Power of Shamanic Healing for Your Spiritual Journey
If you are seeking to maximize your life and spiritual journey, shamanic healing offers a potent pathway. Rooted in ancient wisdom and seamlessly blending with contemporary insights into personal and ancestral trauma, shamanism provides keys to holistic well-being.
Emotional and Physical Resilience:
Stress Relief: It helps you cope with stress and find emotional balance. Spiritual counseling and insights in the post-treatment "healing story" can often smooth out some of the challenges and obstacles we face in this world.
Trauma Recovery: It supports recovery from trauma symptoms, allowing you to heal at your own pace, with a better understanding of the trauma and its underlying energetic causes.
New Beginnings: Specialized healings can help you break old patterns, dissolve karmic contracts, and untangle from the influence of others. Start fresh as a clean slate free from these compelling influences. Make new choices and write your own script rather than repeating old cycles or stories.
Intuitive Awakening and Development:
Deepening Intuition: Through shamanic practice, you can enhance your intuitive abilities and inner knowing. Chakra treatments help to heal the energetic "blocks and kinks" that hold you back or keep you from reaching your full potential. Shamanic Consciousness Integration (aka soul retrieval) brings back "lost" soul fragments that may contain unrealized gifts.
Divine Connection: Develop a profound connection with the natural world and the realms of Spirit (Guides, Power Animals, Totems, and more). Learn that you are a multidimensional being able to walk both worlds. Understand that the most important connections you can make are with your Self and your Creator.
Ancestral Healing and Purpose:
Contributing to Ancestral Purpose: By engaging in shamanic work, you contribute to healing not only yourself but your ancestral line and the planet. All changes begin with you and ripple outward just as the healing begins on the soul-energetic level and vibrates outward into your subjective reality.
Manifesting Your Mission Here: Reveal your highest destiny and purpose, infusing your life with greater meaning and positive impact. Understanding your true nature and "authentic self" opens new insights and creative paths.
Becoming a Spiritual Bad Ass: The Shamanic Way recognizes that this physical experience is often not an easy one. We came here for the challenges, not despite them. The spiritual path is for Warriors, not Victims. Learn to step into your Power and Medicine, put on your crown as the divine creature you are, and walk this walk like a Boss, King, or Queen.
A Word of Caution: Shamanic healing is not a quick fix or miracle treatment. Healing from trauma is a complex journey that requires time, effort, and patience. Consider working alongside a clinically trained therapist alongside shamanic energy healing for comprehensive support.
Remember, your healing journey contributes to the collective healing of our world.
For more information on services offered by Steve Wagner, Integrated Shaman please visit my Facebook page @IntegratedShaman or my website https://IntegratedShaman.com
Be sure to click on the links about our upcoming podcast SIMPATICO available on all the major platforms. My book by the same name is also available on Amazon. Just follow the links!
In closing, I am leaving you with some inspirational thoughts!
“The people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do” Steve Jobs
“Scar tissue is stronger than regular tissue. Realize the strength, move on.”
Henry Rollins
“I have said, Ye are gods; and all of you are children of the Most High. Psalms 82:6
“Better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.” Unknown
“And the time came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it to took to blossom.” Anais Nin
“You are allowed to be both a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously.”
Sophia Bush
“If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving another one.” Dolly Parton
“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.”
Georg Bernard Shaw
Unleash the Beast y’all!
Ciao’
Steve
"The Power of Soul Retrieval: Rediscovering Wholeness and Healing"
As we navigate the complexities of daily life, it's common to feel disconnected from our true selves and the world around us. Finding harmony and inner peace often requires more than just physical healing; it necessitates a deeper, spiritual approach. In this blog post, we delve into the transformative practice of soul retrieval and consciousness integration, exploring how shamanic healing can guide us on a path to spiritual wholeness and wellness.
The Essence of Soul Retrieval
Soul retrieval is a profound spiritual practice rooted in ancient traditions that aims to bring back fragments of the soul lost due to traumatic experiences or emotional wounds. Through this gentle yet powerful process, individuals can reconnect with their essence, reclaim lost parts of themselves, and restore balance and harmony to their being.
At the core of soul retrieval is the belief that fragments of our soul can splinter off during times of distress, leading to feelings of emptiness, disconnection, and a lack of vitality. By journeying with a shamanic healer, one can embark on a quest to retrieve these lost aspects, reintegrating them into the whole and fostering a sense of completeness.
The Power of Consciousness Integration
Consciousness integration goes hand in hand with soul retrieval, serving as a vital step towards spiritual healing and self-discovery. This process involves expanding one's awareness, embracing mindfulness practices, and cultivating a deeper understanding of the self and the world. Through consciousness integration, individuals can align mind, body, and spirit, fostering a sense of unity and purpose in their lives.
By delving into the depths of consciousness, we can unlock hidden truths, release limiting beliefs, and embark on a profound journey of self-realization. This process empowers us to live authentically, make conscious choices, and embrace our true potential with clarity and grace.
Embarking on a Journey of Spiritual Healing
At Integrated Shaman, we recognize the transformative power of soul retrieval, consciousness integration, and shamanic healing practices. Our holistic approach aims to guide individuals on a sacred journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and healing through ancient wisdom and spiritual teachings.
In our quest for spiritual wellness, healing through soul integration offers a pathway to wholeness. By embracing the transformative practices of soul retrieval and consciousness integration, we can embark on a journey of self-discovery, inner healing, and profound transformation. Shamanic tradition considers the soul retrieval the "ultimate healing." I take it a step further with my unique treatment called Shamanic Consciousness Integration.
Ready to embark on your own journey of spiritual healing? Discover the transformative power of soul retrieval and consciousness integration with Integrated Shaman. Begin your journey today and embrace the path to spiritual wholeness.
We cannot be our authentic selves if we have pieces missing. Restore your inner child. Heal past trauma. Get a new perspective on life. Call your soul back and discover a new sense of wholeness that has been absent in your life.
Still have questions? Give me a call or email.
Ciao'
Steve
May 10, 2024
SIMPATICO: Blurring Lines
Welcome to SIMPATICO, where the realms of spirituality, mysticism, metaphysics, ancient wisdom, and science converge into a captivating exploration of our souls, our human experiences, and the mechanisms of the universe. SIMPATICO: Blurring Lines is more than just a podcast; it’s a cosmic odyssey—a bridge between realms. Inspired by my book of the same name, as well as our TV pilot, The Other Side (now streaming on Amazon Prime), this podcast promises to unravel the threads that connect us all. From the depths of our souls to the mysteries of the universe, we’ll delve into profound questions and seek understanding.
Meet Steve (me), our featured host, (integrated) shaman-healer, author, and paranormal investigator, whose connection to Spirit, eclectic ancestral knowledge, and background in Shamanic tradition guides you on your journey to spiritual awareness. Drawing from Indigenous practices, extensive study and training, and personal experience, Steve shares his insights on spiritual conceptions and works to clarify many spiritual misconceptions. His goal is to challenge your paradigms, blur the lines of divisive belief systems, and reveal the divine interactive aspects and relativity of all Creation.
Then we have Rebekah, our moderator and digital content creator, a Mystic Christian whose faith is infused with mystical experiences and a deep reverence for the Divine. Through contemplative practices, study of sacred texts, and personal revelations, she illuminates the obscure aspects of Christianity and explores the universal truths that transcend restrictive religious boundaries. Rebekah proves that Christian views and spiritual beliefs are not mutually exclusive, and that their integration brings a more expansive spiritual experience.
Amber, our resident folklorist, and guardian of tales, weaves the thread of our collective stories and cultural wisdom that takes our listeners beyond the realms of the mundane. Raised to understand the power and language of crystals and stones, she absorbed their stories, which piqued her fascination with the mysteries of the Universe. Mystical and analytical, she sought out dusty archives, archaic scripts, and forgotten narratives; and bridges the worlds of the spiritual, magical, mysterious, and empirical. Both a devil's advocate and faithful believer, she questions, probes, and seeks out patterns in the chaos.
Sarah is our psychic medium par excellence, Tarot whisperer, paranormal enthusiast, and stalker of Sasquatch. Her intuitive abilities enable Sarah to decipher cryptic messages from beyond, reveal hidden truths, transcend the ordinary, and comfort those seeking solace. She believes that the veil between worlds is delicate, drawing back that velvet curtain to invite both skeptics and believers to explore the unexplained. She carries the weight of centuries of ancestral knowledge within her soul, serving as a beacon of light for those navigating the cosmic fog.
With the various viewpoints offered by our hosts, co-hosts, and guests, we hope to create a rich tapestry of insights, inviting the audience members to embark on a journey of discovery and self-reflection without boundaries. Whether you are drawn to the ancient wisdom of Shamanism or Kabbalah, the mystical depths of Christianity, the paranormal or the mystical, or the philosophical inquiry of metaphysics, SIMPATICO offers something for everyone on their spiritual quest. Tune in as we dive deeply into the mysteries of the Universe and uncover the hidden or forgotten truths that unite us all.
Dear Readers,
As we embark on this exciting new venture, I find myself filled with immense pride. Our hosting team, along with the talented production crew (comprising Mike, Shawna, and Kimber), has poured heart and soul into creating something truly special.
Where to Find Us:
Facebook: Connect with us on our Facebook page @SimpaticoThePodcast. Join the community, share your thoughts, and stay updated on our latest episodes.
WIX Website: Click on the first image to visit our beautifully designed WIX website. Explore exclusive content, behind-the-scenes glimpses, and more.
Major Platforms: SIMPATICO will be available on all major podcast platforms. Whether you’re an Apple Podcasts enthusiast, a Spotify aficionado, or prefer another platform, we’ve got you covered.
Breaking Boundaries:
Our mission is to blur the lines—to challenge conventional thinking, ignite curiosity, and foster connections. As we explore the esoteric, mysterious, unknown, and the scientific, we invite you to join us on this thought-provoking journey. Let’s transcend limitations and discover the magic that lies beyond.
Stay Tuned: Keep an eye on my personal page @IntegratedShaman for updates, sneak peeks, and exclusive content. Together, we’ll unlock the secrets of the universe and blur all the lines along the way!
Tanto Amore! ✨
Ciao,
Steve
April 22, 2022
April 14, 2022
Editorial Review on Simpatico
Worth reading
This book is a well-written description of one person's journey through reconciling spirituality and science.
Rebekah Jorgensen, Discovery Reviewer @ Reedsy.com
This book covers a lot of ground in its pages. The author touches on a wide variety of topics, including religion, history, and science. One of the things that surprised me about the book was how much it drew on Christianity, especially as the beginning of the book was dedicated to shamanistic topics and philosophies which are often seen as being incompatible with Christianity.
This author shows that differing religious traditions don't necessarily have to be at odds with each other. By showing some of the similar language and imagery found in different traditions, he shows how they can be compatible with each other. My favorite chapter was the chapter about Four Agreements because the agreements really are pretty much things that are universal, no matter what your religious background is.
The book is quite long, but it's worth the read. Even if you don't agree with everything that's part of the author's spiritual background, there are going to be some things that you do agree with, because there are some things that are universal. I also always enjoy reading books where people who don't describe themselves as exclusively Christian write about Christ and Christian teachings - it shows how widely those teachings apply, even for non-Christians. It also helps me to expand my own horizons as far as learning about other faith traditions.
The stated goal of the book is to show how spirituality, ancient philosophies, and modern science can work together instead of against each other. I think that, overall, the author is successful. Some of the book is written in a more chronological order with summaries of specific years, and some of the book is written in a way that's more topical, but overall it works well to get his point across, that there are things that are universal, and that science and philosophy and spirituality don't necessarily have to be in conflict with each other.
Ultimately, while I didn't think this was the best book I've ever read on this kind of topic (weaving together science and religion) I still found it interesting. I enjoy reading books about people's journeys, and this book was very open about the different parts of the spiritual journey and discovery the author took. It is worth a read for anyone who is interested in reading about another's spiritual journey, or how someone who has deeply held spiritual beliefs reconciles that with modern science.
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REVEIW
This book is a well-written description of one person's journey through reconciling spirituality and science.
Rebekah Jorgensen, Discovery Reviewer @ Reedsy.com
This book covers a lot of ground in its pages. The author touches on a wide variety of topics, including religion, history, and science. One of the things that surprised me about the book was how much it drew on Christianity, especially as the beginning of the book was dedicated to shamanistic topics and philosophies which are often seen as being incompatible with Christianity.
This author shows that differing religious traditions don't necessarily have to be at odds with each other. By showing some of the similar language and imagery found in different traditions, he shows how they can be compatible with each other. My favorite chapter was the chapter about Four Agreements because the agreements really are pretty much things that are universal, no matter what your religious background is.
The book is quite long, but it's worth the read. Even if you don't agree with everything that's part of the author's spiritual background, there are going to be some things that you do agree with, because there are some things that are universal. I also always enjoy reading books where people who don't describe themselves as exclusively Christian write about Christ and Christian teachings - it shows how widely those teachings apply, even for non-Christians. It also helps me to expand my own horizons as far as learning about other faith traditions.
The stated goal of the book is to show how spirituality, ancient philosophies, and modern science can work together instead of against each other. I think that, overall, the author is successful. Some of the book is written in a more chronological order with summaries of specific years, and some of the book is written in a way that's more topical, but overall it works well to get his point across, that there are things that are universal, and that science and philosophy and spirituality don't necessarily have to be in conflict with each other.
Ultimately, while I didn't think this was the best book I've ever read on this kind of topic (weaving together science and religion) I still found it interesting. I enjoy reading books about people's journeys, and this book was very open about the different parts of the spiritual journey and discovery the author took. It is worth a read for anyone who is interested in reading about another's spiritual journey, or how someone who has deeply held spiritual beliefs reconciles that with modern science.
March 3, 2022
Notes on Narcissism: Shadow Teachers
Narcissism is a personality disorder on a spectrum of paradoxes ranging from a healthy emotional state to one of extreme self-absorption and aggression, including sociopathic and psychopathic tendencies. The term sociopath (aka antisocial personality disorder) refers to a person with a personality disorder manifesting in extreme antisocial attitudes and behavior and a lack of conscience. A psychopath sometimes considered synonymous with a sociopath, is characterized by persistent antisocial behavior, impaired empathy and remorse, and egotistical traits. A psychopath seems different in degree than a sociopath in terms of abnormal or violent social behavior, and void of conscience without consideration of consequences. Again, we are talking about a range or spectrum.
Somewhere along that range might be a borderline personality disorder, marked more by volatile emotions and images of oneself, real or imagined. Still, some common threads weave through the pathology of all these disorders. I see a narcissist as a sociopath that can approach a psychopath, with some characteristics of the BLPD entangled in the mix.
However, while a sociopath is usually “wired” that way at birth, and BLPD seems to be genetic, narcissism appears to be a learned behavior from the previous generation and is also recognized as a characteristic of most children that they eventually grow out of. We may all have these innate tendencies at some point, but indoctrination makes the disorder a program and a product of another narcissistic personality. These are damaged individuals, often viewed as “spoiled” or entitled children but lacking the love and support they truly craved; their behavior is a defense against deep unresolved hurt and neglect, disappointment, painful insecurities, and often abandonment issues.
They refuse to be accountable for their actions and blame others or conditions, et al. It is never their fault. They may feel that they were “never enough” or not accepted or loved; they belittle, criticize, and debase others to make themselves feel better about themselves or to enhance their image. Characteristics include a desire to be or appear “perfect” or “exceptional” and operate entirely out of ego, focusing only on self. Energy only flows one way, to themselves, especially considering themselves an authority or expert ignoring any other point of view, yet they tend to have an insatiable desire for attention and admiration. They demonstrate superiority, inflated ego, artificial self-importance, an apparent lack of or at least impaired empathy, and an absence of compassion, conscience, and trust; they have no understanding of feelings. Since there is no trust, they always rely on manipulation and control.
Narcissists must always appear to be “right” even when they are completely incorrect or inappropriate. They strive to be in control, excelling in deception, lies, and gaslighting. They are inept at playing the victim while being the abuser. Narcissists and sociopaths are expert liars and can often convince a therapist they are OK, and others are the problem. A narcissist is usually aware of their anti-social behaviors but, by the nature of the disorder, will not seek help or counseling; their greatest fears are to show weakness or vulnerability, be exposed for what they are; and lose control of the situation or relationship. Counseling would, of course, reveal these fears and weaknesses. They value admiration and superiority over being liked and accepted, solicit respect, and show hostility toward anyone who does not feed their ego. They have extreme adversity to criticism but are highly critical of others. They have an excessive need for external validation and look to others for the regulation of self-esteem while simultaneously holding their supporters in disdain.
Self-esteem approaches or surpasses arrogance but is fragile and insecure. Their conscious projected image does not match their unconscious feelings about themselves. Their vanity is bravado to mask their insecurities, doubts, and lack of self-esteem, and it is posturing that lures in intended targets and sources of admiration. Narcissists tend to overcompensate for whatever is lacking in them and what draws them to their targets. Self-enhancement is at the expense of others, including admirers, friends, and family.
Despite their exaggerated sense of importance, they cannot love themselves or others, often filled with self-hate or loathing. They choose superficial relationships by targeting someone opposite their pathology (those that are kind, compassionate, giving) but also co-dependent, piercing their emotional weaknesses and feeding on their emotional reactions. Any attention (energy), positive or negative, is better than none; as long as they can elicit an emotional response, they attain their “energy fix.” Narcissists are energy vampires or parasites; while quick to play victim to defend their behavior, they love to present as rescuers, heroes, and knights in shining armor. They desire to charm and attract others but only as a means to manipulate. As with many sociopathic personalities, they can “become” whatever they need to be at the time.
Since there is no sincere love or trust, their relationships are shallow, with no genuine intimacy. Love and trust would expose their vulnerability or weaknesses. They tend to live a life of anxiety and hyper-vigilance, never to let their guard down. They perpetuate their inability to have what they truly desire by shutting themselves down. Further, this personality will often go to great lengths to insulate their target from others, cutting them off from friends and family who pose a threat to them (revealing them for what they are). A narcissist might be considered an extreme shadow teacher, not because they mirror us, but because they project what they lack in themselves.
Spiritual Narcissism or Egotism believes spiritual wisdom or knowledge makes one more spiritual or unique. These personalities may have “ultra-spiritual” attitudes and use them as a shield to avoid criticism or lay blame rather than be accountable, perhaps as a subterfuge to hide an underlying disorder. This disorder is often a coping mechanism or avoidance strategy. Some people are more spiritual than others, but theirs is not authentic, and they often aspire to another teacher, expert, or professional mimicking them; but simultaneously criticizing them. They strive to impress and be admired by others; to be perceived as an authority or expert, especially in spiritual matters and teaching to boost their self-esteem and image.
They project an image of I am enlightened, and you are not; I am more gifted; I’m here to teach, not learn; I’ve done all my spiritual work. They may constantly reference their achievements (actual or not, and most likely exaggerated either way). They have an unwavering belief that their views and perspectives are above reproach, with adversity to any challenges or alternate points of view, using their spirituality or concepts as justification for their behavior. When challenged, they might claim others cannot understand their level, or that their truths come from a higher source.
They tend to overuse spiritual buzzwords and reference spiritual concepts about everything to the point it is challenging to have a normal conversation with them.
Behavior is overly “transcendental” and acting as if highly evolved, but is more times just the ego pretending; they choose this façade rather than integrating ego and soul. They essentially fake the process and cause more separation from their authentic self; their spirituality is exaggerated but deficient. They often claim high awareness of shadows and mirrors but never do the work they teach others as necessary.
The big lesson here is Boundaries; Accountability; Self-love and protection; Observing without emotional reaction (indifference). Treatments are not for the narcissist but their targets or victims and include: counseling on all the above; cutting cords; dismemberment; the Golden Net; dissolving all old unfavorable contracts; creating new agreements; soul and power retrieval; learning indifference to diffuse the energy drain; discerning the lies and manipulation; managing one’s energy and focus; learning to release and remove oneself from the situation.
The target or victim can't sustain this constant drain nor “help” the narcissist overcome the condition; this is often a strategy and traps to hook you back in.
February 26, 2022
SOUL MATES AND TWIN FLAMES
Someone asked me a question that left me contemplating the difference between the soul, the ego, and consciousness. The answer I received has nothing to do with soul mates intrinsically, but it occurred to me that perhaps to truly understand the concept of soul mates, we must first understand the nature of the soul.
In a 2017 workshop, we discussed the shamanic concept that everything created was energy, consciousness, or Spirit. Everything in Creation is animated by its soul or life force emanating from the Creator. This soul is the sine qua non or "without which there is nothing," in other words, we would not be without a soul. It is indispensable and essential. We are souls temporarily inhabiting physical bodies. A soul is the immaterial animating principle or actuating cause of life, infused with Divine Consciousness.
Our original hypothesis that the soul is nonphysical or immaterial is not entirely accurate; it has form, substance, weight, and volume. These qualities are negligible and approach zero; nonetheless, the soul is more "physical" than we understand. The soul is not a singularity as often described but a composite creation. It is a life force imbued with divine consciousness, a mind-body system, that animates the physical body and the biological mind, from which the ego emanates. Yet, the soul is separate from biology; the pure consciousness might be called "the mind of the soul." The soul is the vehicle of the "separated spirit" carrying the divine essence, consciousness, and capacity (for expansion), and installing it into, the physical embodiment.
I've been reluctant to talk about soul mates, especially twin flames because I am not convinced that the popular concepts are accurate. The notions of soul mates and twin flames seemed romanticized and sensationalized. There are no foundational sources to back them. I also had a problem with the mathematical probability of meeting one's other half, which I will go into later. I have always considered anyone in our lives as teachers and soul mates helping us evolve along the way on our path. These teachers and mates might be prearranged before we incarnate, or they might be "called in" according to our vibration.
I referred to soul mates and soul twins in the Keys to the Kingdom discussion and blog post, citing that Teal Swan teaches, "The people who trigger us to feel negative emotions are messengers. They are messengers for the unhealed part of our being." People in our experiences will almost always reflect something to us; they are our mirrors. Often, they are just passers-by, not even genuinely involved in our situation. However, some people are more than just messengers; they are the significant players who collaborated with us or were attracted to our reality. These are the foremost teachers in our experience, the ones who cross lines and push limits, teaching us tolerance, acceptance, boundaries, and more. That is often the basis for our shadow work. It may not be that these people necessarily demonstrate a behavior we possess or recognize, but bring out behaviors or feelings from within ourselves for examination and modification.
Carl Jung described this shadow as an unknown dark (i.e., not in the light of consciousness) side of one's personality. In his work, The Republic, Plato wrote about the "unexamined life" and presented his cave analogy: the shadow is to the object as the object is to the archetype. We are a shadow of our archetype or Oversoul; our shadow is a darker reflection of ourselves. That shadow usually presents through other people that come into our life. Shadow Teachers might also include soul mates and twin flames. For the sake of this discussion, we will use the popular view of both these "categories" of people. I will use each category to describe the quality and intensity of the relationship and the potential for expansion and growth, not as what I believe is the overly idealized view of them.
In a previous post, I wrote, "A soul mate is that one person who completes you; they are at least a simpatico, compatible relationship. A soul mate relationship usually includes karmic events, past life contracts, or continuing an experience with them in this lifetime. A twin flame is a perfect mirror or polar shadow, so either way, this is bound to be an extreme or intense relationship, the amalgamation of soul mate aspects and mirror/shadow aspects. That said, this could be our Heaven on Earth or our Hell Walk."
At least to some degree, I still stand by these concepts in the blog article, but perhaps with a more expanded view now. Each one demonstrates vibrational matching; it may even be an example of the ultimate vibrational matching we seek to complete our purpose here. I am not convinced about the idea of two people literally sharing a soul or that we must rely on another person to complete ourselves. Contemporary sources seem to dramatize and overstate the concepts of soul mates without any substantial reference to ancient wisdom.
The ideas are seemingly proven wrong when so many people not only claim to have found their soul mate but also seem to find many of them as they move from one relationship to another. The general idea of a soul mate is that one person in the Universe who matches us perfectly. Still, even the ancient wisdom indicates the possibility that more than one outcome is possible, if not likely. I think we can agree that the concept of soul mates speaks to polarity, which implies not only a duality but a range or spectrum including two extremes and everything between them. This may also speak to paradoxes, often hearing people describing their mate as one that drives them crazy, but also as one they can not live without.
In addition to understanding the soul, we must also understand the concepts of fragmentation and integration. Ancient wisdom speaks to this process and points to the consummation of a soul mate relationship as our purpose's ultimate quest and completion. I have described our fragmentation process, both currently and in other lives. Our division began when we left the nonphysical and continued our process here. The basic concept of integration is to heal all this fragmentation and restore our soul and self to its original state of wholeness. In that regard, I can see why the "soul mate relationship" is a major spiritual event. My big question at this point is whether soul mates are a physical phenomenon or just a metaphor for a more significant metaphysical singularity of total integration or completion of our soul purpose.
I have concluded that integration begins with the individual soul and all the different versions of that soul (or consciousness) across all space, time, dimensions, and realities. But we will start at the beginning. All our chakras must be simpatico, in sync, on the same wavelength for optimum functionality. That, of course, is a component of the Shamanic Consciousness Integration (SCI) treatments. That extends out to include our respective etheric or energetic bodies, meridians, aura, and biofield. We must also retrieve, restore, and integrate all our lost soul parts and dissociated quanta of consciousness, which can be done through the soul retrieval process included in SCI.
The Keys of Enoch explains that humanity must understand this stage before truly understanding soul progression. That process we perceive as "ascension" or completion, which may take eons and many incarnations, is just a stepping stone to what lies ahead in our spiritual evolution. It's a good thing we are eternal. Thoth explains in the Emerald Tablets that "truth" is ever-expanding, and even the Higher Evolution realizes that they have not, nor ever will stop learning and evolving. We contribute to that process through our physical learning experiences here. The journey matters most because, honestly, there is no destination, only resting points along the way. Finding our finalized and completed soul mate is a momentous milestone on our path, but it is also just a new beginning...and often not an easy one.
The concept of a true soul mate or twin flame is about reaching a point in our process where we require no further incarnations. To find our soul mates, we must match that soul mate vibrationally, and we do this in every relationship, every lifetime, to some degree. The key is to reach that point of completion for both souls to form the ultimate reunion or "marriage." To find your perfect match means that you must be offering that most excellent vibration, which can only come after doing all the necessary integration or vibrational work.
Until that time, we are vibrating at less than perfection so that the degree and quality of our soul mate relationships are relative. Our relationships are a perfect match to what we are offering now. The relationship is still that of a "soul mate." Supposedly when we meet our mate or twin, we know it instantly and intensely; but is that not the case in many "love at first sight" scenarios? I propose this is merely soul recognition and can be one of many of our supporting souls coming in as they should. In the Tarot, the Two of Cups reversed often means a relationship meant to be, but not last. It is a stepping stone, a transition, or part of our progressive process. As Abraham Hicks teaches, we have to find out what we don't want to find out what we do want. In our physical reality we call this "dating."
Only matching vibrations can share space. Past generations would marry young, have kids, and stay married for a lifetime. But that doesn't mean they were soul mates; it was practical or what "should" be done. Marriage was a contract and partnership. Today a person may date many people before finding a suitable spouse. We learn what we want by experiencing what we don't want. As we evolve and our capacity and vibe change, as we grow, even those we deemed a soul mate at one time may fall away. We then seek a new vibrational match until we find that one person who does not necessarily "complete" us but grows with us, and we both find that completion. Thus, the journey is most important as both souls evolve and continue to remain a steady vibrational match.
However, these are only examples of the widespread belief that soul mates are lovers or sexual partners. They are also "significant others" beyond that category of relationship. They are "our people," including family members, best friends, and platonic relationships. I maintain that a soul mate is a matter of degree (and intensity), and includes any person simpatico with us (or in some cases the polar opposite), that we love, that we have a connection with or a strong affinity to, or simply one we always choose as an incarnation partner. I have been told that my granddaughter is my soul mate, especially in terms of driving me crazy, pushing all my buttons, and being the love of my life that I canot live without, all at once.
Zohar, the source of Kabbalistic traditions, teaches that two perfect souls, each that have successfully reached their transformation, earn the right to meet and marry on this physical plane. Together, they complete their individual and combined purpose as one being, reaching spiritual fulfillment when their lives are "conducted in purity." It also clearly states this a scenario of a man and a woman who marries. Further, the woman typically completes her purpose first and then observes her twin until he reaches a point where she can take physical form, join him, and help him achieve his purpose.
The two do not usually incarnate simultaneously and it might take many lifetimes before crossing paths. The female often comes in "negative" forms to carry out their divine purpose, those stereotypes that make a man's life uncomfortable or unpleasant. Kabbalah even teaches that should two married people discover they are soul mates, they are to divorce their spouse, who are to willingly let go and allow them to carry out their higher purpose. The man's twin then might even present as "the other woman."
I would like to think is a metaphor relative to the context of the times. Just this example of ancient wisdom makes me believe we should not take the concept of soul mates literally. However, Kabbalah equates women with the Sephrothic level Binah in the Tree of Life, which means "understanding" or "power beside the Throne (Keter)." Treating this as metaphor and not doctrine, we tend to "divorce" those who no longer vibe with us. That is the "falling away" I speak of as we evolve. The mismatched vibrations can no longer share space.
As spiritual beings and seekers, we often reach points at which we must burn bridges, walk away, leave things and people behind, and move forward on our path. We spend a great deal of time learning what is for our highest good, releasing what no longer serves us, and reinventing ourselves. We part ways with people and indoctrination, programming, and belief systems. We are constantly in movement, a divine tendency, and those relationships "meant to last" will move with us.
Soul Mates, especially Twin Flames, are infamous for the seemingly inherent difficulties of the relationships despite the fairy tale perfection of shared beliefs. When we attempt to combine opposites, polarities, and shadows, why would we even consider this might be Heaven on Earth when it leans more toward a Walk Through Hell?
We have been poisoned by fairy tales—Anais Nin
Fallen myths distill venom—Denis De Rougemont
The Lovers card in the Tarot addresses the trials, tests, and obstacles to overcome before successfully consummating the relationship. Sometimes they cannot be overcome. Shakespeare's Romeo and Juliet might portray a twin flame relationship. Many people refer to this as a story of true love. It is not. This juvenile infatuation lasted four days, and six people died, including the two smitten teenagers. That is a tale of tragedy, not romance. That said, perhaps the Tower card of the Tarot is a fitting soul mate scenario: the destruction of foundations, internal strife, massive upheaval, termination, and devastation. We might even make a case for Yaheshua (Jesus) and Lucifer or Samael (Satan) being Twin Flames.
George Bernard Shaw might have summed up the idea of twins with his quote, "There are two tragedies in life: one is to lose your heart's desire; the other is to gain it." That leads me to my personal experiences with some of these concepts, what I call my favorite regrets, one in particular as it offered the most opportunity for learning. First, I knew she was coming in; I knew what she looked like, the color of her hair, and even the color of her eyes. The initial encounter was intense and led to a whirlwind relationship. She seemed to match up with everything I was looking for, for a while. Then things began to get real as I realized this woman was essentially a sociopath, lying about virtually everything. Nothing she told me about her past was true. She loved to party and spend money, especially mine. At times, it was Heaven on Earth. At other times, it was Hell on Earth. My Guides eventually warned me that I was "walking a razor's edge," and this relationship would ultimately cause me to "fall." I did finally end the relationship.
That was undoubtedly one of those "WTF was that all about" situations when this relationship finally ended. The answer came to me that I should have no regrets or harbor any bad feelings toward her. She was damaged, but she also executed her role relative to me, as she was supposed to. We had many new experiences together, but mainly, she was the principal teacher for me regarding love, relationships, boundaries, and more. This relationship was a necessary learning experience, and I might even be grateful for her participation in it.
That was my first lesson on gratitude over forgiveness. This soul loved me enough to come in, as she was, not only for her expansion but to help me with mine. There was one moment during our relationship that I will never forget. Her entire persona changed, and she spoke with such clarity, asking me: Do you have any idea what kind of hell I'm living like this? She then immediately returned to being her regular self.
Moving on. Some of the ancient mythology describing human division is interesting. Aristophanes, a contemporary of Plato, wrote a tale supposedly responding to Plato's Symposium. Plato addressed same-sex relationships, specifically men. In any event, that tale was about human giants with two heads and four arms and legs that were cleaved by Zeus because their potential power threatened him. This condition left the humans fated to seek their other half forever. Some sources use this as an analogy to soul mates and the original gender division of humans created as androgynous beings. While the tale may be somewhat disturbing, I can see a parallel concept when tracing the flow of consciousness in the Divine Hierarchy, which I will address a bit later.
In Egyptian mythology, the two gods, Shu and Tefnut, literally shared one soul; however, this soul carried the respective aspects of Osiris and Ra—a composite creation. This relationship produced a supreme god named Atrum. He eventually became Amen-Ra in the New Kingdom dynasty of Egypt and continued to evolve into Zeus, king of Greek gods. However, the god, Khnum, shaped two humans out of clay (a Genesis reference). Still, it was the goddess Hathor (a Shekinah reference) who imparted the life force (Ba) and the soul or Spirit (Ka) into Khnum's composition through the power of the Ankh. Note: this fits more with my previous message defining the soul at the beginning of this discourse.
In the Egyptian Cartouche oracle that incorporates universal archetypes into readings, the Ankh (#24) is the key to life, life force, and emotional human and divine love. The numerology of this card is the number six, the number of love, balance, and humanity. The Twins ((#20) refers to the twin gods Shu and Tefnut, integration, polarity, partnerships, and marriages. The numerology of this card is the number 2, standing for unions, marriage, relationships, while its reversed meaning is basically division.
Continuing with ancient Egyptian wisdom, we can look at the Kybalion and Hermetic principles of Thoth, and how they might align with the Kabbalistic idea of correcting and rectifying to complete our higher purpose, and how these concepts fit into the model of Soul Mates. Principle of Vibration: all things are in movement and a constant state of vibration. Cause and Effect: our karma or consequence of actions. Polarity: everything is a duality with opposites that are identical in nature but different in degree, all on a spectrum of reconcilable paradoxes. Reconciling any paradox is a concept in Relativistic Theory presented by Einstein and Kabbalistic teaching.
The Principle of Correspondence: that above corresponds to that below; that below corresponds to that above, and together form the one true thing. This speaks to a sacred union or marriage of the Divine and the Material "when the two become as one." In the Book of Thomas, Jesus says, "when you make the two one, the inside the outside, and the outside inside, the above as below, and establish the male and female as one unit; you will enter the Kingdom." The Kingdom equates with the "vortex" taught by Abraham Hicks, the energetic holding point containing all our desires pending their actualization into physical form. However, he might be talking about soul mates too.
The purpose of our many incarnations is to correct, rectify, integrate, and become whole. The masculine and feminine energies are two polarities involved in that process; however, I am not convinced that the soul mate or twin flame concept is limited to just those energies, much less restricted to a man-woman relationship. The outcome has to do with a range or spectrum of all our disjointed aspects on multiple levels. The final twinning is the last aspects or polarities that must reconcile to complete the process, not to mention the entire spectrum of sexuality, which might even be a manifestation of the trend to embrace the totality of our being.
The Divine Hierarchy and Flow of Consciousness, from YHWH or Source to our physical world, map out our creation process, including the Divine Feminine in the Elohim Creator Gods, the Shekinah, and the Sons and Daughters of Light (collectively called the Lords of Light). Source Energy or the Creator is beyond non-binary in indefinite ways. All waves or cycles of Creation contain this divine DNA, image, or aspect of the Creator, including our archetype or Oversoul from which all our soul versions emanate and manifest.
The Keys of Enoch, Key 303, explains that the "divine seed" manifested as humanity expresses as a dynamic life force through the diversity of that seed in infinite possibilities of physical experiences and to ultimately evolve to experience levels of Elohistic divinity to co-reign with the Lords of Light. Our souls and the various counterparts are generated as either male or female, the first of our fragmentation, and then is likely to be the last thing we overcome, correct, rectify, or transform. However, males and females are the opposites on a spectrum, so everything "in-between" must also factor into this scenario. That is the final step of integrating the physical plane before we "ascend" back into the Light as our whole original soul. At this point, we then complete our purpose of the ultimate goal of reaching the Oneness or Totality with the Nature of God, a non-binary, androgynous, energetic being of pure Light. Our "twinning" is integrating and returning to the nonphysical from the physical. When the two become one. I see this as a very personal event, not one that requires a second party.
However, if it did, we must look at the probability of that event occurring. According to Wikipedia, "Probability is the branch of mathematics concerning numerical descriptions of how likely an event is to occur, or how likely it is that a proposition is true." The probability of an event is a number between 0 and 1, where, roughly speaking, 0 indicates the impossibility of the event and 1 indicates certainty. The higher the probability of an event, the more likely it is that the event will occur. A simple example is the tossing of a fair (unbiased) coin. Since the coin is fair, the two outcomes (either heads or tails) are equally probable. The probability of "heads" equals the probability of "tails." Since no other results are possible, the probability of either "heads" or "tails" is 1/2 or 0.5 or 50%)."
That is the simplest way to calculate the probability of a single event, dividing the number of favorable events by the number of possible outcomes. A slightly more complex example is determining the likelihood of rolling a three using a single die. There is only one three on the die, so the number of events is one. The number of possible outcomes is six, one through six. The formula then would be 1/6 = 0.16666 or approximately seventeen percent (17%). Using the scenario of rolling two dice (two perfect souls) to roll a double three, representing the singular favorable event each is seeking, we have two events and thirty-six possible outcomes (6x6). 2/36 = 0.05555 or approximately six percent (6%). The odds of rolling one three, one particular outcome, with 36 possible outcomes, drops even more to 2.7777 or 3%.
It is more likely that we have thousands of forms of ourselves spanning space-time and multiple dimensions. Assume we have 10,000 versions ranging from male to female and everything in between, with two souls seeking one another. That puts our odds of finding our soul mate at roughly 0.02%. Finding one's soul mate is a spiritual lottery win. In addition, this assumes that both souls are actively seeking each other. Final reconciliation might have been the plan coming in, but one or both could deviate from that path along the way.
We have a range of views on soul mates and twin flames and various theories about how we transition from the nonphysical to the physical. Some debunk and dismiss the idea of twins altogether. Some teach that we follow our twin over all our incarnations but never actually meet them on this physical plane. Still, we gather all the necessary physical experiences for spiritual evolution and complete our nonphysical process. Others believe only one twin incarnates while the other observes its polarity in the nonphysical. Still, at some point, it takes form to complete the final physical steps before ascending to the higher plane. My opinion is that the ultimate twinning is within and of ourselves, not necessarily involving or relying on another person. In any case, it seems to boil down to finding our authentic and highest version of ourselves.
We exaggerate the concept of soul mates to the point of considering them unattainable when they surround us. We cannot see the forest for the trees; we continue to seek what we might already have. We want perfection without having first to perfect ourselves. We desire fairy tale endings, chase unicorns, and fight dragons when we should be focusing on ourselves. We put too much literal meaning to the term "twin flames," seeking our fulfillment in someone else when we must be seeking self-fulfillment and improvement.
The bottom line, in my opinion, is that this is all about you, not someone else, and not in terms of a shared soul. According to Kabbalah and many other sources, we are part of the All, which means we all share a common "soul" or divine DNA-consciousness, and technically, we are all Soul Mates. Our vibration determines who can enter our energetic field and subjective reality, so we must do our vibrational work first to attract and have that ideal mate. They are watching and waiting for us to hit that level. They already exist and, by law, must reveal. When and if you find that one person or soul along the way out of all the possibilities which match your high-quality vibe, who can hang with your weirdness and continue seeking with you, then hang onto them. You have found that unicorn, and there are no more wind mills to fight or dragons to slay.
And they all lived happily everafter. The end.
Next time I think I will drop some Notes on Narcissism: Shadow Teachers. I will also be posting about that elusive Shadow we hear so much about.
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