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Dita Von Teese — The Queen of Burlesque (#379)

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“You can be a juicy ripe peach and there will still be someone who doesn’t like peaches.”

— Dita Von Teese

Dita Von Teese (@DitaVonTeese) is the biggest name in burlesque in the world since Gypsy Rose Lee, and is credited with bringing the art form back into the spotlight. She is renowned for her iconic martini glass act and dazzling haute-couture striptease costumes adorned with hundreds of thousands of Swarovski crystals. This “Burlesque Superheroine” (Vanity Fair) is the performer of choice at high-profile events for designers such as Marc Jacobs, Christian Louboutin, Louis Vuitton, Chopard, and Cartier. She is the author of The New York Times bestseller Your Beauty Mark: The Ultimate Guide to Eccentric Glamour, and has a namesake lingerie collection available internationally at prominent retailers. You can join Dita on one of her upcoming tour dates in 2019 and 2020, or at her “Weekend of Glamour” event on August 24th and 25th.

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QUESTION(S) OF THE DAY: What was your favorite quote or lesson from this episode? Please let me know in the comments.

Scroll below for links and show notes…

SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE

Connect with Dita Von Teese:

Website | Twitter | Facebook | Instagram

Your Beauty Mark: The Ultimate Guide to Eccentric Glamour by Dita Von Teese
Dita’s Weekend of Glamour: August 24-25, 2019
Dita’s Australian and European Glamonatrix Tour Dates, 2019
Swarovski Crystal Jewelry
Dita Von Teese Likes to Go Where the Old Folks Hang Out, Vanity Fair
What Is the True Definition of Haute Couture? Dressful
Dita Von Teese’s 1939 Chrysler New Yorker Sells For $23,403, Street Muscle Magazine
eBay watch: 1965 Jaguar S-type owned by Dita Von Teese, Retro to Go
A Look Inside the Playboy Mansion, CBS News
Dita Von Teese Takes Her Fleetwood for a Cruise, Roadsister
1940 Cadillac LaSalle for Sale, Classic Cars
Dita Von Teese, International Queen of Burlesque, Still Feels like an Orange County Girl, OC Weekly
Dita Von Teese Magazine Pictorials, Famous Fix
Tribe of Mentors: Short Life Advice from the Best in the World by Timothy Ferriss
Vaudeville And Burlesque: The Comic Origins of Classic Striptease, Voodoo Comedy
Gypsy
West Branch Visitors Bureau
Torture Garden, London
The Art of Asking: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Let People Help by Amanda Palmer
Burlesque and the Art of the Teese/Fetish and the Art of the Teese by Dita Von Teese
Dita Von Teese Arrival for Book Signing at Harrods Department Store, Getty Images
Dita Von Teese, Friday Night With Jonathan Ross (2006)
Golden Age of Grotesque by Marilyn Manson
MAC AIDS Fund
Dilbert
The Kristina Talent Stack, Scott Adams Says
60 Times Madonna Changed Our Culture, The New York Times
Mae West On Sex, Health, and E.S.P. by Mae West
Three Plays: Sex / The Drag / The Pleasure Man by Mae West
She Always Knew How: Mae West, a Personal Biography by Charlotte Chandler
The Best of Mae West, YouTube
Extra Lessons 2 — Alaska and Mae West, RuPaul’s Drag Race
Episodes Discussing Psychedelics, The Tim Ferriss Show
Anastasia Beverly Hills
Transcendental Meditation
Don’t Shoot the Dog!: The New Art of Teaching and Training by Karen Pryor
Advanced Style: Older & Wiser by Ari Seth Cohen
‘The View’ Weighs in on Model Helena Christensen Being Told She’s ‘Too Old’ to Wear Bustier: ‘Fashion Is What Makes You Comfortable’, ABC News

SHOW NOTES

What is haute couture? [04:30]
Dita fondly reminisces about the classic cars she’s collected, refurbished, and flipped over the years. [05:27]
What other vintage things does Dita collect as a self-proclaimed “maximalist,” and how did this hobby begin? [09:51]
From where did the stage name “Dita Von Teese” accidentally originate? [11:53]
How did Dita go from aspiring ballerina to modern-day burlesque breakthrough — reviving an art form that had mostly died out in the 1950s? [15:25]
At what point did Dita realize this was a niche that she could fill full time and quit her day job? [21:22]
Growing up as the shy and introverted Heather Sweet from Michigan, how did Dita find her voice as a performer and spokesperson? What changed? [29:09]
Dita talks about getting kicked out of her father’s house at age 16, going to live with her mother, and where she got the capacity to deal calmly with this passage from her life. [33:38]
Why we should embrace the shortcomings and flaws that make us uniquely us. [39:01]
On Madonna and Mae West as ahead-of-their-time influences. [45:09]
Clearing up something from the rumor mill: Does Dita employ the use of stylists, or does she do everything herself? [52:56]
Why does Dita famously arrive four or five hours early to prepare for performances? [54:41]
New behaviors or beliefs that have had a positive impact on Dita’s life. [58:47]
How meditation, massage, and — believe it or not — going to the dentist help Dita focus and work out her best ideas. [1:00:58]
If Dita could give advice to a younger version of herself, what would the advice be, and at what age would she direct it? What advice does she think her 10-year-older self might offer her now? [1:04:31]
We discuss our attitudes about children: to have or not to have? And a bonus sure to upset a parent or two listening: are pets just as good? [1:07:01]
Wise advice Dita has gotten from older friends. [1:15:52]
At what age should a woman stop wearing clothes that show off her skin? Dita weighs in on the surprising blend of sexism and ageism being promoted by people in the fashion industry who should know better — and why she sees it as her duty to carry on, regardless. [1:18:24]
Final thoughts and touring/event plans for the immediate future. [1:21:24]

PEOPLE MENTIONED

Gypsy Rose Lee
Amanda Palmer
Vivienne Westwood
Jean Paul Gaultier
Dita Parlo
Madonna
Cher
Natalie Wood
Lili St. Cyr
Bettie Page
Judith Regan
Marilyn Manson
Ken Sweet
Bonnie Lindsey
Usain Bolt
BeyoncÈ
Marc Andreessen
Scott Adams
Mae West
The Kardashians
Elizabeth Taylor
Michael Jackson
Molly
Mamie Van Doren
Marilyn Monroe
Ilona Royce Smithkin
Ari Seth Cohen
Liz Goldwyn
Helena Christensen
Jennifer Lopez
Gwen Stefani

Nick Norris — Navy SEAL and Athlete on Training, Post-Traumatic Growth, and Healing (#378)

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“I’ve shared that a lot more openly, and it’s been one of the best medicines that I’ve found. It’s liberating. Talking about grief has been something that’s unlocked a lot of happiness for me.”

— Nick Norris

Nick Norris (@nick_norris1981) is a graduate of both the United States Naval Academy and Basic Underwater Demolition / SEAL (BUD/S) Class 247. Upon completion of SEAL training in 2004, Nick assumed progressively higher positions of leadership within Naval Special Warfare. His deployed roles included combat advisor to Iraqi and Afghan military units, Cross Functional Team Leader, and Ground Force Commander during combat operation in both Iraq and Afghanistan.

Nick was most recently assigned to Naval Special Warfare Basic Training Command — SEAL Qualification Training (SQT) as Officer in Charge prior to transitioning off Active Duty. Originally from Chicago, Nick received his Bachelor in Science from the United States Naval Academy in 2003 and his Masters of Science in Real Estate from The University of San Diego in 2013. He is on the board of directors of the C4 Foundation, which provides support and resources through science-based programs to active duty Navy SEALs and their families. Nick is the Co-Founder and CEO of Amavara, a sunscreen company that has invented a new mineral sunscreen technology to protect both consumer health and the environment.

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QUESTION(S) OF THE DAY: What was your favorite quote or lesson from this episode? Please let me know in the comments.

Scroll below for links and show notes…

SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE

Connect with Nick Norris:

Amavara Skincare | Instagram

Organizations to Highlight: 

The Navy SEAL Foundation
The C4 Foundation
Special Operations Warrior Foundation
The Station Foundation
Multidisciplinary Association for Psychedelic Studies (MAPS)



Trip of Compassion
Charity Navigator
Sakura Cup
Dynamic Flying
The Skywalkers
MoonBoard
Moon Climbing
The School Room: Sheffield’s Legendary Training Facility by Matt Samet, Climbing
How to Draw a Compass Rose, WikiHow
Stress Inoculation Therapy, MentalHelp.net
iFLY Indoor Skydiving
Best of Wingsuit Proximity Flying (2018 — 2019) by Anton Squeezer, YouTube
Adam Ondra Climbs Two of the World’s Hardest Boulder Problems, Reel Rock
A Beginner’s Guide to Types of Climbing by Kim McGrenere, The Adventure Junkies
Bouldering Basics by Caya Johnson, REI Co-Op
Intro to Fingerboard Training by Eric Horst, Training for Climbing
Tim Ferriss Lives His Life According to an Ancient Greek Quote That Helps Him Prepare for the Worst by Richard Feloni, Business Insider
Three Effective Visualization Techniques To Change Your Life by Jennice Vilhauer, Psychology Today
The “Eco” Side of Primal Quest by Kraig Becker, The Adventure Blog
Raid Gauloises, Wikipedia
Top 10 Things to Know Before BUD/S by Stew Smith, Military.com
United States Naval Academy
Applying for Upcoming OCS / SEAL Billet, SEAL SWCC Forum
Are Saunas the Next Big Performance-Enhancing “Drug”? by Tim Ferriss, tim.blog
Discipline Equals Freedom — Jocko Willink, The Tim Ferriss Show #275
Naval Special Warfare Group 1, Military.com
List of Common SSRIs (Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors), Uses, and Side Effects, Drugs.com
Personalized Repetitive Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation Temporarily Alters Default Mode Network in Healthy Subjects, Scientific Reports
Anhedonia: Why Does Nothing Feel Good Anymore? by Tim Newman, Medical News Today
The Latest on Blue Light and Sleep by Michael J. Breus, The Sleep Doctor
Buttered Coffee Could Make You Invincible. And This Man Very Rich. by Gordy Megroz, Bloomberg Businessweek
America’s Biggest Problem by Kirk Parsley, TEDx Reno
Phosphatidylserine, RxList
Natural Vitality Calm Magnesium Supplement Powder
Do More than 20 Veterans Die by Suicide Every Day? by Garrett Spikes and Jack Tolman, PolitiFact
Have More Died from Opioids in Two Years than in Vietnam War? by Douglas Soule, PolitiFact
The Five Levels of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs by Kendra Cherry, Verywell Mind
What Was the Gordian Knot? by Evan Andrews, History
Combat Veterans’ Brains Reveal Hidden Damage from IED Blasts, Johns Hopkins Medicine
Traumatic Brain Injury (TBI) Symptoms and Causes, The Mayo Clinic
Chronic Traumatic Encephalopathy (CTE) Symptoms and Causes, The Mayo Clinic
The Better Angels of Our Nature: Why Violence Has Declined by Steven Pinker
Post-Traumatic Growth (PTG), Trauma Recovery
Entrepreneurs’ Organization (EO), San Diego
The Lifeline Exercise, Conor Neill
The Brendan Looney Foundation
On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross and David Kessler
Tim Ferriss Learns Archery, Archery Tag
The Petraeus Doctrine by Andrew J. Bacevich, The Atlantic
Treatment-Resistant Depression, The Mayo Clinic
How New Ketamine Drug Helps with Depression by Jennifer Chen, Yale Medicine
Trip of Compassion
Phase 3 Trials: FDA Grants Breakthrough Therapy Designation for MDMA-Assisted Psychotherapy for PTSD, Agrees on Special Protocol Assessment, MAPS
North Shore Lifeguards Association

SHOW NOTES

Dear listeners, please note that timestamps will be added shortly. 

What is dynamic four-way, and how was it responsible for Nick’s first trip to Tokyo?
What on Earth is a MoonBoard, how long does it take to build one, and where’s the strangest place Nick has used one?
In climbing and wind tunnel flying, what separates the good from the great?
In wind tunnel flying, what constitutes “high-speed?”
Nick describes proximity flying — a sport too extreme even for him.
What are some of the differentiators Nick has observed in exceptional climbers versus people who (like me) are just permanent blue belts, and can these differentiators be developed?
What is bouldering, and how is Nick’s physique equipped for it?
How does Nick prepare — mentally and physically — for particularly challenging climbs?
How Nick uses visualization for optimal performance.
Of what past physical feats is Nick most proud?
What prompted Nick’s interest in becoming a Navy SEAL, how did he conceptualize the structure of the small goals it would take to achieve this particularly big goal, and when did it start to become a reality?
What aspect of BUD/S or the SEAL training/vetting process did Nick expect to be the most difficult?
What is stress inoculation, and where do people sometimes get it wrong?
How does Nick know (former guest and fellow SEAL) Jocko Willink?
What internal conflicts did Nick experience when he returned to civilian life in 2013, and how long did he search for a remedy before he found something that actually helped?
How quickly did Nick respond to PR TMS (personalized repetitive transcranial magnetic stimulation) once it was applied?
Nick’s tips for better sleep.
An interesting aside: Why does Nick climb with headlamps in the middle of the night?
The rules Nick has established for himself around coffee consumption, and what I’ve observed about my own caffeination habits over the years.
One of the biggest bang-for-your-buck supplements we’ve found for coping with the “tired and wired” phenomenon.
Has PR TMS been a cure-all remedy, or does Nick still experience bouts of apathy, depression, or other internal conflicts that drove him to seek it in the first place? What was it about his initial visits that seemed to help as much as — or perhaps even more than — the therapy itself?
To understand the perspective of someone close to a returning veteran and issues they may have in common, what has the adjustment been like for Nick’s wife during this time?
Why do so many veterans — including Nick — struggle to recognize their own internal conflicts?
What telltale signs and symptoms alert Nick that he may be in for an emotional rough patch, and how might having a designated confidante in the room who can spot these signs help keep things relatively smooth?
The variables that magnify these symptoms are often simple — but so are their remedies.
The importance of being part of a strong community.
One trick I use to interrupt periods of self-isolation.
What factors contributed to Nick’s feelings of isolation, apathy, and depression when he left the military and entered the world of commercial real estate, and what has helped since?
Developing countermeasures to the abnormality of the modern condition can sometimes be as easy as reaching out to an old friend.
What would Nick say to someone who’s struggling right now with their own inner turmoil — especially to people whose professions traditionally frown on displays of vulnerability?
Could mental illness do with a rebranding, and could time prove it to be the rule rather than the exception?
How Nick sees his own issues as a currency for post-traumatic growth, and why many who have had similar experiences would never trade them back even if they could.
How expressing grief — rather than suppressing it — can give you access to greater joy, and the epiphany that prompted this realization for Nick.
A book many have recommended for coping with grief.
On the therapeutic benefits of finding something outside of family and work that really gets you excited on a visceral level.
A shoutout to the brave men and women with whom Nick has had the honor of serving.
Organizations that support returning veterans and their families.
Resources for people dealing with treatment resistant depression — including my new documentary, Trip of Compassion.
What makes Amavara’s patent-pending sunscreen so unique?
Closing thoughts.

PEOPLE MENTIONED

Ben Moon
Michael Phelps
Adam Ondra
Archilochus
Mark Burnett
Vince Lombardi
Jocko Willink
Rick Rubin
Kirk Parsley
Steven Pinker
Graham Duncan
Brendan Looney
David Wells
David Petraeus

Psychedelics — Microdosing, Mind-Enhancing Methods, and More (#377)

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This episode features a panel that I moderated in front of a standing-room-only crowd at the Milken Institute’s Global Conference 2019. It includes a great overview of psychedelic science, investing opportunities, anecdotal personal benefits, legal challenges, and much more. I think it’s one of the more comprehensive panels ever done on the subject. Here are the participants:

Matthew Johnson — Principal Investigator, Johns Hopkins Psychedelic Research Unit

Ayelet Waldman — Author, A Really Good Day: How Microdosing Made a Mega Difference in My Mood, My Marriage, and My Life

Robin Carhart-Harris — Head of Psychedelic Research, Centre for Psychedelic Research, Department of Brain Sciences, Imperial College London

Christian Angermayer — Founder, Apeiron Investment Group and ATAI Life Sciences

Please enjoy!

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Want to hear another podcast discussing psychedelics? — Listen to my conversation with James Fadiman, who has been called “America’s wisest and most respected authority on psychedelics and their use.” Stream below or right-click here to download.

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QUESTION(S) OF THE DAY: What was your favorite quote or lesson from this episode? Please let me know in the comments.

Scroll below for links and show notes…

SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE

Connect with Matthew Johnson:

Johns Hopkins Psychedelic Research Unit | Twitter

Connect with Ayelet Waldman:

Website | Twitter | Instagram | Facebook

Connect with Robin Carhart-Harris:

Centre for Psychedelic Research, Imperial College London | Twitter | Facebook

Connect with Christian Angermayer:

Apeiron Investment Group | ATAI Life Sciences | Twitter

Milken Institute
Milken Institute’s Global Conference 2019
Psychedelics: Mind-Enhancing Methods to Well-Being, Milken Institute
A Really Good Day: How Microdosing Made a Mega Difference in My Mood, My Marriage, and My Life by Ayelet Waldman
Here’s Why We Should Never Forget Katharine McCormick’s Special Role in the Birth Control Movement, History A2Z
Human Hallucinogen Research: Guidelines for Safety, Journal of Psychopharmacology
Psilocybin: An Overview, ScienceDirect
Drug Scheduling, DEA
The slides by Matthew Johnson can be found by clicking here.
The Abuse Potential of Medical Psilocybin According to the 8 Factors of the Controlled Substances Act, Neuropharmacology
Psilocybin Produces Substantial and Sustained Decreases in Depression and Anxiety in Patients with Life-Threatening Cancer: A Randomized Double-Blind Trial, Journal of Psychopharmacology
The Heretic, The Morning News
A New Chapter in the Science of Psychedelic Microdosing, The Atlantic
How New Ketamine Drug Helps with Depression, Yale Medicine
Pilot Study of the 5-HT2AR Agonist Psilocybin in the Treatment of Tobacco Addiction, Journal of Psychopharmacology
Open Label Study, MedicineNet
Chantix (Varenicline), RxList
Study Design 101, Himmelfarb, Health Sciences Library
Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs), The Mayo Clinic
A Case Against the Drug War, The Harvard Gazette
Burning Man
Ask the Doctor: What Is Hypomania? Harvard Medical School
The Entropic Brain: A Theory of Conscious States Informed by Neuroimaging Research with Psychedelic Drugs, Frontiers in Human Neuroscience
What is Serotonin? Hormone Health Network
Serotonin and Brain Function: A Tale of Two Receptors, Journal of Psychopharmacology
History of Psychedelics: How the Mazatec Tribe Brought Entheogens to the World, Psychedelic Times
Compass Pathways
R-ketamine: A Rapid-Onset and Sustained Antidepressant Without Psychotomimetic Side Effects, Translational Psychiatry
The FOMO Is Real: How Social Media Increases Depression and Loneliness, Healthline
What is MDMA? NIH
MDMA-Assisted Psychotherapy Study Protocols, MAPS
Ibogaine Therapy for Drug Addiction, MAPS
This Is How Ayahuasca Affects the Brain, Vice
Meaning of a Bad Trip, Verywell Mind
Syd’s First Trip: Home Footage of Pink Floyd Founder Syd Barrett’s First Experience with LSD, Happy Mag
What Is Hallucinogen-Persisting Perception Disorder (HPPD)? Medical News Today
Opiate, Opioid, Narcotic — What’s the Difference? IWP
Residential Psychedelic (LSD) Therapy for the Narcotic Addict, Archives Of General Psychiatry
Psilocybin-Facilitated Treatment for Cocaine Use by Peter Hendricks, University of Alabama at Birmingham
The Surprising Failures of 12 Steps, The Atlantic
Diagnostic And Statistical Manual Of Mental Disorders (DSM), American Psychiatric Association
Marcus Raichle on the Default Mode Network, VPRO Labyrint TV
Six NASA Astronauts Describe the Moment in Space When “Everything Changed” Inverse
Canyon Ranch
Exploring the Potential Recreational Psilocybin Market, Psychedelic Science Review
Calm
Fear-Setting: The Most Valuable Exercise I Do Every Month, tim.blog
Psilocybin-assisted Treatment for Alcohol Dependence: A Proof-of-Concept Study, Journal of Psychopharmacology
Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers by Timothy Ferriss

SHOW NOTES

An encouraging story about how well-funded research can change lives for the better. [03:25]
Matthew Johnson stresses how understanding the downsides and risks of psychedelics is key to their responsible use in research. (The slides by Matthew Johnson can be found by clicking here.) [06:02]
Matthew Johnson lays out the benefits, as we currently understand them, of psychedelics on mental health and addiction. [07:21]
How did Ayelet Waldman begin her experiences with microdosing, and in what ways did the practice affect her depression and productivity? [12:17]
Robin Carhart-Harris explains our current understanding of why these compounds do what they do — even beyond the duration of their physical presence — in what he describes as the entropic brain. [16:48]
Christian Angermayer tells us why his biotech company, ATAI Life Sciences, is currently one of the largest global investors in bringing psychedelics — including psilocybin — back into the legal realm. [21:37]
Treating PTSD with MDMA, how Ayelet and her husband use MDMA to process “the mundane PTSD of a long marriage,” and the risks involved. [28:16]
Matthew speaks to the potential toxicity of some of these compounds. [31:41]
Matthew takes us through current studies applying psychedelics to opiate and opioid addiction, and Ayelet weighs in on why traditional methods have not proven successful thus far, and why we need to reclassify some schedule one psychedelics to schedule four. [37:33]
Robin explains the context-shifting power psychedelics have over certain diagnostic categories, the problem with diagnostic categories as they traditionally stand, and current thinking around the default mode network. [40:45]
Why Christian believes psychedelics should be used in a strictly controlled environment by prescription rather than provided over the counter. [45:48]
Ayelet’s ideal paradigm for psychedelic decriminalization: the psychedelic spa. [47:04]
Christian points to The Netherlands as an example of a place where psychedelics are available recreationally, but not applied in a way that puts a dent in that country’s mental health crisis. [47:59]
How does Christian envision a sustainable business model for single-dose psychedelic therapies? [48:39]
How did these compounds come to be classified as schedule one drugs, and how can we potentially get them reclassified as schedule four drugs? Matthew has answers. [52:54]
What would Ayelet hope this field looks like a few years from now? [59:16]

PEOPLE MENTIONED

Katharine McCormick
Gregory Pincus
George Goldsmith
Sasha Shulgin
Ann Shulgin
Michael Chabon
Syd Barrett
Peter Hendricks
Tom Insel
Michael Bogenschutz

Why I’m Stopping the Fan-Supported Podcast Experiment

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Greetings!

This is a quick public service announcement: I will be stopping the fan-supported podcast experiment and moving back to an ad-supported podcast. This post will explain a few of the reasons.

Let’s kick off with some housekeeping notes:

Huge thanks to everyone who became supporters. I’ll have more to share with y’all via email soon.
As part of that thank you, I will be refunding every supporter 100% of what they’ve paid to date. Doing this for thousands of people will take 1-2 weeks, so thank you for being patient.
All support subscriptions have been stopped, so you will not be charged again.
Just for kicks, I will do another live video Q&A just for supporters on August 2nd, 2019, most likely 8-9pm ET (5-6pm PT), so you can pencil that in. More details will be sent via email once finalized.
If you think your company/product/service could be a good fit for the podcast, I’m interested in a few new sponsors to keep things fresh. Most sponsor spots for Q3 and Q4 are already full, but if interested, please click here for more information.

Now, back to this stopping of the experiment…

You might be thinking “Well, that was fast!”, and you’d be right.

The feedback and data have been overwhelmingly clear. Given the size of the audience — the podcast passed 400 million downloads a month ago — experiments can sometimes yield conclusions much more quickly than expected.

So, what did I learn?

The entire experience has been very surprising. For one, many of my assumptions were totally off.

It turns out that most of my listeners have a strong preference for an ad-supported model compared to other options. Many folks have come to use the podcast and 5-Bullet Friday for discovering new products and services, and that has been reflected in the comments since launch. After weeks of consistent feedback from my audience, it’s now loud and clear that my vetting and sharing of sponsors is better received and a better fit.

Below is just one of many blog comments left after the initial switch to no ads/fan-supported:

“Tim, just feedback about the no-sponsor thing– I don’t mind hearing your sponsored adverts because I believe you’ve considered them carefully and only tell us about great products. That’s why I have a closet full of Mizzen & Main shirts and drink Four Sigmatic. Not sure I would have known about those without you. I would rather hear your ads for you to get paid than to offer up my own money; those companies have more money than I do. Just my $.02. Thanks!”

Here are a few more, out of hundreds:

Screenshot 1: https://i.imgur.com/ImJlcFr.jpg

Screenshot 2: https://i.imgur.com/vYH9Ute.jpg  

Live tweet example.

The really comical part is that I should have known, and I could have known. Actually, one could argue that I did know.

Pre-launch polling on social media almost perfectly predicted the outcome. Here’s the tweet I used to test the waters, which had nearly 18,000 respondents. The results were:

72% – No, I wouldn’t donate.

24% – I would give $5 per month.

4% – I would give $10 or more per month.

The comments on this post are really worth reading. The feedback was almost entirely positive towards ads and almost entirely “meh” about fan-supported.

In other words, the answer to my question was clear from the outset: 99% of my listeners are totally OK with ads, and many of them look forward to finding new products and services through my sponsor reads. It’s industry standard for high-download podcasts to have ads, anyone who wants to skip over ads can skip ahead, and people generally do not want to support multiple podcasters by paying for them à la carte.

I may very well write an in-depth blog post about the data and findings another time, but here are a few teasers:

Did anyone actually decide to contribute at the $1,000-per-month level I added perhaps 10 days into testing? Short answer: yes. That ended up comprising roughly 13.4% of total monthly recurring revenue (MRR).
What percentage of converted visitors to the sign-up page chose the lowest-priced option, no matter the dollar amount ($9.95, $19.95, etc.)? Across all of our split tests, approximately 83%. Keep in mind that this is 83% of total supporters, not 83% of total revenue.
The customer service was incredibly low labor. This was shocking. Even with thousands of paying supporters, there were very few inquiries and very few issues (great people, I tell you!). The self-serve portal worked. That’s the good news. The bad news is that, without adding bonuses and incentives for various tiers — something that would create 10x more labor than the ad-supported model, defeating the purpose — the upside wasn’t enough for most listeners to subscribe/support.

So, we are going back to what worked.

The short conclusion to this experiment seems to be “Don’t fix it if it ain’t broken.” My sincerest thanks to everyone who provided support, advice, and feedback. It’s been a great learning experience, and I’m lucky that I can do these types of tests at all.

Onward and upward!

All the best to you and yours,

Tim

Josh Waitzkin — How to Cram 2 Months of Learning into 1 Day (#375)

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“From my perspective, the goal is unobstructed self-expression.”

— Josh Waitzkin

Josh Waitzkin, author of The Art of Learning, is an eight-time US National Chess Champion, a two-time World Champion in Tai Chi Chuan Push Hands, and the first Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Black Belt under nine-time World Champion Marcelo Garcia.

For the past 12 years, Josh has been channeling his passion for the outer limits of the learning process toward training elite mental performers in business and finance, and to revolutionizing the education system through his nonprofit foundation, The Art of Learning Project. Josh is currently in the process of taking on his fourth and fifth disciplines, paddle surfing and foiling, and is an all-in father and husband.

The audio and video were recorded at The Sohn Investment Conference in the David Geffen Hall at Lincoln Center for the Performing Arts.

The Sohn Conference Foundation is dedicated to supporting innovative initiatives to cure and treat pediatric cancer. The Sohn Conference Foundation raises its funds through a unique strategy: Wall Street’s most successful investors offer their expertise on stage and inspire large audiences to give to the foundation’s cause. You can learn more about it at sohnconference.org.

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Overcast, Castbox, or on your favorite podcast platform.

Watch the interview on YouTube.

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Watch the interview on YouTube.

Want to hear another conversation with Josh Waitzkin? — In this episode (the second ever on The Tim Ferriss Show), we discuss The Art of Learning, what separates elite performers, and strategies for peak productivity. (Stream below or right-click here to download):

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If you’d like to get exclusive access to me and a small tribe of like-minded people, you can contribute a few dollars a month (or more) to support the podcast.  

Here’s what you get:

1. Once per month, I’ll do an hour-long, live video Q&A… just for this much smaller group of supporters. You can ask me anything. Only supporters get to participate and ask questions. The first one will be on July 1st, 2019, and you’ll be notified via e-mail. If you can’t make it live, each session will be available to supporters right afterward as a recording. And if the audio is ever shared on the podcast, it will be delayed by at least a month.

2. Each time you hear a podcast episode (or see anything from me) that you consider impactful and want to share with friends, you can smile, knowing that you helped make it possible.

I’d really love a more direct relationship with my most dedicated listeners, readers, and fans. This is a great way to test it out. And since the podcast has become the engine that fuels everything else, if this experiment doesn’t work, we’ll just go back to sponsors. Easy.

Please only contribute what you feel great about contributing. This is zero pressure, and I’m not mailing out any beer koozies or other crap you don’t want. I’ll just do the private monthly Q&A for supporters, and I’ll share more good stuff. Think of it as a monthly gym membership for your mind and career.

To contribute, please visit tim.blog/support.

QUESTION(S) OF THE DAY: What was your favorite quote or lesson from this episode? Please let me know in the comments.

Scroll below for links and show notes…

SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE

Connect with Josh Waitzkin:

Website | The Art of Learning Project

Josh’s first, second, and third appearances on this show.
The Art of Learning: An Inner Journey to Optimal Performance by Josh Waitzkin
The Sohn Conference
David Geffen Hall at Lincoln Center for the Performing Arts, New York City
Macho Duck, Mickey Mouse Disco
Lose Yourself by Eminem
Josh Waitzkin’s Push Hands Videos, Content Galaxy
Onewheel Electric Skateboards
Learning How to SUP Surf, Adventure Sports Network
Lift eFoil Mini Documentary
eFoil, Lift
The Matrix
Heart Rate Variability: A New Way to Track Well-Being, Harvard Health Publishing
Resonant Frequency Training in Elite Sport: A Case Study Example, Journal of Sport Psychology in Action
Building Your Trigger, The Art of Learning Project
The Relationship Between Mental and Somatic Practices and Wisdom, PLoS One
Dom D’Agostino on Fasting, Ketosis, and the End of Cancer, The Tim Ferriss Show #117
Abbott Precision Xtra Glucose Monitor
Molar Concentration, Wikipedia
A New Theory of Distraction, The New Yorker
Daniel Pink — How to Make Better Decisions and Be More Creative, The Tim Ferriss Show #305
Evernote
Making Smaller Circles, The Art of Learning Project
Seven Tips From Ernest Hemingway on How to Write Fiction, Open Culture
Marcelo Garcia Academy, New York City
20 Years of Mundial, BJJ Heroes
This is Water by David Foster Wallace

SHOW NOTES

What song makes Josh ready to fight 10 dudes, and how did it become such a powerful trigger? [05:18]
Why — and how — does Josh lately feel like he’s cramming two months of learning into each day? It all started with a desire to surf in New York City. [06:45]
How foiling allows Josh to deliberately practice surfing in ways regular surfing can’t. [10:09]
Deliberate practice and the harnessing of unconscious learning: what did Olympic skier Billy Kidd consider the three most important turns of a ski run — and why? [12:15]
What types of biomarkers does Josh track in his coaching clients? [14:01]
What is a resonant frequency? [16:00]
What is trigger work, and how did has it helped Josh enter peak performance in the space of a breath? [16:43]
What tools does Josh use for tracking HRV? [18:04]
How might HRV training help someone attune their senses in a non-athletic capacity? [18:39]
Though he tailors his coaching for each individual, Josh has these suggestions for people who are looking to better structure their days looking toward higher performance. [21:05]
How do people identify their peak energy? Josh details one of his most important activities for ending the day and beginning the next. [24:29]
How might this exercise differ between individuals for more personalized results? [25:55]
One of the most important things a decision-maker can do. [26:58]
How can someone find their MIQ (most important question) if they’re struggling to identify one? How might an otherwise great thinker use this tool to move through something that gets them stuck? [28:45]
What Ernest Hemingway’s writing process and Marcelo Garcia’s pre-match naps can teach us about the timely art of letting go. [30:50]
Why being able to go from a relaxed zero to an intense 10 is better than existing at a constant, simmering six. [32:40]
As someone who’s moved his family away from the city noises of bustling Manhattan to a remote, coastal jungle in Latin America, how would Josh convince an always-on, FOMO-addled client of the benefits to similarly unplugging and learning to say no? [34:18]
Josh says your ability to determine what matters most is affected by your ability to identify your zone of genius. How does he recommend finding that zone? [38:00]
Final thoughts and thanks. [41:52]

PEOPLE MENTIONED

Marcelo Garcia
Graham Duncan
Nick Leason
Billy Kidd
Leah Lagos
Fred Waitzkin
Ernest Hemingway
Floyd Mayweather
David Foster Wallace

Chip Conley — Building Empires, Tackling Cancer, and Surfing the Liminal (#374)

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“The question would be: ‘What mastery can you offer?’ So have a friend of yours ask that question of you five times, and you’ll be sort of surprised at, by the fifth time you get asked that question, and you’ve had to come up with four other answers before that, what kind of revelation you may have in this archaeological dig.”

— Chip Conley

At age 52, after selling the company he founded and ran as CEO for 24 years, rebel boutique hotelier Chip Conley (@chipconley) was looking for a new chapter in life. Then he received a call from the young founders of Airbnb, asking him to help grow their disruptive start-up into a global hospitality giant. He became their head of global hospitality and strategy.

Chip is a leading authority at the intersection of psychology and business. He is a New York Times bestselling author, and his latest, Wisdom @ Work: The Making of a Modern Elder, inspired him to build the world’s first midlife wisdom school. Located in Baja California Sur, the Modern Elder Academy provides the place and the tools to start reframing a lifetime of experience for what comes next.

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Overcast, Castbox, or on your favorite podcast platform.

Watch the interview on YouTube.

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Listen to it on Apple Podcasts.
Stream by clicking here.
Download as an MP3 by right-clicking here and choosing “save as.”
Watch the interview on YouTube.

Want to hear another interview with an incredible boutique hotelier? — Listen to my interview with hospitality mogul Liz Lambert, in which she talks about balancing the desire to be an artist with the desire to be a business tycoon. (Stream below or right-click here to download):

#320: The Art of Hospitality: An Interview With Entrepreneur and Hotelier Liz Lamberthttps://rss.art19.com/episodes/85a66b23-4f0c-4531-9816-758b62d6b57c.mp3Download

If you’d like to get exclusive access to me and a small tribe of like-minded people, you can contribute a few dollars a month (or more) to support the podcast.  

Here’s what you get:

1. Once per month, I’ll do an hour-long, live video Q&A… just for this much smaller group of supporters. You can ask me anything. Only supporters get to participate and ask questions. The first one will be on July 1st, 2019, and you’ll be notified via e-mail. If you can’t make it live, each session will be available to supporters right afterward as a recording. And if the audio is ever shared on the podcast, it will be delayed by at least a month.

2. Each time you hear a podcast episode (or see anything from me) that you consider impactful and want to share with friends, you can smile, knowing that you helped make it possible.

I’d really love a more direct relationship with my most dedicated listeners, readers, and fans. This is a great way to test it out. And since the podcast has become the engine that fuels everything else, if this experiment doesn’t work, we’ll just go back to sponsors. Easy.

Please only contribute what you feel great about contributing. This is zero pressure, and I’m not mailing out any beer koozies or other crap you don’t want. I’ll just do the private monthly Q&A for supporters, and I’ll share more good stuff. Think of it as a monthly gym membership for your mind and career.

To contribute, please visit tim.blog/support.

QUESTION(S) OF THE DAY: What was your favorite quote or lesson from this episode? Please let me know in the comments.

Scroll below for links and show notes…

SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE

Connect with Chip Conley:

Modern Elder Academy | Twitter | Facebook | LinkedIn

Modern Elder Academy
Wisdom @ Work: The Making of a Modern Elder by Chip Conley
The Rebel Rules: Daring to be Yourself in Business by Chip Conley
PEAK: How Great Companies Get Their Mojo from Maslow by Chip Conley and Tony Hsieh
Emotional Equations: Simple Truths for Creating Happiness + Success by Chip Conley and Tony Hsieh
Marketing That Matters: 10 Practices to Profit Your Business and Change the World by Chip Conley and Eric Friedenwald-Fishman
Austin, Texas
Chip Conley’s TED Talks
Prostate Cancer Symptoms and Causes, The Mayo Clinic
Oracle Park
“The Purpose of Life Is to Discover Your Gift. The Meaning of Life Is to Give Your Gift Away,” Quote Investigator
“Computers Are Useless; They Can Only Give You Answers,” Quote Investigator
Joie de Vivre
Airbnb
Animated Timeline Shows How Silicon Valley Became a $2.8 Trillion Neighborhood, Business Insider
Stanford Business School
Why Hasn’t the Tenderloin Gentrified Like the Rest of San Francisco? KQED News
The Phoenix Hotel
Random Acts of Initiative, Seth’s Blog
Business Rules of Thumb by Seth Godin and Chip Conley
Esalen Institute
The Conley Bookstore
Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl
A New Luxury Retreat Caters to Elderly Workers in Tech (Ages 30 and Up), The New York Times
The Mirror Neuron Revolution: Explaining What Makes Humans Social, Scientific American
Good Company, Yoga Journal
What is Your State of Being at Work? Attain or Attune? by Chip Conley, LinkedIn
Transcendental Meditation
Metta Meditation (aka Loving Kindness Meditation), Metta Institute
Vipassana Meditation
Awake in the Wild: Mindfulness in Nature as a Path of Self-Discovery: A Buddhist Walk Through Nature — Meditations, Reflections and Practices by Mark Coleman
Baja Kayaking and Meditation Retreats, SeaTrek
Jalousie (aka Louvered) Windows, Their History, and Where to Buy Them Today, Retro Renovation
Joy on Demand: The Art of Discovering the Happiness Within by Chade-Meng Tan
Search Inside Yourself: The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (and World Peace) by Chade-Meng Tan
Like a Virgin Megastore, Shut for the Very Last Time, Salon
Alaska Airlines Works Fast to Erase Memories of Virgin America, Skift
Great American Music Hall
Slim’s
The Fillmore
Hotel Vitale
W
Four Seasons
Real Simple
Dwell
Henry Ford, Innovation, and That “Faster Horse” Quote, Harvard Business Review
Virgin Atlantic
The Art of Hospitality: An Interview With Entrepreneur and Hotelier Liz Lambert, The Tim Ferriss Show #320
Hotel San Jose
The Karmic Capitalism of Chip Conley, Stanford Magazine
Bunkhouse Group
Hotel Saint Cecilia
Burning Man
28 Festivals and 8 Reasons They Can Change Your Life (Plus: Free Burning Man Tickets!), Tim.Blog
Festival of Near Death Experiences, Spanish Fiestas
Frangipani, Southern Living
1979 Heinz Ketchup Anticipation TV Ad, YouTube
Buddhism’s Four Noble Truths, BBC Radio 4
The Great Recession, Investopedia
Bhutan’s Gross National Happiness Index, OPHI
Hedonic Treadmill, Investopedia
The 4-Hour Workweek by Tim Ferriss
What Are the Signs of a Midlife Crisis? Verywell Mind
Canyon Ranch
The 10 Principles of Burning Man, Burning Man
The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50 by Jonathan Rauch
A Refresher on Marketing Myopia, Harvard Business Review
“Liminal” Is Not a “Fancy” Word, Daily Writing Tips
Morgan Stanley
A Munchkin Welcome, The Wizard Of Oz, WBMoviesOnline
Newsweek AIDS Covers, 1983-2006, Harvard AIDS Initiative
Dan Gilbert’s TED Talks
The 100-Year Life: Living and Working in an Age of Longevity by Lynda Gratton and Andrew Scott
Setting the Table: The Transforming Power of Hospitality in Business by Danny Meyer
Shake Shack
Union Square Hospitality Group
The Top 10 Secrets of Gramercy Park in NYC, Untapped Cities
Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
On the Shortness of Life by Lucius Seneca
The 7 Best Life Expectancy Calculators, New Retirement
“Be Yourself. Everyone Else Is Already Taken,” Quote Investigator

SHOW NOTES

The bad news Chip received the day before giving a TED talk, its implications, and what he’s been doing to cope with it in the time since. [05:52]
Musing on the meaning of life. [09:47]
How would someone introduce Chip at a speaking engagement? [11:28]
How Chip got into commercial real estate, why it led to his career as a hotelier, and how this diverged from his original plans as an undergrad. [12:39]
Chip talks about brainstorming sessions at Stanford Business School with Seth Godin. [15:04]
How would Chip recommend someone go about starting their own brainstorming or mastermind group and make it effective for its intended purpose? [17:04]
What was the purpose of Chip and Seth’s brainstorming group? [18:33]
On giving ideas time to incubate — and often transform into something completely different from where they began. [20:24]
With age comes wisdom — or, at the very least, emotional regulation. [22:13]
As it turns out, Chip creates his own Five-Bullet Fridays. But sometimes they’re 12-Bullet Fridays, and they detail lessons rather than recommendations. Here are a few examples. [23:58]
What has helped Chip more finely develop his emotional regulation? [26:33]
Attainment, attunement, and atonement. [27:40]
What meditation practices does Chip use? [28:49]
The Chip Conley method of breathing. [29:56]
How old was Chip when he wrote the first book (that he counts as his first book), and how did he manage to get Richard Branson to write its foreword? [31:29]
How did Brenda Lee and Arlo Guthrie get The Phoenix started on the road to its reputation as a rock and roll hotel, and how did identifying the unrecognized need of the unspoken customer who made a difference in the equation — the tour manager — ultimately maintain this reputation? [34:41]
On being the first to address an unspoken need in an industry and exceeding expectations even if the market research doesn’t initially quantify it. [39:34]
If being first doesn’t work out, make sure turning it around is an easy solution. [43:20]
An important lesson from Richard Branson and Chip’s father: Build the business plan as if it’s not going to succeed. [44:53]
Why does fellow boutique hotelier (and past show guest) Liz Lambert “hate” Chip? [46:41]
As a successful hotelier at the time, why did Chip agree to help Liz when she was just getting started? [47:40]
Why people from Maya Angelou to Moby find boutique hotels ideal for working staycations. [50:21]
A question from the aforementioned Liz Lambert: Why did Chip decide to sell Joie de Vivre when he did? [51:07]
How did Chip decide what to focus on next, and what form did this journey take? [53:50]
Chip explains the flatlining experience behind despair = suffering minus meaning from his fourth book, Emotional Equations. [56:03]
What did Chip see repeatedly on his trips to the “other side” while flatlining nine times, and what has he taken away from the experience? [57:23]
Other equations to which Chip refers often. [1:03:26]
Does Chip see the value in being still, or does he always have to be chasing some “next big thing” or another? [1:05:34]
On being the guide on the side instead of the sage on the stage at Airbnb and how it allowed him to be driven for a purpose greater than just his own. [1:07:57]
Why Chip feels comfortable with his current commitment to Modern Elder Academy and believes midlife wisdom schools will be big in the future. [1:09:34]
Why is Chip limiting Modern Elder Academy to one location rather than franchising into multiple centers? Would he encourage other entrepreneurs to start their own midlife wisdom schools? [1:14:14]
What is the U-curve of happiness, and why might we actually get happier as we age? What are the positives of getting older? [1:16:46]
How did Chip, being at least two decades older than Airbnb’s three young founders, help steer them toward focusing on four strong initiatives — down from 23? [1:20:01]
One simple question to ask yourself at the start of any business venture, a game you can play to extract every practical ounce of use from it, and a variation for personal revelation. [1:22:31]
Academy exercises that help midlifers understand liminality and evolve toward the editing phase of their journey (with examples of Chip’s own participation). [1:25:56]
How does Chip have people prepare for their time at Modern Elder Academy? [1:31:21]
Examples of values people might include on their personal, ranked list. [1:32:38]
Chip shares some of his backstory — including when he came out as openly gay at age 22, what the social climate was like then, and how his Marine Reserve father feels about it. [1:33:33]
Chip has a couple of sons with a lesbian couple. How did this come about, and what’s his level of involvement in their lives? [1:36:28]
After being initially reluctant to the idea of fatherhood, what made Chip change his mind? [1:38:53]
Why Chip is happy to be so involved in his sons’ lives as a third parent, and what his experience with parenting had been beforehand. [1:40:39]
Has Chip been parenting instinctively, or are there any books he’s read for guidance? [1:42:27]
The difference between a traditional elder and a modern elder. [1:44:14]
Aside from his own, what books does Chip gift most often? [1:45:42]
What would Chip’s billboard say? [1:48:34]
Parting thoughts. [1:49:10]

PEOPLE MENTIONED

Steve Conley
Gavin Newsom
William Shakespeare
Pablo Picasso
Ian Schrager
Bill Kimpton
Seneca
Marcus Aurelius
Seth Godin
Viktor Frankl
Mark Coleman
Jack Kornfield
Chade-Meng Tan
Richard Branson
Eve Branson
Edward James Branson
Brenda Lee
Arlo Guthrie
Nirvana
Pearl Jam
David Bowie
Red Hot Chili Peppers
Bill Graham
Abraham Maslow
David Brooks
Abraham Lincoln
Oscar Wilde
Henry Ford
Liz Lambert
Maya Angelou
Moby
Sigmund Freud
Gautama Buddha
Peter Guber
Brian Chesky
Joe Gebbia
Nathan Blecharczyk
Mel Zuckerman
Brené Brown
Theodore Levitt
Peter Drucker
Carl Jung
Jonathan Rauch
Danny Meyer

Jerry Colonna — The Coach With the Spider Tattoo (#373)

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“You are not alone. And just because you feel like shit doesn’t mean you are shit.”

— Jerry Colonna

Jerry Colonna (@jerrycolonna) is the CEO and cofounder of Reboot.io, an executive coaching and leadership development firm dedicated to the notion that better humans make better leaders.

Prior to his career as a coach, he was a partner with J.P. Morgan Partners (JPMP), the private equity arm of J.P. Morgan Chase. Prior to that, he cofounded New York City-based Flatiron Partners with Fred Wilson, which became one of the nation’s most successful early-stage investment programs. His first leadership position, at age 25, was Editor-In-Chief of InformationWeek magazine, and now he has returned to the written word with his first book, Reboot: Leadership and the Art of Growing Up.

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Overcast, Castbox, or on your favorite podcast platform.

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Download as an MP3 by right-clicking here and choosing “save as.”

Want to hear an episode with someone else who understands the value of coaching? — Listen to my conversation with Eric Schmidt, in which we discuss the immeasurable impact late coach Bill Campbell had on Silicon Valley’s rise as a veritable modern superpower. (Stream below or right-click here to download.)

#367: Eric Schmidt — Lessons from a Trillion-Dollar Coachhttps://rss.art19.com/episodes/d26d7aad-bb59-4032-93d5-2c0c57544da5.mp3Download

If you’d like to get exclusive access to me and a small tribe of like-minded people, you can contribute a few dollars a month (or more) to support the podcast.  

Here’s what you get:

1. Once per month, I’ll do an hour-long, live video Q&A… just for this much smaller group of supporters. You can ask me anything. Only supporters get to participate and ask questions. The first one will be on July 1st, 2019, and you’ll be notified via e-mail. If you can’t make it live, each session will be available to supporters right afterward as a recording. And if the audio is ever shared on the podcast, it will be delayed by at least a month.

2. Each time you hear a podcast episode (or see anything from me) that you consider impactful and want to share with friends, you can smile, knowing that you helped make it possible.

I’d really love a more direct relationship with my most dedicated listeners, readers, and fans. This is a great way to test it out. And since the podcast has become the engine that fuels everything else, if this experiment doesn’t work, we’ll just go back to sponsors. Easy.

Please only contribute what you feel great about contributing. This is zero pressure, and I’m not mailing out any beer koozies or other crap you don’t want. I’ll just do the private monthly Q&A for supporters, and I’ll share more good stuff. Think of it as a monthly gym membership for your mind and career.

To contribute, please visit tim.blog/support.

QUESTION(S) OF THE DAY: What was your favorite quote or lesson from this episode? Please let me know in the comments.

Scroll below for links and show notes…

SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE

Connect with Jerry:

Reboot.io | Twitter

Reboot: Leadership and the Art of Growing Up by Jerry Colonna
J.P. Morgan Partners, Crunchbase
Flatiron Partners, Crunchbase
InformationWeek Magazine
The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo by Stieg Larsson
What is Ecopsychology? by Robert Greenway
Argiope Aurantia (Black and Yellow Garden Spider), Spider ID
Iktomi: Native American Spider-Trickster Spirit Whose Stories Teach Moral Values by Ellen Lloyd, AncientPages.com
JetBlue Airlines
Emotional Ups and Downs After 9/11 Traced in Report by Adam Clymer, The New York Times
Union Square Ventures
For Those Who ‘Worked The Pile’ At Ground Zero, Horrors Of Sept. 11 Haven’t Faded by Dina Temple-Raston, Weekend Edition Saturday, NPR
142 Of The Funniest New Yorker Cartoons Ever by Giedre, Bored Panda
Canyon Ranch
Trump Pavilion, Jamaica Hospital Medical Center
Creedmoor State Hospital, Asylum Projects
Cabrini Medical Center, Wikipedia
Being Complicit, And Now This
The Benefits of Suffering and the Costs of Well Being: Secondary Gains and Losses by Will Joel Friedman, MentalHelp.net
New York Times Corrects Misquote of Thoreau’s ‘Quiet Desperation’ Line by Craig Silverman, Poynter
The Bhagavad Gita
When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times by Pema Chˆdrˆn
Faith: Trusting Your Own Deepest Experience by Sharon Salzberg
Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation by Parker J. Palmer
The Dharma: The Teachings of the Buddha, Religious Literacy Project
Internal Family Systems
Life and Teachings of Jesus, Religious Literacy Project
Burning Man
This Man Makes Founders Cry by Jessi Hempel, Wired
The Reality of Imposter Syndrome by Megan Dalla-Camina, Psychology Today
What is Karma? The Yogic Encyclopedia
The Center for Nonviolent Communication
Seinfeld Saying “Newman!”
The Living Art of Bonsai, Bonsai Empire
Who said, “Those Who Mind Don’t Matter, and Those Who Matter Don’t Mind?” Quote Investigator
Guilt vs. Remorse by Margaret Paul, HuffPost
How to Cage the Monkey Mind, The Tim Ferriss Show #175
Taming the Mammoth: Why You Should Stop Caring What Other People Think by Tim Urban, Wait But Why
The Artist’s Way Morning Pages Journal by Julia Cameron
The 7 Levels of Consciousness, Tiny Buddha
Song of Myself by Walt Whitman, University of Toronto Libraries
Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha by Tara Brach
Bensonhurst, Brooklyn
Market Crashes: The Dotcom Crash, Investopedia
Know Your Brain: Amygdala, Neuroscientifically Challenged
Metta Meditation (aka Loving Kindness Meditation), Metta Institute
Jack Kornfield Wants You to Love Yourself by Tim Ferriss, Outside
The Klingon Hamlet by The Klingon Language Institute

SHOW NOTES

What’s the story behind Jerry’s spider tattoo? [05:10]
What happened at an Olympic bid meeting in 2002 that would change Jerry’s life? [11:39]
Jerry talks candidly about a suicide attempt at age 18 and spending three months in a psychiatric hospital. [18:17]
What’s the difference between responsible and complicit and, in 2002, how was Jerry complicit in creating the conditions in his life that he would have said he didn’t want? [19:30]
Three important questions Jerry’s therapist taught him. [23:02]
An example of something Jerry needed to say during this period of time that he didn’t say or that wasn’t heard. [24:24]
What did Jerry do to overcome the nagging self-doubt and unanswerable questions that were crushing him at this point? [26:12]
How did Jerry find his way to coaching, and what three books guided him in that direction? [28:42]
If he were to hazard a guess, how much of Jerry’s call to coaching was finding relief in taking the focus outside of himself and, in a way, healing his younger self? [35:12]
How does Jerry get through to fellow high-achievers who don’t think they have the time, patience, or need for self-discovery? [38:30]
The first question Jerry asks: “How are you really feeling?” [39:41]
How does Jerry work with the chronically busy? [43:11]
Jerry takes a look at how I’ve historically dealt with busyness and breaks it down — along with saying “No” and when (and why) this is most difficult for me. [45:54]
There are three basic risks that we’re all trying to manage all the time: love, safety, and belonging. [59:35]
Tools, books, and approaches Jerry has found helpful for people who have difficulty saying “No” or establishing boundaries. [01:01:43]
“All beings own their own karma. Their happiness or unhappiness depend upon their actions, not my wishes for them.” [01:03:50]
A boundary tool that acknowledges compassion — but from a distance. [01:05:21]
To Jerry, the challenge isn’t in not having a tool for maximizing the efficiency with which we overcome our struggles. The challenge is in the meaning that gets put into a situation before a tool can even be applied. [01:06:35]
Like the Jerry of Seinfeld fame, we all have a Newman (or several) vexing our lives in some way. How might we humanely confront, converse with, or even sever ties with these unhealthy relationships? [01:07:21]
How does Jerry get someone from the point of intellectually agreeing with what he’s saying to actually putting it into practice and changing their behavior? [01:12:38]
As a 55-year-old who’s been journaling daily since he was 13, how does Jerry prescribe the practice as a way to drive personal results? [01:15:16]
Guilt vs. remorse. [01:17:30]
Marie Ponsot, the crow, and the importance of letting the crow speak in the journal. [01:18:14]
Jerry describes his typical bedtimes and mornings, when he fits in time for journaling, and what his journaling prompts and processes look like. [01:22:31]
How journaling can help us accept the totality of what’s going on in our lives by allowing our different voices to speak — the “multitudes” we contain per Walt Whitman’s Song of Myself. [01:26:13]
On Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach [01:28:19]
How Jerry has used Marvel’s Hulk and Thor to reconcile the different parts of himself and understand that they each serve a purpose — recalling Carl Jung’s notion of The Shadow. [01:29:20]
Jerry walks us through the time he made a difficult decision to say “No” — and focused on something narrowly — that ended up being life-changing in retrospect. [01:34:29]
Jerry’s advice to anyone who finds themselves in a similar position — or his younger self at this junction. [01:41:58]
How journaling, meditating, and answering certain questions has helped Jerry cope with rage-fueled anxiety and tame his inner Hulk. [01:44:01]
Where an aspiring beginner can learn more about loving kindness, aka metta meditation, and what it’s helped me discover about myself. [01:47:48]
What new behavior or belief has greatly improved Jerry’s quality of life? [01:50:16]
What would Jerry’s billboard say? [01:52:19]
Closing thoughts. [01:55:02]

PEOPLE MENTIONED

Carl Jung
Bill Plotkin
Iktomi
Fred Wilson
Brad Burnham
Dr. Avivah Sayres
Mary Anne MacLeod Trump
Mike, Sam, and Emma Colonna
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Henry David Thoreau
Gautama Buddha
Ani Pema Chˆdrˆn
Sharon Salzberg
Parker J. Palmer
Jesus
Seth Godin
Newman
Jerry Seinfeld
Dr. Seuss
Marie Ponsot
Tim Urban
Julia Cameron
Walt Whitman
Tara Brach
Hulk
Thor
Jeff Walker
Jack Kornfield

Less Hustle, More Art — Moving to a New Model

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Hello, my lovelies! This is an important announcement.

From June – Dec, 2019, I’m removing ads and sponsors from the podcast for a six-month test. The podcast will continue to be 100% free for everyone. There will be no paywall, and no one has to pay for anything.

If interested, you can contribute a few (or more) dollars a month to support me doing more crazy experiments and initiatives, or to simply say “thank you” if any of my books, nearly 400 free podcasts, or 1,000+ free blog posts have had a positive impact on you or your loved ones.

Visit  tim.blog/support  to find out more and support.

Since the podcast has become the engine that fuels everything else, if this experiment doesn’t work out after six months, we’ll go back to sponsors. If it works, we’ll stay with fan-supported. Easy peasy.

So, why am I doing this? Two main reasons:

#1 – Sponsors and ads chew up a TON of time that I’d rather spend finding and doing cool things I can share with you. To be clear, I don’t think all advertising is evil. I turn away 90-plus percent of inquiries, personally test everything remaining, and then share the best. I feel good about that, BUT it consumes a lot of my time and energy. I would rather focus on finding, doing, and making cool things that I can share with you. That’s what I love, it’s what I’m good at, and it’s why many of you ended up reading my books or listening to the podcast in the first place.

#2 – Over the years, thousands of readers and fans have asked me, “How can I thank you?” Aside from the books, I’ve never sold any products, courses, or otherwise, nor do I plan to. Fan-supported subscriptions allow people to say “Thank you, and please do more.” If you want to help fuel more experiments, science, and exciting discoveries, you can easily sign up below and contribute to the cause. Think of it as a monthly gym membership for your mind and career. How much would you gladly pay for that?

Then, each time you hear a podcast episode (or see anything from me) that you consider life-changing and want to share with friends, you can smile, knowing that you helped to make it possible.

Please only contribute what you feel great about contributing. This is zero pressure, and I’m not mailing out any beer koozies or other crap you don’t want. I’ll just do and share more good stuff.

Visit  tim.blog/support to check it out.

Sending much love to you and yours,

Tim

If you prefer, you can listen to this announcement in an audio format on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Overcast, Castbox, or on your favorite podcast platform.

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Julie Rice — Co-Founding SoulCycle, Taming Anxiety, and Mastering Difficult Conversations (#372)

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“There is no elevator to success; you have to take the stairs.”

— Julie Rice

Julie Rice (@julierice_) is an entrepreneur best known for co-founding the fitness phenomenon SoulCycle. Julie served as Co-CEO at SoulCycle from 2006 to 2015 before joining WeWork in November 2017.

Julie’s life’s work has been about building community, and these days she brings that focus to her new role at WeWork. At WeWork, Julie is approaching everything through the lens of community—she is focusing on WeWork’s brand and the experience WeWork provides its members, and seeking new and innovative ways to grow and share the WeWork experience around the globe.

Julie lives in NYC with her husband Spencer and their two daughters, Phoebe and Parker. She is a board member of The Public Theater and Weight Watchers, as well as an advisor to the women’s club The Wing.

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Want to hear another episode with someone who knows how to build an enticing atmosphere into a business model? — Listen to my interview with hospitality mogul Liz Lambert, in which she talks about balancing the desire to be an artist with the desire to be a business tycoon. (Stream below or right-click here to download):

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Important announcement from Tim below:

Hello, my lovelies!

From June – Dec, 2019, I’m removing ads and sponsors from the podcast for a six-month test. The podcast will continue to be 100% free for everyone. There will be no paywall, and no one has to pay for anything.

If interested, you can contribute a few dollars a month to support me doing more crazy experiments and initiatives, or to simply say “thank you” if any of my books, nearly 400 free podcasts, or 1,000+ free blog posts have had a positive impact on you or your loved ones.

Visit  tim.blog/support  to find out more and support.

Since the podcast has become the engine that fuels everything else, if this experiment doesn’t work out after six months, we’ll go back to sponsors. If it works, we’ll stay with fan-supported. Easy peasy.

So, why am I doing this? Two main reasons:

#1 – Sponsors and ads chew up a TON of time that I’d rather spend finding and doing cool things I can share with you. To be clear, I don’t think all advertising is evil. I turn away 90-plus percent of inquiries, personally test everything remaining, and then share the best. I feel good about that, BUT it consumes a lot of my time and energy. I would rather focus on finding, doing, and making cool things that I can share with you. That’s what I love, it’s what I’m good at, and it’s why many of you ended up reading my books or listening to the podcast in the first place.

#2 – Over the years, thousands of readers and fans have asked me, “How can I thank you?” Aside from the books, I’ve never sold any products, courses, or otherwise, nor do I plan to. Fan-supported subscriptions allow people to say “Thank you, and please do more.” If you want to help fuel more experiments, science, and exciting discoveries, you can easily sign up below and contribute to the cause. Think of it as a monthly gym membership for your mind and career. How much would you gladly pay for that?

Then, each time you hear a podcast episode (or see anything from me) that you consider life-changing and want to share with friends, you can smile, knowing that you helped to make it possible.

Please only contribute what you feel great about contributing. This is zero pressure, and I’m not mailing out any beer koozies or other crap you don’t want. I’ll just do and share more good stuff.

The lower tiers of support are roughly equal to four Starbucks cappuccinos per month, or one decent bottle of wine per month. The higher tiers of support are roughly equal to a gym membership, or a single dinner for two per month.

Visit  tim.blog/support to find out more and support.

QUESTION(S) OF THE DAY: What was your favorite quote or lesson from this episode? Please let me know in the comments.

Scroll below for links and show notes…

SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE

Connect with Julie Rice:

 Instagram | LinkedIn

SoulCycle
WeWork
Made By We
The Public Theater
Weight Watchers
The Wing
Galleria at White Plains
WME
Soho House
Harry’s Burritos
Starbucks
White Cube
Apple Store
University of Colorado, Boulder
ThinkHuman
Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen LaKelly
Hunt, PhD
The Two Simple Ways to Upgrade Your Relationship by Harville Hendrix, Oprah.com
Couples Workshops with Harville and Helen
Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek
SoulCycle in Bridgehampton, NY
6 Original Riders Reflect on 10 Years of SOUL, SoulCycle
Seth Godin on How to Think Small to Go Big, The Tim Ferriss Show #177
Hamptons Magazine
Equinox
The 16-Second Survival Breath by Lisa Bedford, The Survival Mom
How I Get It Done: WeWork’s Julie Rice Always Takes the Stairs by Mara Reinstein, The Cut
Shabbat 101, My Jewish Learning
What Is Challah? My Jewish Learning
Levain Bakery
Baked by Melissa
Snapchat
4 Things It Takes to Be a SoulCycle Instructor, SoulCycle
Mad Libs
Setting the Table: The Transforming Power of Hospitality in Business by Danny Meyer
Delivering Happiness: A Path to Profits, Passion, and Purpose by Tony Hsieh
Rainbow Room

SHOW NOTES

Julie was a nerdishly well-behaved child…except for this one time. [06:35]
What was Julie’s life like the year before cofounding SoulCycle? [09:28]
What were Julie’s duties as a talent manager in her former life, and what were some of her better decisions in that role? [13:37]
One of Julie’s better skills in life: people picker. [15:03]
How many clients does a successful talent manager usually have under their wing? [17:22]
What did Julie see in Ellen Pompeo that made her pursue her as a client, and how does it tie in with what she looks for in people who work for her in different capacities today? [19:04]
How did SoulCycle formulate as a concept and become something real in just four months? [20:49]
The Sunday $200 ATM ritual and how money was handled in the early days of SoulCycle. [23:44]
How did the name “SoulCycle” come about, and were there any serious alternatives in the running? [29:01]
How did Julie and Elizabeth decide on the business model that made SoulCycle stand out from its big box gym contemporaries at the time? [29:42]
Early good decisions. [31:35]
How lack of space in the first SoulCycle room created an accidentally positive environment for human connection and moving meditation. [33:08]
What value did Julie and Elizabeth find in having a life coach help them at this stage in the business? [34:48]
While initially skeptical about seeing a coach, what sold Julie on the deal at the first meeting? [41:26]
What Julie has learned about fostering a company culture and a family life (thanks to some help from Hendrix and Hunt’s Getting the Love You Want) that make conflict resolution go smoothly and constructively. [44:31]
Why Julie considers Simon Sinek’s Start with Why so helpful for people trying to communicate in the workplace. [52:18]
How SoulCycle’s investment in the careers of its instructors engendered true loyalty and made the company stand out as an innovator in the fitness industry. [55:24]
Why did Julie and Elizabeth resist the urge to take outside investment money early on, and how did it shape the way business — particularly marketing — was done? [57:27]
How a little creativity gave a marketing experiment in Bridgehampton much better ROI than a $75,000 magazine ad ever could have — and turned SoulCycle from a scrappy startup into a bona fide sensation. [1:05:14]
Why finally accepting outside cash infusion from Equinox was seen as a good idea for the business at this time. [1:08:49]
Bad uses of time and money and rolling with the consequences. [1:10:45]
Think you don’t have time to meditate? Here’s how Julie does her daily meditation in 16 seconds. [1:16:15]
The number one thing that keeps Julie from buckling under stress and anxiety. [1:17:54]
A new weekly ritual that helps reframe Julie’s family life and bring everyone closer together. [1:21:50]
What SoulCycle’s eight-week training program strives to instill in its instructors, and what this brings to the overall SoulCycle experience. [1:26:27]
What does a curriculum designed around developing spiritual, emotional leaders look like? [1:29:30]
Books Julie recommends and gifts frequently. [1:31:39]
What is Julie currently most excited about — professionally, personally, or in-between? [1:32:43]
What would Julie’s billboard say? [1:35:20]
Closing thoughts. [1:36:50]

PEOPLE MENTIONED

Julie’s mom
Spencer Rice
Ellen Pompeo
Selma Blair
Justin Long
Jennifer Lopez
Sean Combs
Will Smith
Benny Medina
Elizabeth Cutler
Dionne Warwick
Meredith Haberfeld
Harville Hendrix
Helen LaKelly Hunt
Oprah Winfrey
Simon Sinek
Jeff Bezos
Seth Godin
Harvey Spevak
Danny Meyer
Tony Hsieh

Ramit Sethi — Automating Finances, Negotiating Prenups, Disagreeing with Tim, and More (#371)

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“Most of us should spend less time on most decisions and we should spend a lot more time on a few key decisions.”

— Ramit Sethi

Ramit Sethi, (@ramit) author of the New York Times bestseller I Will Teach You To Be Rich, has become a financial guru to millions of readers in their twenties, thirties, and forties. He started his website, iwillteachyoutoberich.com, as a Stanford undergraduate in 2004, and he now hosts over a million readers per month on his blog, newsletter, and social media.

Ramit grew up in Sacramento, the son of Indian immigrant parents who taught him the art of negotiating — his father once spent five days negotiating with a car dealer, only to walk away over a set of floor mats. He wasn’t the smartest kid in his class, but he loved building systems, which ultimately earned him over $200,000 in scholarships, which he used to get bachelor’s and master’s degrees in technology and psychology at Stanford. His understanding of human behavior and money led to him creating innovative solutions in self development.

Ramit and his team of dozens of employees build premium digital products about personal finance, entrepreneurship, psychology, careers, and personal development for top performers. The IWT community includes one million monthly readers, 400,000 newsletter subscribers, and 35,000 premium customers.

He has written about personal finance for The Wall Street Journal and The New York Times, and been interviewed on dozens of media outlets including NPR, ABC News, and CNBC, and popular podcasts like The Tim Ferriss Show.

Watch the interview on YouTube.

Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Stitcher, Overcast, Castbox, or on your favorite podcast platform.

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Want to hear the first time Ramit was on this show? — Listen to Ramit and me talk about persuasion and turning a blog into a multi-million-dollar business. (Stream below or right-click here to download part one; right-click here to download part two.):

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QUESTION(S) OF THE DAY: What was your favorite quote or lesson from this episode? Please let me know in the comments.

Scroll below for links and show notes…

SELECTED LINKS FROM THE EPISODE

Connect with Ramit Sethi:

Website  | Instagram | YouTube | Twitter

I Will Teach You to Be Rich, Second Edition: No Guilt. No Excuses. No B.S. Just a 6-Week Program That Works. by Ramit Sethi
What’s the Best Thing You Learned from Your Parents? By Ramit Sethi, IWT.com
A Random Walk Down Wall Street: The Time-Tested Strategy for Successful Investing by Burton G. Malkiel
See Interest Rates Over the Last 100 Years by Valerie Ashton, GOBankingRates
Make Your Money Make More Money: Get 5% Back From These Checking and Savings Accounts by Steve Gillman, The Penny Hoarder
How to Negotiate Like an Indian — 7 Rules by Ramit Sethi, Tim.Blog
Don’t Buy a House (+ How to Ignore Dumb Propaganda) by Ramit Sethi, IWT.com
Adjustable-Rate Mortgage (ARM), Investopedia
Penny Wise, Pound Foolish: What Happens When You Try to Write down Every Dollar You Spend? by Rob Baedeker, SF Gate
No B.S. Marketing to the Affluent: No Holds Barred, Take No Prisoners, Guide to Getting Really Rich by Dan S. Kennedy
How to Make Millions with Your Ideas: An Entrepreneur’s Guide by Dan S. Kennedy
MacBook Air
Seamless
Veracruz All Natural
Saison
7 Ways to Buy Back Your Time: How Spending Money on Convenience Makes You Happier by Tony Tran, IWT.com
For a More Ordered Life, Organize Like a Chef (Mise En Place) by Dan Charnas, The Salt, NPR
Google Docs
Whole Foods Market
Instacart
Favor
Author Says Taking Ice Baths Will Keep You Trim by Lisa Sigell, CBS News
The 4-Hour Chef: The Simple Path to Cooking Like a Pro, Learning Anything, and Living the Good Life by Timothy Ferriss
9 Tricks for Getting a Table (and Being a VIP) at Hot Restaurants by Tim Ferriss, Tim.Blog
Tasting a $60 Cup of Green Tea by Nick Gray
Chef’s Table
Noah Kagan’s Coffee Challenge Helps You Get over Fear by Alyson Shontell, Business Insider
Best of IWT: Dominate with My Word-for-Word Scripts by Ramit Sethi, IWT.com
Vanguard
Self-Made Millionaire Ramit Sethi: Here’s Why You Should Spend a Lot of Money on Your Wedding by Tom Huddleston Jr., CNBC
Pros and Cons of Target-Date Funds by Caroline Banton, Investopedia
Minority Report
The Lowdown on Index Funds by Rebecca Baldridge, Investopedia
Sub-Savings Accounts: How to save for Anything in 3 Steps by Ramit Sethi, IWT.com
Capital One 360
Bankrate
5 Mistakes to Avoid When Making a Prenup Agreement, World Wedding Guide
How to Talk to Your Partner about Money: The Definitive Script by Ramit Sethi, IWT.com
15 Lessons on Money and Marriage from Couples Who Have Been Married 10+ Years by Ramit Sethi, IWT.com
Yelp
Ways to Invalidate a Prenuptial Agreement by Kirk C. Stange, Esq., Lawyers.com
With Billions at Stake, Wife Contends She Signed Prenup under Duress, Gabrielle S. Davis
The Official I Will Teach You To Be Rich Charts & Spreadsheets by Ramit Sethi, IWT.com
Need Speed? Slow Down by Jocelyn R. DavisTom Atkinson, Harvard Business Review
Polaris is the North Star by Bruce McClure, Astronomy Essentials, EarthSky
How Willpower Works: Decision Fatigue and How to Avoid Bad Decisions by James Clear
5 Things That Are Worth the Money (Including Ramit’s Book-Buying Rule) by Ramit Sethi, IWT.com
Michelin Restaurants and Fabulous Wines: Inside the Secret Team Dinners That Have Built the Spurs’ Dynasty by Baxter Holmes, ESPN
Burning Man
Macro Calculator, Healthy Eater
Hacking the Morning Routines of Benjamin Franklin, Tim Ferriss, Ramit Sethi, and 22 Others by Garik Himebaugh, Life Optimizer
Imitating the Habits of Successful People Is Ultimately Pointless by Jon Westenberg, Business Insider
The 4-Hour Workweek: Escape 9-5, Live Anywhere, and Join the New Rich by Timothy Ferriss
Equinox
Next Level Wardrobe
TripIt
50 Years Ago: Cargo Cults of Melanesia by Peter M. Worsley, Scientific American
Neil Gaiman — The Interview I’ve Waited 20 Years To Do, The Tim Ferriss Show #366
The Basics of FIRE (Financial Independence and Early Retirement) by Kristin Wong, Lifehacker
How to Take a Mini-Retirement: Tips and Tricks by Tim Ferriss, Tim.Blog
Time Management for “Busy” People by Ramit Sethi, IWT.com
24 Hours with Tim Ferriss: A Sample Schedule by Tim Ferriss, Tim.Blog
Outer Order, Inner Calm: Declutter and Organize to Make More Room for Happiness by Gretchen Rubin
Stoicism 101, How to Be a Stoic
How to Never Forget Anything Again by Tim Ferriss, Tim.Blog
Being Weird and Being OK with It by Ramit Sethi, IWT.com
The Enneagram Institute
Bird by Bird: Some Instructions on Writing and Life by Anne Lamott

SHOW NOTES

Ramit shares a childhood story that beautifully illustrates why he grew up to be such a savvy negotiator. [03:09]
What made Ramit consider “I was right” as an appropriate beginning for the second edition of I Will Teach You To Be Rich? [05:55]
As someone who once wrote “How to Negotiate Like an Indian” as a blog post for me a few years back, why has Ramit rented the same apartment for 10 years instead of buying a house? Is it a myth that real estate is the best investment? [08:37]
Sometimes your good financial decisions won’t equal someone else’s good financial decisions — or even your own at another stage of the game. Small nuances add up. [12:36]
“What am I missing?” Why Ramit wishes he could go back in time and shake his 22-year-old self. [16:53]
An expenditure that once seemed frivolous and why it makes perfect sense today (after learning the hard way). [18:21]
What Ramit means by living a “rich” life — and why his might not match yours or mine. [20:26]
Life-running, invisible scripts that Ramit inherited from his parents. [22:44]
Examining wise but seemingly counterintuitive words from marketing consultant Dan Kennedy: “Why pay less when you can pay more?” [25:31]
Frugality has its place: Parts of Ramit’s life in which he chooses to be frugal and why. [27:51]
Adjusting what Ramit calls the “money dial” to spend extravagantly on things we love and cut costs mercilessly on the things we don’t. [31:49]
Examples of how convenience is applied to Ramit’s rich life. [36:56]
How does Ramit keep track of travel and other convenience protocols and convey them to his team when necessary? [39:04]
As we’ve discovered, some of the most game-changing conveniences and lifestyle upgrades are cheaper than you might expect. [40:30]
Even if you don’t generally carry cash, here’s why always having a few $20 bills on hand can save the day. [43:09]
A tip for becoming a lifelong VIP at your restaurant of choice. [43:39]
How Ramit’s wife got a free cooking class from their restaurant’s chef just by asking for a spring roll recipe on their honeymoon, and what this and a tea tasting taught Ramit about how easy it is to learn from people who love what they do. [45:06]
A recap of Noah Kagan’s Coffee Challenge and cultivating the muscle for asking. [51:31]
Two exercises for challenging accepted “truths” you may believe about money. [52:09]
Ramit gives us a glimpse at his own system for funneling income where it needs to go, including investments (and an explanation of target-date funds). [55:53]
Ramit is an open book about a much-shunned topic he and his wife agreed to share: the pros and cons of the prenuptial agreement (aka prenup) and why therapy might be the best place to start for any couple considering one. [1:02:20]
If we can avoid decision fatigue by having systems in place to automate the mundane, we might live long and prosper like Ramit’s uncle. [1:41:07]
Ramit’s Book-Buying Rule, the power of sub-accounts, and why some areas of your life shouldn’t have a budget. [1:42:10]
How a couple can reduce decision fatigue by establishing guidelines for travel and daily chores. [1:43:53]
How Ramit and I agree and disagree on morning routines. [1:48:27]
How we agree and disagree on the use of tools. [1:54:15]
The value in understanding that our principles change over time, and what has changed for Ramit in the 10 years between editions of I Will Teach You To Be Rich. [1:59:10]
Financial freedom, retirement, and mini retirements. [2:01:30]
How does Ramit encourage his students to think about their objectives? [2:02:41]
Checking in and general organization: If it’s not in the calendar, it’s just not real. [2:05:50]
Calendar rituals for the care and feeding of a healthy relationship. [2:08:20]
How do you say Ramit Sethi correctly? [2:19:18]
Parting thoughts. [2:19:26]

PEOPLE MENTIONED

Prab Sethi
Neelam Sethi
Burton Malkiel
Dan Kennedy
Cassandra Sethi
Jill Jensen
Angus MacGyver
Nick Gray
Francis Mallmann
Noah Kagan
Mother Teresa
Scrooge McDuck
Voldemort
Gregg Popovich
Michael Jordan
Andre Agassi
Neil Gaiman
Gretchen Rubin
Marcus Aurelius
The Hulk
Anne Lamott