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December 26, 2024
Drafting Realistic Goals as a Creative: Tips to Succeed in 2025 and Overcome Blocks
Year-end often brings a bittersweet mix of emotions—the festive cheer of Christmas clashes with the sobering realization of unfulfilled goals. You might feel that familiar pang – disappointment as another year slips away, leaving behind unfinished projects and unrealized dreams. It's tempting to avoid thinking about these "failures", to sweep them under the rug and get lost in the celebrations alone. But within those setbacks, as I would prefer to call them, lie valuable lessons, diamonds in the rough waiting to be unearthed.
Perhaps you vowed to write every weekend, only to be distracted by other commitments. Maybe you dreamt of publishing that short story, but it remains tucked away in a dusty folder. Or perhaps you yearned for your artwork to grace the pages of renowned journals, but those submissions remain unanswered or rejected. Regardless of what you desired to achieve, it's crucial to learn from the year's challenges and use them as fuel for a more successful and fulfilling new year.
This post will guide you through the process of transforming your creative setbacks into actionable goals. We'll explore how to identify the root causes of your struggles, extract valuable lessons from your experiences, and set realistic, achievable targets for the coming year. So, grab your journal and pen, and let's begin this journey of self-reflection.
These 5 steps will help you draft goals that foster growth. it would also give you the required framework for overcoming creative blocks and achieving your goals.
We often shy away from confronting our failures and rejections. However, as long as God keeps you alive, failures or rejections are not the end of the road! By properly analyzing them, you can learn why something didn't work previously and take necessary actions to make it work. When we begin to view setbacks as learning opportunities, we approach them with a different mindset. They transform from obstacles into valuable tools for growth.
Let's delve into your setbacks together. Ask yourself the following questions and jot down your honest answers:
What are the goals you didn't achieve in 2024?
What obstacles prevented you from achieving them? Was it a lack of motivation? A tight schedule? Time management issues? External distractions? Be honest with yourself.
What valuable lessons did you learn about your creative process? Did you discover any strengths or weaknesses? Did you identify any recurring patterns that hinder your productivity? If you can't figure this out yourself, you can ask people who work with you.
By honestly confronting your setbacks, you gain crucial insights into your creative habits and identify areas for improvement.
Now that you have identified your setbacks, the next step is to acknowledge that creative blocks are inevitable. Creative pursuits are marathons, not sprints. There will be times when inspiration wanes, self-doubt creeps in, or external factors disrupt your flow. The key is not to avoid these challenges but to discover ways to manage them.
Here are some tips for reframing your setbacks:
Be Mindful: Journal about your creative struggles, and what inspires you. Are you facing writer's block? What led to it? Did you feel overwhelmed by a large project? When you got excited about a creative idea, what led to getting that idea? Pinpointing the root cause and previous solutions can help you develop targeted and intentional solutions.
Celebrate Small Wins: Don't wait for a finished masterpiece to celebrate and feel accomplished. Acknowledge and celebrate small victories, like completing a daily writing session or finishing a sketch. Remember that it is the tiny drops that finally make up the ocean. Celebrating these small wins helps to sustain your motivation to take it through till the end.
Embrace Imperfection: The fear of failure can be a major creative roadblock. However, creativity flows when you let yourself go. Just start writing or painting. Don't begin by worrying about perfection. Once you've got it all down, you can then attempt to fine-tune your work the best you can. Remind yourself that growth comes from experimentation and that not everything you create will be a masterpiece. And that is fine.
Now that you have carefully analyzed your previous goals, identified the ones you want to go on with and drawn useful lessons, it's time to set creative goals for the new year. Effective goal setting is SMART: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound.
Here are some tips for developing actionable creative goals:
Start Small: Don't overwhelm yourself with unrealistic goals. Your analysis of the previous goals should give you an idea of your abilities. Begin with smaller, achievable objectives that fall within your abilities. Of course, your goals should push your boundaries and help you grow. However, it is important to start with smaller goals as it will build momentum and confidence.
Focus on Process: Instead of solely focusing on outcomes (e.g., publishing a book), set process-oriented goals (e.g., write 500 words a day). This will help you stay motivated and make steady progress.
Break Down Large Projects: If you're tackling a daunting project, break it down into smaller, manageable steps. This will make the process feel less overwhelming and help you stay on track.
Even with the best intentions, creative blocks will still arise. Here are some practical strategies to overcome these creative blocks:
Establish a Creative Routine: Schedule dedicated time for creative work in your daily or weekly routine. Treat this time with the same respect you would a work meeting or doctor's appointment.
Find Your Flow: Experiment with different creative routines to discover what works best for you. Some people thrive on structure, while others need more flexibility. This means you would have to carry out periodic analyses of your goals and plans. You don't need to wait till the end of the year to analyze your setbacks and make changes.
Embrace New Tools and Techniques: Learning a new skill or trying a different creative approach can spark fresh ideas and reignite your passion. Reading books like ‘Bird by Bird’ by Anne Lamott is a great tool for creative writers.
Seek Inspiration: Immerse yourself in art, music, literature, or nature. Step outside your comfort zone and explore new creative fields.
Build a Support Network: Connect with other creatives who understand your struggles. Join a writing group, an online community like Wingless Dreamer, or a local art community.
Maintaining motivation throughout the year can be challenging. Here are some tips to stay on track:
Find your purpose: Many times when you are discouraged and you can't find the will inside to keep trying, you need to remember that you were created intentionally and uniquely for a unique purpose. What this means is that God had something in mind while creating you. Something that would impact not just you but many. If you have figured out why He made you a creative, keep it in mind and keep shining that light only you can shine. If you haven't, you can sincerely speak to Him now and ask Him. This answer will keep you going.
Find an Accountability Partner: This is so important. Share your goals with a friend, family member, or fellow creative. The regular check-ins can help you stay motivated and accountable. They can also provide the external push you need to keep going.
Reward Yourself: Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small. Treat yourself to something special when you reach a milestone. This is a psychological strategy that helps you build positive habits and keep you motivated.
Take Breaks: Don't burn yourself out. This can block your creativity. Schedule regular breaks to rest and recharge.
Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself when you encounter setbacks. Everyone experiences creative slumps. Learn from your mistakes and move forward.
As we embark on a new year, remember that creative blocks are not failures, but growth opportunities. By reframing your challenges, setting actionable goals, and implementing practical strategies, you can transform 2025 into your most creative year yet.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Akpadolu Chioma is a writer who strives to use the power of words to heal, inspire and give value to her readers. When she is not lost in the world of writing, you can find her engrossed in mystery novels, enjoying a good movie, cherishing moments with family or deepening her Christian faith.
December 19, 2024
It’s Beginning To Look A Lot Like Christmas
Oh, Christmas! The mere mention of it makes me want to sip on a hot chocolate, with marshmallows floating like little clouds in a mug, as the scent of pine wafts through the air. You too? I mean, what’s not to love about this time of year? The world seems to sprinkle a little extra magic everywhere. From twinkling fairy lights to the cinnamon-dusted everything, the smell in the air, the colours around us, it all changes and begins to look a lot like Christmas! But ever wonder why we’re so smitten with Christmas? Let’s unwrap this (pun intended) together, shall we?
Christmas traditions are like old friends. You meet them every year, and it’s as heartwarming as ever. Think about it: decorating the tree. It’s not just hanging ornaments; it’s reliving memories. That star on top? Oh, it’s basically the crown jewel, isn’t it?
Don’t you just adore how a group of people, often strangers, huddles together to sing Silent Night under a starlit sky? If you're anything like me, the off-key ones make it all the more delightful. Then there’s the ritual of leaving cookies and milk out for Santa. Admit it, even as an adult, the idea of sneaking a bite out of those cookies feels so... rebellious.
But hey, traditions aren’t static. They evolve. Some of us now have Netflix marathons of Home Alone instead of traditional church visits, but the spirit? Oh, it’s alive and thriving.
Ah, folklore. The stories that give Christmas its sparkle. Did you know that before Santa became a Coca-Cola mascot, he was a mysterious figure named St. Nicholas? Picture this: a kind-hearted bishop from what’s now Turkey, sneaking around to drop coins into the stockings of the needy. Sounds like the original Robin Hood, right?
Then there’s Krampus, the not-so-jolly counterpart of Santa. Legend says he’d scare naughty kids into behaving. Like, imagine Santa’s “Ho Ho Ho” with a hint of run for your life! Europe, you’ve got some dark imagination, I tell you.
And how can we forget the Yule log? Nope, not the edible one (though those chocolate cakes are divine), but the one you burn. It’s a Nordic tradition that celebrates light, warmth, and hope. A metaphorical hug in the cold, if you will.
Let’s talk about the star of the show: Santa Claus. Here’s a question—do you remember the moment you found out Santa wasn’t real? Or is he? (Either way, who wouldn’t want thoughtful gifts on Christmas when they wake up)
Santa’s story is like a snowball. It’s grown bigger and brighter over centuries. From St. Nicholas, the generous bishop, to the Dutch Sinterklaas who arrived in New York, the man in red evolved. By the 1820s, Clement Clarke Moore penned ’Twas the Night Before Christmas, giving Santa his reindeer sleigh and chimney-diving abilities. Then Coca-Cola added a splash of red to his outfit in the 1930s, and voilà, we have the Santa we all know and love today.
But what makes Santa magical? It’s not just the gifts (although, let’s be real, they’re a big part of it). It’s the belief. The sheer joy of waking up to surprises under the tree. The letters were sent to the North Pole. The cookies were half-eaten by morning. It’s that childlike faith that even when the world gets chaotic, a jolly old man might just make it better.
Ultimately, Christmas isn’t just a holiday; it’s a feeling. It’s the nostalgia of childhood, the comfort of togetherness, and the hope for something magical. Even if it’s just a break from the mundane. It’s the only time of year when it’s socially acceptable to wear glittery sweaters with big bows on them, binge on fruitcake (okay, maybe not fruitcake), and believe that reindeer can fly. It’s that time of the year when we recall all the names of Santa’s reindeer. You know there’s Dasher, Dancer, Prancer, Vixen, Comet, Cupid, Donner, Blitzen. But do you recall the most famous of all? Dum-da-dum-dum-dum- Rudolph the red nose reindeer… Oh, what a lovely Carol!
So, dear reader, let’s embrace it all. Christmas is not just a festival. It is a culmination of famous folklore, magic, stories, cozy movies with families, gifts, quirky traditions, and the ever-charming Santa. Christmas, in all its glittery, cinnamon-scented glory, reminds us of one thing- the world is still full of magic if only we look for it.
Now, pass me the eggnog. Cheers!
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Esha is a literature student. All she does is jump from one story to another, taking leaps into the many worlds she has created for herself via books, movies, and art. Inspired by Wellington Wimpy, you can easily catch her eating a burger somewhere.
December 12, 2024
From Meh to Magnificent: A Way to Find Your Higher Self through Kundalini Yoga
Hello Wingless Dreamers,
I don’t know about you, but with 2024 waving its chaotic goodbye, I’m practically leaping into 2025. Why, you ask? Well, let’s just say I turned 2024 into my personal disaster movie—plot twists, bad decisions, and plenty of “oops” moments.
But here’s the thing: I’m ready to hit CTRL+ALT+DELETE on this year and crack open a brand-new chapter. What’s waiting for me in 2025? Who knows! It’s a mystery box, and I’m here for the suspense. Time to wipe the slate clean and dive into the unknown—because fresh starts are where the magic happens.
The good news? I’ve done the homework for you! Over the past couple of years, I’ve devoured books on motivation, spiritual science, and self-help—honestly, I practically had them for breakfast. Crazy? Maybe. But if you’re an avid reader like me, you get it—it’s a love affair only bookworms understand.
So, without further ado, let’s dive straight into an unusual, untraditional, and delightfully unconventional way to revive your higher self and harness it for your emotional and personal growth. Please don't misunderstand me, but this blog is not for feeble-hearted people. Only peak performers and those who already have crossed the line of mediocrity are most welcome. Let's create some world-class transformation. Dreamers, it’s time to shake things up! Ever experienced the magic of Kundalini Yoga or heard about the word "Kundalini Yoga"? No? Get ready to unlock the millionaire's treasure through this blog post.
Magic of a Kundalini Yoga Retreat
I am not going to waste your precious time by stating the same as how significant yoga is or over-explaining the cuteness of the goat or puppy yogas. Here, we are talking about the most omnipotent and probably one of the most dangerous yogas in the world, called "Kundalini Yoga". When Kundalini energy rises, it’s like flipping the switch on these chakras—bringing balance, clarity, and a serious glow-up for your spiritual wellness. If you unlock all the chakras, they say, you can touch, feel, or sense things that commoners can't see or feel. Imagine if you harness the power of deep emotional reasoning, then you can master any personal relationships in the world.
Did you know your body is basically a highway of energy centers? Meet your 7 chakras:
Root chakra (your grounding buddy)
Sacral chakra (hello, creativity!)
Solar plexus chakra (your inner powerhouse)
Heart chakra (all about love and compassion)
Throat chakra (speak your truth!)
Third eye chakra (intuition mode: ON)
Crown chakra (your gateway to the divine)
With regular Kundalini yoga practice, you might just hit the ultimate jackpot: a Kundalini awakening—spiritual enlightenment, anyone? Imagine becoming that one—the "all-knowing, unstoppable force" of your own life. Sounds incredible, right?
Picture this: unlocking your hidden potential, fulfilling every desire, and tapping into a version of yourself so powerful, the world fades into the background. Kundalini Awakening is indeed some hidden treasure for the world-class players.
But here’s the catch—I bet you’ve never truly seen this side of you. So, here’s the deal—based on my personal experience, I’m sharing a few precautions you absolutely must take, or else I might just land in hot water for spilling these beans.
And trust me, this is exactly why pundits, gurus, and Hindu preachers steer clear of talking about "Kundalini Yoga" stuff. They know one thing for sure: as humans, we’re wired to mess up, and one wrong move could leave you spinning and losing your mind. So tread carefully, Wingless Dreamers!
Alright, enough with the suspense! Let’s break it down with solid scientific facts, biological reasoning, and a psychological perspective. Kundalini Yoga makes you aware of your dormant energy. My team will kill me if I explain you through this example - but here goes nothing. Basically, imagine the sensation of being high and drunk—that’s the kind of energy I’m talking about. It’s intense, electric, and can make you feel like you’re floating on a cloud of pure vitality. I know, right?
UNLOCK DORMANT ENERGY
The word "Kundalini" from Kundalini Yoga itself means coil. So, basically, through mantras, yoga postures, meditation, and focus, you're activating the powerful Kundalini energy coiling at the base of your spine, pushing it upwards to awaken your fullest potential. It’s like turning on a hidden power switch within you!
BOOSTS MENTAL CLARITY
Ho! Ho! Ho! Christmas is coming early this year! I don't know about you, but I'd love to clear my mind and organize all those chaotic, creative thoughts in one place. Let’s face it, it can get crazy inside your head. But with the combination of breathwork, movement, and meditation, you can clear away the mental fog and sharpen your focus. You’ll find yourself, without even trying, ditching the endless scrolling on your phone or Netflix binges. Instead, you’ll enjoy wandering through nature’s trails or even the bustling concrete jungle. You’ll begin to appreciate your surroundings, finding beauty even in the most worn-out or neglected places.
Before you know it, you’ll stop rushing, slow down, and start admiring the shapes and colors around you.
Well, I’m at that stage of my chakra journey. Say goodbye to stress and hello to a zen state of mind!
RISE OF HIDDEN FEARS
It may sound alarming, but I've been there, and trust me, I wasn't ready either to deal with my past traumas. But guess what? The best thing about Kundalini Yoga is that you're not bound to be forced. Things will come to you eventually without any haste. You can mould the process as per your comfort.
As it awakens energy, it can stir up emotions that need healing. It may bring something up from your past or childhood. This process may bring up hidden fears, but it’s all part of the journey to emotional freedom.
Don’t fret! It’s not all thorns—there are plenty of roses too. Now, I can't speak for everyone who’s successfully unlocked their chakras, but for me, I’ve started to stumble upon some childhood memories that were locked deep in my subconscious. I even remember things from when I was 4 years old. You’re probably thinking, "What a hoax! Who remembers anything from when they were 3 or 4?" Well, I did! While professionals might be able to access those memories with the snap of their fingers, for amateurs like me, it comes in random bursts and in a totally uncontrollable way. So, think of Kundalini Yoga as this exciting journey, revealing layers of your past and your potential—one surprise after another!
SUPERHUMAN LIKE PHYSICAL VITALITY
Let’s be real: Kundalini Yoga won’t magically give you the power of a Kung Fu master or unlock secret martial arts moves for free. Sorry, no hidden superhero abilities here! But what it will do is unlock your inner energy and bring about a whole new level of mental and physical awareness. You would no longer have a tired mind or body. Your knee pain, joint pain, or any other physical discomfort is gone with the wind before even you realise that.
Kundalini Yoga aligns your body, mind, and spirit, creating a sense of wholeness and inner peace that radiates outward. I know, I know—you're probably hoping for a magical glow to start radiating from you. But that's simply not happening. No instant halos or glowing auras, my friend. However, what you will experience is a deeper connection with yourself and a shift in your energy that feels pretty darn close to it! People around you will definitely notice the positive aura that you, knowingly or unknowingly, will bring along with you.
Ultimately, Kundalini Yoga is about awakening to your true potential, breaking free from limitations, and embracing life with open arms.
Precautions to Take While Practicing Kundalini Yoga (On or Off the Mat):
So, before you go down that rabbit hole, take these precautions to stay grounded and keep the energy flowing in your favour. Always practice under the guidance of a professional or someone well-versed in its techniques—this energy is powerful, and trust me, you don’t want to awaken it the wrong way.
Since this yoga doesn't include a set of exercises focusing on good body postures but also, Kundalini Yoga requires adequate breathing, chanting mantras, performing kriyas, and learning mudras. For that, you need a guru—someone who’s a master of spiritual awakening, capable of snapping you out of those runaway thoughts when they veer off course. A true guide knows exactly how to steer you back to your centre when you’re lost in the mental wilderness.
Yes, you've got to take precautions both on and off the mat. Once you’ve unlocked and balanced your basic chakras—the first chakra—even before diving into the rest six chakras, you’ll start noticing big changes in your life. It’ll feel like the universe itself is conspiring in your favour, opening doors and bringing opportunities. Although the change is slow, in the beginning, your mind will feel light and carefree. You don't budge yourself anymore with the noise, pollution, or overall communal degradation. You don't become a modern monk overnight, so please don't act like one. It's embarrassing. Anyway, just be careful with the change, but don't be afraid of it.
With this ample amount of energy, you must learn to direct your astronomical focus on self-growth and communal growth.
I admit, flying high is fun, and I’m not here to stop you from being experimental. But here’s the thing—don’t lose sight of your true goal. Don’t waste endless hours at clubs or get lost in the technicolor laser lights. Deutilizing your energy is a curse in itself, because that’s when your procrastinator or sloth avatar makes a comeback. And all that hard-earned dormant energy you’ve awakened? It’ll slip right through your fingers if you’re not careful. Keep your focus and let your energy work for you, not against you!
Kundalini-Awakening is afraid of only one thing which is mediocrity.
Stop running errands on loose ends where things are not important to you.
In my case, I walked away from my hard-earned job to dive into running this publishing company. It’s been nothing short of enriching and full of life. This is something I would have never done as a brown Indian woman coming from a small town.
Whoops! Didn’t I mention it? There are always two sides to the coin, like yin and yang. Similarly, we got two sides of the Kundalini Awakening as well.
In the world of Kundalini Yoga, you're awakening your energy—now it’s up to you to choose which side to listen to! And here’s the twist, The old Cherokee said it best: "The one that you feed." In life, you get to choose which wolf to nourish. Will it be the one of joy, peace, love, and all things good? Or will you feed the grumpy, negative one? The choice is all yours!
Kundalini Yoga's catch: if your mindset veers toward negativity or pessimism, you might feel like the whole world is working against you but when veers toward positivity, the world is all yours.
Everything around us vibrates, which means the energy we emit and receive—whether good or bad—affects how our spirit reacts and makes decisions. It’s like tuning into a frequency; what you send out is what you attract! As a mediator or say, a high-yielding possibilitarian - you must surround yourself with the essentials. The less you get caught up in trivial activities, the quicker you’ll breeze through to your goals. Embrace minimalism—it’s all about focusing on what truly matters.
So, grab your mat, channel your inner energy, and let Kundalini Yoga work its magic! It’s like a spiritual espresso shot that elevates your mood, awakens your enlightened self, and unleashes your dominant power—because who doesn’t want to feel like a cosmic superhero in charge of their own vibe?
On that note, I will bid you farewell. See you in the next blog post, next Thursday.
ABOUT THIS BLOGGER
RUCHI ACHARYA
Ruchi Acharya, hailing from the vibrant city of Mumbai, India, is a visionary in the literary world. As the founder and driving force behind Wingless Dreamer, a dynamic publishing company, she is dedicated to nurturing and promoting fresh, creative voices. With a deep passion for storytelling and a commitment to quality literature, Ruchi has established Wingless Dreamer as a haven for writers and readers alike. Her work continues to inspire and shape the literary landscape, one dream at a time.
Website: https://www.ruchiacharya.com/publications
December 4, 2024
The Best Books to Gift Someone Coping with Loss: Comfort Through Words
When someone we care about is coping with loss, it’s often difficult to know exactly how to offer help. Grief is a deeply personal experience, and it can feel like no words are quite enough to ease the pain. In moments like these, providing support that respects the grieving process while offering comfort is essential. One unexpected yet powerful way to do this is through books.
The best books to gift someone with grief don’t merely fill silence—they offer companionship. They create a safe space for individuals to feel understood, help them make sense of their emotions, and inspire hope when they are ready to move forward. Grief affects us in many ways—emotionally, physically, and psychologically. While healing is neither quick nor linear, finding solace in the pages of a well-chosen book can offer moments of relief in an otherwise tumultuous time.
Research shows that grief is a multifaceted response to loss that impacts both our mental and physical health. Psychologists note that while there is no “right” way to grieve, finding ways to process emotions, whether through conversation, art, or reading, can help someone work through the pain. For those in mourning, literature has the unique power to speak to the heart, helping people understand and reflect on their emotions in a way that feels both intimate and liberating.
If you’re searching for a meaningful way to offer comfort to someone coping with loss, consider gifting them one of these books. They provide emotional support, validation, and guidance on navigating grief with gentle empathy and hope. Here are five deeply moving and relatable books that can help someone cope with loss through the power of words.
Joan Didion’s The Year of Magical Thinking is a powerful and moving account of grief. In this memoir, Didion recounts the sudden death of her husband, John Gregory Dunne, and the illness of their daughter, Quintana Roo. Through her sharp, introspective writing, Didion captures the disorienting and often irrational thoughts that accompany profound loss.
Psychologists often describe grief as a psychological process that can distort reality. This “magical thinking,” as Didion poignantly names it, is a common response to loss. It’s the sense of disbelief that the loss could be real, or the irrational hope that somehow it might be reversed. This type of thinking is an essential part of the grieving process, and Didion’s narrative portrays it with painful clarity.
For anyone feeling overwhelmed or unable to make sense of the contradictions in their grief, The Year of Magical Thinking offers an empathetic reflection of this emotional turbulence. By gifting this book, you’re not just offering a story; you’re offering validation and comfort for someone who may be questioning their feelings during such a difficult time.
Option B by Sheryl Sandberg and psychologist Adam Grant is a remarkable blend of memoir and science-backed advice on resilience. After the sudden death of her husband, Dave Goldberg, Sandberg teamed up with Grant to explore how people can cope with adversity and build emotional resilience in the face of tragedy.
This book offers a unique perspective on grief, presenting it as not just an emotional experience, but also an opportunity for personal growth. Option B combines scientific research and personal insights, helping readers build resilience so they can not only survive loss but find ways to thrive in its aftermath. Sandberg’s insights into emotional support, reframing negative experiences, and finding meaning are invaluable for anyone struggling to move forward after a loss.
Option B is one of the best books to gift to someone coping with grief since it provides both practical tools and emotional encouragement. Though grounded in research, it is deeply personal, making it both relatable and empowering for anyone in mourning.
3. The Bright Hour: A Memoir of Living and Dying by Nina Riggs: A Beautiful Meditation on Life and Death
Nina Riggs’ The Bright Hour is an extraordinarily beautiful reflection on life and death. Diagnosed with terminal breast cancer, Riggs writes about facing her mortality while savoring every moment of life. She explores the inevitability of death, the impact on her family, and the search for meaning in the face of such devastating news.
What makes The Bright Hour particularly poignant is Riggs' ability to discuss death without diminishing the beauty of life. The book acts as a meditation on the preciousness of each moment, even as she faces the inevitable. For those coping with a terminal diagnosis or the loss of a loved one, Riggs’ writing is both sobering and uplifting, reminding us that life, though fleeting, is filled with moments of grace.
Her ability to blend humor with deep philosophical insights makes this one of the best books to gift someone grieving. It’s a testament to finding joy and meaning in life, even when death is imminent. Her words inspire readers to embrace the light that still exists, even in the shadow of loss.
When Breath Becomes Air by Paul Kalanithi: A Neurosurgeon’s Final Reflection on Life and Death
When Breath Becomes Air by Dr. Paul Kalanithi is a poignant memoir that combines the author’s journey as a neurosurgeon with his reflections on mortality after being diagnosed with stage IV cancer. Kalanithi’s account blends medical expertise with profound insights into the intersection of life, death, and meaning.
Psychologists argue that confronting death often leads to deep self-reflection and a reevaluation of life’s priorities. Kalanithi’s memoir embodies this transformation, urging readers to reflect on their own lives, careers, and legacies. When Breath Becomes Air is more than just a book about dying; it’s a book about how to live fully in the face of adversity.
This book is one of the best books to gift someone coping with loss, as it speaks to the fragility of life while inspiring readers to live with purpose. It offers both comfort and clarity, making it an invaluable resource for those navigating grief.
5. A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis: A Raw and Honest Exploration of Grief
C.S. Lewis’s A Grief Observed is one of the most raw and poignant books about the emotional toll of losing a loved one. Written after the death of his wife, Joy Davidman, this book delves into Lewis’s personal experience with grief, confronting feelings of doubt, anger, and despair.
Lewis’s writing captures the emotional chaos that comes with profound loss. He reflects on the questioning of not just emotions but beliefs and worldviews, offering a powerful exploration of grief. For anyone who feels lost or overwhelmed by their grief, A Grief Observed offers a raw, honest, and relatable portrayal of mourning.
This book is one of the best books to gift because it speaks directly to the heart. It validates the messy, contradictory feelings of grief and offers comfort to those navigating the painful journey of loss.
Final Thoughts on Grief and Healing
Loss is a part of life, but the journey through grief doesn’t have to be faced alone. The best books to gift someone coping with loss provide more than just stories—they offer a safe space for reflection, emotional healing, and sometimes even a glimmer of hope. Whether through the raw honesty of Joan Didion’s memoir, the resilience-building strategies in Option B, or the life-affirming reflections in When Breath Becomes Air, these books help people process their grief, find solace, and remember that healing is possible.
When someone is grieving, it can be difficult to know what to say or do. But a thoughtful book can provide comfort, understanding, and an opportunity for the person to process their emotions at their own pace. If you’re looking for a meaningful way to support someone through their grief, consider gifting one of these best books—they may offer the solace and guidance needed to begin healing.
ABOUT THE BLOGGER
Shreya Mishra
Meet Shreya Mishra, she is a blend of passion and purpose, seamlessly weaving the worlds of medicine and content creation. Her love for music and dance infuses rhythm into her life, while her compassionate spirit guides her journey toward healing and expression. Every step she takes resonates with curiosity and creativity, inspiring those around her with her warmth and determination. She is also the host of Wingless Dreamer Podcast.
November 27, 2024
6 Tips to Learn the Art of Genre Bending
As the name suggests, the term genre bending suggests tweaking the genres as per your liking. Let’s think of genres as separate bubbles co-existing in a shared space. There is romance, comedy, horror, drama and so on. A writer has to choose one of the bubbles and their next piece goes inside one of them. For instance, I choose to write a story with comic relief, then my story would go inside the big comedy bubble.
Genres traditionally set the tone or the mood of the piece one works on.
Genre bending comes into play when the writers merge two or more genre bubbles. Writers attempt to mix traditional genres and make something fresh and innovative.
This offers a lot of benefits to writers and readers. The scope to transcend from one genre to another increases. The writer can jump from one mood to another in their work making it refreshing and unexpected. The fusion of genre invites innovation and creativity. To put it plainly, there are more elements for the writer to play with!
As much as it sounds appealing, it can be challenging as well. Wilbur Greene puts it aptly in his article that to jump from one genre to another and mix them, one must have a good understanding of what genres are- their limitations and how they work. One has to have an in-depth knowledge of their complex structures to blend them seamlessly. Otherwise, the writer’s work can become a big bowl of everything with no taste in it. It may also make the reader distant as they can’t understand or enjoy all parts of the work.
Genre-bending is the tricky business of serving dishes with a wide variety of tastes in front of the reader. They are bound to enjoy one of the many dishes but they may end up disliking most of it. So, the chef has to be on the toes and understand not just how genre-bending works but also the target audience.
Let’s break it down with these steps.
To mix different genres, you must know the nitty-gritty of them. So, start with a genre you’re comfortable with. Start with something you have read and written various times before. This will help you set the base for your work and boost your confidence.
Be it comedy or horror- both must get the timing right to create a large impact. Similarly, in drama and romance, there is always a plot twist in the third act. This is what you have to figure out and work on. Finding the common point for the two genres you want to blend will serve as a connecting bridge for you.
When you set afoot on the connecting bridge, you are entering unchartered territory of another genre. Here, make sure that you do justice to the second genre of your choice. Play with its elements and elongate your stay there. The more you switch from one genre to another, the better it will sound as long as their impacts and importance in the plot of the story are balanced.
As you try something new, your readers can find something different and it is all the more possible that they don’t welcome the change. In such a case, try to just keep your readers engaged. It should impose that you are comfortable in genre-bending as you mix two or more genres. Don’t stray far from what you have always been doing, but give it a fresh look.
As you try your hand at genre-bending, you are bound to find yourself lost at various points. As you struggle and find your way around, make sure to remember where you faced difficulties. It will help you deal with them the next time you encounter them. Embrace your mistakes, and keep trying new ways to incorporate different genres until you are satisfied with what you have written.
Last but not least, send your first draft to a few readers. It may be your family, friends or a small reading group. Ensure that there are people who enjoy either of the genres and there are people who do not like any of the genres you have inculcated. It will check how much your story can engage the readers from all interests. You can also get feedback from literary communities that would proofread your work. Incorporate the feedback to make your work better.
Genre-bending is difficult, yes. But it is worth taking the risk. After all, some of the best plots include genre-bending. Be it Margaret Atwood’s “The Handmaid’s Tale” or Shelley’s “Frankenstein” or R. R. Martin’s “Song of Ice and Fire”. All three of them gave us the best of all the genres- squeezing the juiciest elements of all of them and incorporating them in their work cleverly.
It might not happen the first time but it will eventually happen. You have to just keep trying and you’ll find your way.
Esha Shukla
Esha is a literature student. All she does is jump from one story to another, taking leaps into the many worlds she has created for herself via books, movies and art. Inspired by Wellington Wimpy, you can easily catch her eating a burger somewhere.
November 20, 2024
10 Must-Read Books Handpicked by Wingless Dreamer, 2024
Before we begin listing out the must-read books in 2024, I must confess that I am a serious reader. I carefully choose my books after thorough research, which usually involves asking my friends or consulting my "Book reading list" notes. This approach is much better than going all out at the bookshop and buying books in bulk, only to see them gather dust. Let me start by being completely honest about what I am currently reading.
Yes, it's classic literature. Go ahead, boo me! But this poetry book titled 'Anthem for Doomed Youth' by Wilfred Owen is just what my soul is craving, especially since I've been procrastinating and feeling lazy, often succumbing to depression. Don't judge me; we've all been there. It's natural. So I really needed to read this poem more than Wilfred Owen needed to write it.
With so much happening in the world, from drastic climate change to political elections in many countries, I'm here to try and take your mind off your day-to-day problems and provide a mental boost by recommending a few poetry books from our Wingless Dreamer Collection.
As you probably know, we work around the clock to bring the highest quality literature to the world. The judging criteria are rigorous, and constructive feedback can be harsh, but it all serves the purpose of keeping poetry alive. Any gibberish published out there is not considered poetry; it needs vision, imagery, and perfect poetic devices.
Anyway, without further ado, let's dive into the top 10 book recommendations this year from the Wingless Dreamer Publisher's collection. These have been highly successful, and how do we define success? Certainly by a deep sense of personal satisfaction, positive reader reviews, and Amazon book rankings.
If you're looking for a scintilla of gloominess sprinkled with emotions expressed in the most poetic manner possible, then I would suggest going with our book titled, Hearts in Orbit.
The book "Hearts in Orbit," published is a pylon of poetic expressions exuded by both emerging and profound writers from around the world.
As you twirl the pages of this book, you will unfold a plethora of sentiments, whether embedded in-depth gloominess or highly saturated happiness, creatively expressed in verses.
Hop onto the journey of reading this exquisite book, especially crafted for English laureates and literary lovers. Together, let's celebrate the art of poetry. Enjoy reading!
After the grand success of Summer Fireflies last year, we received numerous requests from our aspiring writers to conduct a similar writing contest this year. And just like a good publisher, we couldn't say no to our beloved fans. This writing contest was all about bringing the true essence of summer poetry and wilderness to our readers.
As you delve deeper into the pages of Summer Fireflies, you'll find yourself transported to idyllic settings where laughter echoes through sun-dappled meadows and secrets are whispered under the stars.
Each author paints a vivid picture, inviting you to join their characters on self-discovery, love, and friendship journeys. From the innocence of childhood adventures to the complexities of adult relationships, these stories capture the essence of summer in all its beauty and warmth.
So, whether you're seeking a moment of escapism or simply craving the comfort of familiar emotions, let Summer Fireflies guide you on a literary journey that will leave you feeling refreshed and inspired.
With its gentle prose and captivating storytelling, this anthology is more than just a book—it's a cherished keepsake to be treasured for summers to come. Embrace the magic, embrace the memories, and let Summer Fireflies illuminate your soul. You can get your copy from Amazon.
Oh! This one is my personal favorite, maybe because I am more inclined towards the romance genre. You should check it out if you get easily carried away with soul-cuddling and mind-kissed poetic lines. You will be awestruck reading every poem present in this anthology as our editors carefully handpicked them, making them truly swoon-worthy.
Thus great with child to speak and helpless in my throes,
Biting my truant pen, beating myself for spite,
"Fool," said my Muse to me, "look in thy heart, and write."
by Sir Phillip Sidney, “Astrophel and Stella”
As Sir Phillip Sidney put has so aptly put, talking about love can seem to be the most difficult thing ever. Often, it is poetry that is best at expressing the matters of the heart. Love Chronicles features poems about love, dreams, and their effects on the heart. If you want to immerse yourself in the myriad shades of love, this Wingless Dreamer anthology is a perfect read! Trust me on this.
In all honesty, I am a big fan of dark poetry because there are more than 50 different shades of darkness. "Into the Gloom" is a fervent anthology for English laureates who love to explore the dimensions of dark poetry.
Walk your mind through the garden of poets who delve into the gloominess to yield mastery in creating art through their spine-chilling, nerve-wracking, and goosebumps-inducing verses.
This poetry book navigates life's complexities through haunting verses and evocative imagery. Together, let's dive into the coldness and blueness of introspection shown by these dark poets. With profound insights and lyrical prose, "Into the Gloom" invites readers to confront their innermost fears and discover the light within the darkness. I bet, you couldn't agree more with me once you finish reading this poetry book, simply because, once you read this book, it will change your perspective towards dark poetry. Unlike other dark poems, in this book, we have compiled poems that can touch your soul and evoke the sensation of love for the darkness. Be the judge by yourself and check it out.
Another most prized possession book from the Wingless Dreamer Publisher's bookshelf. I am so proud to present our anthology, "Therapeutic Power of Nature," a serene collection of poems and short stories centred around the theme of nature.
What sets it apart from other nature poetry books is that these poems have healing properties, similar to the feelings we get from simply taking a walk on the lush green grass amidst our busy schedules. I'm not kidding when I say I've read this book at least three times because it calms me down. I often get irritated with what life throws at me, so I keep this therapeutic book handy.
Esteemed psychologists widely regard nature as the ultimate form of therapy, capable of calming the mind and soothing the soul. Whether it's taking a leisurely stroll in the park, embarking on wilderness hikes, or simply sitting by a tranquil lakeside, the healing power of nature is undeniable.
With this anthology, we aim to raise awareness about mental health, foster a love for English literature, and celebrate the art of poetry while showcasing captivating artworks. Immerse yourself in the rhythmic poetry and unwind as you embark on a literary journey through the lush landscapes of our anthology. Sit back, relax, and enjoy your summer of 2024 with our collection. This book is now exclusively available on Amazon.
"Breathing Poetry," an anthology by Wingless Dreamer Publisher, where the power of words takes center stage, Within these pages, you will encounter the remarkable works of mind-blowing wordsmiths whose poetry transcends the ordinary and touches the depths of the soul.
As you turn the pages of "Breathing Poetry," you will find yourself transported across time and space, engulfed in the beauty and complexity of the human experience. You will witness moments of joy and sorrow, triumph and defeat, woven together with threads of raw emotion and unbridled passion.
Yes, in this book, we have decided to compile all the significant emotional traits. Whether you seek solace in the quiet corners of solitude or yearn for adventure amidst the chaos of life, "Breathing Poetry" is a companion like no other. It is a sanctuary for the weary soul, a refuge for the restless mind, and a reminder that, amidst the hustle and bustle of everyday life, there is beauty to be found in the simplest of words.
So, dear reader, if you crave a moment of respite, a chance to lose yourself in the rhythm of verse, then look no further. "Breathing Poetry" awaits, ready to whisk you away on a journey of discovery and delight. Sit back, relax, and let the words carry you to places unknown.
This is one of our recent books and I am not joking but we have received reviews beyond our expectations. Readers loved it and I must say the book turns out to be phenomenal as well.
Dive into the rich tapestry of human experience with "Threads of Time," a captivating anthology curated by Wingless Dreamer Publisher. Within these pages lies an exquisite collection of prose and poetry, each piece meticulously crafted to evoke a spectrum of emotions. As the entrusted custodian of this literary masterpiece, Wingless Dreamer is deeply honored to present to you a compilation that transcends time itself. From the depths of sorrow to the heights of joy, each word within "Threads of Time" has been carefully selected and woven into the fabric of this anthology, inviting readers to immerse themselves in its profound depths.
Are you a fan of winter just like us? Do you feel the darkness creeping in as the leaves wither and fall? Or do you eagerly wait for the first snowflake to hit your hand? Either way, this anthology will have something for you!
It's a shame how people have portrayed Winter as a sick season. No, there's beauty in that too. Without the winter season, there will be no imperative emotions attached to spring, fall, rain or summer. Personally, I consider the season of winter to be the mother of all.
It’s Crystal Clear! Contains poems from various poets describing the joy of winter, and also the darkness that accompanies it. Check it out.
One of our most prized possessions, Hey there, Delilah!
Get yourself drowned in the meanings hidden behind these poetic verses beautifully endorsed in this book. Don't get carried away by the profound love and sentimental poems shown by aspiring poets from all around the world.
This Anthology offers a refreshing oasis in the desert of life's struggles. Within its pages, readers embark on a journey filled with vibrant imagery and emotional depth, ranging from heartwarming tales to soul-stirring experiences.
Each poet weaves a spellbinding narrative, captivating the mind and touching the heart. As you journey through this anthology, every piece leaves an indelible mark, compelling you to revisit its pages time and again, finding solace and inspiration within its words. Don't miss out on this immersive and unforgettable read that promises to resonate with you long after you've turned the final page.
The web of poetry extends even further as we introduce our open-themed anthology book ‘Cradle Of Balladry’. The infinite stream of poetry continues to flow as we bind a multitude of genres such as Love, Anger, Compassion, War, and Historical poetry; within two cerulean covers. Explore the depths of poetry with us without any barriers or restrictions as poets from all over the world come together to bring you a few of their best works. Enjoy your journey.
I hope this blog post proves useful for avid readers seeking direction. A reader must always remain hopeful in their quest to find the right book with time. If you haven't found one yet, perhaps the universe is signalling for you to write your own. How does that idea sound to you? As the founder of Wingless Dreamer Publisher, I truly appreciate the tranquillity one can gain from reading and writing in this chaotic world. All you need is the right book, a sip of warm hot chocolate at your favourite coffee shop, and some noise-cancelling AirPods or the melodious sound of rain playing in the background. Life's good if you know how to make it. I insist on reading these amazing books, not just because they are from our printing press, but because they are genuinely thought-provoking and captivating, as mentioned above. Happy reading!
ABOUT THE BLOGGER
Ruchi Acharya, hailing from India, is a distinguished English Laureate. Over the past two years, she has gained immense recognition for her remarkable publications, with her works appearing in more than 100 renowned platforms. Ruchi's true passion lies in supporting fellow writers and artists, evident through her establishment of Wingless Dreamer Publisher, a company dedicated to empowering and promoting creative individuals.
With a profound interest in Poetry, Ruchi delves deep into the intricacies of these literary realms. Among her cherished literary treasures, works by Jane Austen holds a special place in her heart.
Ruchi Acharya has become a prominent figure in the literary world, having made appearances in numerous interviews spanning the globe. During these engagements, she passionately advocates for the appreciation of poetry, emphasizing that human emotions are at the core of our existence. She urges others not to take this profound aspect of life for granted.
November 13, 2024
Brain's Default Doomswitch: Why Negativity Takes Over and How to Deal with It
I'm back again to pour out my digital ink on the Wingless Dreamer Blog and offer a new insight, discovery, or gentle reminder about the Negative Nancy Brain. Have you ever wondered what's behind negative thoughts? You're doing everything in your power to feel more positive, but negativity still creeps back in. The question remains: why?
Let me answer that by asking another question: What do you see in the image above? Is the water jug half-filled or half-empty? (Don't grin - I know you're familiar with this experiment, but let me share a lesson with Generations Z and Alpha. Sit tight!)
There's no right or wrong answer. If you see the jug as half-empty, it typically signifies a negative perspective, focusing on the pessimistic aspect and emphasizing what's lacking. However, if you're an optimistic person, you'll cherish what's partially filled and view it as an optimistic outlook, celebrating the half-capacity that remains. After all, something is better than nothing.
These four groups of questions will help you answer the question of why negativity and guide you through the ways to deal with it better.
What makes you think this situation will turn out badly?
Is there an experience influencing your negative expectations?
How does expecting the worst outcome affect your mental well-being?
Do you feel like you're prepared for every possible outcome?
Are there any alternative, more positive outcomes you've considered?
Is there another way to look at this situation?
Are you assuming the worst without evidence?
Is this thought based on facts or fears?
Would you say this thought is helpful or harmful?
Can you reframe this negative thought into a more balanced one?
What's the root of your fear about this situation?
Are you afraid of losing control or making a mistake?
Is there a specific outcome you're trying to avoid?
How would you cope if the worst outcome happened?
Are there any irrational fears driving your expectations?
Encouraging Positive Perspectives:
What would you do if the best possible outcome happened?
Can you think of any positive aspects of this situation?
How might this experience help you grow or learn?
Are there any successes or strengths you can draw upon?
What would you say to a friend in a similar situation?
So, say bye-bye to the process of anticipating the worst possible outcome. Try to understand the psychological interpretation of it.
We often simplify someone's overall attitude towards life as either optimistic or pessimistic. However, there's more to it.
Our brain is wired to constantly scan for threats, thanks to our primordial ancestors who core-integrated this survival mechanism.
Although essential in prehistoric times, this instinct is largely unnecessary in the 21st century. Unlike our ancestors, who loomed large physical danger from wild animals, we no longer have to worry about being chased.
Your brain often thinks, "Better safe than sorry!" It's like having a built-in alarm system that sounds at the slightest hint of danger. However, sometimes these perceived dangers turn out to be golden opportunities knocking on your door.
For instance, imagine your manager asking you to give an impromptu presentation at a world conference attended by CEOs and founders of major companies – a rare gathering of influential leaders. Your heart will start racing, and before you know it, you'll be overcome with nervousness. So why this negativity and how do you deal with it? Your brain caught the delusional whiff of danger. To deal with this critical moment, you must overcome your mind and body's instincts and tap into your resilience to deliver a world-class performance.
Your brain stores past hurts and disappointments like old files in a dusty attic. Sometimes, it rummages through them, replaying negative thoughts in the loop. It's a vicious, unanticipated, and unstoppable cycle. But the good news is - it's controllable. We can always harness the psychological skillset to either hon the skill in diverting our mind or learn how to distract ourself. Eventually, by doing so, in no time we will be able to tackle the ghosts from the past. Time to trade in the ghosts for goals! No more haunting, it's hunting season now!
'Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is a gift of God, which is why we call it the present.' -Bill Keane
As we are discussing this subject, I unknowingly feel a slight irritation. Before I knew my stomach started growling and yes, I was hungry! So, see sometimes, it has nothing to do with your mind but your body. Many biological factors can be responsible for the brain's grumpy mode such as the lack of sleep, a restless environment, a hungry body, etc. Tired brains tend to focus on the negative. Think of it as your brain's "hangry" mode! This subtle 'why' of negativity, though easily ignored, can be dealt with by taking care of your body.
I know it's hard to help, and no one truly understands us. Don't worry, we're in this together. As humans, we strive for perfection. Even small imperfections, like a pen out of its holder or Lego pieces scattered across the floor, can make us uncomfortable. EEEEESSSHHH! Our brains are wired to recognize patterns, which fuels our desire for perfection. But when reality falls short, disappointment and negativity creep in, leading us to say hurtful things to loved ones, only to regret them later.
To manage this, find your own sanctuary or haven where you can retreat when feeling overwhelmed or irritable. Whenever you sense your frustration building or messiness causing discomfort, take time out in your safe space until the feeling passes. Remind yourself that the world doesn't orbit around your expectations. Embrace the diversity of human experiences and accept that things won't always go as planned. Instead of focusing on what's lacking, shift your gaze to the brighter side. After all, the jar is half-filled – and that's something to be grateful for.
Every day, we're exposed to negativity - knowingly or unknowingly - through people, media, or our surroundings. What we often overlook is that our brain absorbs it like a sponge. Negativity isn't limited to extreme evils; even mediocrity and ill-mannered behaviours count. Our thoughts are shaped by the data we feed our minds and bodies.
Consider this: a toddler watching violent cartoons may mimic that behaviour, smashing windows or screens with a toy bat. This illustrates a profound truth: what we see is what we do. Our surroundings shape our actions, and our brain internalizes the messages we expose it to. This is one of the reasons why we battle with negativity but we can deal with it by prioritizing self-care. Make time to incorporate activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul like:
Melodious music or soothing sounds
Massage therapy or meditation
Nature walks or outdoor escapes
These simple habits can help calm your mind, reduce stress, and increase overall well-being.
In the end, I would say that it's okay if you have a negative mindset. The Good News? You can rewire your brain to think more positively! All the best.
by Morgana Faye
something, deep within blood-red chambers, dwells
festering, withering mass of ill will and hysteria
mayhem of death and destruction of reason
It claws at the ivory cage keeping the creature at bay
anxious to lash ribbons of red against walls
wordless shrieks rattle against bony bars
hope It breathes, despair It exhales
drown the soul in a whirlpool of calamity
even so, It remains out of sight, out of mind
confined to a space inhospitable to all but one
that part of us that should never see the light of day
yet never one to let anyone forget
below wispy red strings and translucent streams
ghastly thrills chill warm blood
It creeps between spaces where life and death intersect
give way to a man’s last stand or end
once It takes hold, It will not let go
not until you take your last breath
all the while the shadows flicker and flay
for something, deep within blood-red chambers, dwells
Black screens aren’t something terrifying
And yet…
In this brief moment
I come face-to-face with this blankness
With the same vague reflection, the same shadows
Call of the void, so they say
To lose oneself within the infinity of everything and nothing
An all-encompassing black hole emptiness
Drawing you into a place beyond comprehension
Flesh and bones and skin and blood tether my soul
Yet, I feel some part of me drift away
Knowing this moment will pass and with it
This blank screen will save in its memories a stranger
One that takes on my face
Living different lives
Living different lies
Fear takes whatever shapes the mind forms.
There’s only so much the eyes can see, what the mind knows and understands. Even then, fear manifests the worst you believe something to be. Irrational it may be, it exists from things some part of you recognize as dangerous. After all, the human species didn’t come this far ignoring warning signs. Dangers exist both in plain sight and out of sight, out of mind. No matter what, fear is a core primal instinct that exists to protect us. I know that.
There’s just one problem, however.
Why does that creature look like me?
What do you fear more?
The things that bump in the night?
Or the possibility of their existence?
Does it scare you more to know they’re real?
Would you prefer they’re mere figments of your imagination?
Is it because feeling helpless bothers you that much?
Knowing you can’t win against shadows?
That your screams will die in the air?
That only bits and pieces could be what’s left of you?
But pray, tell me, who are the real monsters?
Where did they come from?
How did they come to be?
Why have we as a society come to recognize their names?
What does it take to break a person beyond help?
Doesn’t it bother you how comfortable we’ve become?
To share the same space as the very things we claim to loathe?
But that’s not why you worry, is it?
Tell me, do you really fear them?
Or do you fear becoming them?
How long will it take to break you?
RUCHI ACHARYA
Ruchi Acharya is a multi-talented author hailing from India who has a passion for writing poems on nature, war, and love. Despite having a strong background in Electrical and Electronics engineering, English Literature, and Business Analytics, Ruchi pursued her creative side and found her love for writing. Currently studying Shakespearean Literature, Ruchi has always had a deep appreciation for the literary arts.
Ruchi is the owner of Wingless Dreamer, an international publishing company that focuses on helping writers and artists find their footing in the industry. Her work with Wingless Dreamer reflects her dedication to the betterment of the writing and art communities.
In her spare time, Ruchi volunteers for social services and enjoys spending time outdoors, finding inspiration for her poetry in the natural world. With her many talents and interests, Ruchi continues to be a rising star in the literary world, with many eagerly anticipating her next work.
MORGANA FAYE
Morgana Faye is a short story writer and poet. From thoughts to words, she weaves into a cohesive body of work. Writing allows Morgana time to slow down, collect her thoughts, and present them on paper. To catch those words before they slip from her grasp, forever lost during translation. Though recent, her blossoming interest in the publishing industry marks a pivotal change. Fall 2019 saw her poem “Closer” published in King’s River Review. However, it was not until 2024 that she would consider publishing a viable career path. Even so, Morgana seeks to showcase her skills to the world.
Brain's Default Doomswitch: Why Negativity Takes Over
I'm back again to pour out my digital ink on the Wingless Dreamer Blog and offer a new insight, discovery, or gentle reminder about the Negative Nancy Brain. Have you ever wondered what's behind pessimistic thoughts? You're doing everything in your power to stay positive, but negativity still creeps back in. The question remains: why?
Let me answer that by asking another question: What do you see in the image above? Is the water jug half-filled or half-empty? (Don't grin - I know you're familiar with this experiment, but let me share a lesson with Generations Z and Alpha. Sit tight!)
There's no right or wrong answer. If you see the jug as half-empty, it typically signifies a negative perspective, focusing on the pessimistic aspect and emphasizing what's lacking. However, if you're an optimistic person, you'll cherish what's partially filled and view it as an optimistic outlook, celebrating the half-capacity that remains. After all, something is better than nothing.
Reflective Questions:
What makes you think this situation will turn out badly?
Is there a past experience influencing your negative expectations?
How does expecting the worst outcome affect your mental well-being?
Do you feel like you're prepared for every possible outcome?
Are there any alternative, more positive outcomes you've considered?
Is there another way to look at this situation?
Are you assuming the worst without evidence?
Is this thought based on facts or fears?
Would you say this thought is helpful or harmful?
Can you reframe this negative thought into a more balanced one?
What's the root of your fear about this situation?
Are you afraid of losing control or making a mistake?
Is there a specific outcome you're trying to avoid?
How would you cope if the worst outcome happened?
Are there any irrational fears driving your expectations?
Encouraging Positive Perspectives:
What would you do if the best possible outcome happened?
Can you think of any positive aspects of this situation?
How might this experience help you grow or learn?
Are there any successes or strengths you can draw upon?
What would you say to a friend in a similar situation?
So, say bye-bye to the process of anticipating the worst possible outcome. Try to understand the psychological interpretation of it.
We often simplify someone's overall attitude towards life as either optimistic or pessimistic. However, there's more to it.
Although essential in prehistoric times, this instinct is largely unnecessary in the 21st century. Unlike our ancestors, who loomed large physical danger from wild animals, we no longer have to worry about being chased.
Your brain often thinks, "Better safe than sorry!" It's like having a built-in alarm system that sounds at the slightest hint of danger. However, sometimes these perceived dangers turn out to be golden opportunities knocking on your door.
For instance, imagine your manager asking you to give an impromptu presentation at a world conference attended by CEOs and founders of major companies – a rare gathering of influential leaders. Your heart will start racing, and before you know it, you'll be overcome with nervousness. Why? This is the critical moment when you must overcome your mind and body's instincts and tap into your resilience to deliver a world-class performance.
Your brain stores past hurts and disappointments like old files in a dusty attic. Sometimes, it rummages through them, replaying negative thoughts in the loop. It's a vicious, unanticipated, and unstoppable cycle. But the good news is - it's controllable. We can always harness the psychological skillset to either hon the skill in diverting our mind or learn how to distract ourself. Eventually, by doing so, in no time we will be able to tackle the ghosts from the past. Time to trade in the ghosts for goals! No more haunting, it's hunting season now!
As we are discussing this subject, I unknowingly feel a slight irritation. Before I knew my stomach started growling and yes, I was hungry! So, see sometimes, it has nothing to do with your mind but your body. There can be many biological factors that are responsible for the brain's grumpy mode such as due to the lack of sleep, a restless environment, a hungry body etc. Tired brains tend to focus on the negative. Think of it as your brain's "hangry" mode!
I know it's hard to help, and no one truly understands us. Don't worry, we're in this together. As humans, we strive for perfection. Even small imperfections, like a pen out of its holder or Lego pieces scattered across the floor, can make us uncomfortable. EEEEESSSHHH! Our brains are wired to recognize patterns, which fuels our desire for perfection. But when reality falls short, disappointment and negativity creep in, leading us to say hurtful things to loved ones, only to regret them later.
To manage this, find your own sanctuary or haven where you can retreat when feeling overwhelmed or irritable. Whenever you sense your frustration building or messiness causing discomfort, take time out in your safe space until the feeling passes. Remind yourself that the world doesn't orbit around your expectations. Embrace the diversity of human experiences and accept that things won't always go as planned. Instead of focusing on what's lacking, shift your gaze to the brighter side. After all, the jar is half-filled – and that's something to be grateful for.
Every day, we're exposed to negativity - knowingly or unknowingly - through people, media, or our surroundings. What we often overlook is that our brain absorbs it like a sponge. Negativity isn't limited to extreme evils; even mediocrity and ill-mannered behaviours count. Our thoughts are shaped by the data we feed our minds and bodies.
Consider this: a toddler watching violent cartoons may mimic that behaviour, smashing windows or screens with a toy bat. This illustrates a profound truth: what we see is what we do. Our surroundings shape our actions, and our brain internalizes the messages we expose it to. From now on, prioritize self-care by incorporating activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul.
Make time for:
Melodious music or soothing sounds
Massage therapy or meditation
Nature walks or outdoor escapes
These simple habits can help calm your mind, reduce stress, and increase overall well-being.
In the end, I would say that it's okay if you have a negative mindset. The Good News? You can rewire your brain to think more positively! All the best.
by Morgana Faye
something, deep within blood-red chambers, dwells
festering, withering mass of ill will and hysteria
mayhem of death and destruction of reason
It claws at the ivory cage keeping the creature at bay
anxious to lash ribbons of red against walls
wordless shrieks rattle against bony bars
hope It breathes, despair It exhales
drown the soul in a whirlpool of calamity
even so, It remains out of sight, out of mind
confined to a space inhospitable to all but one
that part of us that should never see the light of day
yet never one to let anyone forget
below wispy red strings and translucent streams
ghastly thrills chill warm blood
It creeps between spaces where life and death intersect
give way to a man’s last stand or end
once It takes hold, It will not let go
not until you take your last breath
all the while the shadows flicker and flay
for something, deep within blood-red chambers, dwells
Black screens aren’t something terrifying
And yet…
In this brief moment
I come face-to-face with this blankness
With the same vague reflection, the same shadows
Call of the void, so they say
To lose oneself within the infinity of everything and nothing
An all-encompassing black hole emptiness
Drawing you into a place beyond comprehension
Flesh and bones and skin and blood tether my soul
Yet, I feel some part of me drift away
Knowing this moment will pass and with it
This blank screen will save in its memories a stranger
One that takes on my face
Living different lives
Living different lies
There’s only so much the eyes can see, what the mind knows and understands. Even then, fear manifests the worst you believe something to be. Irrational it may be, it exists from things some part of you recognize as dangerous. After all, the human species didn’t come this far ignoring warning signs. Dangers exist both in plain sight and out of sight, out of mind. No matter what, fear is a core primal instinct that exists to protect us. I know that.
There’s just one problem, however.
Why does that creature look like me?
What do you fear more?
The things that bump in the night?
Or the possibility of their existence?
Does it scare you more to know they’re real?
Would you prefer they’re mere figments of your imagination?
Is it because feeling helpless bothers you that much?
Knowing you can’t win against shadows?
That your screams will die in the air?
That only bits and pieces could be what’s left of you?
But pray, tell me, who are the real monsters?
Where did they come from?
How did they come to be?
Why have we as a society come to recognize their names?
What does it take to break a person beyond help?
Doesn’t it bother you how comfortable we’ve become?
To share the same space as the very things we claim to loathe?
But that’s not why you worry, is it?
Tell me, do you really fear them?
Or do you fear becoming them?
How long will it take to break you?
RUCHI ACHARYA
Ruchi Acharya is a multi-talented author hailing from India who has a passion for writing poems on nature, war, and love. Despite having a strong background in Electrical and Electronics engineering, English Literature, and Business Analytics, Ruchi pursued her creative side and found her love for writing. Currently studying Shakespearean Literature, Ruchi has always had a deep appreciation for the literary arts.
Ruchi is the owner of Wingless Dreamer, an international publishing company that focuses on helping writers and artists find their footing in the industry. Her work with Wingless Dreamer reflects her dedication to the betterment of the writing and art communities.
In her spare time, Ruchi volunteers for social services and enjoys spending time outdoors, finding inspiration for her poetry in the natural world. With her many talents and interests, Ruchi continues to be a rising star in the literary world, with many eagerly anticipating her next work.
MORGANA FAYE
Morgana Faye is a short story writer and poet. From thoughts to words, she weaves into a cohesive body of work. Writing allows Morgana time to slow down, collect her thoughts, and present them on paper. To catch those words before they slip from her grasp, forever lost during translation. Though recent, her blossoming interest in the publishing industry marks a pivotal change. Fall 2019 saw her poem “Closer” published in King’s River Review. However, it was not until 2024 that she would consider publishing a viable career path. Even so, Morgana seeks to showcase her skills to the world.
October 30, 2024
Why Journaling Matters: Your Guide through the Self-Discovery Journey
Hey reader, you know that feeling when your thoughts are racing, and it seems like your brain is buzzing with a million little things? In those moments, you probably wish you had a reset button for your mind. Well, I have something that’s almost as good: journaling.
I’m not talking about the old-school "Dear Diary" thing we see in the flicks (although, no judgment). I’m talking about a simple, effective way to make sense of the chaos in your head, understand yourself better, relieve stress, and, as science shows, even boost your mental health. And it doesn’t take much. Just you, a pen, and a notebook, or, let’s be real, your phone works too.
Think of it like this: when writing down your thoughts, you are doing more than just venting. You are embarking on a self-discovery journey by actively engaging both the logical and emotional sides of your brain. On one side, you’re processing facts, what happened, when, and how. On the other hand, you’re unpacking feelings about why something affected you the way it did.
A study published in Psychological Science found that people who journaled about their thoughts and emotions had lower levels of stress, improved moods, and even better physical health.
So, it’s not just some feel-good trend, there’s actual science behind it. Think of it as a way to clear the mental clutter and get some perspective.
If you’re like me and need cold, hard facts to back things up, I’ve got you covered. Let’s talk numbers for a second:
● Trauma and Stress Relief: A groundbreaking study by psychologists James Pennebaker and Joshua Smyth found that writing about traumatic experiences helped people process them better and led to long-term improvements in mental health.
● Anxiety and Worry: Another study in the Journal of Experimental Psychology discovered that people who journaled regularly reported less anxiety over time.
● Mood and Well-Being: Cambridge University’s research found that just 15-20 minutes of journaling a day significantly improved emotional well-being after only a few weeks.
So yeah, the stats don’t lie, journaling is like free therapy, but more accessible, with no appointments needed.
Why should you bother? Well, journaling isn’t just a mental health tool, it’s a window into understanding yourself better. Here are a few key ways journaling can make a difference in your life:
How often do we go through life on autopilot? We react, we feel, but we rarely stop to ask why. Why do certain situations stress you out? Why do you always feel anxious? Journaling gets you to pause, notice and analyze the patterns. When you start journaling, you enter into a self-discovery journey, You’ll begin to uncover the "whys" behind your behaviors and emotions. This helps you better identify your strengths and weaknesses and makes growth possible.
You know that feeling when you’re on the verge of snapping but don’t want to take it out on anyone? Journaling is like venting but without the risk of hurting someone’s feelings or sounding dramatic. You get to say everything, the unfiltered version, the things you’d probably never say out loud, and get it out of your system.
There’s something powerful about writing your goals down, isn’t there? It’s like putting them into the universe makes them more real. Whether it’s something big, like a career change, or something small, like starting a new hobby, writing about your goals gives them life.
Here’s where journaling shines, it helps you discover parts of yourself you didn’t even know were there. You’re constantly evolving, learning, and growing, but how often do you take the time to notice? Journaling slows things down and lets you reflect on your self-discovery journey.
One of the best things about journaling is reading old entries. It’s like stepping into a time machine and seeing how far you’ve come. Seeing your growth on paper makes it real and reminds you that you’ve got the strength to handle whatever comes next.
Journaling also makes space for deeper questions. What’s holding you back? What are you most afraid of? What do you truly want out of life? By putting these big questions on paper, you start digging for answers.
When you write without thinking too much, or without judging your own words, you allow ideas and thoughts to flow freely. You might come up with creative solutions to problems, or even find a passion you didn’t know you had.
“Where do I even begin?” The good news is that there are no rules here. You don’t have to be a writer or follow any structure. Just start. These few tips will guide you towards starting your self-discovery journey through journaling.
● Choose a time: Maybe it’s first thing in the morning, or right before bed. Carve out a little time for yourself, even if it’s just 10 minutes.
● Don’t filter: This isn’t for anyone else’s eyes but yours. So don’t worry about grammar or making sense. Just write.
● Try prompts: If you’re feeling stuck, use prompts like “What’s on my mind right now?” or “What am I grateful for today?” They’re great for getting the words flowing.
Journaling is a powerful tool for your self-discovery journey, emotional release, and mental clarity. Whether you’re working through tough emotions, setting goals, or just trying to understand yourself a little better, journaling can help. So why not give it a try?
ABOUT THE BLOGGER
SHREYA MISHRA
Meet Shreya Mishra, she is a blend of passion and purpose, seamlessly weaving the worlds of medicine and content creation. Her love for music and dance infuses rhythm into her life, while her compassionate spirit guides her journey toward healing and expression. Every step she takes resonates with curiosity and creativity, inspiring those around her with her warmth and determination.
Why Journaling Matters: A Simple Path to Self-Discovery
Hey reader, you know that feeling when your thoughts are racing, and it seems like your brain is buzzing with a million little things? In those moments, you probably wish you had a reset button for your mind. Well, I have something that’s almost as good: journaling.
I’m not talking about the old-school "Dear Diary" thing we see in the flicks (although, no judgment). I’m talking about a simple, effective way to make sense of the chaos in your head, a way to relieve stress, and, as science shows, even boost your mental health. And it doesn’t take much. Just you, a pen, and a notebook, or, let’s be real, your phone works too.
Think of it like this: when writing down your thoughts, you’re doing more than just venting. You’re actively engaging both the logical and emotional sides of your brain. On one side, you’re processing facts, what happened, when, and how. On the other hand, you’re unpacking feelings about why something affected you the way it did.
A study published in Psychological Science found that people who journaled about their thoughts and emotions had lower levels of stress, improved moods, and even better physical health.
So, it’s not just some feel-good trend, there’s actual science behind it. Think of it as a way to clear the mental clutter and get some perspective.
If you’re like me and need cold, hard facts to back things up, I’ve got you covered. Let’s talk numbers for a second:
● Trauma and Stress Relief: A groundbreaking study by psychologists James Pennebaker and Joshua Smyth found that writing about traumatic experiences helped people process them better and led to long-term improvements in mental health.
● Anxiety and Worry: Another study in the Journal of Experimental Psychology discovered that people who journaled regularly reported less anxiety over time.
● Mood and Well-Being: Cambridge University’s research found that just 15-20 minutes of journaling a day significantly improved emotional well-being after only a few weeks.
So yeah, the stats don’t lie, journaling is like free therapy, but more accessible, with no appointments needed.
Why should you bother? Well, journaling isn’t just a mental health tool, it’s a window into understanding yourself better. Here are a few key ways journaling can make a difference in your life:
How often do we go through life on autopilot? We react, we feel, but we rarely stop to ask why. Why do certain situations stress you out? Why do you always feel anxious? When you start journaling, you begin to notice patterns. You’ll uncover the "whys" behind your behaviors and emotions.
You know that feeling when you’re on the verge of snapping but don’t want to take it out on anyone? Journaling is like venting but without the risk of hurting someone’s feelings or sounding dramatic. You get to say everything, the unfiltered version, the things you’d probably never say out loud, and get it out of your system.
There’s something powerful about writing your goals down, isn’t there? It’s like putting them into the universe makes them more real. Whether it’s something big, like a career change, or something small, like starting a new hobby, writing about your goals gives them life.
Here’s where journaling shines, it helps you discover parts of yourself you didn’t even know were there. You’re constantly evolving, learning, and growing, but how often do you take the time to notice? Journaling slows things down and lets you reflect on your journey.
One of the best things about journaling is reading old entries. It’s like stepping into a time machine and seeing how far you’ve come. Seeing your growth on paper makes it real and reminds you that you’ve got the strength to handle whatever comes next.
Journaling also makes space for deeper questions. What’s holding you back? What are you most afraid of? What do you truly want out of life? By putting these big questions on paper, you start digging for answers.
When you write without thinking too much, or without judging your own words, you allow ideas and thoughts to flow freely. You might come up with creative solutions to problems, or even find a passion you didn’t know you had.
“Where do I even begin?” The good news is that there are no rules here. You don’t have to be a writer or follow any structure. Just start, here are a few tips:
● Choose a time: Maybe it’s first thing in the morning, or right before bed. Carve out a little time for yourself, even if it’s just 10 minutes.
● Don’t filter: This isn’t for anyone else’s eyes but yours. So don’t worry about grammar or making sense. Just write.
● Try prompts: If you’re feeling stuck, use prompts like “What’s on my mind right now?” or “What am I grateful for today?” They’re great for getting the words flowing.
Journaling is a powerful tool for self-discovery, emotional release, and mental clarity. Whether you’re working through tough emotions, setting goals, or just trying to understand yourself a little better, journaling can help. So why not give it a try?
ABOUT THE BLOGGER
SHREYA MISHRA
Meet Shreya Mishra, she is a blend of passion and purpose, seamlessly weaving the worlds of medicine and content creation. Her love for music and dance infuses rhythm into her life, while her compassionate spirit guides her journey toward healing and expression. Every step she takes resonates with curiosity and creativity, inspiring those around her with her warmth and determination.
