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March 13, 2025

9 Secrets for Stepping Back into History; They all begin with the letter ‘B.’ (Boardwalks)

Step into the past and explore America's most charming boardwalks. From Virginia City to the Everglades, uncover the secrets of these histor
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March 6, 2025

5 Transformative Japanese Wellness Practices for Mindfulness and Balance


Bald monk in orange robe meditates on a rock by cherry blossom tree over lake. Koi fish swim, serene mountains in background.


There was a time when I was constantly chasing things that, in the end, didn’t matter. Like a bee drawn to a bright flower, I’d go after what seemed shiny and appealing, only to realize it was artificial. I got caught up in the pursuit of materialistic things—fleeting desires, empty achievements—and while I knew they weren’t truly fulfilling, the pull was so subtle that it drained me without me realizing it.


That was until I discovered the powerful world of Japanese wellness practices, rooted in mindfulness and balance. These ancient concepts have been guiding people toward deeper peace and self-awareness for centuries.


When I embraced them, I found a profound connection with myself and a renewed sense of purpose—something I had been searching for in all the wrong places.


Helen Keller once said, “True happiness... is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.” This resonated deeply with me. I realized I had spent too much time chasing goals that didn’t fulfil me. What I truly craved was purpose and peace—not from external possessions, but from within.

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by life’s pressures, I understand. But through the teachings of Japanese mindfulness, you don’t have to keep chasing fleeting desires.


These time-tested wellness practices offer clarity, balance, and true fulfilment. Let’s explore them together and see how they can transform your life for the better.


Zen-Tastic Living through Japanese Wellness Practices: How Mindfulness Can Improve Your Life


A monk in red robes meditates on a path lined with cherry blossoms, with Mount Fuji in the background and traditional red buildings nearby.


 

Have you ever wondered why people in Japan seem to age so gracefully? It's not just their diet or fitness routine that keeps them looking and feeling great—it’s their focus on mindfulness. It’s all about finding balance and being present. These practices have been passed down for generations and now people all over the world are learning how they can make life a little easier and a lot more peaceful.


Think about how you take care of your skin or your hair—it's routine, right? But what about your mind? We don’t always give it the same care. We keep pushing ourselves until we hit a wall.


Mindfulness is about taking those pauses, checking in with yourself, and slowing down. It's about letting your mind breathe so you can stay calm, grounded, and ready for whatever comes next.


Japanese wellness is about more than just staying in shape. It’s about looking after your mental health too.

Whether that means taking a few quiet moments to reflect, practicing meditation, or just walking outside to clear your head, these simple acts help bring everything back into balance. And when you’re balanced? You’re more focused, less stressed, and overall feeling better.

 

Finding Purpose in Life: How Japanese Concepts Guide You


A monk in an orange robe sits on a rooftop, overlooking a city skyline under a large full moon. The scene is calm and contemplative.


 

We all have moments when we feel like we're just going through the motions, ticking off tasks without really connecting to why we’re doing them. It's easy to get lost in the busyness of life and forget what truly matters. But there are Japanese concepts that can help guide you toward a more meaningful life, starting with the idea of purpose.


In Japan, people are encouraged to take time to reflect on what really drives them.


It’s not about rushing to find your “one big purpose”—it’s about slowly discovering what gives your life meaning, something that keeps you grounded and moving forward.


The goal is to do what truly resonates with you, rather than chasing after external goals or trying to live up to someone else's expectations.


When you embrace a purpose that aligns with your values, it helps bring peace and balance to your life. You’re not just filling up time—you’re living intentionally, making choices that feel right for you. And that’s when you start to experience a deeper sense of fulfilment.

 

Stress Less, Live Better: Life-Changing Principles For Wellness

 

When I talk about these concepts, I’m not offering quick fixes or grand life lessons. These principles are tried and tested, offering profound benefits that stand the test of time. Across generations, people worldwide have adopted these ideas to manage stress and foster inner peace.


Let's dive into five powerful Japanese wellness concepts that can help rewire your life for a more peaceful, fulfilling existence.


The Japanese approach is about building habits that focus on small steps, long-term change, and self-reflection.

 

Ikigai: Discover Your Reason For Being

 

Ikigai. Funny how one word can hold so much meaning. Pronounced “ick-ee-guy,” it’s a Japanese concept that translates to "reason for being." Sounds simple, but it’s huge. It comes from iki (life) and gai (value or worth)—basically, what makes life feel worth it.

Imagine waking up every morning excited to do what you love, knowing that your work has a deeper meaning. Ikigai is all about finding that reason—the sweet spot where passion, mission, vocation, and profession meet. It’s the Japanese secret to living a life filled with purpose, satisfaction, and joy.

It isn’t about doing everything right—it’s about doing what feels right for you. Whether it’s writing, teaching, baking, or helping others, your Ikigai is what makes you jump out of bed in the morning. When you align your actions with your passions, everything just clicks into place.

 

Why You Should Practice Ikigai:

More Joy: Find what makes you feel alive and infuse that into your life.

Less Burnout: When your work is aligned with your purpose, it feels less draining and more fulfilling.

Clearer Direction: Ikigai helps you make decisions that align with your values.

Deeper Fulfilment: Living with purpose gives life meaning and fulfilment.

 

Oubaitori: Embrace Your Own Path



Japanese garden with cherry blossoms, traditional buildings, and swans on a tranquil pond. Snowy mountains in background. Text: Winglessdreamer.com.


 

Ever feel like you’re on a treadmill, running fast but getting nowhere? Sometimes it feels like everyone else is out there sprinting ahead while you're still tying your shoes. But there’s a Japanese concept that could give you a refreshing perspective: Oubaitori.


This term is made up of kanji from four iconic trees: cherry, plum, peach, and apricot. Each of these trees blooms in its own time, never rushing, never competing—just growing as they’re meant to.


It’s all about embracing your unique path—just like how trees blossom at their own time. Cherry blossoms bloom in spring, while plum trees take their sweet time in winter. No rushing, no comparisons. Oubaitori reminds us that we’re all on different timelines. You don’t have to follow someone else’s schedule. Your pace is your pace, and that’s more than okay—it’s perfect.


So, the next time you find yourself comparing your growth to someone else’s, just remember: your time will come. And when it does, it’ll be your moment to shine, without the pressure to be anyone else but you.

 

Why You Should Practice Oubaitori:

No Stress: Stop racing against others. You’ve got your own timeline.

Better Self-Awareness: Embrace your unique growth instead of chasing someone else’s path.

More Peace: When you stop comparing, life feels less like a competition and more like a journey.

More Confidence: Knowing your timing is right helps you trust yourself more.

 

Wabi-Sabi: Finding Beauty In Imperfection

 

Here’s a little secret—life doesn’t need to be perfect to be beautiful. Wabi-Sabi is the Japanese philosophy that shows us how to embrace the art of imperfection. Instead of obsessing over flawless moments or perfect outcomes, Wabi-Sabi teaches us to appreciate life’s natural flaws. Think of that cracked coffee mug that’s become your favourite. Or the tree that’s lost some branches but still stands strong.

Wabi-Sabi reminds us that beauty is fleeting, and that's what makes it so precious.

It’s like enjoying the last sunset of summer—you know it’s almost gone, but that’s exactly what makes it beautiful. The key here is to slow down and really see the beauty in life’s messes.

 

Why You Should Practice Wabi-Sabi:

Appreciate the Now: Embrace life’s fleeting moments—imperfections make things interesting.

Let Go of Perfection: Perfectionism is exhausting. Wabi-Sabi helps you release that weight.

Feel More Connected: Imperfections help us see the shared humanity in everyone and everything.

Find True Beauty: Beauty is in the small, everyday moments—your cracked mug, the creaky door, the weathered stone.

 

Shikata ga nai: Acceptance in Life’s Flow

 

Let’s face it: there are some things you just can’t change. Like the weather, your friend’s mood, or the fact that the printer always jams at the worst possible time. Shikata ga Nai or Sho ga nai is a Japanese concept that teaches us to embrace life’s uncontrollable moments and let go of the need to fix everything.


Instead of fighting against the current, Shikata ga Nai reminds us to accept the things that can’t be changed. It’s about recognizing when to stop pushing and when to start flowing with life. When you practice this, you make room for peace and acceptance. It’s like letting go of a balloon and watching it float away—no stress, just calm.

 

Why You Should Practice Shikata ga Nai:

Less Stress: Let go of things you can’t control and focus on what you can.

More Peace: Acceptance helps you find peace in life’s unpredictability.

Emotional Freedom: You don’t have to be in control of everything to feel happy.

Stronger Resilience: Knowing when to let go builds inner strength for when challenges arise.

 

Kaizen: Small Steps, Big Wins

 

If you’re the type of person who loves to go all-in or go big or go home, Kaizen might just be the gentle nudge you need to slow things down. It’s all about making small, incremental improvements that eventually lead to massive change. Forget the huge, overnight transformations. With Kaizen, it’s about focusing on tiny wins—just 1% better every day—and watching them snowball into bigger successes.


It’s a bit like adding a spoonful of sugar every time you make tea. At first, you don’t notice the difference. But over time, those tiny bits add up to something really sweet. And guess what? These small changes don’t overwhelm you—because they’re so doable!

 

Why You Should Practice Kaizen:


·       Less Overwhelm: Big changes don’t need to be intimidating. Small steps make it feel manageable.

·       Constant Growth: Even the tiniest progress is still progress.

·       Sustainable: Slow, steady improvement means lasting results.

·       Build Confidence: Watch your small wins pile up, and soon you’ll realize how much you’ve grown.

 

Conclusion: Transform Your Life Today


Elderly man in green robes smiles while sitting on a bench holding sticks; lush park setting, others visible, text: Winglessdreamer.com.


 

Japanese wellness practices aren’t just about meditation or stretching. They’re about living intentionally, embracing who you are, and finding balance in the chaos. By incorporating these practices—Oubaitori, Wabi-Sabi, Kaizen, Shikata ga Nai, and Ikigai—you can transform your mindset and build a life that feels truly aligned with who you are.


Ready to get started? Take small steps today, and watch how these concepts start to shift your perspective. Because, let’s be honest, life doesn’t come with a rulebook—so why not make your own path, imperfections and all?


So, tell me below which concept you’ll incorporate in your life? Because if I can make those changes slowly, you can too.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR



Pooja Vishwanathan in a red floral dress stands smiling by a stone wall, with warm lighting and a blurred background. She wears a smartwatch.

Pooja Vishwanathan is a soulful writer and music lover, living as if she has a thousand years to grow yet embracing every moment as if it’s her last. Writing and creating content are not just her craft but the legacy she builds with every word. Inspired by the melodies of life, she pours sincerity and soul into each sentence, capturing the rhythm of existence. Whether through music’s echoes or language’s flow, she finds beauty in fleeting moments. Her journey is one of infinite discovery, evolving with every verse she pens, knowing that she dies once but lives through her words.

 

Motto: Write endlessly, live deeply, and let words outlive time.

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February 19, 2025

Coping with Grief Through Reading, Writing, and Literature: A Health Guide



Ever Felt Like Grief Is a Giant, Silent Elephant in the Room? Let’s Talk About It.


If you’ve ever experienced grief, you know it’s that uninvited guest that overstays its welcome. It’s messy, unpredictable, and sneaks up on you at the worst moments—like in the middle of a grocery store when you hear a song that reminds you of someone you lost. Grief isn’t just about losing a loved one; it comes in many forms—breakups, job losses, shattered dreams. Whatever shape it takes, it’s real, and it’s heavy. But here’s the good news: words can help carry the weight.


Add Literature to Your Toolbox of Coping Skills


When the time feels right, literature—whether through reading, writing, or reflection—can be a powerful tool for healing. Books, poems, and creative expression offer solace when everything else feels overwhelming.


I’ve had my fair share of loss, and every time, literature has been my anchor. Whether it’s the death of a loved one or the end of a relationship, words have this uncanny way of making sense of the chaos in my head.


Why Reading Literature Can Help You Cope with Grief


Ever curled up with a book and felt like the world just paused for a second? Reading can be like pressing “mute” on life’s noise, giving you the space to breathe and process.


Books as a Mirror to Your Grief Experience


Validation of your feelings: Sometimes, you don’t know how to put your emotions into words. Then, you read a line in a book, and it’s like, Yes! That’s exactly how I feel! Books give us permission to feel without explaining ourselves.


Emotional reflection: Grief can make you feel like you’re on an island. But through literature, you realize others have been there too—and survived.


Therapeutic escape: When the world gets too loud, books whisper, Hey, come hide here for a while.


Grief and Your Favorite Book: A Love Story



Different books speak to different people, but if you’re not sure where to start, here are some genres that can help:


Memoirs & autobiographies: Real stories of loss make you feel less alone.

Poetry: Short, powerful, and straight to the heart.

Fictional books about loss: Sometimes, a well-told story can help you navigate your own pain. (Think The Lovely Bones or The Fault in Our Stars.)


Writing It Out: Therapy, But with a Pen

Reading is great, but don’t stop there. Writing is like having a conversation with yourself—no judgment, no filter, just raw honesty.


Journaling: A Safe Space to Reflect on Your Grief


Declutter your mind: Too many emotions swirling around? Get them onto paper and free up some space in your head.

No rules, no grammar police: Just write what you feel. No one’s grading this.

Track your healing journey: Looking back at old entries helps you see how far you’ve come.


Writing Letters to the Deceased: It’s Okay to Say What’s on Your Heart


They may be gone, but your feelings aren’t. Writing to them—telling them what’s on your mind, what you wish you’d said—can be incredibly healing. It’s not about getting a reply; it’s about letting your heart speak.


Grief Is a Butterfly: Turning Loss Into Poetry


If journaling isn’t your thing, try poetry or creative writing. Grief is complicated, but words can transform it into something beautiful—like a butterfly emerging from its cocoon.

Express abstract emotions: Poetry can capture feelings that ordinary sentences can’t.

Reframe your grief: Writing allows you to see your journey from different angles.


Literature: Fostering Empathy and Understanding of Grief


One of the most powerful things about literature is how it builds empathy. By reading about grief from different perspectives, you not only understand your own emotions better but also connect with others in new ways.

Understand cultural differences in grief: Different societies process loss in unique ways. Literature gives you insight into those traditions.

Gain perspective on different kinds of loss: Loss isn’t always about death. Books explore grief in many forms, helping you make sense of your own.


Grief Can Weigh on Your Heart—Let Words Carry It




If grief is a storm, literature is the lighthouse guiding you through. It won’t erase the pain, but it will help you make sense of it, giving you a space to heal.


So, what now? Grab that book off your shelf. Open a journal and start writing. Doodle, scribble, create. You might just surprise yourself with how much lighter your heart feels when you let words carry the weight for a while.


ABOUT THE BLOGGER



Kat Olvera is a writer who loves romanticizing each corner of the ordinary just enough to create a compelling story. She exists to explore and create through writing and editing content that helps readers slow down in a fast-paced world.


She’s a Pacific Northwest creature born in Alaska, or as she likes to tell people, the North Pole. Kat specializes in history and poetry. She has two full-length poetry collections and was a 2020-2021 participant in the Roma Women’s Poetry Project with the European Roma Institute for Arts and Culture.

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February 6, 2025

5 Psychological Therapies and Counseling Techniques Every Writer Must Try to Unlock Creative Block



I remember staring at the blank page for hours, my fingers hovering over the keyboard, waiting for inspiration to strike. It didn’t. The longer I sat there, the more the silence in my mind grew deafening. I questioned everything—was I even a writer? Had I run out of words? The self-doubt crept in, whispering cruel thoughts: Maybe you were never good enough to begin with. Creative block is a brutal, soul-sucking force that makes us feel disconnected from the one thing that gives us life—writing.


Margaret Atwood once said, "Writer’s block is my unconscious mind telling me that something I’ve just written is either unbelievable or unimportant to me." And that hit me hard. What if my brain wasn’t betraying me but trying to tell me something? Maybe I was forcing words onto the page without truly believing in them.

Maybe my creative block wasn’t a lack of talent but a signal—one urging me to rethink, reimagine, and reconnect with my writing.


If you’ve ever felt this way, you’re not alone. But what if I told you that the answer isn’t in forcing yourself to write, but in understanding the psychology behind why you’re stuck?


The Science Behind Writer’s Block


Your brain is like a high-speed train. When it’s running smoothly, ideas flow effortlessly. But sometimes, something pulls the emergency brake. That ‘something’ is often a mix of fear, perfectionism, and mental fatigue.


Neurologically speaking, writer’s block isn’t just “being stuck”—it’s your brain going into survival mode. The prefrontal cortex, responsible for creativity and problem-solving, shuts down when stress, anxiety, or self-doubt take over. Meanwhile, the amygdala, your brain’s built-in alarm system, starts screaming, “Danger! What if this isn’t good enough?” And just like that, your creative energy freezes.


Add to that the pressure of deadlines, fear of criticism, or even just burnout, and suddenly, writing feels impossible. But here’s the good news—if writer’s block is psychological, then psychological techniques can help break through it.


Even the Best Get Stuck: Writers Who Battled (and Beat) the Block




If you’re struggling with writer’s block, you might feel like you’re the only one. But here’s the truth: even the most celebrated authors—those whose words have shaped literature and inspired generations—have faced the same creative paralysis.


Writer’s block doesn’t discriminate. It haunts beginners and literary giants alike. Here are some well-known authors who faced the dreaded creative standstill—and how they fought their way back to writing.


Margaret Atwood – Accepting the Block as Part of the Process


Margaret Atwood, the author of The Handmaid’s Tale, has spoken openly about writer’s block, describing it as her unconscious mind telling her that something she’s writing is either "unbelievable or unimportant." Instead of forcing words onto the page, she steps back and reassesses, trusting that inspiration will return when she’s honest with herself.


Lesson: If you’re stuck, maybe your story doesn’t feel right to you. Re-examine your idea—does it excite you? Does it feel true? If not, pivot.


F. Scott Fitzgerald – Paralyzed by Perfectionism


Even the legendary F. Scott Fitzgerald, known for The Great Gatsby, suffered from creative paralysis. He once wrote to his editor about being completely blocked, unable to write because he feared his work wouldn’t match his previous successes.


Lesson: Fear of failure is a creativity killer. Instead of chasing perfection, give yourself permission to write something bad. First drafts are meant to be messy—they’re the raw material for brilliance.


Maya Angelou – Writing Through the Block


Maya Angelou refused to let writer’s block silence her. When she couldn’t write, she would still put pen to paper, even if it was just nonsensical sentences. She believed that keeping the flow going—even with uninspired words—would eventually lead her back to creativity.


Lesson: Write anything, even if it’s gibberish. Momentum is everything.


J.K. Rowling – Burnout and Self-Doubt




After the success of Harry Potter, J.K. Rowling faced an intense creative block while working on The Casual Vacancy. The pressure of expectations and fear of disappointing readers made her second-guess every word. It wasn’t until she reminded herself why she started writing in the first place that she found her way back.


Lesson: Forget external expectations. Write for yourself first.


Neil Gaiman – Walking Away to Gain Perspective


Neil Gaiman once admitted that when he feels stuck, he simply walks away. He lets his subconscious mind work on the problem while he does something else—like taking a walk or reading something unrelated. More often than not, the solution presents itself when he least expects it.


Lesson: Sometimes, stepping away is the best way forward. Creativity isn’t about brute force—it’s about giving your mind space to breathe.


The difference between those who quit and those who push through? Learning how to navigate the block, rather than fear it. Let’s look at some of the greatest writers who wrestled with creative roadblocks—and how they found their way back to the page.


5 Therapy Hacks Every Writer Should Try to Beat Creative Block


Let’s dive into five transformative psychological therapies that can help rewire your brain and reignite your creative flow. These aren’t your typical “take a break” or “go for a walk” suggestions. These are real, research-backed methods used by therapists to break mental barriers and unlock creativity buried under layers of fear and doubt.


Let’s explore how science can help you get back to writing—without the mind games.


The Zeigarnik Effect: Start, But Don’t Finish (Just Yet)


Ever find yourself obsessing over something unfinished? That’s the Zeigarnik Effect in action. And guess what? I’ve found a way to use it to my advantage. Here’s the deal: when I leave something unfinished, my brain carries the tension of not having resolved it, and that tension keeps pulling me back in.


Sound crazy? Maybe. But it works. Instead of forcing myself to finish that perfect scene, I’ll just stop midway. No pressure to complete it. And let me tell you, that little unfinished moment haunts me in the best way—it keeps me coming back to finish it.


Try This: Start a scene, get to the good stuff, then stop. The unfinished business will keep you hooked, and before you know it, you’ll be dying to pick it up again.


Exposure Therapy: Face Your Writing Fears



If I’m honest, one of the reasons I hit writer’s block is fear. Maybe it’s fear of rejection, or maybe it’s the fear of writing something that just isn’t good enough. But here’s the thing: if I don’t face that fear, it’s just going to keep me stuck. That’s where Exposure Therapy comes in.


I’ve learned that gradually exposing myself to my fears—whether it’s sharing a piece with a friend or posting it online—makes the fear lose its grip. The more I face it, the less it controls me. And the best part? My creativity becomes freer the more I push myself past the fear.


Try This: Start small. Write something uncomfortable, but don’t show anyone. Then, push further—post a short snippet online, share it with a trusted friend, or submit it to a publication. The goal? Rejection loses its sting over time, and soon, fear stops dictating your creativity.


Neurobics: Get Your Brain in Shape


You know those days when I just can’t seem to shake off the mental rut? I get stuck in the same thoughts, and nothing seems fresh. That’s when I turn to Neurobics—a way to shake things up and get my brain thinking differently. It’s all about doing things that challenge my brain to think outside its usual patterns.

I’ve done things like brush my teeth with my non-dominant hand, take a completely new route to work, or even change up my routine just to keep things fresh. These small activities make my brain think in new ways, and you wouldn’t believe how much it helps when I go back to writing.


Try This: Do something unusual—maybe eat lunch with your non-dominant hand or wear mismatched socks.


These little brain exercises break the cycle of repetition, and when you sit down to write, your brain will be ready to think more creatively.


EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing): Rewriting Past Failures


Okay, bear with me here—EMDR might sound a bit wild, but trust me, it works. It's all about processing those painful writing failures that have been sitting in your brain, blocking new ideas. It’s like your brain’s holding onto old stuff and saying, “Nope, no creativity today!” But with EMDR, you guide your eyes back and forth while thinking about a painful memory. This trick helps your brain process it differently, and before you know it, the emotional weight starts to lift.


Try This: Think of that one time your writing totally flopped. Now, grab a pen and follow it from side to side while you replay that moment in your mind. Sound weird? Maybe. But, trust me—this weird little trick works. Stick with it, and watch that sting fade. I dare you.


Logotherapy: Find the Meaning in Your Writing


Ever sit down to write and feel like it’s all pointless? Been there. That’s when you need Logotherapy.

Viktor Frankl, the genius behind this, said that if we can find meaning in our struggles, we can push through anything. So, if your writing feels dry, reconnect with your “why.” When you know your purpose, the words practically write themselves.


Try This: Take a second and ask yourself: Why do I write? Is it to make sense of your world? To help someone else? When you rediscover your reason, suddenly everything else falls into place. Your writing becomes a whole lot more meaningful. And hey, you might even surprise yourself.


Final Thoughts: Creativity is a Mental Game


Writer’s block isn’t a life sentence—it’s a signal. A pause. A moment where your mind is nudging you to pay attention. Maybe you’re exhausted. Maybe fear is paralyzing your creativity. Maybe, as Margaret Atwood said, you’re simply trying to write something that doesn’t truly resonate with you.

But here’s the thing—your creativity isn’t gone. It’s just waiting for you to find a new way in. Whether it's challenging your inner critic with CBT, confronting your fears through exposure, or rediscovering your purpose with logotherapy, you have the tools to break free. The block isn’t stronger than you—it never was.


So take a breath. Be kind to yourself. And when you’re ready, return to the page—not with pressure, but with curiosity. Your words are still there, waiting. And trust me, they’ll come back to you when you meet them halfway.


Now tell me—what’s the first thing you’re going to write? Let’s talk. Because I promise, you’re not alone in this.


ABOUT THIS BLOGGER



Meet Shreya Mishra, she is a blend of passion and purpose, seamlessly weaving the worlds of medicine and content creation. Her love for music and dance infuses rhythm into her life, while her compassionate spirit guides her journey toward healing and expression. Every step she takes resonates with curiosity and creativity, inspiring those around her with her warmth and determination.

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January 22, 2025

The Courageous Journey of an Afghan Girl: Shattered Dreams and Silenced Voices, Women's rights in Afghanistan fell

⚠️ Warning: The following images depict graphic scenes of violence, poverty, grief, and despair related to the Taliban insurgency; viewer discretion is advised.

Armed men in traditional clothing walk on a street with a gray wall backdrop. They appear serious and focused, carrying rifles.


When the Taliban took over all of Afghanistan on 15 August, I realized that I had to say goodbye to my dreams. Life became bitter for me, I experienced depression as a teenager. My brain was burning, until one day I decided to write my mental state on paper, it was when I started writing. I am Sanamta Mushfiq (anonymous name), an 18-year-old girl born in the capital of Afghanistan. This is my story.

 

At Wingless Dreamer Publisher, our focus has always been on literary musings, wellness reflections, and artistic inspirations. We deliberately steer clear of political discourse, activism, or topics outside the literary spectrum. But things went differently last Monday afternoon; an email arrived in our inbox that changed everything. It was from Sanamta (a pseudonym to protect the sender’s identity), and it struck a chord so profound that we felt compelled to share it with the world.


This email wasn’t just a story; it was a plea, a mirror reflecting the privileges we often take for granted—privileges that should be revered daily, like the air we breathe. Time, like breath, is fragile and unforgiving. Note that. I repeat, Time, like breath, is fragile and unforgiving. In a single moment, it can shatter everything you know. Hold your breath for a few seconds, and life teeters on the edge; similarly, it only takes a heartbeat for the world as you know it to fall apart.

 

I left all the editorial tasks and business assignments and personally started working on this blog post to make sure the efforts made and life-risk taken by Sanamta do not go in vain. Let's hear her story and the Taliban's tribulations being brutally imposed on the ground.


The day Kabul fell - Women's rights in Afghanistan fellArmed individuals face a group of people holding pink banners on a street. Some wear masks. Background shows buildings and trees. Tense mood.


Women protest in a street holding signs. A woman gestures toward a man in traditional attire. Trees and cars in the background. Energetic mood.


 

In this chaotic world,

I wish I was a stone

Without fatigue, without fear,

spending the rest of my life

at the bottom of a river - Sanamta

"The summer of 2021. It remains one of the saddest periods of my life and continues to this day. That day (August 15, 2021) I was at school; it was the last day of my exams. I never imagined I would have to bid farewell to school in such a way. I never thought Kabul would fall, without even a single gunshot, into the hands of the most ruthless and conscienceless individuals.


I vividly remember that day; it hasn’t left my mind for even a moment. I was 15 years old at that time, watching the news incessantly every day. The city was filled with terror; everyone was scared, barely stepping out of their homes. They lowered our tricolor flag and raised their own colorless banner. I realized that it was the end of the line. People rushed to the airport, desperate to leave the country, as no one had any hope left. 


As for the airport scene, it’s enough to say that this incident alone could fill a book. I was terrified because I had heard rumors that they were abducting girls. Even the thought of such a thing happening to me made my body tremble."


Yes, Sanamta—who could ever erase the horrifying chaos of that airport scene from their mind? The screams, the desperation, the inhumanity carved into every second. And then, that moment—a baby, barely grasping the essence of life, was hauled across a barbed wire fence in a frantic bid to escape the clutches of the monstrous Taliban. Tiny hands grazed against cruel metal, an innocent body almost sacrificed to a desperate hope. The image burns like fire in memory—a raw, bleeding testament to a world gone mad.


Ringing School Bells of False HopeWomen in face masks protest outdoors, raising fists, with visible signs in background. The scene conveys determination and solidarity.


"Fear, anxiety, stress.


At a young age, one can feel as if they’ve aged, with a hunched back, trembling hands, and enduring immense pain. I had dreams as a child, but unfortunately, I couldn’t achieve any of them. That night I went to the rooftop and looked at the sky. The darkness of that night was darker than usual, suffocating me. I kept wondering, “What will happen now?”


I felt a great fracture inside, as I had been destroyed from the inside. I looked at the moon and the mountains, and I could only shed tears, remembering all the dreams that withered away just as I wished to caress them. I told myself, “Nothing will ever be right again; nothing will be like it was before.”


Perhaps my body survived that night, but my soul never.


Something in me died that I still haven’t been able to recover.


March/22/2022


The day before, the Taliban didn’t say anything and rang the school bell. I didn’t have any hope, but I still went to school. When I reached the school gate, I saw the Taliban's vehicle parked there. I didn’t know what they wanted revenge for. When I entered the schoolyard, the principal told us that “girls below the sixth grade could go to their classrooms, but those above the sixth grade should wait for further instructions. I had expected this, but it still hit me hard. If they didn’t want to reopen schools for girls above sixth grade, why ring the bell in the first place? Why stand by the gate to observe reactions and immediately detain anyone who protested? What has happened to women's rights in Afghanistan.


Sometimes, I get lost in thought. People tell me, “Don’t torment yourself so much.” But how can I forget how cold and barren my youth has been? Education, a dream, has turned into a nightmare. After the schools closed, with my parents’ help, I joined an English language center. But no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t ease the heaviness in my heart.


A few months into my English classes, I went out one day, and the city was chaotic again.


I didn’t know what had happened, as I approached, I saw Taliban vehicles blocking our language center.

All the teachers and students were returning home in tears. When I saw that scene, I picked up a stone from the ground and threw it at their vehicle.


One of the Taliban pointed his gun at me, if it weren’t for my teachers’ intervention, I might not be alive today.


Two people in black coats embrace tightly, conveying deep emotion. One person has a white headscarf, the other a light one. Yellow door in background.


On December/21/2022


The Taliban ordered the closure of all educational institutions for girls.


The next day, news spread that girls in several provinces had committed suicide, but the Taliban prohibited the release of statistics.


Reports indicated that the suicide rate among women had surpassed that of men by 2%.


I believe the main causes of suicide are restrictions, being cornered, discrimination, isolation and the inability to achieve one’s goals. Every day, new decrees are issued, and more restrictions are imposed on girls and women. The Taliban’s ruling, labeling women’s voice as “awrat” (forbidden), faced widespread backlash from women.


In the end, I don’t know what will happen. I don’t know if I will ever be the same again. If schools reopen, will I still have the same passion as before? Will I be able to free myself from this isolation? These questions haunt my mind every day, and I can’t find answers.


I close my eyes, hoping to dream as I used to, but each day I feel more suffocated. There is someone who grips my throat with bloody, angry hands, preventing me from dreaming again. When I open my eyes, I see it’s not just one person. It’s a group of oppressors determined to bury me and all those like me in suffocation."

 

After reading this, the Wingless Dreamer Team and I were left dumbfounded. We've already forwarded this blog to other publishers, news channels, activists, and even wrote to the United Nations Office of Counter-Terrorism. We request you to do the same.


Although, in the process, we as a publishing company for the first time found that words cannot adequately capture the depth of our sufferings, no matter how hard you try. On behalf of the Wingless Dreamer team, I would like to send a message to Samanta and to many other girls:


The pain of shattered dreams is beyond measure, and the courage it takes to keep moving forward amid relentless oppression is incomprehensible. Your story stands as a heart-wrenching testament to resilience, a powerful reminder of the unimaginable suffering endured by so many under the brutal rule of the Taliban.


We grieve for the childhood stolen from you, the education denied, and the countless moments of fear and despair that no one should ever endure. Yet, during this pain, your bravery shines through. By sharing your truth, you not only honor your own journey but also give voice to countless others who are silenced.


Know that your words have the power to inspire change and ignite compassion. You are not alone, and the world hears your story. We stand with you, grieving, fighting, and hoping for a day when no one has to live under such inhumanity again.


With deepest sympathy and unyielding solidarity,

Ruchi Acharya, Founder

Wingless Dreamer Publisher

Website : ruchiacharya.com

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The Courageous Journey of an Afghan Girl: Shattered Dreams and Silenced Voices

⚠️ Warning: The following images depict graphic scenes of violence, poverty, grief, and despair related to the Taliban insurgency; viewer discretion is advised.

Taliban insurgency in Afghnaistan


When the Taliban took over all of Afghanistan on 15 August, I realized that I had to say goodbye to my dreams. Life became bitter for me, I experienced depression as a teenager. My brain was burning, until one day I decided to write my mental state on paper, it was when I started writing. I am Sanamta Mushfiq (anonymous name), an 18-year-old girl born in the capital of Afghanistan. This is my story.

 

At Wingless Dreamer Publisher, our focus has always been on literary musings, wellness reflections, and artistic inspirations. We deliberately steer clear of political discourse, activism, or topics outside the literary spectrum. But things went differently last Monday afternoon; an email arrived in our inbox that changed everything. It was from Sanamta (a pseudonym to protect the sender’s identity), and it struck a chord so profound that we felt compelled to share it with the world.


This email wasn’t just a story; it was a plea, a mirror reflecting the privileges we often take for granted—privileges that should be revered daily, like the air we breathe. Time, like breath, is fragile and unforgiving. Note that. I repeat, Time, like breath, is fragile and unforgiving. In a single moment, it can shatter everything you know. Hold your breath for a few seconds, and life teeters on the edge; similarly, it only takes a heartbeat for the world as you know it to fall apart.

 

I left all the editorial tasks and business assignments and personally started working on this blog post to make sure the efforts made and life-risk taken by Sanamta do not go in vain. Let's hear her story and the Taliban's tribulations being brutally imposed on the ground.


The day Kabul fell



 

In this chaotic world,

I wish I was a stone

Without fatigue, without fear,

spending the rest of my life

at the bottom of a river - Sanamta

"The summer of 2021. It remains one of the saddest periods of my life and continues to this day. That day (August 15, 2021) I was at school; it was the last day of my exams. I never imagined I would have to bid farewell to school in such a way. I never thought Kabul would fall, without even a single gunshot, into the hands of the most ruthless and conscienceless individuals.


I vividly remember that day; it hasn’t left my mind for even a moment. I was 15 years old at that time, watching the news incessantly every day. The city was filled with terror; everyone was scared, barely stepping out of their homes. They lowered our tricolor flag and raised their own colorless banner. I realized that it was the end of the line. People rushed to the airport, desperate to leave the country, as no one had any hope left. 


As for the airport scene, it’s enough to say that this incident alone could fill a book. I was terrified because I had heard rumors that they were abducting girls. Even the thought of such a thing happening to me made my body tremble."


Yes, Sanamta—who could ever erase the horrifying chaos of that airport scene from their mind? The screams, the desperation, the inhumanity carved into every second. And then, that moment—a baby, barely grasping the essence of life, was hauled across a barbed wire fence in a frantic bid to escape the clutches of the monstrous Taliban. Tiny hands grazed against cruel metal, an innocent body almost sacrificed to a desperate hope. The image burns like fire in memory—a raw, bleeding testament to a world gone mad.


Ringing School Bells of False Hope


"Fear, anxiety, stress.


At a young age, one can feel as if they’ve aged, with a hunched back, trembling hands, and enduring immense pain. I had dreams as a child, but unfortunately, I couldn’t achieve any of them. That night I went to the rooftop and looked at the sky. The darkness of that night was darker than usual, suffocating me. I kept wondering, “What will happen now?”


I felt a great fracture inside, as I had been destroyed from the inside. I looked at the moon and the mountains, and I could only shed tears, remembering all the dreams that withered away just as I wished to caress them. I told myself, “Nothing will ever be right again; nothing will be like it was before.”


Perhaps my body survived that night, but my soul never.


Something in me died that I still haven’t been able to recover.


March/22/2022


The day before, the Taliban didn’t say anything and rang the school bell. I didn’t have any hope, but I still went to school. When I reached the school gate, I saw the Taliban's vehicle parked there. I didn’t know what they wanted revenge for. When I entered the schoolyard, the principal told us that “girls below the sixth grade could go to their classrooms, but those above the sixth grade should wait for further instructions. I had expected this, but it still hit me hard. If they didn’t want to reopen schools for girls above sixth grade, why ring the bell in the first place? Why stand by the gate to observe reactions and immediately detain anyone who protested?


Sometimes, I get lost in thought. People tell me, “Don’t torment yourself so much.” But how can I forget how cold and barren my youth has been? Education, a dream, has turned into a nightmare. After the schools closed, with my parents’ help, I joined an English language center. But no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t ease the heaviness in my heart.


A few months into my English classes, I went out one day, and the city was chaotic again.


I didn’t know what had happened, as I approached, I saw Taliban vehicles blocking our language center.

All the teachers and students were returning home in tears. When I saw that scene, I picked up a stone from the ground and threw it at their vehicle.


One of the Taliban pointed his gun at me, if it weren’t for my teachers’ intervention, I might not be alive today.



On December/21/2022


The Taliban ordered the closure of all educational institutions for girls.


The next day, news spread that girls in several provinces had committed suicide, but the Taliban prohibited the release of statistics.


Reports indicated that the suicide rate among women had surpassed that of men by 2%.


I believe the main causes of suicide are restrictions, being cornered, discrimination, isolation and the inability to achieve one’s goals. Every day, new decrees are issued, and more restrictions are imposed on girls and women. The Taliban’s ruling, labeling women’s voice as “awrat” (forbidden), faced widespread backlash from women.


In the end, I don’t know what will happen. I don’t know if I will ever be the same again. If schools reopen, will I still have the same passion as before? Will I be able to free myself from this isolation? These questions haunt my mind every day, and I can’t find answers.


I close my eyes, hoping to dream as I used to, but each day I feel more suffocated. There is someone who grips my throat with bloody, angry hands, preventing me from dreaming again. When I open my eyes, I see it’s not just one person. It’s a group of oppressors determined to bury me and all those like me in suffocation."

 

After reading this, me and the Wingless Dreamer Team left dumbfounded. We've already forwarded this blog to other publishers, news channels, activists, and even wrote to the United Nations Office of Counter-Terrorism. We request you to do the same.


Although, in the process, we as a publishing company for the first time found words cannot adequately capture the depth of our sufferings, no matter how hard you try. On behalf of the Wingless Dreamer team, I would like to send a message to Samanta and to many other girls:


The pain of shattered dreams is beyond measure, and the courage it takes to keep moving forward amid relentless oppression is incomprehensible. Your story stands as a heart-wrenching testament to resilience, a powerful reminder of the unimaginable suffering endured by so many under the brutal rule of the Taliban.


We grieve for the childhood stolen from you, the education denied, and the countless moments of fear and despair that no one should ever endure. Yet, in the midst of this pain, your bravery shines through. By sharing your truth, you not only honor your own journey but also give voice to countless others who are silenced.


Know that your words have the power to inspire change and ignite compassion. You are not alone, and the world hears your story. We stand with you, grieving, fighting, and hoping for a day when no one has to live under such inhumanity again.


With deepest sympathy and unyielding solidarity,

Wingless Dreamer Publisher

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January 16, 2025

Journaling for Beginners: 7 Actionable Steps to Start Your Self-Discovery Journey Today


An opened journal before a window with evening sunlight streaming in and beautiful flowers


The human mind is a complex operating system constantly running through various thoughts at a fast pace. Researchers conclude in this study that an adult human’s mind processes about 6,000 thoughts or more daily. Crazy, right? 


It’s almost like being put in the middle of a whirlwind; without a post to hold on to, you will get blown away. Journaling can be the post to hold on to when different thoughts, positive or negative, assail your mind. Journaling is simply a way of freezing your many thoughts, experiences, and emotions on paper. It is the process of attempting to understand yourself that eventually leads to self-discovery


Yes, journaling is great. However, it can be confusing for beginners who want to do journaling right but do not know where to start. In this blog post, beginners to journaling can find answers to confusing questions and get samples that can guide them while they create their first journal entry. 


Let’s get started.


Table of Content

Is there a Difference Between a Diary and a Jornal?

How to Start Journaling for Beginners (7 Steps With Sample Entries)

Start Journaling Today


Is there a Difference Between a Diary and a Jornal?

When you began your search for how to start journaling, you probably had an idea in your mind of what it would entail. However, there is a thin chance that what you had in mind was about keeping a diary. 


Though the two words, diary and journal, are frequently used interchangeably they have some key differences. While there are a lot of benefits in journaling and in keeping a diary, knowing the differences can help you decide which of the habits you need to build at the moment (no one says you can’t keep both though). Moreover, it also sets the tone for other information you will get in this blog post.


The difference between a diary and a journal exists on these four levels: 


The style of writing/ depth

In journaling, a person not only identifies his thoughts and emotions but also thinks through them on paper. Journaling involves analyzing your observations, emotions, thoughts and dreams in an attempt to answer the question of how and why. Therefore, the writing style for journaling is usually more expressive. On the other hand, a diary entry is usually a chronological account of activities that occur in a day. It may or may not contain emotions and thoughts you get from the activities.


Focus 

While writing journals focus on recording emotions, thoughts, and observations, diaries focus on recording facts about activities or personal experiences.


Frequency

Since a diary is a daily account of what happens to a person, it should be written every day, as much as possible. Diary entries also come with a date to not only identify when the entry was made but also to account that the entry records the event of the said day. However, journaling can happen less frequently than diary writing, it simply depends on your personal needs and goals.


The purpose

The purpose of keeping a diary is to keep track of daily activities and thoughts that you have. In Anthony Quinn’s words: Writing a diary is a great way to offload – and, if memory fails, it’s a wonderful window into the past. However, the purpose of journaling goes beyond keeping a record of goals and thoughts. It is geared towards growth and self-discovery. 


How to Start Journaling for Beginners (7 Steps With Sample Entries) 


A handsome man wearing an eye glass about to start journaling


Now, that you have decided to start journaling, these steps will guide you through the basics so you can start writing your journal entry.


Identify your journaling goals and purpose.

There are different types of journals which you can keep, from personal reflective journals to creative journals and even travel or food journals. The type of journal you should keep and the theme that governs its writing depends on the answers to the question; why do I want to start journaling? What are the goals I hope to achieve? Answering these questions also helps to keep you going when you don’t feel so motivated. 


To get you started with some ideas, here are examples of journals you can keep, with some sample entries.


Personal journals

These cover reflections of your thoughts, personal relationships and emotions. They contain inner broodings of activities that occur during the day. Reflective journals are an example of personal journals used for therapy.


Sample Entry

Date : January 15, 2025

Today felt like an emotional rollercoaster. I had an unexpected argument with Sarah, and I can’t stop replaying it in my head. I feel like I overreacted, but there’s also a part of me that feels unheard. Why does it always feel so hard to express myself without sounding defensive?

I think this tension stems from the stress of work lately—juggling deadlines has left me feeling drained. I need to work on better communication, even when I'm under pressure. I’ll try to talk to Sarah tomorrow and clear things up.

On a positive note, I felt such warmth when I looked at the sunset this evening. It reminded me of the family vacations we used to take when I was little. Moments like that make me want to hold on tighter to what really matters.


Dreams/ideas journals

You can record creative ideas and aspirations that pop into your mind in this journal. This type of journal contains a bank of your ideas and a future you see.


Sample Entry

Date:  January 15, 2025

Idea:  A Community Garden for Mental Health

I had this idea about creating a community garden where people could volunteer, grow their own produce, and use the space to unwind. It could include little therapy nooks hidden among the plants, and maybe even journaling stations.

The idea feels so fulfilling—combining nature, mental health, and creativity. If I start small, maybe I could pitch this to a local community center. I’ll research grants for community projects tomorrow.


Goal-oriented journals

These types of journals help you plan, track and review your goals. It is like your goal sketchbook containing goals, actionable steps to achieve them and periodic reviews. You can do this with our wellness journal


Sample Entry

Date:  January 15, 2025

Monthly Goal:  Read 3 Books Daily Actions:

Finish Chapter 7 of Atomic Habits

Research summaries for two other books I’ve shortlisted

I’m on track with my goal so far. Reading has helped me manage my screen time better. The key is consistency—just one chapter a day, and I’ll get there. By the end of the month, I hope to incorporate some of the tips I’ve learned about habit stacking into my daily life.


Bullet journals

This helps you track daily habits and plan your daily to-dos. With bullet journals, you can better organize your daily schedule, ensuring you do key things relevant to your goals per day.


Sample Entry

Date:  January 15, 2025

Daily Habits:

☑ Drink 8 glasses of water

☑ Morning meditation

☑ 30-minute workout

☐ Read for 30 minutes

To-Do List:

Email clients about the project timeline

Call Mom

Schedule dentist appointment

Prep dinner for tomorrow


Spiritual journals

These type of journals is used to record your walk with God. Your lessons about Him as learnt from His words, experiences, mistakes and even by listening to other people of faith. This keeps you more mindful of God’s presence with and will for you.


Sample Entry

Date: 30th May, 2024

Date:  January 15, 2025

Psalm 46:10 — “Be still, and know that I am God.”

This verse feels so timely. My heart has been restless these past few days, worrying about things I can’t control. Tonight, I meditated on the idea of surrender—letting go and trusting in God’s plan.

During prayer, I felt a sense of Christ's peace wash over me. It’s like a reminder that I don’t have to carry every burden alone. I also want to work on extending grace to myself when I fall short, just as God extends grace to me daily.


Artistic journals

This type of journal allows you to express your ideas through art. 


Sample Entry

(Doodled flowers and clouds on the margins of the page)

Today, I sketched an idea for a mural inspired by the colours of dawn. It’s a gradient of soft pinks and blues, with silhouettes of birds in flight. I want to use this piece to symbolize hope and new beginnings.

I’m thinking of experimenting with watercolours for this project—it’ll give the sky a dreamy, ethereal feel. I’ll practice blending techniques this weekend.


It is important to state the sample entries only give you a clue of what each journal type looks like in action. It is not a set-on-stone pattern for writing your journal.


Digital or journaling on paper? Decide

In this next step, you must decide what platform to start writing your journals. Both journaling platforms have their benefits, depending on your preference and journal needs. The table clearly states what to expect from both journaling platforms so you can decide. Since you would mostly be required to keep more than one type of journal, you can use a mix of the two journaling platforms.


Set a routine

As we mentioned previously, journaling can be done less frequently than diary writing. However, it is important to set a routine for your journaling. This helps you stay consistent and get the most benefits from journaling. Your routine should be something that works for you taking into account the goal for each journal type. For instance, your goal-oriented journal would require you to journal periodically maybe on weekends or month ends. Settle the frequency and time of the day workable for you and stick to it.


Choose a comfortable environment

So you have settled all the pre-writing steps. Now for you to actually start writing, this is the first thing you need to do. Seek out a space that allows you to focus and with minimum distractions. Remember that journaling should act as a post that slows down your thoughts, avoiding distractions means that you can focus on your thoughts one at a time to make sense of them. While it is advised that you stick to the journal writing schedule you have set up, you must not have a fixed place for journaling. Try out written in different places that stir your imagination without distracting you.


Start small

This tip is quite clear. Start small. Begin with one or two lines. Don’t pressure yourself to write a full-page journal entry. Simply record a thought that stood out for you during the day or simply note down how and what you feel at the moment. You would also find prompted journals to be a great help.


Experiment and adapt

Try out expressing your thoughts in different forms. If just expressing your thoughts through writing feels repetitive, try out writing poetry or using bullet points to note down what you want to say.

 

Celebrate small wins

Appreciate the little steps you have taken so far. Treat yourself and reward yourself for the effort you have put into self-awareness and growth. Also, when you record an achieved milestone, don’t forget to celebrate that too. Your gratitude journal will be a good place to record your wins. 


Conclusion: Start Journaling Today

Starting something new can feel overwhelming, but remember that journaling doesn’t have to be perfect. It only has to be yours. As a beginner, if you want to start journaling, an important step to take is to start. Write one word, one sentence, or even just jot down how you’re feeling right now. There’s no right or wrong way to journal; it’s all about what works for you.


Think of journaling as a gift you’re giving yourself—a moment of peace amidst the chaos, a place to dream, reflect, and grow. Don’t wait for the perfect time or the perfect words. Your journal is not the place to strive for perfection. Start small, stay consistent, and watch how your journaling habit transforms your perspective, bringing clarity to your thoughts.


Ready to begin? Take the first step by choosing a journal that inspires you. Whether it’s a beautifully bound journal or a digital app, the key is to make it yours. Start today, and let the pages of your journal become the foundation of your personal journey.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR


Akpadolu Chioma

Akpadolu Chioma is a writer who strives to use the power of words to heal, inspire and give value to her readers. When she is not lost in the world of writing, you can find her engrossed in mystery novels, enjoying a good movie, cherishing moments with family or deepening her Christian faith.


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January 9, 2025

Self-Publishing vs Traditional Publishing: Make the Right Choice for Your Book


Self-publishing vs traditional publishing


Nothing beats the pleasure of seeing other people enjoy your creative work. Therefore, in your journey as a writer, you must have asked this question: Do I self-publish my book on Amazon or consider traditional publishing? Even budding writers with no book ready to be published yet ask this question as it prepares them to hit their creative goals.


The truth is that every book has its own unique needs. While it may seem confusing to choose a publishing route, it is important to appreciate that these publishing options are available to us today. This makes it possible for every book’s unique need to be met and, hence, its maximum potential to be explored. 


This blog post is going to be self-publishing vs traditional publishing. We present you with the pros and cons of each publishing route and also attempt to help you identify the unique needs of your book. If you read through till the end, whether as a writer with a book ready to be published or a writer still nursing a book idea, you will be armed with the necessary information needed to make a clear and right decision for your book.


Let’s get into it.


What Exactly are Self-Publishing and Traditional Publishing?

As the name suggests, self-publishing is the process of publishing a book without involving a publishing team or firm. In this publishing route, the author must take care of all the creative processes involved in publishing a book, from editing to marketing, or outsource the professional services he requires for a fee. 


However, in traditional publishing, an author leaves their work to the care of a publishing team. This expert team then handles the entire creative process including editing, book covers, printing and even marketing. Traditional publishing frees up the author to do what he enjoys and does best.


Self-Publishing Vs Traditional Publishing: The Factors to Consider


The question of which publishing model is better, self-publishing or traditional, depends on the book to be published, the resources available to the author, and the author’s preference. Both self-publishing and traditional publishing offer authors some perks and some challenges. These must be well understood before a decision on what publishing model to take is made. 


Books on a bookshelf


Pros of traditional publishingSupport of a professional team

Traditional publishing offers authors a team of professionals who work at every stage of the publishing process to bring out the best in their books. Taking the traditional route also means that authors get to work with a literary agent who guides them through the industry and gives them the momentum they need to thrive in their careers. In simple terms, when an author signs a deal with a traditional publishing firm, he can be sure his books are in safe hands and thus he should have more time to do what he loves, write. 


Wider distribution

Traditional publishing firms use their large connections to ensure that your books are found in large bookstores worldwide. They help the author secure international book deals, and schedule interviews or readings. This gives an author a boost of visibility and credibility, enabling him to grow his career as an author more quickly than self-publishing. 


No upfront payment

Unlike self-publishing, traditional publishing requires the author to make no upfront payment. The royalties entitled to the publishing firm when a book is sold cover the expenses for the publishing process. This advantage is great for writers without a lot of capital. 


It must still be noted that some authors who use the traditional publishing model still use some of their money to fund some of the creative process to give their book the necessary extra boost. This is because traditional publishing houses work with a budget. It’s business, after all. They have a budget assigned for each publishing stage of a book. Therefore, if an author is working with a resource-constrained publishing house, the book may not get the best service unless the budget is supported.


Advance payment

This is a key appeal of traditional publishing. While self-publishing requires authors to pay in advance before their manuscript is published, traditional publishers pay their author, in instalments, a signing bonus. This is the amount which an author can expect to realize from his books regardless of the outcome of its marketing. A first-time author may expect from $1,000 to $10,000. However, this bonus depends on the popularity of the author and how much the firm wants to publish your book.


Prestige

Taking the traditional publishing route gives an emerging author the credibility he needs to take a stand in the industry. It opens up opportunities for awards and bestselling tags.


Cons of traditional publishingLoss of creative control

By signing a book deal with a traditional publishing house, writers give up their creative control. In this model of publishing, writers may have to compromise and end up making changes they do not entirely agree with publishers' push for what they think would sell. This also plays out in other stages in the creative process, from the cover design to marketing. Publishers tend to assign more budget to popular books of the season and then publish some books with little or no promotions. Unlike in self-publishing where the author calls the shots.


Lower royalties

In this model, authors can expect 10 to 15% of the retail price per book sale, which is much lower than what the self-publishing model offers. 


High rate of rejection

To take the traditional publishing route, writers must first seek to land a business deal. However, even that entry point can prove to be very difficult, with about 99% rejection of submitted works. 


Pros of self-publishingHigher royalties

This is one of the biggest appeals of self-publishing. Authors get to earn a lot more per book sale than they would if they went through traditional publishing. Typically, an author can get from 35% to 70% of the retail price per book sale which is about 25% to 55% more than what traditional publishers offer authors. 


At face value, this is great. However, remember that these royalties depend on whether a book is sold or not. This advantage of self-publishing can only be exploited if the author has the necessary resources and patience for marketing and brand building which can be very profitable in the long run. 


Full creative control

Creative control means that the author has the final say on what happens to the book. The author does not need to change any part of their story to satisfy a publisher’s preference. With this creative control, you get to tell your story and display and distribute your story the way you want to do so.


Quick publishing

Self-publishing is made possible with platforms like Amazon KDP, Okadabooks and so on. Thanks to these platforms, it takes less time for a book to go live compared to traditional publishing. With Amazon KDP, your book can go live within 3 - 10 business days


Access to a global market

Self-publishing platforms also make your work available for a wider audience than traditional publishing. Thanks to tools like ebooks and print-on-demand, readers from all over the globe can read your work and request a hard copy if they need one. 


Cons of Self-PublishingUpfront cost

Though self-publishing means that you are not working with a publishing firm, you still don't have all the skills you need to implement the various services your manuscript needs before publishing. There will be a need to seek out professional services for some stages in the creative process. 


While traditional publishers do the gruesome work of editing, proofreading, designing and even distributing and only get their pay when your book is sold, self-publishing requires you to pay for the professional services you can’t render for yourself upfront. 


This can be a huge challenge for people with little or no capital. Yes, thanks to technological advancement, tools like Canva make it possible for authors to execute the creative processes themselves. However, professional input is still required to ensure your book comes out at its best.


Marketing challenges 

In self-publishing, you would have to figure out and implement how to market and promote your book. This usually requires time, financial resources and expertise. It is an important challenge to consider as the high royalty incentive of self-publishing is tied to selling your book. Indie authors typically use social media to market their self-published books. You should try it too.


Limited distribution in bookstores

If one of your dreams of becoming a writer is to see your book in a brick-and-mortar bookstore, then self-publishing may not be the best route for you to take. Usually, bookstores prefer books recommended by traditional publishers. This could be because of the prestige attached to a book that passes through the rigorous and trusted creative process of a popular traditional publishing firm. While it is difficult for self-publishers to get bookstore visibility, it is not impossible. It only requires putting in your best work, a lot of time and building grassroots connections. 


The solution to the self-publishing challenges 

A careful look at the challenges of self-publishing reveals that known authors will not face any of those challenges if they decide to self-publish. Yet, self-publishing seems like the best route for budding writers who find it difficult to find a literary agent. Therefore to solve the challenges of self-publishing, new writers need to find a way to breach the gap and get their name out there. Wingless Dreamer Publisher offers that breach. 


Wingless Dreamer Publisher offers writers the opportunity to get their work published, alongside others, simply by participating in monthly contests. This publishing firm does the editing and proofreading of works that win the contest, then compiles the works into a book. The firm covers the design of the book and its marketing too. Imagine a new writer consistently gets his works published with Wingless Dreamer, he/she will have the boost he requires to get his name out to an audience, an audience he can sell to when he is ready to self-publish.


Conclusion


Choosing between self-publishing and traditional publishing boils down to the unique needs of your book and your goals as an author. A story that demands full creative control or quick publishing might thrive in self-publishing, while a book requiring professional polish and wide distribution may benefit more from traditional publishing. Consider factors such as your budget, marketing expertise, creative preferences, and career aspirations when deciding. Ultimately, both publishing routes offer incredible opportunities to share your story with the world—what matters most is finding the path that best aligns with your vision and maximizes your book’s potential.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR


Akpadolu Chioma


 Akpadolu Chioma is a writer who strives to use the power of words to heal, inspire and give value to her readers. When she is not lost in the world of writing, you can find her engrossed in mystery novels, enjoying a good movie, cherishing moments with family or deepening her Christian faith.

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Self-Publishing vs Traditional Publishing: Which is Better?


Self-publishing vs traditional publishing


Nothing beats the pleasure of seeing other people enjoy your creative work. Therefore, in your journey as a writer, you must have asked this question: Do I self-publish my book on Amazon or consider traditional publishing? Even budding writers with no book ready to be published yet ask this question as it prepares them to hit their creative goals.


The truth is that every book has its own unique needs. While it may seem confusing to choose a publishing route, it is important to appreciate that these publishing options are available to us today. This makes it possible for every book’s unique need to be met and, hence, its maximum potential to be explored. 


This blog post is going to be self-publishing vs traditional publishing. We present you with the pros and cons of each publishing route and also attempt to help you identify the unique needs of your book. If you read through till the end, whether as a writer with a book ready to be published or a writer still nursing a book idea, you will be armed with the necessary information needed to make a clear and right decision for your book.


Let’s get into it.


What Exactly are Self-Publishing and Traditional Publishing?

As the name suggests, self-publishing is the process of publishing a book without involving a publishing team or firm. In this publishing route, the author must take care of all the creative processes involved in publishing a book, from editing to marketing, or outsource the professional services he requires for a fee. 


However, in traditional publishing, an author leaves their work to the care of a publishing team. This expert team then handles the entire creative process including editing, book covers, printing and even marketing. Traditional publishing frees up the author to do what he enjoys and does best.


Self-Publishing Vs Traditional Publishing: The Factors to Consider


The question of which publishing model is better, self-publishing or traditional, depends on the book to be published, the resources available to the author, and the author’s preference. Both self-publishing and traditional publishing offer authors some perks and some challenges. These must be well understood before a decision on what publishing model to take is made. 


Books on a bookshelf


Pros of traditional publishingSupport of a professional team

Traditional publishing offers authors a team of professionals who work at every stage of the publishing process to bring out the best in their books. Taking the traditional route also means that authors get to work with a literary agent who guides them through the industry and gives them the momentum they need to thrive in their careers. In simple terms, when an author signs a deal with a traditional publishing firm, he can be sure his books are in safe hands and thus he should have more time to do what he loves, write. 


Wider distribution

Traditional publishing firms use their large connections to ensure that your books are found in large bookstores worldwide. They help the author secure international book deals, and schedule interviews or readings. This gives an author a boost of visibility and credibility, enabling him to grow his career as an author more quickly than self-publishing. 


No upfront payment

Unlike self-publishing, traditional publishing requires the author to make no upfront payment. The royalties entitled to the publishing firm when a book is sold cover the expenses for the publishing process. This advantage is great for writers without a lot of capital. 


It must still be noted that some authors who use the traditional publishing model still use some of their money to fund some of the creative process to give their book the necessary extra boost. This is because traditional publishing houses work with a budget. It’s business, after all. They have a budget assigned for each publishing stage of a book. Therefore, if an author is working with a resource-constrained publishing house, the book may not get the best service unless the budget is supported.


Advance payment

This is a key appeal of traditional publishing. While self-publishing requires authors to pay in advance before their manuscript is published, traditional publishers pay their author, in instalments, a signing bonus. This is the amount which an author can expect to realize from his books regardless of the outcome of its marketing. This bonus depends on the popularity of the author and how much the firm wants to publish your book.


Prestige

Taking the traditional publishing route gives an emerging author the credibility he needs to take a stand in the industry. It opens up opportunities for awards and bestselling tags.


Cons of traditional publishingLoss of creative control

By signing a book deal with a traditional publishing house, writers give up their creative control. In this model of publishing, writers may have to compromise and end up making changes they do not entirely agree with publishers' push for what they think would sell. This also plays out in other stages in the creative process, from the cover design to marketing. Publishers tend to assign more budget to popular books of the season and then publish some books with little or no promotions. Unlike in self-publishing where the author calls the shots.


Lower royalties

In this model, authors can expect 10 to 15% of the retail price per book sale, which is much lower than what the self-publishing model offers. 


High rate of rejection

To take the traditional publishing route, writers must first seek to land a business deal. However, even that entry point can prove to be very difficult, with about 99% rejection of submitted works. 


Pros of self-publishingHigher royalties

This is one of the biggest appeals of self-publishing. Authors get to earn a lot more per book sale than they would if they went through traditional publishing. Typically, an author can get from 35% to 70% of the retail price per book sale which is about 25% to 55% more than what traditional publishers offer authors. 


At face value, this is great. However, remember that these royalties depend on whether a book is sold or not. This advantage of self-publishing can only be exploited if the author has the necessary resources and patience for marketing and brand building which can be very profitable in the long run. 


Full creative control

Creative control means that the author has the final say on what happens to the book. The author does not need to change any part of their story to satisfy a publisher’s preference. With this creative control, you get to tell your story and display and distribute your story the way you want to do so.


Quick publishing

Self-publishing is made possible with platforms like Amazon KDP, okadabooks and so on. Thanks to these platforms, it takes less time for a book to go live compared to traditional publishing. With Amazon KDP, your book can go live within 3 - 10 business days


Access to a global market

Self-publishing platforms also make your work available for a wider audience than traditional publishing. Thanks to tools like ebooks and print-on-demand, readers from all over the globe can read your work and request a hard copy if they need one. 


Cons of Self-PublishingUpfront cost

Though self-publishing means that you are not working with a publishing firm, you still don't have all the skills you need to implement the various services your manuscript needs before publishing. There will be a need to seek out professional services for some stages in the creative process. 


While traditional publishers do the gruesome work of editing, proofreading, designing and even distributing and only get their pay when your book is sold, self-publishing requires you to pay for the professional services you can’t render for yourself upfront. 


This can prove to be a huge challenge for people with little or no capital. Yes, thanks to technological advancement, tools like Canva make it possible for authors to execute the creative processes themselves, however, professional input is still required to make sure your book comes out at its best.


Marketing challenges 

In self-publishing, you would have to figure out and implement how to market and promote your book. This usually requires time, financial resources and expertise. It is an important challenge to consider as the high royalty incentive of self-publishing is tied to selling your book. Indie authors typically use social media to market their self-published books. You should try it too.


Limited distribution in bookstores

If one of your dreams of becoming a writer is to see your book in a brick-and-mortar bookstore, then self-publishing may not be the best route for you to take. Usually, bookstores prefer books recommended by traditional publishers. This could be because of the prestige attached to a book that passes through the rigorous and trusted creative process of a popular traditional publishing firm. While it is difficult for self-publishers to get bookstore visibility, it is not impossible. It only requires putting in your best work, a lot of time and building grassroots connections. 


The solution to the self-publishing challenges 

A careful look at the challenges of self-publishing reveals that known authors will not face any of those challenges if they decide to self-publish. Yet, self-publishing seems like the best route for budding writers who find it difficult to find a literary agent. Therefore to solve the challenges of self-publishing, new writers need to find a way to breach the gap and get their name out there. Wingless Dreamer Publisher offers that breach. 


Wingless Dreamer Publisher offers writers the opportunity to get their work published, alongside others, simply by participating in monthly contests. This publishing firm does the editing and proofreading of works that win the contest, then compiles the works into a book. The firm covers the design of the book and its marketing too. Imagine a new writer consistently gets his works published with Wingless Dreamer, he/she will have the boost he requires to get his name out to an audience, an audience he can sell to when he is ready to self-publish.


Conclusion

Choosing between self-publishing and traditional publishing boils down to the unique needs of your book and your goals as an author. A story that demands full creative control or quick publishing might thrive in self-publishing, while a book requiring professional polish and wide distribution may benefit more from traditional publishing. Consider factors such as your budget, marketing expertise, creative preferences, and career aspirations when deciding. Ultimately, both publishing routes offer incredible opportunities to share your story with the world—what matters most is finding the path that best aligns with your vision and maximizes your book’s potential.


ABOUT THE AUTHOR


Akpadolu Chioma


 Akpadolu Chioma is a writer who strives to use the power of words to heal, inspire and give value to her readers. When she is not lost in the world of writing, you can find her engrossed in mystery novels, enjoying a good movie, cherishing moments with family or deepening her Christian faith.

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January 2, 2025

12 Classic Books to Read in 2025 to Enhance Your Writing

It’s the start of a new year—a perfect time to plan out the books to read throughout the year. This is especially important for writers, as reading deeply and widely helps to enrich your creative work.


An open book on a table in a garden with a butterfly flying above



Books expose your mind to the cultures of places you may have never been to. It also allows you to experience the literary concepts you are taught practically. As a story unfolds, you see and learn how punctuation, sentence construction, character development, plot, and setting work together to create a mind-blowing experience. And classic books are a great place to start.


Yes, classic books may prove difficult to read. However, these books are regarded as great examples in their various genres for a reason. They are books that have stood the test of time, not forgotten despite many others published in the same genre. This quality of not being forgotten can be due to the book's timeless and universal theme, well-rounded and unforgettable characters, and compelling plot. By reading these classic books, you can learn how the authors managed to pull it off and then, as Austin Kleon would say, steal like an artist! Apply the techniques observed to your writing.


In this blog post, we share 12 classic books you should definitely read in 2025. Before we get into that, though, let’s talk about how to read and enjoy classic books for some of us new to reading classic works.


How to Read Classic Books and Thoroughly Enjoy Them



A man engrossed in a book



Reading classic literature many times feels daunting. The archaic language and the unfamiliar cultural and social context make them seem intimidating. But have no fear! These strategies will help you navigate and unlock the treasures within these timeless works.


Choose Your Adventure Wisely

Start with classic books in genres that you already find fascinating. Do you enjoy mysteries, romance, or philosophical explorations? Do you prefer the social commentary of Jane Austen? The raw emotion common to Dostoevsky? Or Tolkien’s world-building? Choosing a book that aligns with your interests ensures that you remain motivated to work through the initial unfamiliarity of the language and style. Our curated list of 12 classics covers a range of genres, so you’re sure to find one that resonates.


Understand the context

Classic books are timeless books, reflecting the era in which they were written. Therefore, before you start reading one, do a research on the historical and cultural era the classic book reflects. This will help you better understand and appreciate the unique nuances of the plots and characters in the book. 


Explore modern adaptations (but don’t skip the originals)

Some classics have been adapted into contemporary language, which can serve as a helpful introduction. However, as a writer, you’ll find immense value in engaging with the original text. You will find the sophisticated sentence structure, strong imagery, and unique phrasing inspiring your own writing. Though the language of classic literature may seem unfamiliar at first. Don't let it deter you! Embrace the challenge. The more you work at it, you slowly become used to the language. 


Read Slowly and Deliberately

Classic novels are often rich in symbolism, subtext, and intricate character development. Don't indulge the urge to skip some long paragraphs. Read slowly, savour each sentence, and allow yourself time to ponder the deeper meanings and implications that make them timeless.


Read book reviews or summary

When you have tried out these tips and you still can't flow with the classic book, look out for book reviews or summaries on the classic book you are trying to read. This gives you a general picture of what the book is about and helps you flow better while reading it. We share reviews of books from time to time. Keep an eye out for them by subscribing to our newsletter.


Join a Reading Club or Find a Partner

Discussing a classic book with fellow enthusiasts can unlock new interpretations and deepen your understanding. For writers, these conversations can spark creative ideas and help you see the text from multiple angles, enriching your craft. 


Top 12 Classic Books To Read in 2025

Finally, into the main section of this blog post! These are the 12 classic books every writer should definitely add to their reading list this 2025. These great books offer valuable lessons in storytelling, character development, and the use of language. Let's get into it.


Middlemarch by George Eliot


Book cover of Middlemarch by George Eliot

Set in Victorian England, this intricate tale weaves together the lives of multiple characters, exploring ambition, love, and societal expectations. The key themes explored in this classical book are marriage, social class, women's roles, morality, and self-determination.


Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoevsky (1866)


Book Cover of Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoevsky (1866)


A psychological deep dive into the mind of Rodion Raskolnikov, a man who murders to test his moral philosophy, only to be consumed by guilt and existential dread. The key themes explored in this classical book are guilt, morality, justice, redemption, and the human psyche.


1984 by George Orwell (1949)


Book cover of 1984 by George Orwell

A chilling portrayal of a dystopian society where individuality is suppressed, and surveillance is omnipresent. Winston Smith’s quiet rebellion offers a harrowing look at the cost of freedom. The key themes explored in this classical book are totalitarianism, surveillance, manipulation, and the resilience of the human spirit.


Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury (1953)


The book cover of Fahrenheit 451 by Ray Bradbury


In a future where books are banned, fireman Guy Montag begins questioning his role in a society that seeks to suppress knowledge and creativity. The key themes explored in this classical book are censorship, intellectual freedom, the power of literature, and resistance to conformity. Here is a review of this book


The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde (1890)


The book cover of The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde

Dorian Gray’s pursuit of beauty and pleasure leads to his moral downfall, as his portrait reflects his true nature while he remains outwardly untainted. The key themes explored in this classical book are vanity, morality, the cost of indulgence, and the duality of human nature. Here is a review of this book.


The Stranger by Albert Camus (1942)


Book Cover of the Stranger by Albert Camus


Meursault’s detached demeanor and existential outlook on life lead to unexpected consequences, prompting profound questions about meaning and morality. The key themes explored in this classical book are existentialism, alienation, freedom, and societal judgment.


Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston (1937)


Book cover of Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston

Janie Crawford recounts her journey of self-discovery and resilience, breaking societal norms to pursue her unique path to happiness. The key themes explored in this classical book are love, identity, empowerment, and the pursuit of fulfilment.


Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy (1877)


Book cover of Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy

Anna’s illicit affair with Count Vronsky clashes with societal norms, leading to devastating consequences in this exploration of passion and moral dilemmas. The key themes explored in this classical book are love, betrayal, societal constraints, and human fallibility.


Beloved by Toni Morrison (1987)


Book Cover of Beloved by Toni Morrison

Haunted by the ghost of her deceased child, Sethe must confront her past as a runaway slave in this powerful exploration of motherhood and trauma. The key themes explored in this classical book are memory, freedom, sacrifice, and the legacy of slavery.


Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë (1847)


Book Cover of Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë

Jane Eyre’s resilience and moral conviction guide her through life’s hardships, culminating in her quest for love and self-respect. The key themes explored in this classical book are independence, morality, love, and social criticism.


Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen (1813)


Book Cover of Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen


Elizabeth Bennet’s wit and courage shine as she navigates societal expectations and finds unexpected love with Mr. Darcy. The key themes explored in this classical book are marriage, class, gender roles, and personal growth.


Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck (1937)


Book Cover of Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck

A poignant tale of two migrant workers whose dreams of a better life are thwarted by harsh realities during the Great Depression. The key themes explored in this classical book are friendship, loneliness, the American Dream, and human vulnerability.


There you have it. Pick one out of these classic books and delve in following the tips we shared earlier. There are 12 books, so you can try out one for each month! If you get to actually read these books you would see you writing improve.



ABOUT THE AUTHOR


Akpadolu Chioma


Akpadolu Chioma is a writer who strives to use the power of words to heal, inspire and give value to her readers. When she is not lost in the world of writing, you can find her engrossed in mystery novels, enjoying a good movie, cherishing moments with family or deepening her Christian faith.

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