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PRETTY GIRLS LOVE BAD BOYS
PRETTY GIRLS LOVE BAD BOYS is a movement and a mood created by King Guru, which I knew when I saw it! I felt the energy from this man’s voice as I read the book. Even though I thought holy shit - this guy is teaching these men how to manipulate these beautiful women who I try to protect - he's a genius! There are definitely some great men on writeaprisoner I am sure and maybe there’s some who are genuinely lonely and have a lot of love to give but there are also a whole group of men who.. If you give a mouse a cookie!!
I agree there are women out here who are genuinely interested in using men to heal their broken hearts after traumatizing relationships and reaching out to these lonely men who haven’t felt a woman's touch in years; however, there are also more women who are giving, caring and compassionate to the point of getting used and abused again by another man. The mood which is happening is one of mistrust by both parties but the mood we need to create is one of trust and honesty.
So Pretty Girls and Bad Boys that is why we are here! We are here to take this all to Front Street and clear up any and all misconceptions and help everyone get their self-confidence where it needs to be in order to have healthy relationships. We are going to shake this up and get down and dirty with you on any and every subject! Nothings off the table and we will stay 100 always!
I found Guru’s book on Amazon with a friend on a search with my book, it popped up and I thought, “Oh my God, this guy is nuts! He is telling guys to do what I am telling chicks not to listen to!” I knew I had to find him and I did! To be honest, I didn’t think he was gonna want me to write with him but I had to ask.. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know. So I asked, straight up on Front Street and told him what I wanted. He definitely put me through a couple trust tests but you know your Pretty Girl passed since here we are writing together now.
Don’t tell him I said this but I definitely wanted to challenge him and these games he’s running. So please join us in this MOOD we have created… jump in the movement now while it’s fresh and hot and be one of the first to witness this witty banter we have developed in these clapbacks! While you’re waiting for the books we have coming, jump onto our blog page and order our books via the amazon link: www.prettygirlslovebadboys.com As soon as you get on the page, a subscribe button will pop-up, stick in your email address and you’ll be among the first to know when our books will drop!
I agree there are women out here who are genuinely interested in using men to heal their broken hearts after traumatizing relationships and reaching out to these lonely men who haven’t felt a woman's touch in years; however, there are also more women who are giving, caring and compassionate to the point of getting used and abused again by another man. The mood which is happening is one of mistrust by both parties but the mood we need to create is one of trust and honesty.
So Pretty Girls and Bad Boys that is why we are here! We are here to take this all to Front Street and clear up any and all misconceptions and help everyone get their self-confidence where it needs to be in order to have healthy relationships. We are going to shake this up and get down and dirty with you on any and every subject! Nothings off the table and we will stay 100 always!
I found Guru’s book on Amazon with a friend on a search with my book, it popped up and I thought, “Oh my God, this guy is nuts! He is telling guys to do what I am telling chicks not to listen to!” I knew I had to find him and I did! To be honest, I didn’t think he was gonna want me to write with him but I had to ask.. If you don’t ask, you’ll never know. So I asked, straight up on Front Street and told him what I wanted. He definitely put me through a couple trust tests but you know your Pretty Girl passed since here we are writing together now.
Don’t tell him I said this but I definitely wanted to challenge him and these games he’s running. So please join us in this MOOD we have created… jump in the movement now while it’s fresh and hot and be one of the first to witness this witty banter we have developed in these clapbacks! While you’re waiting for the books we have coming, jump onto our blog page and order our books via the amazon link: www.prettygirlslovebadboys.com As soon as you get on the page, a subscribe button will pop-up, stick in your email address and you’ll be among the first to know when our books will drop!
WHERE TO START WITH SELF-LOVE
Pretty Girls,
This is for you! So many of you are so giving and filled with empathy and compassion, which are beautiful qualities; however, they also need to extend to self. No matter how deep you catch feelings there has to be a part of you which stays grounded in self-respect being more important. Let me explain it like this for those of you who are asking how we separate this!
Pretty Girls, you know you are the best girlfriend in the world and you know when your girl asks you for advice you are putting her first. This is what you need to do for yourself. You need to think about your problem or issue or whatever needs to be solved and write it all down. Then Pretty Girls, read it back to yourself like your friend was telling it to you. What advice would you give your friend? You know what you would say - you know what you would want for her! Show the same upfront, real-advice to yourself and then …. Listen to it!
Pretty Girls you have to stop allowing these men to manipulate you. You have to learn to recognize her game and get out of it. You don’t have time to play these cat and mouse or as King Guru puts it hamster in the cage games. You need to recognize real-men, men who plan to step into your life and treat you like a beautiful woman will not be playing childish games and messing around with baby momma’s and side chicks. These men who do that need their egos inflated and generally have underlying mommy issues, which lead them to distrust women.
One of the most important things you can do Pretty Girls is to check and see what type of relationship these Bad Boys have with their moms. If it is dysfunctional and/or he speaks disrespectfully to her or about her - RUN!! This is how he will eventually treat you. Stop and think back about how this has played out in your life and let me know your thoughts! Can’t wait to hear them Beautiful Women!!
This is for you! So many of you are so giving and filled with empathy and compassion, which are beautiful qualities; however, they also need to extend to self. No matter how deep you catch feelings there has to be a part of you which stays grounded in self-respect being more important. Let me explain it like this for those of you who are asking how we separate this!
Pretty Girls, you know you are the best girlfriend in the world and you know when your girl asks you for advice you are putting her first. This is what you need to do for yourself. You need to think about your problem or issue or whatever needs to be solved and write it all down. Then Pretty Girls, read it back to yourself like your friend was telling it to you. What advice would you give your friend? You know what you would say - you know what you would want for her! Show the same upfront, real-advice to yourself and then …. Listen to it!
Pretty Girls you have to stop allowing these men to manipulate you. You have to learn to recognize her game and get out of it. You don’t have time to play these cat and mouse or as King Guru puts it hamster in the cage games. You need to recognize real-men, men who plan to step into your life and treat you like a beautiful woman will not be playing childish games and messing around with baby momma’s and side chicks. These men who do that need their egos inflated and generally have underlying mommy issues, which lead them to distrust women.
One of the most important things you can do Pretty Girls is to check and see what type of relationship these Bad Boys have with their moms. If it is dysfunctional and/or he speaks disrespectfully to her or about her - RUN!! This is how he will eventually treat you. Stop and think back about how this has played out in your life and let me know your thoughts! Can’t wait to hear them Beautiful Women!!
WHEN SOMEONE SHOWS YOU WHO THEY ARE, BELIEVE THEM
There’s often this period at the beginning of a relationship where it’s just the right time between dating and defining. You know that gray area where you think I could leave right now and not look back or I could jump off the cliff and dive into this relationship. This is the time to pay attention to who you are with. The little things are important to notice and remember if someone shows you who they are, believe them.
What you are looking for are red flags, those things that make you want to stop Things that make you wonder if people aren’t who they say they are. There’s a big difference between saying and doing. This is where you have to be mindful and make sure no one is pretending to be something they are not. Who are they showing you with their actions? It’s important for things to be natural and a relationship to flow at the beginning but sometimes when actions and words don’t align, you will feel like you’re hitting speed bumps.
If a relationship starts with a lie about who you are then everything else that happens after that has to fit that lie.
So, if people are coming into a relationship and don’t tell you things like they have children, are going through a divorce, houseless, unemployed, have anger issues, or any other variety of issues then you may see actions and words not aligned. You need to decide what is important to know right away. And if there are any signs of abuse, yelling, screaming, demeaning, etc. Don’t nurse or nurture a relationship like that - it’s bad for both parties, giving the abuser more energy and the abused less energy. It’s dangerous and unhealthy.
It’s important to do your homework on who you are dating or talking with and getting to know them before jumping in and defining the relationship. Humans get set in their ways and sometimes it takes a little while to make sure people are who they say they; eventually other aspects of their personality will begin to show. Some aspects may be great and some may be difficult to deal with; no matter what be certain they meet the value of your worth. If you are dating and you can see your entire future with this person and there are enough good qualities to want to keep reading the book, take that leap and move to the next chapter. If not, put the book down and get back out to the bookstore. If someone shows you who they are - believe them - you’ll save yourself a lot of ..what if’s.. should have… could have. And make sure to bring your true self to a new relationship as well.
What you are looking for are red flags, those things that make you want to stop Things that make you wonder if people aren’t who they say they are. There’s a big difference between saying and doing. This is where you have to be mindful and make sure no one is pretending to be something they are not. Who are they showing you with their actions? It’s important for things to be natural and a relationship to flow at the beginning but sometimes when actions and words don’t align, you will feel like you’re hitting speed bumps.
If a relationship starts with a lie about who you are then everything else that happens after that has to fit that lie.
So, if people are coming into a relationship and don’t tell you things like they have children, are going through a divorce, houseless, unemployed, have anger issues, or any other variety of issues then you may see actions and words not aligned. You need to decide what is important to know right away. And if there are any signs of abuse, yelling, screaming, demeaning, etc. Don’t nurse or nurture a relationship like that - it’s bad for both parties, giving the abuser more energy and the abused less energy. It’s dangerous and unhealthy.
It’s important to do your homework on who you are dating or talking with and getting to know them before jumping in and defining the relationship. Humans get set in their ways and sometimes it takes a little while to make sure people are who they say they; eventually other aspects of their personality will begin to show. Some aspects may be great and some may be difficult to deal with; no matter what be certain they meet the value of your worth. If you are dating and you can see your entire future with this person and there are enough good qualities to want to keep reading the book, take that leap and move to the next chapter. If not, put the book down and get back out to the bookstore. If someone shows you who they are - believe them - you’ll save yourself a lot of ..what if’s.. should have… could have. And make sure to bring your true self to a new relationship as well.
