Constance Daley's Blog - Posts Tagged "coersion"
Coercion
Of all my stories currently available on Amazon, No-Telling is probably the most objectionable to the largest number of people. There are a lot of reasons for this, but I'm not going to discount the fact that the level of coercion is very high in this story. I'm also not going to lie, I find coercion sexy, but only when the coercion leads to pleasure.
In a society where many women still have their sexuality stifled, they can allow themselves to be talked into something they want to do anyway. By offering lip service to denial, they don't gain the negative reputation from their actions because they had to be talked into it. I find the fact that society functions in this way distressing, but I also write for women as we are, not as we should be. Which brings me back to coercion in my stories.
For the women who need some type of permission to explore their fantasies, having the character be coerced allows them to inhabit the character more fully. Freeing the character from culpability allows the writer to push boundaries that could not be explored otherwise. Most women would not be comfortable with the character in No-Telling if she initiated the actions, but because she is just as forced as her lover, there is no blame. So it's okay when she gets turned on by things that are beyond the pale of normal society.
Human sexuality is a tangled knot, and the knot unravels in different ways for each of us. To a certain extent, once we reach a certain age it is monumentally difficult to change the way we view sex. For some women, brought up in certain ways, it will never be okay in their own minds for them to be turned on by certain things. This actually applies to many women to at least a certain extent (myself included, there are still things in the bedroom that are much more erotic if I'm playing the submissive, allowing it to be done to me instead of asking for it to be done). There are no easy answers or solutions to any of this.
In a society where many women still have their sexuality stifled, they can allow themselves to be talked into something they want to do anyway. By offering lip service to denial, they don't gain the negative reputation from their actions because they had to be talked into it. I find the fact that society functions in this way distressing, but I also write for women as we are, not as we should be. Which brings me back to coercion in my stories.
For the women who need some type of permission to explore their fantasies, having the character be coerced allows them to inhabit the character more fully. Freeing the character from culpability allows the writer to push boundaries that could not be explored otherwise. Most women would not be comfortable with the character in No-Telling if she initiated the actions, but because she is just as forced as her lover, there is no blame. So it's okay when she gets turned on by things that are beyond the pale of normal society.
Human sexuality is a tangled knot, and the knot unravels in different ways for each of us. To a certain extent, once we reach a certain age it is monumentally difficult to change the way we view sex. For some women, brought up in certain ways, it will never be okay in their own minds for them to be turned on by certain things. This actually applies to many women to at least a certain extent (myself included, there are still things in the bedroom that are much more erotic if I'm playing the submissive, allowing it to be done to me instead of asking for it to be done). There are no easy answers or solutions to any of this.
