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January 11, 2020
Pretending to be happy isn’t happiness
Happiness is not a choice. It is not a switch you can flip. It is not the result of only having & appreciating positive experiences.
Happiness is the result of having a healthy attitude that allows one to find value in all life experiences, not just the “good” ones.
Pretending to be happy isn’t happiness – and it isn’t healthy. While you may fool some, you won’t fool the one person that it matters to most – yourself. It’s better to admit you’re not happy & work towards a solution than pretend...
January 8, 2020
Confusing authenticity with conformity
Too many people say they want people to be themselves while simultaneously criticizing those who are.
It should go without saying, but “being authentic” does not translate to “conform to what your idea of normal is”.
Don’t say you desire authenticity from people and then criticize them for being themselves or fault them for failing to cater to what your idea of normal is.
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January 6, 2020
Life isn’t just about accomplishments
Life isn’t just about accomplishments, it’s about experiences. It’s about the stories of our lives. You don’t have to reach the top of a mountain to have a great story about trying to get there.
Seek interesting experiences that make great stories. Success is overrated.
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Mockery vs encouragement
If you see someone putting in a genuine effort to do their best — even if what they’re doing falls short of your standards — consider giving them honest encouragement.
Laughing at or mocking people who are doing their best says a lot about a person (and it ain’t good).
Be kind.
If you can help ease someone’s burden or do something that makes a person’s day better, please don’t hesitate.
Patience. Smiles. Laughter. Compassion. Meaningful connections. Touch a life. Show what it means to be a...
I always wanted to…
So many success stories start with, “I always wanted to…”
followed by,
“And then I started…”
What have you always wanted to do?
Stop waiting.
Start doing it.
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January 5, 2020
Body language
Everyone becomes an apparent expert in body language the moment someone does something that suggests something that the person interpreting it wants to see.
The fact is, we often find what we seek – positive or negative – and project what we want to see onto something that would otherwise be neutral or allow for multiple interpretations.
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Success is overrated
Life isn’t just about accomplishments, it’s about experiences. It’s about the stories of our lives. You don’t have to reach the top of a mountain to have a great story about trying to get there. Seek interesting experiences that make great stories.
Success is overrated.
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January 3, 2020
True friendship
You’re better off with friends with whom you don’t agree with on everything than you are with friends you do.
One encourages you to see the value in other people’s perspectives while the other tends to paint the world in a way that doesn’t reflect reality.
Cherish the people in your life with whom you can be yourself or disagree with without fear of losing their friendship. This is a far more genuine form of friendship than one in which you’re afraid to express yourself because of what they...
The opposite of bravery
The world runs rampant with people afraid to openly appreciate what they like, afraid to speak the truth, afraid of criticism, afraid of discomfort, afraid to voice their opinion, afraid of other people’s opinions, afraid of making mistakes, afraid of being wrong, afraid to be themselves, afraid to give a damn, afraid of change, afraid of independent thinking, afraid of being alone, afraid of going after what they want…
What’s the opposite of bravery again?
Have you ever taken the time to...
January 2, 2020
Caring is cool
Let 2020 begin a decade where we do away with glorifying “zero f*cks” and IDGAF culture.
Lack of caring isn’t cool, it isn’t brave, and it certainly isn’t strong. You know what’s cool? Being brave enough & strong enough to care about things without giving the feedback you get a direct line to your ego.
Feedback from life experience – especially criticism – is an absolutely essential part of personal growth. You can care about what people think without letting it impact your sense of...
