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Being Effective
Making effective choices can help us reach our goals, but sometimes our need to be right can stand in our way.
At first, when we're faced with an obstacle, we often react emotionally and try to defend our present position. Let's take an everyday example. If you go into a store and the line to purchase your item is long, what should you do? You could complain to the manager, it's within your right to be annoyed, but that will not help you buy your item any faster. Even leaving the store and buying the product online may not be the answer. This will certainly take longer than waiting it out. Most likely, the best solution is to keep your cool and suffer the long line. You may be in your right to complain, but the most effective way for you to leave with your product is to wait.
The point is, when you have a goal in mind, don't let your emotions get the better of you. Being right about something may feel good in the moment, but it may not get you closer to success.
My first book, Camouflage, took me two years to find a publisher. I liked the original story but when more than one publisher said the action did not start soon enough, I put emotions to the side and acknowledged professionals in the industry know more than I do.
To reach your goals, analyze the reality of the situation. Validate your emotions and then put them aside. Take the necessary steps by focusing on what actions will be most effective. Then, you can take pride in knowing it was your effective behaviors that led you to success.
At first, when we're faced with an obstacle, we often react emotionally and try to defend our present position. Let's take an everyday example. If you go into a store and the line to purchase your item is long, what should you do? You could complain to the manager, it's within your right to be annoyed, but that will not help you buy your item any faster. Even leaving the store and buying the product online may not be the answer. This will certainly take longer than waiting it out. Most likely, the best solution is to keep your cool and suffer the long line. You may be in your right to complain, but the most effective way for you to leave with your product is to wait.
The point is, when you have a goal in mind, don't let your emotions get the better of you. Being right about something may feel good in the moment, but it may not get you closer to success.
My first book, Camouflage, took me two years to find a publisher. I liked the original story but when more than one publisher said the action did not start soon enough, I put emotions to the side and acknowledged professionals in the industry know more than I do.
To reach your goals, analyze the reality of the situation. Validate your emotions and then put them aside. Take the necessary steps by focusing on what actions will be most effective. Then, you can take pride in knowing it was your effective behaviors that led you to success.
