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3 Ways to Manage Sadness and Grief

I’m Dr. Deb Sandella, founder of the RIM (Regenerating Images in Memory) Institute with 3 healthy ways you can manage sadness and grief…

Remember:

Although the loss happens all at once, GRIEVING is a PROCESS that can take 1-2 years depending on the significance of the lost relationship. Imagine waves of feeling coming in and washing over you and then receding just like ocean waves. The process flows through in many waves.
Grieving includes many feelings like shock, denial, anger, blame and depression before arriving at acceptance. Be gentle with yourself!
Allowing your feelings as much as possible keeps them flowing through rather than getting stuck in your body and creating hidden blocks.
An easy activity to facilitate allowing emotional waves to wash over you effortlessly

What’s That Noise in Your Head?

What’s that noise in your head?

Could be just chatter or it could be your emotional system trying to get your attention with an important message for your health, relationships, or success.

Mind chatter may be unnecessary, but if it’s happening it means there’s something to learn. Instead of guilting yourself, realize it is just your body trying to get your attention to tell you something isn’t working as easily as it could.

When you welcome the chatter and shift your attention to find it in your body, great insights, creative ideas and solutions appear! So don’t damn that chatter–thank it for introducing a new conversation you haven’t considered–YET!

This brief audio meditation will sense any unnecessary noise in you and help you decipher it! You are learning how to dip into a new level of understanding yourself and it feels so good to know your natural emotional system is working on your behalf– you’re just learning how to use it!

http://www.riminstitute.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/June-2016-Meditation.mp3

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Worry and Fear

Hi, Michael Kline here, Master RIM Facilitator at Intus, filling in for my good friend, Dr. Deb Sandella at the RIM Institute.

Today I want to talk about worry and fear. I never invite them – or at least I seldom invite them – but they still feel obligated to show up whenever I have something new going on in my life. Perhaps you know them too. For some people, worry and fear-show up so often you can barely get them off your mind. I work frequently with clients who allow-worry and fear to interrupt-their work, their relationships and even their health, so let’s-talk about what we can do to get rid of these nuisance visitors.

It helps to remember that you are-not your emotions or your thoughts or your beliefs. You can observe your thoughts, emotions and beliefs, so you are-separate from them. You can notice them when they show up, you can be happy to see them (or not). You can invite them in (or not). You can ask them what they want, learn from them and send them on their way when you’re ready for them to go. The thing to remember – the secret to real freedom – is knowing that you-are not your thoughts, emotions and beliefs

The real key here is to welcome them. What we resist, persists – so welcome them and notice where they show up specifically: do they show up in your gut, in your heart, as a headache behind your eyes Where do they physically show up and what do-they look like: is there a-color, is there a shape, do they have a face or are they just a sense of energy about them Have the-conversation, learn what you can and allow them to leave in their own time. You-see, when we welcome even negative thoughts, beliefs-and emotions they tend to dissipate naturally. When we hide them in the dark they-tend to grow and fester. Remember: mold grows in the dark; flowers blossom in the light. Let’s shine a-light on everything

True fear is a natural safety feature that-protects us from danger. Worry is often a useless and unhealthy state that diminishes when we shine a light on it – when we ask the question “What’s real?” When presented with that question, worry tends to disappear because it is not real.

Fear is often real: fear that you’re not good enough or-won’t be able to handle the situation, fear that you’ll be lonely, fear that you’ll fail, fear that you won’t be able to live up to the expectations if you succeed. It’s a warning to tell us to take action: that there’s something else we could do to produce-the outcome we want. Worry is simply what we do instead of taking fear’s good advice. Like all emotions, we want to welcome fear, learn what it has to say, listen to its advice and then let it dissipate naturally. Ironically, that which we fear-we could easily avoid simply by taking action instead of worrying about it.

Stop Attracting What You Don’t Want

Are You Attracting What You Don’t Want?

Science reveals that when original experience gets stuck in your craw–so to speak–it has a magnetic pull to attract more of the same. For example, women who witnessed their mothers being assaulted by their partners have a vastly increased chance of falling into domestic violence and women with childhood abuse and neglect are seven times more likely to be raped in adulthood.

The really good news is that research also finds your memory is plastic and changeable! You can rewrite a sabotaging memory with an empowering one. You locate the charged event and regenerate it in an affirming way. It’s similar to unlocking the screen of your smartphone by pressing one of the icons until they all start to jiggle. Once memory is unlocked on your phone or in your brain, you can make changes and deletions, then lock the changes. In today’s meditation, you’ll get a small taste of how this works.

This 6 min. audio meditation will demonstrate the emotional power of memory and how important it is to consider what’s hidden in your brain and nervous system that’s stopping you without you knowing it. Interestingly, these forgotten critical moments usually go back to times that have been resolved in real life, but the original painful memory is stuck in the body and hidden. As you know how to work your emotional operating system (EOS), you learn how to locate and regenerate stuck moments for more successful, and healthy outcomes.

http://www.riminstitute.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/May_2016-Meditation.mp3

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Blessings,

Dr. deb