Rachel G. Scott's Blog, page 3
April 22, 2018
Making Her House My Home: How To
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In my teenage years and through college, I had a pretty clear vision for what my first home was going to be. I was imagining a small apartment or a little townhouse, something in a big bustling city with very little square footage. What I was not expecting was a 4 bedroom, 2 bathroom house partially attached to a restaurant in a part of Pennsylvania that I had never visited let alone wanted to live in. Oh, and to make matters worse, it was the house my husband shared with h...
April 18, 2018
Comforted to Comfort: How To Parent Well, After The Loss of A Spouse
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All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.
2 Corinthians 1:4-5
It was overwhelming enough to endure all the heartache and pain that I felt because of Stephanie’s death. But it was an even worse pain to consider how my son and daughter would be forever...
April 12, 2018
Loving the “Un-Loveable” Through Divorce and Custody
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My first experience as a mom was when I became a step-mom!
When I married my husband, I became a step-mother to three children. During that time in our lives, custody was a scary subject. Both sides of the divorce were still living in chaos, trying to pursue healing, and create a new normal. It definitely took a toll on the kids. The greatest heartbreak, in my opinion, was the 2 1/2-year-old that was stuck in the middle. She had no idea what it was like to have both par...
April 10, 2018
Stepkids Are Not Accidents
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When I first joined the family, my stepdaughter shared with me that she was “an accident.” As a believer, I am acutely aware that our words have the power of life and death (Proverbs 18:21). I realized that she must have overheard an adult conversation, and it hurt to know that these words were spoken over her. Her mom and my husband were never married, and over the years, I’ve become very aware that her story differs from my stepson’s (his mom and my husband are divor...
April 3, 2018
Open My Eyes: How To See Beyond the Pain
2 Kings 6:17 “ Then Elisha prayed and said, O Lord, please open his eyes that he may see. So the Lord opened the eyes of the young man, and he saw, and behold, the mountain was full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha.”
We all have painful memories. Memories that hurt to the core every time we revisit that moment through our thoughts. You know the memories I’m referring to. The memories that immediately disrupt your reality and send you back in time to a place of devastation....
April 1, 2018
Can You Really Love Everybody The Same?
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What is love? No, I’m not referring to the song by Haddaway from the 90s. I’m talking about feelings we have for one another or towards something. Merriam-Webster defines love in multiple ways: (1) a strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties, (2) warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion, and (3) unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for another. We all have our own definition of love, per se, but in a blended family, love is definite...
March 27, 2018
Does “Justice for All” Really Apply During A Custody Battle?
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Going to court is an experience I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. In hopes to find a resolution, we are often left with more questions and uncertainties than before it all began.
“Why are magistrates and judges so insensitive?”
“Why do the courts favor women?”
“Why do they favor the men?”
“Why are lawyers often so ineffective and unreliable but often required?”
“Why won’t they listen?”
“Why does everyone ignore the facts?”
“What happens if someone doesn’t follow the parenting agr...
March 25, 2018
Be Faithful Where You Are
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“I want you to know that what has happened to me has really served to advance the gospel.” Philippians 1:12
What challenge are you facing that has your heart crippled with fear? Is it a child custody battle? A failing marriage? A disrespectful teenager?
In the book of Philippians, Paul is writing a letter to the church in Philippi while he is sitting in prison. Paul was definitely facing a challenge-Imprisonment! You may not be sitting in a literal prison...
March 21, 2018
When A Change In Custody Feels Like Betrayal
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I never thought I would ever find myself inside a courtroom, testifying under oath, being cross-examined, and waiting for a call from a lawyer to tell me how drastically my life was about to change. But that, my friends, is the ugly side of custody battles. It’s taking your everyday life and opening it up to be poked, prodded, interpreted, viewed, and judged by others. And not only can the final ruling change your life, but so can the bruises and open wounds ca...
March 20, 2018
Prayer and Support in the Season of Court
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Court and custody, what a challenging experience for any blended family. It is one of the heaviest things we can walk through. To share custody and decisions with someone who often disagrees with you and is difficult to get along with and to have to do this during and after a custody battle is humbling.
I am the stepdad and I can tell you this topic is even hard for me. Hard because I see how difficult it can be for my wife and the children involved, which seems to alway...
