Rachel G. Scott's Blog, page 2
June 5, 2018
The Ex Anti-Dad Movement Member
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Long before I became part of a blended family, my goal was to be a single mom. Yep, you read that right. Not a single mom by divorce or death, but to start off my family with just me and a ragamuffin band of adopted or foster kids. Though my intentions seemed to be in line with that of Mother Theresa, my actual reasoning was less than honorable. I think the best way I could sum up my feelings towards marriage and being a wife was as follows, “ain’t nobo...
June 3, 2018
Vacation – Embrace Time with or without your Children
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School’s…out…for summer!! School’s…out…forever! OK OK, so school isn’t out forever, but Alice Cooper nailed the sentiment of my girls at the end of every school year with his catchy lyrics and head-banging tune. Due to my flexible job, I have been blessed to be able to spend time with them every summer since their dad and I divorced. And I love it. Summer is a time of slowing down. Of relaxing. Of “stopping to smell the roses” for all of us. And…it’s a time for VACATION!...
May 30, 2018
Mother’s Day Martyrdom
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This year I celebrated my first Mother’s Day as a “real mom” – you know, the kind of mom that gets to keep, cuddle, and celebrate all day with her child; not drop them off at 9 am to celebrate the day with their “real mom”. So, let’s take a look back at my first few Mother’s Days.
Every year, without fail, Mother’s Day falls on “our, time” aka dad’s time. This means we have to return the children several hours early so they can celebrate Mother’s Day with their mother. Seem...
May 22, 2018
Be Kind to Yourself: Gift to A Stepmom
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The journey of blended motherhood can be completely overwhelming and utterly beautiful. Somehow pain and joy coexist. One day we feel like oh yeah, I got this and the next we feel like crying in the bathroom with a pint of ice cream. In this daily struggle, it can often seem like we are losing ourselves.
In my experience, entering into a blended family dynamic shook me to the core of my identity. Before embarking on this adventure, I actually had a measure of confidence...
May 21, 2018
’Stepmom’ is (Not) a Dirty Word
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What comes to mind when you think of a “dirty word”? I’m sure quite a few words pop in your head…hopefully the word ‘stepmom’ isn’t one of them! But in our culture, sadly, the word ‘stepmom’ can be offensive or unbecoming to some people. Maybe it’s the media, which has portrayed stepmothers in a negative light in movies and stories. Or perhaps a handful of stepmoms have been featured on the news for not-so-great behavior.
A thing regarded with dislike o...
May 17, 2018
When “Mom” Becomes a Dirty Word
I have wanted to be a mom since before I can remember. Seriously. Mothering has been so ingrained in my DNA that I was always mothering someone, somewhere for as long as I can remember.
When I met my husband, he had three children from his previous marriage, had recently become a Christian, and was experiencing a complete life change. I thought, “Maybe this is why I’ve always wanted to be a mom. Maybe this is the fulfillment of my calling!” I was a stark contrast to the people he usually hun...
May 13, 2018
Loving the Mother and Wife God Gave Me
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My first experience with love was with my mother. Mom was such a loving and self-sacrificing person. She always made me feel like I was the most important person on the planet. She would help me catch spiders when I was 8. She would come and meet me several times a week when I started school in the first grade and take me to lunch at my favorite place, Bozo Hot Dogs. She would comfort me when I fell down, when I had bad dreams, or when my tummy hurt.
I could go...
May 8, 2018
What’s a Stepmom to Do with Mother’s Day?
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I’m not sure where I stand on the Mother’s Day holiday. Some years it passes by without incident or injury, while others I am surprised to find myself a hot mess the week of and the week after! I sat down to write this post with my head full of lofty ideas and supermom encouragement, but I was left with exactly what I think all of us stepmoms need this time of the year: permission to be human, and Jesus standing by to bridge the gap.
First of all, Mother’s Day is just awkward...
May 6, 2018
A New Perspective For Mother’s Day: Having a Mary Attitude
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Mother’s Day can look completely different in blended families; maybe even a little awkward at times. It’s so easy to allow our thoughts to start drifting and the next thing we know we are comparing our Mother’s Day to someone else’s Mother’s Day. Before long we are feeling defeated and just plain different. We might even feel like it’s not fair.
April 29, 2018
A Unified Marriage: Things I Never Learned In Marriage Counseling
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One of the hardest parts of parenting is no day is the same, yet, the days can run into weeks and feel unending. This can weigh heavy on any couple. When parenting and marriage get hard, the days seem extra long. It’s easy to get stuck feeling like those hard moments or days are all the time or every day. We have learned it is important to keep things in perspective. It is important to not let our emotions paint the perspective. I have a hard time showing love to my spouse w...
