Debmita Dutta's Blog, page 9
February 25, 2025
Don't make your child OBEDIENT
âDon't make your child OBEDIENT
If your child does not learn to say NO
If your child does not learn to speak up when they are treated unfairly
If your child does not learn to insist on getting what they deserve
They will always be given
More work
Less salary
Delayed promotions
Stop insisting on obedience
Teach communication skills
Type SUCCESS and share this now to make your child SUCCESSFUL
#obedience #discipline #work
If your child does not learn to say NO
If your child does not learn to speak up when they are treated unfairly
If your child does not learn to insist on getting what they deserve
They will always be given
More work
Less salary
Delayed promotions
Stop insisting on obedience
Teach communication skills
Type SUCCESS and share this now to make your child SUCCESSFUL
#obedience #discipline #work
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February 22, 2025
What are we really saying when we say - They don't listen
Dr Debmita Dutta MBBS, MD
What are we really saying when we say that?
Leaders I work with - say that about their teams.
Parents I work with - say that about their children.
But what are they really saying?
They are saying that they are poor communicators.
The onus of understanding lies with the person speaking. Not with the person listening.
People don’t LISTEN when they don’t UNDERSTAND.
When I tell leaders this, they are indignant.
They say – “But my instruction is absolutely CLEAR.”
Yes – being clear is important.
But it tells the listener WHAT TO DO.
It does not tell the listener WHY
And no thinking human being will do something if they don’t understand the WHY - unless there are CONSEQUENCES.
When communication only focuses on telling people what to do - we are compelled to bring inconsequences in the form of REWARDS and PUNISHMENTS to get things done.
Rewards and punishments make people feel CONTROLLED
And that kills motivation.
QUIET QUITTING is the new term we are using to describe this.
Gen Z are digital natives. They have their own way of getting things done. We don’t need to tell them WHAT TO DO.
We only need to help them understand WHY.
The problem is – that as leaders – we often don’t know WHY either.
That is why we are so focused on the WHAT.
Through my work I help leaders and parents articulate their WHY.
When we find ourselves frustrated because “they don’t listen to me” – It is time to explore our own WHY.
Do you agree?
#motivation #quietquitting #genZ
“They just don’t listen.”
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What are we really saying when we say that?
Leaders I work with - say that about their teams.
Parents I work with - say that about their children.
But what are they really saying?
They are saying that they are poor communicators.
The onus of understanding lies with the person speaking. Not with the person listening.
People don’t LISTEN when they don’t UNDERSTAND.
When I tell leaders this, they are indignant.
They say – “But my instruction is absolutely CLEAR.”
Yes – being clear is important.
But it tells the listener WHAT TO DO.
It does not tell the listener WHY
And no thinking human being will do something if they don’t understand the WHY - unless there are CONSEQUENCES.
When communication only focuses on telling people what to do - we are compelled to bring inconsequences in the form of REWARDS and PUNISHMENTS to get things done.
Rewards and punishments make people feel CONTROLLED
And that kills motivation.
QUIET QUITTING is the new term we are using to describe this.
Gen Z are digital natives. They have their own way of getting things done. We don’t need to tell them WHAT TO DO.
We only need to help them understand WHY.
The problem is – that as leaders – we often don’t know WHY either.
That is why we are so focused on the WHAT.
Through my work I help leaders and parents articulate their WHY.
When we find ourselves frustrated because “they don’t listen to me” – It is time to explore our own WHY.
Do you agree?
#motivation #quietquitting #genZ
What are we really saying when we say that?
âThey just donât listen.â
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What are we really saying when we say that?
Leaders I work with - say that about their teams.
Parents I work with - say that about their children.
But what are they really saying?
They are saying that they are poor communicators.
The onus of understanding lies with the person speaking. Not with the person listening.
People donât LISTEN when they donât UNDERSTAND.
When I tell leaders this, they are indignant.
They say â âBut my instruction is absolutely CLEAR.â
Yes â being clear is important.
But it tells the listener WHAT TO DO.
It does not tell the listener WHY
And no thinking human being will do something if they donât understand the WHY - unless there are CONSEQUENCES.
When communication only focuses on telling people what to do - we are compelled to bring inconsequences in the form of REWARDS and PUNISHMENTS to get things done.
Rewards and punishments make people feel CONTROLLED
And that kills motivation.
QUIET QUITTING is the new term we are using to describe this.
Gen Z are digital natives. They have their own way of getting things done. We donât need to tell them WHAT TO DO.
We only need to help them understand WHY.
The problem is â that as leaders â we often donât know WHY either.
That is why we are so focused on the WHAT.
Through my work I help leaders and parents articulate their WHY.
When we find ourselves frustrated because âthey donât listen to meâ â It is time to explore our own WHY.
Do you agree?
#motivation #quietquitting #genZ
February 18, 2025
Do you shout at your child when they are studying?
Do you shout at your child when they are studying?
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Stop now
It is destroying their brain
They will never do well in exams if you shout
Watch the video to know why
Type STOP and stop shouting
Share this now so that others who shout at your child stop shouting
February 14, 2025
Do you use a sippy cup?
âDo you use a sippy cup?
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Stop now
Sippy cups can cause speech delays and picky eating
Here is what happens when sippy cups are used
1. Your child does not develop a mature swallow pattern.
This makes them dislike foods with new textures
And makes them fussy and slow eaters
2. Your childâs mouth and tongue muscles remain weak
This results in difficulty pronouncing some words
3. When a child uses a sippy cup - they often drink an excess of fluids
This fills them up and makes them refuse to eat solid food
4. When a child uses a sippy cup, they talk less because their mouth is full.
This results in the child talking less and learning slowly
When your baby turns 6 months old â start them on a tiny open cup like the cups used to give medicine.
When your baby turns 9 months old you can introduce a cup with a short chewable silicone straw.
Type STOP and stop using a sippy cup today.
SHARE THIS NOW and let all parents know
#sippycup #fussyeating #speechdelay #pickyeating
3 tips for eating during exams
3 tips for eating during exams
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Tip 1
Focus on SNACKS not meals
Full meals are difficult to eat when they are stressed
Ensure that the Snack has
Complex carbs for energy
Crunch for stress relief
Tip 2
Avoid tea coffee and energy drinks
They increase anxiety and decrease focus
Serve milkshakes with a straw
Milkshakes give energy
Sucking with a straw Reduces stress
Tip 3
Add curd to the diet
Curd provides proteins and probiotics
Protein and Probiotic build immunity and reduce stress.
Type GOOD LUCK And share this now to ensure that your child does their best in the exams
#exams #cbse #icse #boardexam
February 11, 2025
Do you feel sad that you are bringing your child up in a small town and not in a metro city?
Do you feel sad that you are bringing your child up in a small town and not in a metro city?
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Don't feel sad
Small towns have things that help you build big brains
Happy parenting!!
#parenting
The home routine for exam success
Dr Debmita Dutta MBBS, MD
Follow these 3 tips to create a home routine that will help them get good marks
#exams #boardexam #cbse #icse #isc
Is your child taking exams?
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Follow these 3 tips to create a home routine that will help them get good marks
#exams #boardexam #cbse #icse #isc
Is your child taking exams?
Is your child taking exams?
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Follow these 3 tips to create a home routine that will help them get good marks
#exams #boardexam #cbse #icse #isc
