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May 17, 2017
From Hope Valley (Week 14): The Beautiful Hope of Loving Someone Freely

This exchange gently speaks to the situation that all of us will encounter at some point in life- loving someone who has changed or is not responding to us the way that we long for. Despite the pain that Jolene expresses and the longing we may have for going back to a "different time", Elizabeth's words gently remind us that there is a hope in loving someone freely, no matter the response.
I think that it goes without saying that relationships in all forms can be difficult and messy. Circumstances can change people, life happens, and before we know it may seem that the person that we loved is a completely different person than who we knew before. Despite your attempt at loving someone, it may feel that your loving words fall on deaf ears. You may feel that despite your loving actions all you are receiving is hurt. You may long, as Jolene did, for how things were in the past.
You may be in a situation or in a relationship where it doesn't matter what type of kindness you show. You may have a friend who has changed and is not speaking life-giving words to you. You may be in a really tough situation with a co-worker or a family member like Jolene was. You may be in a relationship with someone who is not acting loving.
As you set appropriate boundaries in your life with these types of relationships, remember your love has the power to change the course of the future. You may see in a short time what love can do (like Jolene and her family did) or it may take years upon years and decades upon decades before you see a change. In truth, we may never see the impact that our love has had on people until we get to Heaven, but as Elizabeth gently reminds Jolene, all we can do is love people. While there are definitely boundaries that need to be placed in certain situations, in others there are times where we give up to soon. We walk away because it is easier to walk away instead of loving someone.
But friends, let's hold on to the beautiful truth of the hope that there is in loving someone. The truth that our love has the capacity to change someone's life. Let's let go of the expectations of how someone will respond and love them freely. Let's let go of putting the expectation of how someone will act or respond to love and just love. Let's live differently than the world around us instead spread love.
Mother Teresa once said, "Small things done with great love can change the world." Isn't that an amazing thought to ponder as we think through the profound truth that is found in the hope of loving someone freely? Your love today and the investment that you make into love has the potential to change the world.
You may be a mama reading this who is in the midst of dirty diapers or temper tantrums just trying to keep up with all of the demands. Your love that you are investing right now will change your children's lives. You may have a co-worker who is completely difficult to work with. The time that you take to practically love and try to step into this person's life could change the entire office. You may be a teacher with a student who continuously acts out and you are counting down the days till summer vacation. Use these next days and weeks to pour love into this student and who knows how you may change your school. The list goes on and on but the theme remains the same... there is a beautiful hope found in loving someone freely.
It doesn't matter the situation or where you are at in life. Everyone that you encounter needs love. Love that offers a smile, a kindness, a listening ear, or a word of encouragement. Love that builds into relationships day after day, month after month, and year after year. Love given freely will never come back without a person being changed. Keep pressing on, keep the faith, and live in the beautiful hope of loving someone freely.
"...So no, matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I'm bankrupt without love.
Love never gives up.
Love cares more for others than for self...
Love ...puts up with anything,
trusts God always,
always looks for the best,
never looks back, but keeps going to the end.
Love never dies."
-Portions of I Corinthians 13:4-8, the Message-

I receive several emails a week asking where you can watch older episodes of "When Calls the Heart". If you have a Netflix account you can find seasons 1-3 there or you can purchase them on Amazon. You can purchase and watch all of the seasons and episodes by clicking on the links below:When Calls the Heart, Season 1When Calls the Heart, Season 2When Calls the Heart, Season 3When Calls the Heart, Season 4 (All of the episodes from the Season are now available on Amazon for purchase.)
*Please note that the quotes used in these weekly devotionals are the sole intellectual property of Hallmark Channel, WCTH, & Crown Media, LLC. These on-line posts are in no way supported, endorsed or affiliated with WCTH, Hallmark Channel, or Crown Media. They are simply encouragement inspired by Janette Oke and this precious show.*
Published on May 17, 2017 03:31
May 16, 2017
Summer Things to do on Lake Champlain

Water Activities

Visit the Beach There are so many beautiful spots along Lake Champlain and with over 50 public beaches there are gorgeous areas for families and friends to gather for a day at the Beach or even have a picnic. Some of you may remember my post on the New York Marshland and Valcour Island from years ago. That New York Marshland is a perfect example of how gorgeous these beaches are!
Walk Around One of the Adorable Towns on the Shores of Lake Champlain

Biking All along Lake Champlain there are tons of different bike paths that you can choose from that will take you around the Lake, or by the Lake (like the beautiful views that the Burlington Vermont Bike Path offers), and some that even "cross the lake" using one of the ferries or bridges.
National Museums and Landmarks Throughout the Lake Champlain area there are tons of National Landmarks due to the incredible American History that was fought in this area and also lots of National Museums for those who are interested in seeing those during their visits.
Diving

Finally, beyond the shipwrecks that are found in Lake Champlain divers will be able to experience vertical cliffs that are extremely dramatic and often only found in the Bahamas. Interested in finding out more? Click HERE to go to the Waterfront Diving Center website in Burlington, Vermont!
Fishing Fishing competitions, including the Bass Competition are huge parts of the community here on Lake Champlain. But whether you just enjoy casting your net out in a leisurely manner (with someone else who will do the worms for you *smiles*) or you are one who likes to fish for competition, Lake Champlain offers several different options to explore.
Sailing

If you don't own a sailboat or don't know how to sail you can easily learn how to at the Lake at the Community Sailing Center in Burlington. You can find out more on their website by clicking HERE.
Burlington, Vermont Jazz Festival Every year Burlington hosts a Jazz festival that is so much fun. If you enjoy live music (especially jazz music) then you are in for a treat and I definitely recommend planning your trip around this event! You can find out all of the details for the upcoming year on their website by clicking HERE.
Hiking

Island Hop There are many islands scattered through Lake Champlain. While some are privately owned or protected by the state there are several islands that you can go to by boat for a picnic or to camp out on. Don't have a boat? Consider visiting Burton Island which is a Vermont State Park that can be accessed (for free) by ferry!
There are so many different things to do on Lake Champlain during the summer! What are your favorites?
Published on May 16, 2017 04:35
May 15, 2017
Monday Inspiration and Encouragement (Volume Four)


AND here is an exciting announcement if you missed my post earlier today!! If you purchase When Truth Refreshes during the rest of the month of May I will send you a copy of Praying through Lyme Disease (the 2nd Edition) that is releasing June 1st for FREE. Simply email me (rebeccaannvandemark@gmail.com) with a confirmed purchase number from where you purchased the book or picture of your receipt and I will send you a copy of Praying through Lyme Disease (the 2nd Edition) in June! If you have already purchased When Truth Refreshes you are still eligible for this! Thank you again for your support of this project!!
{two} I love reading inspiring stories of those who have done unique and amazing things to touch and change the world around them. Here are a couple of my favorites that I read this past week from this article HERE:


{three} Are you traveling to Canada this summer or in the fall? Want to explore any of the parks? Guess what? Canada is celebrating 150 years of Parks and Historic sites and you can receive a FREE park pass to all of the national parks and many of the historic sites in Canada simply by filling out an application. I did this a couple of weeks ago and mine just arrived in the mail this weekend. SO neat! You can find the Free Pass HERE along with more information!
{fourth} Okay, at some point y'all may get tired of me talking about ice skating (*smiles*), but this performance by 17 year old Evgenia Medvedeva at Worlds was stunningly beautiful. She is the first woman since Michelle Kwan to win back-to-back World titles and seriously it is hauntingly beautiful. You can watch it HERE.

{sixth} Years and years ago when I was graduating from college one of my favorite Pastor's, Alistair Begg preached a sermon entitled "My Times are in Your Hands" from Psalm 31. To be frank these last several weeks have been incredibly difficult and I kept returning to Psalm 31 again and again remembering the truth of those words preached so many years ago. Yesterday, when I went to listen to church online I was delighted to find a couple of youtube videos of a similar sermon with the same title that Alistair preached at a different university. If you are struggling, need encouragement, and are looking for some gentle truth I can't recommend these two sermons enough. You can find part 1 HERE and part 2 HERE.
I hope that you are inspired and encouraged by these six things on this Monday afternoon! What about you? What is inspiring you recently?
Published on May 15, 2017 11:00
When Truth Refreshes and A Free Gift

AND GUESS WHAT??!? If you purchase When Truth Refreshes during the month of May I will send you a copy of Praying through Lyme Disease (the 2nd Edition) that is releasing June 1st for FREE. Simply email me (rebeccaannvandemark@gmail.com) with a confirmed purchase number from where you purchased the book or picture of your receipt and I will send you a copy of Praying through Lyme Disease (the 2nd Edition) in June! If you have already purchased When Truth Refreshes you are still eligible for this! Thank you again for your support of this project!!
Published on May 15, 2017 05:11
May 14, 2017
Sunday Scripture Five (Psalm 9:18)

Looking for past Sunday Scripture Posts? Click HERE!
Published on May 14, 2017 04:35
May 11, 2017
11 Simple Tips for Living Well With a Chronic Illness

2. Accept Help.
3. Share specific Things that Others Can Help You WithThe difficult thing with illness is that often times loved ones truly don't know how they can specifically help someone in a health crisis. Find ways to lovingly share specifically what your loved ones can do. A friend of mine who struggles with extreme back pain due to a failed surgery found that asking her for help with her laundry saved her countless days in bed after she attempts to do it. Personally for me I have been so grateful for my dad helping me with changing Scamper's litter. It might be something small or it may be something bigger on a routine basis, but think through ways that others can help and then as mentioned in #2, accept the help.
4. Be Vulnerable With Your TribeIt can be hard to be vulnerable when you are feeling so sick and tired with pain and sickness. I know that a lot of us want to put on a brave face with those that we encounter, but having the courage to be vulnerable can be a life-changing situation for living well with a chronic illness. Having this courage can help prevent a lot of awkward issues from occurring during this journey. Take the leap of faith and express your heart.
5. Be Patient With Explaining The Health LingoAs patients we become so familiar with spouting off all of the different terms, nicknames, meds, supplements, cell interaction, cell pathways, symptoms, etc. that it can be hard to remember that our friends and family can be left feeling overwhelmed and dizzy by the amount of things we are talking about. Even though our lives may revolve around the sickness aspect, theirs revolve around us. They want to understand and they do care, but we may need to extend some patience as we have to explain something again and again. Be patient and understand that they are doing the best they can.
6. Be the Best Friend and Family Member that You Can Be. It can be hard to keep up with all of the important dates in people's lives since you became ill. Sometimes we are just trying to cope with the day let alone remember to purchase a card or a gift for someone. Despite the way that illness has changed you fight to still be the best friend that you can be. This may look different than before you got sick, but still take the time to connect with others, make phone calls, send cards, and deepen your friendships. Stay connected in every way possible to your tribe. Honestly, I haven't done the best job of this over the years. Maybe you feel the same way. It is never to late to re-start. Take the time today to make a phone call or write a letter. I promise you will be glad you did.
7. Do the Best You Can to Attend EventsYou may not be able to attend them all or even a handful, but try to attend all of the important events that you can. Even if you don't feel or look the best, people will be thrilled to see you and it is great for your life.
8. Understand That This is a SeasonThere will be beautiful days again. Hold on to the hope that there are far better things ahead than we could ever imagine.
9. AcceptanceFor every single person struggling with a chronic illness this is going to mean something different, but Amy Carmichael was right: "in acceptance lies peace".
10. Let Friends GoLet the people go who are not willing to walk this journey with you. Let them go freely and give your blessing. Forgive and live in joy. Wish them well, let go of the bitterness, and walk the road in front of you with dignity. Stick to the Code. (Yes, I did feel like I was quoting the Pirates of the Caribbean saying that. hahaha, but seriously, Stick to the Code,
11. Find Joy in Every Day.There is joy to be found in every single day if we look for it. Look for it. Search it out. Fight for it. You will never regret finding joy.
Published on May 11, 2017 05:04
May 10, 2017
From Hope Valley (Week 13): The Promise of Finding Redemptive Purpose

Life in all of its beautiful unpredictability can shift the ground under us, leaving us to feel lost and like we don’t know what our purpose is. In times of grief, especially when we lose someone or something in which our identity and purpose is found on, we can struggle in the day to day.
In a variety of ways we all have experienced (in some form) the grief that Abigail expresses to Elizabeth. We may have lost a spouse, our health, a job, a child, our home, a relationship, or experienced a life change that leaves us feeling that we are drifting without a clear purpose. We may even feel like Abigail, wondering what we have to offer to the world before us without the titles and relationships that we had previously. It can be incredibly difficult to know how to move forward. How to find purpose in our deep pain.
All of us want to have purpose in our lives. We all want our lives to count in deep and meaningful ways. We want the time that we spend here on earth to matter for something greater. Yet there are times in life where we can struggle to figure out what our purpose is, to navigate a great loss or a new situation that we weren’t expecting. There are times that we have to catch our breath and figure out how we fit into a "new" world that we find ourselves in when life throws us a curve ball that we were never expecting. In grief we can feel that we have lost our way, like Abigail, and feel that we have no purpose.
But just like Elizabeth encouraged Abigail with truth that God would show her what He wanted for her, God will show us what He wants for us too. He will show us a purpose that He has despite our grief and guide us in the way that we go.
Isn't it interesting to now look back on this exchange between Elizabeth and Abigail after several seasons? Now as we have had the opportunity to see Abigail's story continue to unfold, we see that she has lived out new finding redemptive purpose. She has had beautiful courage in opening Abigail's cafe, which has proven to be a safe space for many in the town to gather and share their hearts. She has fed countless people not only physically, but emotionally. Abigail has also spent her love freely, pouring it out on countless hurting people throughout the town. She has opened her heart and home to her daughter-in-love, creating a beautiful relationship. And then at the end of this current season, we see a new family formed with the official adoption of Cody and Becky. In each of these ways and in many others we see the beautiful redemptive truth that Elizabeth spoke so many years ago. God has shown and will continue to show Abigail the purpose that He has for her each day.
And we have this same beautiful truth and promise to hold on to. It may take time friends, but with God's hand guiding us we can find redemptive purpose in the most unusual places. We can see and experience beautiful new stories unfolding that we could never have imagined. Hold on to this hope there is a beautiful blessing and promise in finding redemptive purpose, even in the darkest night of pain.
"But I'll take the hand of those who don't know the way, who can't see where they're going. I'll be a personal guide to them, directing them through unknown country. I'll be right there to show them what roads to take, make sure they don't fall into the ditch. These are the things I'll be doing for them- sticking with them, not leaving them for a minute."
-Isaiah 42:16, the Message-

I receive several emails a week asking where you can watch older episodes of "When Calls the Heart". If you have a Netflix account you can find seasons 1-3 there or you can purchase them on Amazon. You can purchase and watch all of the seasons and episodes by clicking on the links below:When Calls the Heart, Season 1When Calls the Heart, Season 2When Calls the Heart, Season 3When Calls the Heart, Season 4 (All of the episodes from the Season are now available on Amazon for purchase.)
*Please note that the quotes used in these weekly devotionals are the sole intellectual property of Hallmark Channel, WCTH, & Crown Media, LLC. These on-line posts are in no way supported, endorsed or affiliated with WCTH, Hallmark Channel, or Crown Media. They are simply encouragement inspired by Janette Oke and this precious show.*
Published on May 10, 2017 03:00
May 8, 2017
Monday Inspiration and Encouragement {Volume Three}

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{two} My friend Blythe wrote a beautiful post called "a love letter to safe places" last week that I immediately fell in love and started sending out to dear friends who are safe places. She has such a way with words. You can find the post, a love letter to safe places, on the Mundane Faithfulness website HERE. It is simply lovely. Blythe, thank you for being a safe place and to each of you that are safe places for my heart.
{three} Earlier today, I shared the exciting news of the cover design for the 2nd edition of Praying through Lyme Disease. I am so grateful for each of you that have supported this journey of writing and this little book. You can read more about it and see the cover design HERE.

{fifth} Speaking of style, do you remember in my first Monday Inspiration and Encouragement Post that I shared about the Virginia Dare Dress Company? Well the company and website officially went live this past week and it is LOVELY. And guess what tall girls- good news! One of the dresses is available in tall sizes! Head on over to check out the beautiful website HERE! I can't wait to order one of these gorgeous designs! Congratulations Rebekah on a beautiful launch!
I hope that you are inspired and encouraged by these seven things on this Monday afternoon! What about you? What is inspiring you recently?
Published on May 08, 2017 11:00
Cover Design for Praying Through Lyme Disease 2nd Edition and a Few Updates

Today I am so excited to share with y'all the final cover design for Praying Through Lyme Disease (the 2nd edition)! As I shared a couple of weeks ago I am thrilled that the 2nd edition will release on June 1st! This 2nd edition has been expanded and updated and I am excited for these changes that keep the original content yet add to the book some exciting extra details. I am truly so overwhelmed and humbled by the beautiful support and reviews that this book receives. It is hard to believe that there are more than 10,000 copies of this book in print. It truly overwhelms my heart.

If you would be interested in receiving a free digital copy of the book in exchange for posting a review on Amazon AND on Goodreads (these can be the same review) during the month of June I would love to hear from you. Please email me or leave a comment below! If you are looking for ways to help spread the word about this book and are an influencer online who would be willing to share more about this 2nd edition please feel free to contact me!
I am so incredibly blessed by each of you. Thank you so much for your support of all of my writing and books, including the support and love I have received for When Truth Refreshes that released last week! I am truly so blessed!
Happy Monday friends! I hope that you have a wonderful start to this week!
Published on May 08, 2017 03:57
May 7, 2017
Sunday Scripture Four (Proverbs 10:28)

Published on May 07, 2017 04:32