I’m Not Yelling Quotes

“A mentor is someone who allows you
to see the hope inside yourself.” —Oprah Winfrey”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“A mentor is an individual who guides you through a specific career, goal, or even life. The mentor is often an individual who is more senior or advanced in your field and can provide you with advice and even connect you with others.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“as we all began to share our stories, a sense of empowerment, shared unity, and collective strength was developed.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“social psychological research suggests that how people are treated by self-relevant others is an important precursor to imposter feelings. This is because individuals’ everyday interactions are laced with significant social evaluative cues, conveying whether others see them as a person of value and worth.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“When your peace is predicated on others’ silence,
them speaking feels like an act of war.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“Multiple studies have shown that constant, long-term stress can increase the risk of developing mental health conditions—such as anxiety, depression, and even post-traumatic stress disorder.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“Sponsorship can be understood as a form of intermediated impression management, where sponsors act as brand managers and publicists for their protégés. This work involves the management of others’ views on the sponsored employee. Thus, the relationship at the heart of sponsorship is not between protégés and sponsors, as is often thought, but between sponsors and an audience—the people they hope to sway to the side of their protégés.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“Communities of support enable us to speak out not only to protect ourselves, but also to hold perpetrators accountable so that their actions can be prevented in the future.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“And the lack of acknowledgement by those committing the microaggressions was par for the course.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“Finding a community of support was an important part of my being able to acknowledge when microaggressions were happening, not internalize the behavior or place the blame on myself, and develop the courage to address the harmful actions in the moment.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“Often, it’s ignoring your input or devaluing your contributions with a dismissive attitude, facial expression, or body language. All these small affronts add up”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“microaggressions are just as much about what is unsaid as what is said”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“By categorizing microaggressions as subtle, unconscious, or unintentional, it minimizes the responsibility of the person committing the act as well as the amount of harm inflicted.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“To gaslight someone means to manipulate another person into doubting their own perceptions, experiences, or understanding of events, according to the American Psychological Association.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“microaggressions are so emotionally, and even physically, harmful and that their perpetuation thrives in an environment where they are ignored, victims are gaslighted.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“experience microaggressions are more likely to feel sadness, anger, and hopelessness.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“microaggressions are linked to low self-esteem, increased stress levels, anxiety, depression, and suicidal thoughts.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“Researchers observed that seeking to avoid stereotypes is tiring work and can deplete cognitive resources and hinder performance.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“None of my compliance and “good behavior,” which I’d hoped might evoke some type of sympathy or lead to redemption, had stopped an injustice from happening to me.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“The end of Jim Crow laws and the adoption of the Civil Rights Acts allowing us to live, eat, sleep and work in predominantly white spaces only occurred about sixty years ago.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“If you are silent about your pain, they’ll kill you and say you enjoyed it.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“chapter 2
finding your voice  “There is no agony
like bearing an untold story inside you.” —Maya Angelou”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace

“When your peace is predicated on others’ silence,
them speaking feels like an act of war.”
― Elizabeth Leiba, I'm Not Yelling: A Black Woman's Guide to Navigating the Workplace