Bye, Baby Quotes

“That's the problem with trauma. You can decide to change how you think about it, time can fade it, but it's never going to disappear.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“That’s just how friendships become in your thirties, I think as I head south. The love is still there, but the urgency for that constant companionship fades, replaced by something else—romantic partnerships, yes, but maybe we also just get tired.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“There are countless instances when fighting for justice feels like the way to morph anger into something useful.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“My senses feel dead, trapped somewhere, but I know this anesthesia is temporary. When it wears off later, the pain will find me.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“My regret eclipses my anger; it pools in the base of my gut as I make my way down the stairs and back out into the city heat, alone.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“The weight of real adulthood looms, not yet ours to carry. There's a precious transience to this time, the bittersweet sense that it won't always be this way. That it can't.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“The clarity of perspective as the rest of the world evaporates into thin, meaningless dust. What matters is distilled.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“Torpid quiet permeates the room. Sleep is heavy and welcome, an undercurrent that pulls me toward blissful nonbeing.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“I often feel this way at frat parties, when I'm so drunk on cheap liquor that the line between consciousness and oblivion blurs, a distorted wash of hours.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“I can only imagine the peace that must come from knowing exactly what you want out of life, even if it's not a guarantee.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“He winks, and I feel that tiny pocket of love bloom larger in a corner of my heart.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“Maybe the choice to tether yourselves to each other isn't a choice at all but an unconscious pull that doesn't require an explanation, a response to shared circumstance, joined with something in your heart that feels good and right. The loyalty that follows feels inherent, lasting, tamperproof.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“There's an old stubborn loyalty I cannot fight, a love that lingers in my soul, that's woven into the fabric of my own systemic rhythms. Like knowing how to swallow, how to cry, how to breathe. How do you forget something like that? How do you push a love like that out of your physical body?”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“Through the upper glass, I can see the crescent moon, a fingernail clipping pinned low in the indigo sky.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“Already I miss the sensation of being suspended in the air, caught between time zones and cities in a way that tables reality, that offers an interlude from the weight of my own existence.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“isn’t that a requisite of loving someone—to grow complacent to their most fatal flaw? To suppress the urge to change them until it all but disappears? The practice resembles acceptance, but the process is more painful. It’s more like sacrifice.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“That’s the problem with trauma. You can decide to change how you think about it, time can fade it, but it’s never going to disappear.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“Of the love between two best friends that dies but doesn’t disappear. There’s still the soul of that love. It goes somewhere.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“When all the parts of the puzzle start to look like they fit Then I must remember, there’ll be days like this”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“We talk about everything and nothing, conversations that flow into the darkness without structure or time constraints.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“the feeling that our four hundred square feet was a palace for no other reason than that it belonged to us.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“Cornelia Street.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“You can decide to change how you think about it, time can fade it, but it’s never going to disappear.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“maybe that’s just how friendship works when you’re young. Maybe the choice to tether yourselves to each other isn’t a choice at all but an unconscious pull that doesn’t require an explanation, a response to shared circumstance, joined with something in your heart that feels good and right.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“you can’t fuck up what’s meant for you.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“has to be a place for straight non-mothers.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“her as much as she loves me. I’m not required to love her at all.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“Well, the good news is, you can’t fuck up what’s meant for you.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“The freedom to live life for no one but myself, on my own terms.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby

“The right person fits into your life, Billie. Not the other way around.”
― Carola Lovering, Bye, Baby