Self-Love in Action Quotes

“I will not be silent so that others can be comfortable. Repeat: I will not be silent so that others can be comfortable.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Without self-awareness, we miss the obvious. We spend lots of energy trying to fix the sink without checking if we paid the water bill. Being self-aware is the only way to navigate out of painful and confusing situations.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Self-love is an umbrella term. It’s about doing things every day that make life more manageable and less of a drag. Self-love is more than writing positive affirmations on sticky notes or taking Epsom salt baths.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“We are attracted to what is familiar, even when familiar isn’t healthy or safe.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“When you prioritize your well-being, even if that means temporarily inconveniencing others or having hard conversations, you are practicing self-love. When you love who you are, you are more honest, compassionate, and resilient.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“There are two choices: evolve or repeat.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“When you love yourself enough to take up space and express yourself authentically, you create an environment where it’s safe for others to do the same.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Maybe you overextend yourself to help your children, parents, clients, neighbors, or coworkers. But when you over-give to those in need without checking your energy supply, you become someone in need. Sometimes, you can achieve more by doing less. Find the balance, and make sure your mental and physical health is part of the equation.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“When we put our needs first, we are not abandoning our community; rather, we are preparing ourselves to be more active members of society. There is nothing selfish about self-love. Carving out time for rest creates internal balance. It allows us to realign with our beliefs and come back to our purpose. Only from this place of empowerment and clarity are we able to give to those around us.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“There’s nothing wrong with taking a break from serving the underserved. There’s no shame in pausing to recalibrate. Rest is not passive. Rest is an active step toward change.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“A greater sense of self-love emerges when you prioritize your mental, emotional, and physical health and set boundaries between homelife and work life.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“You can be deeply invested in someone and still find their music taste unpleasant. That’s the beauty of love: holding space for lots of conflicting, beautiful feelings.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“If you feel like everyone is in a happy relationship except you, you might catch yourself shooting lasers from your eyeballs at the adoring couple crossing the street, thinking, Look how lucky those people are. Why aren’t I that lucky? But people who are still in love years later are not lucky; they’re committed.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“If we all realized how much education and effort is required to be in a healthy relationship, we’d stop deifying celebrity couples or the fictional characters in our books or on our screens. We’d take one look at the perfect pair and remember they are two people with competing wants, desires, and triggers.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Some people don’t think they have to communicate their needs because a real soul mate should already know. After all, their fate is written in the stars. The reality is that people cannot know our needs unless we communicate them in a straightforward way.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Here’s the thing: Raj didn’t know about Ashley’s disdain for white chocolate because she never told him. A product of fairy tales, ’90s sitcoms, and pop ballads, Ashley grew up believing true love was miraculous; a result of fate rather than intention or communication.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“The one is a distorted reality. It’s completely void of the very thing it claims to be based on: love. It says, Do for me what I cannot do for myself. It’s transactional, at best. This is why self-love needs to precede a romantic relationship, or at least there should be awareness that a romantic partner will never be capable of loving you enough for the both of you.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“We all have an inherent thirst for wholeness, but somewhere along the way, we learned to place the onus on our romantic partner to fill the gaps. It’s no wonder why most romantic relationships fail. When you wake up next to the one and find that your problems are still there, your inner romantic might try to blame the poor sucker sleeping peacefully next to you.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Friendship is a sweet responsibility. It’s the glue that holds us together when the rest of our world falls apart.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“The heart-pumping, soul-filling brew of emotions that arise in the wake of a worn and weathered friendship are unparalleled. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “I do not wish to treat friendships daintily, but with roughest courage. When they are real, they are not glass threads or frost-work, but the solidest thing we know.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Major landmarks like divorce, sobriety, or career change can drastically impact who gets a seat at your table. Sometimes, it’s better to have a few empty chairs than a full house. Your job is to make sure that your current choices support an environment that will attract the type of people you can count on for joy, mutual enrichment, and support.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Chosen family does not necessarily need to replace relationships with biological relatives, but rather enhance and expand your support system to meet your emotional and physical needs.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“What constitutes family is more than blood, marriage, adoption, or what exists within the walls of a family home. Family is often an earned term, defined over time.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Your family of origin is the beginning of your story, but it doesn’t have to be the end.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Healing doesn’t mean the damage will disappear. You will always have a scar, but scars are nothing to be ashamed of. A scar means you survived; you came out of the other side stronger and wiser than you were before.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“Generational trauma is the transmission of traumatic events that gnaw through one generation to the next. Even those who did not experience major traumatic events firsthand can still inherit unwanted biases, opinions, or belief systems from previous generations. When you break the cycle of generational trauma, you not only heal yourself, you also heal those who have come before you and those who will come after you.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“The health of a family is incredibly nuanced. Not all families look like Norman Rockwell paintings. Some look more like a Jackson Pollock: complex, multilayered, and messy.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“The term family means something different to everyone. Broadly speaking, family is built under the premise of love, commitment, and loyalty. For some, pets are the defining members of their family unit. Whether you consider family to consist of those bound to you by blood or adhere to a broader definition of the term, family should be, above all else, about love and respect.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“While self-love centers around thoughts and feelings we have about ourselves, self-care focuses on our actions. If self-love says, I love myself, self-care says, Prove it. In short, self-care is self-love in practice—the two are inextricable.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life

“When we use self-care as a last resort, it’s sort of like taking pain meds when we already have a headache. The goal is to avoid the headache entirely by drinking enough water, getting enough sleep, and reducing stress. Caring for your future self means looking at the big picture, not just the immediate future.”
― Zoe Crook, Self-Love in Action: Practical Ways to Bring Self-Compassion into Work, Relationships & Everyday Life