Stuff Quotes

“You can't hook up a U-Haul to a hearse”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“She couldn't tolerate mistakes and almost always chose inactivity over the possibility of doing something less than perfectly.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“Indeed, much of her hoard allowed her to imagine various identities: a great cook, a well-read and informed person, a responsible citizen. Her things represented dreams, not realities. Getting rid of the things meant losing the dreams”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“Some people collect out of a desire for an aesthetic, others for prestige, and still others for a sense of mastery. But most theories of collecting elaborate on attempts to define, protect, or enhance the self.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“I'm smart and creative, and I could have been happy. But I'm not anything. I have done nothing. I'm collecting life without living it.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“It was easier to live with the mess than to experience the frustration of failing to create a perfect room.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“Deficits in executive functions such as planning, categorization, organization, and attention leave them lost amid a sea of things, unable to figure out what to do next.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“But when she was a home, her unworthiness was more apparent to her, mostly with she focused on the clutter. When she focused on individual items, however, her possessions seemed more comforting than threatening. The irony that her hoard could be comforting and tormenting at the same time was clear to her.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“The hoarder self-medicated with things the way other trauma survivors self medicate with drugs or alcohol--”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“Recent studies of hoarding put the prevalence rate at somewhere between 2 and 5 percent of the population. That means that six million to fifteen million Americans suffer from hoarding that causes them distress or interferes with their ability to live.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“As has been apparent to us from studying hoarding, we may own the things in our homes, but they own us as well.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“Despite the appearance of slovenliness or laziness created by the condition of the house, Langley was always busy and often complained of not having enough time to do the things he needed to do. One of those things, Langley told the police on several occasions, was clearing and organizing his home. He claimed to be saving things so that he and his brother could be self-sufficient.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“Although hoarding is considered a mental disorder, it may stem from an extraordinary ability. For hoarders, every object is rich with detail. We disregard the color and hue of a magazine cover as we search for the article inside. But if we paid attention, we might notice the soothing effect of the colors, and the meaning of the object would expand in the process. In this way, the physical world of hoarders is different and much more expansive than that of the rest of us.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“Objects carry the burden of responsibilities that include acquisition, use, care, storage, and disposal. The magnitude of these responsibilities for each of us has exploded with the expanding number of items in our homes during the past fifty years. Having all these possessions has caused a shift in our behavior away from human interaction to interaction with inanimate objects. Kids now spend more time online, playing video games, or watching TV alone in their rooms than interacting with family or friends. Possessions originally sold on the promise that they would make life easier and increase leisure time have done just the opposite.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“Not-just-right experiences, or NJREs as some OCD researchers and patients call them, are relatively common, and not just among people with OCD. Like an itch, the sensation that one’s clothes don’t fit right, or the experience of seeing a crooked picture on the wall, NJREs violate our expectations for order.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“For most people who board, the experience of shopping or acquiring is so overwhelmingly rewarding that it erases all thoughts of consequences.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“The more space they, hoarders, have available, the more space they fill. Perhaps this is actually the goal--to fill space.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“This has led some scholars to suggest that collecting is a way of managing fears about death by creating a form of immortality. This is consistent with a popular theory in social psychology called the terror management theory (TMT). TMT grows out of an existential predicament--that people, like animals, are mortal. But unlike animals, we are aware of our own mortality. Knowledge of the inevitability of death and its unpredictability can produce paralyzing fear. To cope with this potential terror, cultures provide beliefs, rituals, and sanctioned strategies for managing it. One of these strategies is the belief that some part of ourselves can live on after we die. Producing or amassing something of value is one way to accomplish this. Thus a collection offers the potential for immortality.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“Often both parents work longer hours to support an ever-increasing array of new conveniences that lead them to spend less and less time together.”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things

“Among children, the situation may be different. Some parents, especially those whose children had other OCD symptoms, have reported”
― Randy O. Frost, Stuff: Compulsive Hoarding and the Meaning of Things