Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People Quotes

“Your parent-pleasing role then became the backbone of the parent-child relationship, and you might have been afraid to let the mask drop for fear that without it there wouldn’t be any relationship at all.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

“Locating your true self involves noticing your dreams, feelings, and impulses when you’re totally being yourself—”
― Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

“He realized that securing his parents’ approval had cost him his emotional health and had disconnected him from his real feelings.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

“Don’t fall for the assumption that because someone is upset, you did something wrong.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

“Let EIPs have their pain in just the way that’s right for them. It’s not up to you to take it on. Nobody should be expected to do that for another person. You can love and be loyal without wringing yourself out. Practice giving empathy, but don’t make it your responsibility to make up for all the pain they’ve ever experienced—an impossibility if ever there was one.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

“He wondered: Could God be the ultimate ruler of the universe, yet be as reactive and bitter as his parents? It just didn’t fit. As he distanced himself from his parents’ rigid ideas, he found it hard to believe in a God who seemed less understanding and compassionate than himself.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

“Integrity is meaningless when your highest good lies in your immediate advantage of the moment.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

“If you don’t acknowledge the forces that impacted you in the past, you may be limited to living a reactive life instead of a created life.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

“By undermining your joy and self-esteem, they promote insecurity and unsafety. It’s hard to believe that people close to you could enjoy causing you distress, but again, it’s not about you. They like the sense of power and invulnerability it gives them.”
― Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

“They rarely do the emotional work (Fraad 2008) necessary to keep relationships in a good emotional place, such as showing patience, speaking kindly, or finding a tactful way of talking about problems. They almost always leave the emotional work to someone else. This is another reason they can be draining to be around. Who enjoys tiptoeing around someone’s ego and giving them lots of attention while never expecting them to reciprocate?”
― Lindsay C. Gibson PsyD, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents

“Finally, there is another subset of EIPs who are particularly hard to be around, those with a sadistic streak. They like to make people uncomfortable: they enjoy popping your balloon, humiliating you, or even causing you pain or trauma. By”
― Lindsay C. Gibson, Disentangling from Emotionally Immature People: Avoid Emotional Traps, Stand Up for Your Self, and Transform Your Relationships as an Adult Child of Emotionally Immature Parents