The Parenting Map Quotes

“The bond with your children is like no other. It will do both—give you superpowers And break your heart at the same time. It will both expand you to an infinite limitlessness”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship

“As much as we all want our children to experience happiness and success, we set ourselves up for failure and disappointment when we focus on that desire. Life is complex and—as I’ve said before—messy. Happiness comes and goes, and success is an ephemeral concept. Clinging to the desire for either of these is a surefire way to experience sadness when they do not manifest themselves. Let’s dump these concepts in the garbage, where they belong. When we do, I can guarantee that we will experience great joy and liberation—and so will our kids.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship

“It is time to replace the idea of happiness and success with something entirely new and different. We need to move away from outcome goals to process goals. Instead, let’s focus on something new: presence and experience. When we focus on presence, we focus on a state of aliveness and connection to the present moment. When we focus on experience, we focus on embracing whatever we are going through in the here and now. So whether our children are crying or smiling, our focus is less on judging and more on allowing them to experience an authentic relationship to that state of being.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship

“My child is a human being experiencing human feelings of pain and struggle. These are normal feelings for a human. Every human has these messy feelings. These are not bad feelings. These are worthy feelings that will allow my child to grow into a resilient being who can self-regulate and self-govern. If I wipe away these feelings, my child will lose an opportunity to be authentic. I do not need my child to be happy or successful in order to feel good as a parent. My worth doesn’t come from their grades, moods, or experiences; it comes from my own. I will hold space for all that shows up authentically for my child, and through my embrace of the is-ness, I will teach my child to embrace their is-ness as well.”
― Shefali Tsabary, The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship