Ejaculate Responsibly Quotes

“Five decades of work. It’s strange when you think about it, because if men were actually interested in reducing abortion, it didn’t need to take fifty years. At any point, men could have eliminated elective abortions in a very short amount of time—a matter of weeks—without ever touching an abortion law, without legislating about women’s bodies, without even mentioning women. All men had to do was ejaculate responsibly. They chose not to. Today, they continue to choose not to.”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

“We treat ejaculation as something that happens at random, that is unintentional, that is impossible to anticipate or predict. And we treat ovulation like it can be pinpointed well in advance and easily predicted. Somehow, we’ve confused the two.”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

“An unwanted pregnancy doesn’t happen because people have sex. An unwanted pregnancy only happens if a man ejaculates irresponsibly—if he deposits his sperm in a vagina when he and his partner are not trying to conceive. It’s not asking a lot for men to avoid this.”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

“In a conversation on Twitter, a doctor said to me: I do anesthesia for a living, done it for hundreds of tubals I’m sure. I often think: WTF is wrong with the husband? Except when part of a C-section, tubals should be rare. Vasectomies are cheap, low-pain, extremely safe, and highly effective. Why are tubals also a burden that women must carry? An additional point: there has never been a documented death from a vasectomy. However, many women have died from anesthetic or surgical complications from a tubal ligation.”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

“We could say that everyone should keep condoms stocked, just in case. It’s simply good manners. In the same way I hope that men keep menstruation products on hand in their home even if no one with a period lives there.”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

“men cause all unwanted pregnancies. If you’re focused on women, you’re wasting your time. Don’t believe me that men cause all unwanted pregnancies? Let me walk you through it. I’ve got twenty-eight simple arguments in this book explaining how and why this is true.”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

“in the United States, the mortality rate for pregnancy is 17.4 per 100,000 people. The on-duty murder rate for police officers is 13.5 per 100,000 people. Which means a pregnant woman is more likely to die due to that pregnancy than a police officer is to be killed on the job.”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

“As one fertility doctor I spoke with said, “Tracking signs of fertility is really good if you’re trying to get pregnant, but because ovulation can skip or delay without giving you external signs to track, it’s not good at preventing pregnancy and is ABSOLUTELY not recommended to be used as birth control.”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

“The study also spoke directly about what this means when women use apps to try and track fertility: Apps to track fertility are increasingly being used among women who are seeking to conceive, and many purport to predict ovulation based on cycle length characteristics alone, which can have extremely low predictive accuracy. These apps also assume each woman’s fertile window is the same length, disregarding evidence that the length of the fertile window differs among women.”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

“Men carry, abort, suffer complications from, labor, deliver, and die from 0 percent of unwanted pregnancies. Men can and do”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

“we have a paternalistic medical system that believes women aren’t capable of making decisions about their own bodies. In fact, though it’s not a legal requirement, it’s also not uncommon for a doctor to require a woman to get the signature of her husband before they are willing to perform a tubal ligation.”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion

“If you actually want to reduce abortions, you need to start much earlier. Instead of focusing on abortions, you need to focus on preventing unwanted pregnancies. And to do that, you need to focus on preventing irresponsible ejaculations.”
― Gabrielle Stanley Blair, Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion