Avoidant Attachment No More! Quotes

“Everyone needs someone close to them who gives them motivation and appreciation. It’s like fuel. Even avoidants need some emotional feedback… someone who shows they appreciate their efforts. Everyone needs to know they are loved. According to Abraham Maslow, a psychologist, we need the esteem of others. It is one of our higher psychological needs.”
― Taha Zaid, Avoidant Attachment No More! : Discover The Effective Strategy To Strive Towards Secure Attachment Style In Relationships

“Raise your curiosity level. Come up with ideas resulting from that area of your mind. Be extremely observant. Notice everything and make mental notes about the behaviors of others. Never mind inferring their motives. That’s their own business. Your business is to predict their possible reactions to what you say and do. Overcome your self-doubt. Believe that you can learn how to be confident anywhere at any time. You can succeed if you will it. Face your fears. Accept the fact that they’re there. Spend mental time with your fears, but don’t run. They are paper tigers. The threats you feel will cower in the face of your courage, no matter how fast your heart beats. Notice how those fears haven’t killed you.”
― Taha Zaid, Avoidant Attachment No More! : Discover The Effective Strategy To Strive Towards Secure Attachment Style In Relationships

“Find your self-limiting beliefs and push out of your comfort zone little by little. As absurd as it sounds, acclimate yourself to occasional discomfort. You will be amazed at what you can do. Don’t confuse your memories with reality. We all are commentators; we all shade out experiences with the hues and tones that bias facts. We look for occurrences that match our own values, but they may not be the values others espouse.Let’s admit it – we have memories that are biased by our own beliefs and values. Speak to yourself positively. If you can learn how to follow your own advice to yourself, you can become mentally tough. We are all too often victimized by our primal mind that speaks to us with poorly worded feelings. Overcome the negativity bias. Since prehistoric times, homo erectus gave rise to homo sapiens, and survived amid ferocious predators. He either fought for his lunch, or he was eaten as lunch.”
― Taha Zaid, Avoidant Attachment No More! : Discover The Effective Strategy To Strive Towards Secure Attachment Style In Relationships

“Symptoms of the Avoidant Style in Relationships: You may enter a new relationship very quickly– too quickly to make an informed decision. You might have a fear of commitment and put far too much importance on it before you’re ready. You overreact to requests on the part of your boyfriend/girlfriend because you’re afraid your partner will become too demanding. You’re afraid your feelings will become too strong, and try to avoid any responsibility if things go awry in the relationship. You’re afraid your feelings might get too strong, and you won’t be able to deal with them. Instead of dealing with a relationship as it comes and moves along, you’re afraid that dealing with a relationship will be too difficult for you, or too challenging. If a partner is very loving and kind, and you haven’t really worked toward that, you might consider them “boring.” You might have addictions that will interfere with a relationship like alcohol or a work addiction. Sometimes, your reactions are very strong and you’re aggravated when the other asks something of you. Your reactions can be very moody and unpredictable. You’re cut off from your emotions, and are often unable to reciprocate the love your partner shows toward you. You try to avoid any personal discussions.”
― Taha Zaid, Avoidant Attachment No More! : Discover The Effective Strategy To Strive Towards Secure Attachment Style In Relationships

“Those with avoidant attachment styles feel unfulfilled in their relationships with their spouses, their girlfriends or boyfriends, as well as with their families and friends. Often, they may feel depressed, ambivalent, anxious or a combination of attachment styles. Some claim they don’t need close relationships, but that is seriously doubtful, as every human has a need to belong – even if they limit their social needs to just a few. These are those with dismissive avoidant style.   Do you feel lonely and then cast that feeling aside because it’s painful? Do you assiduously avoid others? Do you feel that intimacy is too risky? Do you long to be more secure? Do you avoid others in an attempt to protect yourself? Or, do you dig in and claim that you’d rather be fiercely independent? Are you afraid that you, too, have an avoidant attachment style? Perhaps you’ve been hurt before and eschew more rejection. Do you feel that love has been overrated and no one can meet your needs?”
― Taha Zaid, Avoidant Attachment No More! : Discover The Effective Strategy To Strive Towards Secure Attachment Style In Relationships