Self-Therapy Quotes

“Also, people who are in therapy will find the book a useful guide for their between-session work on themselves.”
― Jay Earley, Self-Therapy : A Step-by-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness Using IFS, A Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 3rd Edition

“For example, Joe has an Angry Part that blows up at Maureen for a very specific reason. When they get into fights, she sometimes taunts Joe in a shaming way. This triggers a young child part of Joe who was humiliated as a kid, and that part starts to relive the childhood shame all over again. Then his Angry Part comes to the rescue. It gets enraged at Maureen as a way of protecting Joe from feeling that shame. If Joe took some time to get to know his Angry Part and the Ashamed Child it protects, he”
― Jay Earley, Self-Therapy : A Step-by-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness Using IFS, A Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 3rd Edition

“No matter how much pain or dysfunction you have to deal with in your life, every part of your psyche is doing its best to help you. This may sound strange. If you are depressed or lonely, if you have outbursts of anger that distance you from others, if you always pick the wrong person to fall in love with—how it could possibly be that all your parts are doing their best for you? If they’re all trying to help, why are you having such problems?”
― Jay Earley, Self-Therapy : A Step-by-Step Guide to Creating Wholeness Using IFS, A Cutting-Edge Psychotherapy, 3rd Edition