Boundaries and Protection Quotes

“Shame, the lowest frequency of all and most lacking in vital life force, creeps in slowly and threatens to take over.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“Tune into your heart, call Spirit/God/Great Mystery in to carry you, don’t overthink it, and avoid negative self-talk. Leading with my spirit required my habituated fears to take a backseat.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“One definition of a blind spot is “a loss of vision in a particular area,” and it can exist in the psyche just as it can in the periphery of the eye. But because this term is viewed by many as ableist, I would suggest using “lapses of awareness” or “unknown obstacles” as alternative phrases.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“Using the Egg of Light visualization as a tool of awareness helps an individual feel secure to pause before responding. When we can see and feel protection in our mind’s eye, it has an impact on our thinking, which has an impact on our being. We can respond rather than react.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“Visualization helps us populate areas of our brains that are underdeveloped.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“At some point, we will want to make a change, and will go seeking with more enthusiasm for accepting what comes our way, sifting for the gems that will take us forward rather than leave us feeling like a victim of circumstance. We might be willing to take a risk in order to learn something new or retrieve parts of ourselves that we have forgotten. All Wanderers eventually reach a crossroads where they can choose to have more say in where they go and what happens to them.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“When we chronically people-please, our lives do not belong to us. We are not honoring our lives by giving ourselves away for free or for a silent price.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“It is possible that the pattern of the dependent system was imprinted on us in early stages of development. Addiction asks the child to bend herself into irregular, unnatural shapes to accommodate the caregiver’s underdeveloped life skills. It is no accident that adult children of addicts report not knowing who they are. Coping skills for everyday life are slim to nonexistent because they are too busy caregiving for people in their lives before they are equipped to. Growing up in an addict household means that the child’s emotional and developmental needs are not met, and that which naturally generates vitality are sent underground.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“It is possible that the pattern of the dependent system was imprinted on us in early stages of development. Addiction asks the child to bend herself into irregular, unnatural shapes to accommodate the caregiver’s underdeveloped life skills.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“Addiction asks the child to bend herself into irregular, unnatural shapes to accommodate the caregiver’s underdeveloped life skills.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“I think we are much stronger for living than we give ourselves credit for.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“THINK ONE OF THE greatest challenges to living on Earth is the lack of a genuine desire to be here. We have forgotten that it is our duty to be here (because we are here) and that we can heal and learn to be here in our fullness. We have been given an undetermined amount of lifetime to do exactly that. Life itself is the quest, and too many of us think that we are not made for the journey, or that we are too fragile for the obstacle courses that present themselves. I believe that we are made to last, and that we are up to the task of finding out how to honor our lives as they came to be. Resiliency can be built if we aren’t born with an abundance of it, or if early life experiences intensify the sensations of living.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“When we know our magnificence and miraculousness, we can know others to be exactly the same. Everyone is splendorous. When people act from that place of radiant beauty, they stand out. The golden bubble is almost visible around them. When you step into what is golden about you—the essence of who you were before you were born—you will recognize it in others, too. Vitality hums throughout a body that recognizes magnificence.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“We begin as impressive, exceptionally fine miracles, but we are taught to forget our miraculous nature. We are warned of the terrible danger of becoming self-centered and spoiled. We are told we’re too-big-for-our-britches when we begin to show our strengths in early, undeveloped ways. The high price of these worn-out ethics is that we do not value ourselves as miracles. We will not value others as miracles, either.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“It is your responsibility to step into your humble, courageous magnificence.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“Think of boundaries as a golden bubble around the body—imagine that sensation. It is filled with our own radiant light. Vitality comes from life force, which is, quite simply, the frequency of the miracle of life. It is truly almost beyond comprehension that we exist in the way we do—with bodies that sense, hands that can give healing, language that can move our emotions, voices that carry sound, mouths with which to chew, wombs that gestate, and minds that create. We forget where we came from, how miraculous life is, and how it is growing and vibing all around us constantly.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“How can we reestablish ourselves as sacred and learn new ways of being in relationships when what we know to do is so ingrained? To make protection a value rather than a defense mechanism, find things you can protect to the very best of your ability—a garden, a plant, a child, an animal—and make a vow to be the guardian of something beautiful and keep it from harm.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“Refusing to show someone how you really feel is denying connection to your real and true nature.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“It is clean and fair to take the time you need to get your thoughts clear and allow others to do the same. It is clean and fair to make clear that this is what you are doing before you step away, and bonus points for letting the other person know when you plan to return to the conversation.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“Resentments are the natural result of not expressing unmet expectations. When held for too long, they cause internal conditions that I think of as ulcerations of the spirit.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“It can be quite a newsflash to find out that you are entitled to create a protective space around yourself and choose to be in unions that honor you. It can be equally challenging, but not impossible, to cultivate the level of self-respect that can support better choices for health. For now, envision a golden bubble beginning to form around you. The challenge is that you must envision it around everyone else as well. Boundaries have to exist in all directions in order for them to work. It does not follow logic to ask others to respect your territory while you trample haphazardly through theirs.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“These are the questions that guide this work: Are you treating yourself and others as sacred? How about their treatment of you? What does sacred treatment look like?”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“Another way to think about insecurity is as a fear of what could happen. It causes us to brace for the storms that are not actually happening right now. It is not true instability, but a preemptive emotional reaction to what we know is possible based on what has already happened. It is not our thoughts that cause us to act out in fear but the feelings that arise from those thoughts. The soul has a way of wilting or soaring when it is moved by what the heart feels. We thrive when we respect the laws of nature inside and outside of us.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“As our skin thickens with coping and self-soothing skills, and we move toward life rather than away from it, it’s possible to find ourselves living with more vitality and less unbearable anxiety and pain. Imagine that as the energetic space around you becomes hearty with firm flexibility, you will have more freedom to exist without fear of what terrible destiny could unfold. Boundaries make it possible for even the deepest feelers and highly sensitive empaths to be in the world enjoying copious amounts of rewarding intimacy. When we’re talking about intimacy with our loved ones, the kind that requires high levels of security and trust, we’re essentially talking about how we must first come to trust in the process of life itself. If we cultivate a trusting relationship with Spirit/Source/God/Divine, then we are going to feel and see trust playing a big role on the stage of our life. If we prioritize creating peace in our overactive minds and endurance in our spirits, then we have a better chance of surviving the results of a relationship—both positive and negative. Humans want to feel secure, but if we look to people, jobs, food, health, money, and weather for security, we will at some point have the rug pulled out from under us. With the very best of our abilities, we can try to maintain a sense of well-being through taking care of our basic emotional needs. The goal is to seek closeness and be okay inside when it’s not available.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“When forces beyond our control unleash havoc in our lives, affecting what we perceive will keep us secure on Earth, our sense of inner security is compromised. It is guaranteed that unexpected events will happen many times throughout our lives, all the way until death. This we can be sure of. Grief and losses of relationships are real, and they are going to happen. The economy has taken and will again take a turn for the worse. People get sick. Tsunamis, hurricanes, earthquakes, and pandemics are part of Earth’s practice.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“When we’re talking about intimacy with our loved ones, the kind that requires high levels of security and trust, we’re essentially talking about how we must first come to trust in the process of life itself. If we cultivate a trusting relationship with Spirit/Source/God/Divine, then we are going to feel and see trust playing a big role on the stage of our life. If we prioritize creating peace in our overactive minds and endurance in our spirits, then we have a better chance of surviving the results of a relationship—both positive and negative. Humans want to feel secure, but if we look to people, jobs, food, health, money, and weather for security, we will at some point have the rug pulled out from under us. With the very best of our abilities, we can try to maintain a sense of well-being through taking care of our basic emotional needs. The goal is to seek closeness and be okay inside when it’s not available.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“Boundaries make it possible for even the deepest feelers and highly sensitive empaths to be in the world enjoying copious amounts of rewarding intimacy.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“As our skin thickens with coping and self-soothing skills, and we move toward life rather than away from it, it’s possible to find ourselves living with more vitality and less unbearable anxiety and pain. Imagine that as the energetic space around you becomes hearty with firm flexibility, you will have more freedom to exist without fear of what terrible destiny could unfold.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“Patterns of retreat are based on past experiences and an underdeveloped ability to take risks. The non-conscious pain of childhood suffering and broken attachments feels too overwhelming. We’ve become quite averse to feeling pain. We have few skills that help us cope with it and prefer to avoid things that can be predicted to cause pain. Many of us avoid intimate relationships because we are seeking to keep the injured child inside us as free from harm as possible. Emotional survival skills are very powerful and so internalized that we don’t have to think about them, we just follow their instructions.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection

“Boundaries make room for the deeper connections and intimacy we want to have. As statistics climb about the incidence of chronic loneliness, isolation, and lack of feelings of belonging, it isn’t boundaries that are keeping people from one another. What keeps us from one another is fear of harm, which causes us to withdraw into our shells and away from one another out of fear that something will happen if we engage.”
― Pixie Lighthorse, Boundaries and Protection