Good Boundaries and Goodbyes Quotes

“I also don’t want my goodbyes to make it look like I’ve never spent any time with Jesus at all.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“Healthy people who desire healthy relationships don’t have an issue with other people’s healthy boundaries.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“Drawing boundaries can help put out fires before they become all consuming. But if the fire keeps burning with increasing intensity, you’ve got to get away from the smoke and flames. Sometimes, your only option is to say goodbye.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“The snake's lack of peace on the outside was because of his own lack of peace on the inside…..Spurgeon goes on to equate this viper o people whose irritation is utterly unreasonable. They don't have peace on the inside, therefore it probably won't be possible for them to live with a consistency of peace on the outside.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“Trauma isn't just something that happens to you. It happens in you”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“It's interesting that the original phrase in the late 1500s was "God be with Ye." The contraction of that phrase was "Goodbwye" which eventually became "goodbye."…..
I wonder, when Jesus watched the rich young ruler walk away, what was the look in His eyes? I wonder, when Peter denied Jesus and abandoned Him just before Jesus went to the cross, what was the goodbye like?”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“The tension exists because you are doing the difficult work of no longer cooperating with dysfunction.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“Walk confidently in the fact that our all-sufficient God did not make you insufficient or broken.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“meant to shove love away. Quite the opposite. We set boundaries so we know what to do when we very much want to love those around us really well without losing ourselves in the process. Good boundaries help us preserve the love within us even when some relationships become unsustainable and we must accept the reality of a goodbye.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“Boundaries, as you will soon see, should help us avoid extremes and live closer to the kind of love God intended for relationships.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“We can listen to the statements of others for the purpose of considering if there’s any truth in them and if so, what we may need to receive in humility.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“If we don’t know who we are, we will constantly be manipulated into who others want us to be or become enmeshed in the needs of other people. When we know who we are, we are whole and available to love, serve, and give to others from that fullness.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“What we are looking for are patterns of hurtful and harmful behavior. A hurtful statement can be called a mistake. But a repeated pattern of hurtful statements or uncaring attitudes or even unjust expectations is much more than a mistake. These patterns are misuses of the purposes of a relationship. Why is this so crucial to understand? Because unchecked misuse of a relationship can quickly turn into abuse in a relationship.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“It’s often people who need boundaries the most who will respect them the least. Don’t be surprised or caught off guard by this. You can return kindness for this frustration and even empathy for their anger. But see this as an affirmation you are doing the right thing. Stand firm and state the consequences with dignity and respect.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“Proverbs 15:1 says, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” And Colossians 4:6 says, “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“The greatest joy in life isn’t when it all works out like we hoped it would. It’s when we experience the God of the universe pausing to reach us and remind us we aren’t alone. What hurts us will not be our full story. And this broken world isn’t our final destination. With God, there’s so much more.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“Mental health is a commitment to reality at all costs.” I don’t know what reality you need to accept right now.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“We don’t want to be void of grace. But we also don’t want to rob someone of the good outcome that might happen if they recognize that you aren’t an unlimited source. The main point is, we shouldn’t and ultimately can’t be the one to supply all of what another person needs.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“No trauma is healed in a healthy way by developing unhealthy ways of coping.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“Just like a fractured arm becomes too weak to be used properly, if we are fractured in our thinking, we won’t use our thoughts in healthy ways. If we are fractured in our feelings, we won’t use our emotions in healthy ways. If we are fractured in our doing, we won’t act and react in healthy ways.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“I must stay whole by keeping what I know, what I feel, and what I do in alignment”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“What makes a whole person? I know this is a big question. But it is worth looking at because being whole has a big impact on not only our health but on the quality of the relationships we are drawn to. Whole people tend to gravitate toward whole people. Fractured people tend to attract other fractured people.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“When we know who we are, we are whole and available to love, serve, and give to others from that fullness. If we don’t know who we are, then we will love, serve, and give, hoping people will fill our empty places and make us feel whole.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“We are in process. And that, my friend, is one of the healthiest places to be.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“Changing an outside behavior without changing the internal issue that’s driving the behavior is like painting a house that has a crumbling foundation.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“The spurs weren’t just something I was stepping on occasionally. Now they were sticking to me regularly and pricking my heart even after I’d left the beach.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“I can’t imagine telling someone who stepped on a sand spur that the problem was her feet. And yet I was doing that to myself when hard relational dynamics hurt my heart.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“Love breathes the oxygen of trust.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“You cannot build trust that keeps getting broken.” It was a gut punch. It can be awful to speak the truth sometimes.”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are

“Asking yourself these questions is a wise step now, and revisiting them before you set a boundary or say goodbye could also be helpful: —​Have I set unrealistic expectations? —​Am I too easily offended?”
― Lysa TerKeurst, Good Boundaries and Goodbyes: Loving Others Without Losing the Best of Who You Are